How are girls growing up in a patriarchal environment?

I have a friend, her grandfather has a patriarchal mentality, she has a twin brother, every time she does everything in the house, her brother doesn't have to do anything, he can enjoy good treatment. Even if the younger brother did something wrong, grandpa wouldn't blame him.

must have had a relatively low self-esteem, after all, this family environment is not very good, and it is a big impact on girls.

It's not good, when you see yourself being slighted, you will be hurt, so you will develop a withdrawn and inferior character, and you will not be happy in life.

Girls who grow up in this environment usually have a bit of an inferiority complex and are more rebellious. This is the result of this environmental and psychological oppression for a long time.

Childhood is gloomy, without love and warmth, resulting in loneliness and low self-esteem in character, but also in this environment to hone oneself, creating a stronger character.

Girls may be discriminated against from an early age and receive unfair treatment from their parents. There will be some distortions and some imbalances in the heart.

Rebellious, basically people from this kind of family will be very rebellious, if the owner is this girl, I advise you not to rebel because your parents don't pay attention to it, and attract their attention.

In such an environment, I think it will lead to a poor girl's life.

In such a family, the best thing is always boys'. If a boy and a girl are injured at the same time, it is always the boy who is cared for. Girls tend to have low self-esteem.

My grandmother and father were patriarchal, and I was not valued since I was a child, and then my mother raised me as a single parent. Now I have a stable job and a stable deposit, and I don't want to pay attention to my father and grandmother, well, my father has always wanted a son, but unfortunately he only has two daughters, and I don't want to pay attention to him.

We can't choose an environment in which we grow, we can only improve ourselves in an environment in which we can grow stronger.

No matter what the reason is, whether it is your fault or not, it will blame you for the matter, it's just that the family is patriarchal.

It will lead to girls having no sense of security, and it will also lead to girls having low self-esteem, not having their own opinions, and a special lack of love, which can also easily lead to girls' special desires, and having a person who loves themselves and is easy to fall in love.

It will make the girl have a very low self-esteem, and the girl will also be very unconfident, which is not conducive to the growth and character development of the girl, and the girl will also have a very low self-esteem when she grows up, and this psychology will accompany her for a long time.

It may make girls become particularly unconfident, and sometimes they may have some low self-esteem. There are times when I feel insecure about doing anything, and even my personality will become particularly timid and incapacitated.

It mainly varies from person to person.

I have a friend who grew up in a patriarchal family, and she is now very optimistic and cheerful, and she understands a lot of things. But some people who are naturally fragile can become timid and withdrawn, or resentful of their families.

First, in such a family, parents prefer sons over daughters. Girls are generally very sensible, the reason is that girls understand why their parents prefer sons over daughters? She also understands her parents' way of doing this, and although she is not satisfied, she thinks from her parents' point of view.

Second. Girls in patriarchal families don't feel like they're boys. It is because of himself that he has dragged down the family.

So they are more sensible and obedient. Only a girl who was raised in such an environment. will be better.

On the contrary, it is easy for boys to be flattered in such a family.

Third. In fact, the patriarchal mentality is not good, and I hope this phenomenon will not happen again, because the patriarchal mentality is so serious that it will lead to an unbalanced ratio between men and women. They know best how difficult it is for a boy to marry a daughter-in-law nowadays.

I don't feel like I'm around me, and it's very badI feel that it should be difficult to feel the phenomenon of patriarchy in our lives, because many people's minds have changed, and boys and girls are the same.

In rural areas, there are more or less shadows of patriarchal preference in life, and the shadow of this phenomenon is still relatively common and easy to find.

Take grandpa's house as an example, every year during the Spring Festival, there will be a family gathering, the whole family will get together for a meal, but when eating, it is often the women in the family who are busy cooking, and the men in the family generally only need to sit at the dinner table and chatter, drinking tea and waiting for the female members of the family to prepare the meal, and no male member of the family takes the initiative to go to the kitchen to help the women in the family cook, which is a typical patriarchal phenomenon. After all, such household chores should be shared between male and female members.

And when it comes to eating, often the man sits at one table and the woman and the child sit at the other table as a dish, and when it is done, it is served on the table of the man with celery skin first, and then the woman and the child are served on this table, which seems to be a small detail, but it can also be clearly felt that obviously in this family, the man has been treated with special preparation, and when the meal is over, the men in these family members do not need to clean up the table, continue to go back to the house to chat, Or watching TV together, while the female members of the family need to clean up the table and wash the dishes, although this is just a small detail in life, but it still makes me feel a little uncomfortable in my heart, after all, these housework should be shared by male and female members, and should not be pushed to female members.

Later, I will repeat the life of my parents. Because of the original family, it will not be good. What will be faced is to find the same person and marry in a hurry.

Because the family prefers sons over daughters, they robbed the survival resources that originally belonged to girls, and girls should have graduated from college, but because of their sons.

Girls can only go out to work until high school to earn money for their younger brothers, so in the case of low education and limited knowledge, girls will face the problem of finding the same person to marry in a hurry, and then repeat the life of their parents.

For example, my neighbor has a daughter and a son, and her daughter has been a good student since she was a child, but because her family is poor, she doesn't go to school for her daughter, and her daughter drops out of school to work not long after, and her son is getting married.

Because the family had no money, he married his daughter to his son to marry his daughter-in-law, and when his daughter got married, he didn't even have a banquet, so he went to the man's house directly, and then his father was sick, and his daughter quit her job to take care of his father.

Most of the girls who grow up in patriarchal families are unable to treat their emotional life correctly, and due to the environmental influence of male superiority and inferiority, they are also prematurely involved in family responsibilities, resulting in their own psychological disadvantage.

In the same environment, children who grow up in this environment will have a higher chance of being mentally unhealthy than normal families, and the impact will only be repeated by the next generation.

Xiaoping lives in an extremely patriarchal family, and when she was a child, her father said all day long that she was losing money and often beat her. My father is still idle all day long, loves to drink, and relies on my mother to earn money to support the family, but I am still beaten by my father from time to time. Her mother had to get up before dawn every day to work, barely supporting her and her younger brother.

For such a hard mother and father never looked at her directly, but despite this, the parents have always favored the younger brother, and only gave him good food and fun, the father said: What's the use of reading so many books at the daughter's house, isn't it all going to get married in the future?

Your younger brother will have to support his family in the future, don't read more books and travel more, how will he support his family in the future, what makes Xiaoping even more unbearable is that her parents have always thought that their daughter will marry into someone else's family in the future, don't use it too well for her. Xiaoping has been growing up in such an environment, and she didn't read any books and went out to work to supplement her family.

Xiaoping's love path has not been smooth when she grows up, and several unresolved relationships are all because of her parents' continuous request, her father has never worked, and her mother can't do heavy work because she fell to her waist, and the family has lost the only economic **, and Xiaoping has become the family's ATM.

Xiaoping is serious and honest because she is serious and honest, and the salary of the supervisor is still enough, but there is no extra spare money, and the boys who are dating Xiaoping also know this and break up, and she still doesn't dare to step into marriage, she is afraid, she is afraid too much.

Patriarchal families have a negative impact on girls' development.

I hope that all girls can be treated equally

Traditional ideas are deeply rooted.

First of all, it is the cause of traditional ideas. Tradition tells us that a daughter is the water poured out by a married daughter, and only by raising a son can the family be passed on, although we have emancipated our minds and made progress in society, this concept still exists, especially in some backward areas where the phenomenon of preference for sons over daughters is more serious.

Many people rely mainly on their sons for their old age.

In addition, there is a very real reason that many elderly people do not have a pension. In his later years, he basically relied on his son to support his old age. Once a daughter marries far away, she can't count on her daughter. It is for this reason that many families prefer boys over girls.

This is a true story, a girl in high school, tearfully accused her father: we are all your children, you want men and women to be equal, without discrimination. It turned out that the girl's father loved her brother very much, and since the birth of her brother, she has become the air that has been ignored by her father.

From the fifth grade to the age of 18, the girl has not had dinner happily for a long time. Dad disliked her for being fat, but he always asked his younger brother to eat more every day, and fed his younger brother into a "little fat dun", and the girl felt very hurt.

The father is very demanding of his daughter and lets his daughter do housework from elementary school. But he is very tolerant of his younger brother, and his younger brother can enjoy himself at home, regardless of anything, and he can call his sister casually.

The father is very tolerant of his son, but he is very strict with his sister. The father never cared about his daughter's study, thinking that his daughter could learn anything, and she still had to get married when she grew up, which was someone else's family. But he is very attentive to his son, and goes to pick up and drop off his son from school every day.

The father's differential treatment has made the daughter a "Hengfan bag" in this family, and the daughter strives to brush her presence in front of her father and try her best to be a good girl. It's a pity that the father will still instinctively ignore his daughter and don't care about his daughter. The father never held a parent-teacher conference for his daughter, nor did he accompany his daughter to do parent-child homework, and after hearing his daughter's complaint, he also quibbled that he never "favored sons over daughters".

Maybe, Dad didn't know that what he did was patriarchal, but the form of expression was more secretive and not on the surface.

Sometimes, in order to paralyze themselves, some parents will say that this behavior is for the good of their daughter, and exercise their daughter to have a strong heart. Of course, more parents "don't know the true face of Lushan", just because they are in it.