When faced with a trade off, how do you choose?

Talking about trade-offs》 Many times, we will find that life is not like an exam, many difficult questions, and there are no standard answers.

In particular, the widely discussed, morally relevant choices are often confusing and confusing.

For example, the tram problem is indeed classic; Many people must have heard of it, so let's simplify it: should we sacrifice a person who is not in danger in order to save the people who are going to die?

The complexity lies in the inseparability between "whether to abandon less and keep more" and "whether to block the natural development of things".

When faced with trade-offs, we should distinguish between right and wrong first, and then distinguish between the important and the important. Profit is to put others before yourself, and harm is to put yourself before others; Take the light of the harm, take the heavy of the benefit: that's right. Otherwise, it's wrong.

And there is no right or wrong choice, only a difference between the important and the serious. In the case of multiple-choice questions, if the answer is all wrong, it is all right. If you have to choose one out of many, and you don't choose any one, it's wrong: then you have to choose any one, it's right.

Right and wrong are easy to distinguish, and it is difficult to distinguish between the important and the serious. It is difficult to distinguish between right and wrong, which is even more painful. After all, there are often public opinions to learn from right and wrong, and the severity is all measured by selfishness.

Generally speaking, there is often no right or wrong choice without an accepted answer, and it should not be subject to moral judgment and legal sanctions. Since there is no right or wrong, you can choose according to your heart's priorities: this is the case with the tram problem.

Some people are precious gold, some people are precious jade, and they all value the treasure and the loved one. Obviously, the weight of a thing depends both on itself and on the person who weighs it.

But the name in the heart varies from person to person. If you use your own standards to weigh the weight of others' trade-offs, there will definitely be deviations. Therefore, when we seek common ground, we should also pay attention to reserving differences; Don't be within the right range and harshly question the answers of others.

However, the ancients said: "Great virtue is not more than idle, and small virtue is in and out, but also." "If the decision is so important that it may affect the natural evolution of humans or other living beings, it should not be taken lightly. If human beings act too much and too heavily against the heavens, they will surely bring harm to themselves.

There will be retribution for the great good that benefits the heavens and the great evil that hurts the heavens—this retribution is not in the present generation, but in the future. And the punishment of heaven for human beings is small for the manifest and great for the hermitted; Among them, the most important is to shorten the time of human existence.

The trade-offs in life are large and small, and there are all kinds of trade-offs. And regret, like an incurable disease, can only be prevented, not **: the choice has been decided, and regret is useless. If you are not confused about big things, you are wise; As for the little things, don't be too shrewd.

The wise man will be hazy in his little things; Those who are ignorant will be observant of small things. Covering the service is the root of ignorance, and the hole of hazy wisdom is also. (Uttered in "Caigen Tan").

There used to be such a story.

There is a famous philosopher in India, born with a special talent, who has published a series of articles in ** and won the favor of many fans.

One day, a beautiful girl knocked on the door and boldly confessed, "Let me be your wife!" Miss me and you will never find a woman who loves you more than I do. ”

The philosopher was also attracted to the beautiful and temperamental girl in front of him, but the professional instinct told him: "It needs to be considered." ”

After that, philosophers began to compare the advantages and disadvantages of marriage and non-marriage in the spirit of their consistent study of learning, and found that the good and the bad were mixed, and there was no absolute good or absolute bad. As a result, there has been a delay in obtaining a clear result.

This left him in a state of chronic distress and never being able to make a decision.

Finally, one day he had an epiphany, facing the choice of life, if he couldn't choose, he should choose the one he hadn't experienced yet. The situation of not getting married is clear, but what happens after marriage is still unknown. It is only then that the philosopher decides:

Accede to the girl's request. ”

So, the philosopher hurried to the girl's house and asked the girl's father, "Where is your daughter-in-law?" Please tell him that I have thought it through and decided to marry her. ”

But the girl's father said coldly: "You came ten years late, and my daughter is now the mother of three children." ”

When the philosopher heard this, he almost collapsed, and he never imagined that the philosophical mind that he had always been proud of would end up fighting with a bitter regret.

For the next two years, the philosopher was depressed and eventually depressed. Before he died, he threw all his manuscripts into the fire, leaving only a comment on his life - if you divide your life into two, the philosophy of life in the first half is "no hesitation", and the philosophy of life in the second half is "no regrets".

Life is a long road, and the difficult choice at the crossroads, the most reputable thing is not to choose the wrong direction, but your hesitation and vacillation.

If the direction is wrong, we can correct it, and we can even stop the loss in time and start over, but wavering and hesitating on one thing is a waste of time.

A wrong direction may lead you to take a few more detours and arrive later to succeed, but at least you're on your way.

Life is not easy, don't waste the best time in hesitation, and stifle the best opportunity in vacillation.