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The term older leftover woman may have a derogatory connotation, and the subtext of the label itself is somewhat determinatory and discriminatory, so don't use it lightly.
There can be several reasons for not reaching out, such as:
1.It may be because they don't know each other well enough and haven't built enough trust and favorability.
2.It may be because you are worried that your active contact will be misunderstood by the other party as an upside down.
3.It may be out of self-esteem and want to wait for the other person to reach out to you.
4.It may be out of lack of self-confidence and fear that your unsolicited contact will be rejected by the other party.
Wait a minute. The above are just some possible reasons, everyone's situation is different, if you have someone you like, and you dare not take the initiative to contact, you can try to establish friendship first, cultivate feelings, increase understanding and trust, and slowly you will be more familiar with it, and you will dare to express your feelings.
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If you are interested in girls, you can also take the initiative to contact the other party, you can know the other party's true thoughts, and decide what you should do next.
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Older leftover women are generally self-confident, self-reliant, accustomed to self-centeredness, and are not good at taking the initiative to communicate.
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Why don't older leftover women take the initiative to contact, you also said, older leftover women, they are either very busy, have no time to fall in love or talk about friends, or they are not interested in feelings, this kind of can only be actively pursued by yourself, you want to wait for the woman to chase you, unless you are better than her, so that the woman can't forget you.
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Why do older leftover women never take the initiative to contact?Older leftover women are generally more demanding, and their vision is also relatively high, and they will definitely not take the initiative to contact others casually, unless they are in love with someone, then they will take the initiative to contact.
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Older leftover girls are generally experienced countless people, he is not an innocent little girl, it is difficult for you to be the real perfect Prince Charming in his heart, so he will not take the initiative to contact you.
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That's because as they get older, they see some things more clearly, and they are more able to see human nature, good and evil, so they will not take the initiative to contact, so as not to be harmed.
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Because she has more experience, she doesn't need much help and care, she is more self-conscious, so she doesn't take the initiative to contact.
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Older leftover women read countless people and have rich emotional experiences, it is precisely because they have too many concerns, and every time they see a person, they will compare and hesitate with the previous person, so they will become older leftover women, if you like her, take the initiative to contact her.
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It depends on whether he likes you or not, then if he likes you and is interesting to you, in fact, it may not be the active type, that is, if you take the initiative to find him, he will take the initiative to find you, if he doesn't like you, then he will definitely not contact you, because I don't feel how he takes the initiative, the woman itself is more passive, and if you don't like him, you won't take the initiative. See if he likes you or not, then if he likes you and is interesting to you, it may not be the active type, that is, if you take the initiative to find him, he will take the initiative to find you.
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Because she has experienced a lot, she doesn't want to be hurt by love anymore, so she doesn't take the initiative to contact.
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He should probably show a kind of coldness.
Generally, most older leftover women will have a unique characteristic, that is, they never take the initiative to contact, and if they can take the initiative to contact him, they should not be older leftover women.
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If she takes the initiative to contact, she will not become an older leftover girl.
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Are you funny? Go chase the older leftover girl Do you have a car Do you have a house No deposit with more than 6 figures No What do you use to chase it Is it so easy to chase or a leftover woman.
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Why do you want people to take the initiative to contact you?
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I think there are three reasons why I don't want to associate with the opposite sex as an older youth
Clause. 1. Older young people themselves lack a good economic foundation and are not sufficiently prepared for love and marriage.
Although there are some men with excellent jobs or successful careers in the leftover male group, there are very few men who are really strong and single after all. In the reality that most people are ordinary people, the economic foundation of most leftover men is also very weak, which has become an important reason why leftover men do not take the initiative to pursue women.
Clause. Second, older young people themselves are prejudiced against women and cannot make women tempted by love.
Very few leftover men have never been in a relationship, and most of them will have a few relationships that have not ended well. But it is precisely these failed love experiences that make some leftover men prejudiced against women. The prejudice of leftover men against women will, to a certain extent, make him think that his ideas and practices are correct and flawless.
Clause. 3. Older young people feel inferior and are afraid of being ridiculed after failing to pursue women.
If a man is still unable to face and accept his current single dilemma after the age of 30, then he will appear more and more inferior. Neither willing to take the initiative to deal with women, nor willing to have more desire to express themselves in public.
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The reason why older leftover women are not in a hurry is because modern women have their own careers.
Today, many women are still single around the age of 30. Although traditional society believes that women should get married before the age of 30, modern women are paying more and more attention to self-development and independent living, so it is relatively normal to not rush to get married. The financial independence of these women allows them to have more choices.
More and more women are succeeding in the workplace and owning their own careers.
This allows them to choose the lifestyle they want without having to rely on men. These independent women sometimes feel that marriage and family will limit their freedom, and they prefer to pursue their own careers.
The concept of modern people has changed a lot, and people no longer attach the same importance to marriage and family as before, but pursue a freer and more open lifestyle. Older leftover women are no exception, they have their own ideals and lifestyles, and they hope to pursue a freer and more open lifestyle, so they are not in a hurry to get married.
Types of leftover women
1. Enterprising model: "Enterprising" refers to those women with excellent conditions, who are "discouraged" by their outstanding achievements in the workplace and high incomes, and dare not talk about marriage with them. Faced with the constraints of this traditional view, aggressive women may choose Western men whom they perceive as more "enlightened", but this is likely to cause opposition from their parents.
2. Traditional type: "Traditional type" refers to those women who aim to get married and want to marry a husband with financial strength. Their concept of mate selection is more traditional and values the economic status of men, but it is precisely because of the constraints of traditional concepts that they are very reserved in front of the opposite sex and lack a proactive strategy, so they are likely to become "leftover women" who shout cheating.
3. Breakthrough type: Breakthrough type leftover female personality is generally more extroverted and does not like to be restrained. They see marriage as a constraint on themselves and their partner, and this constraint hinders their pursuits.
So they usually want their partner to be together through a relationship outside of marriage, such as cohabitation without marriage.
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The reason is that the conditions of older leftover women are generally better, and they don't look down on ordinary men.
Since there are older leftover women, there must be a reason, most of the leftover women are strong women with beautiful appearance, education, and successful careers.
They can't look down on men like this, every woman wants her husband to be more capable than herself, but their own conditions are better, so few men can enter their eyes.
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The main reason is that there is a problem with the thinking of older leftover women. For example, women in Western countries will share economic and family responsibilities with their other half after working independently, and they will also take the initiative in terms of feelings, which is the real equality between men and women.
It's just that when it comes to Chinese women, they become disdainful of men as long as women have jobs to support themselves (isn't it a person's basic ability to work to support themselves), but somehow from self-confidence to conceit, not only requires men to have a house, a car and a deposit, but also requires men to take the initiative to kneel and lick themselves. To put it bluntly, it is really sad that more and more men are reluctant to take on the so-called independence and freedom of Western women, but they are unwilling to take their due responsibility.
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Older young people in many parts of our country have no chance of finding wives, especially in remote rural areas, where singles abound.
This has long been a serious problem, and of course there is also a particularly strange phenomenon, as there are more older young men today, and there are also many older leftover women. These older leftover women can't find their other half after looking for them, why it is difficult for older leftover women to find a suitable man, the reasons for this are none other than these points.
1. Tend to be compatible.
Today's women will pay attention to upward compatibility when choosing a mate, whether it is marriage or love, and want to choose a man who is better than themselves. Few women will choose a man who is inferior to them in everything, while a man will choose to be backward compatible, even if a woman is not as good as herself in all aspects, it will not have an impact.
As women get older, there is also the idea that the older they are, the fewer men who can meet their own requirements. Even if these men appear, most men may not choose the woman in front of them, but choose to be backward compatible, otherwise they may be ridiculed for being strong and weak.
2. Men will pay more attention to age.
In fact, people will have social attributes, and of course they will also have animal attributes. The reason why there is a feeling of love between a man and a woman is because of the biological reproductive instinct in the animal attributes. The so-called love and marriage are nothing more than a product of the person.
In fact, men pay more attention to life, and women pay more attention to raising, so generally women may care more about whether a man is capable or not, and do not care about the age of the other party.
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This is not necessarily, what no one wants for older leftover women is some people with bad personalities, no good looks, and insufficient ability.
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Some of the older leftover women have better personal conditions, they have a higher vision, and they have always hoped to find a man who makes their heart better than their own as a partner, but they may be too picky, or they have not met the right fate, so they have not been able to find the person they like, so they are left with a slow age, and they are not willing to lower their requirements, so it is difficult to find a suitable man. There are also poor conditions for their own qualifications, and they have a high vision for changing their own flaws, and it is difficult to find a man who is willing to tolerate and accept him, and he may be left, if he does not lower his requirements, he may remain single.
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Either it's a problem with your own conditions, or it's a problem with your own requirements, and I really can't think of anything else.
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Do what you like.
Men pursue older leftover women to do what they like, older leftover women like honest men, even if you are not honest to disguise the appearance of an honest man, at least not like three points, if you can be meticulous to her, even if you lack in material aspects, the older leftover women will be ignored, the focus of the older leftover women is the direction of your efforts, the focus of the older leftover women is to find an honest man or a good man to marry themselves.
You have to know what the older leftover girl likes, preferably what she dreams of, and wait until the important day for her, similar to a birthday or Valentine's Day, you can create a surprise and a romantic scene to give her, and the older leftover girl will be overwhelmed or impressed by your sudden and unexpected behavior.
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No, because the reason why older leftover women have stayed until now is because they have not met a suitable one, if you are very suitable for her, it must be very easy to handle, and at this age, the criteria for choosing a mate have also been lowered.
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There are several unmarried women around me who are in their 40s, and this is gradually increasing. But most men are married, if these so-called leftover women want to get married, they can only compromise and find a second-married man to marry, and it will be even more difficult to find a prince charming who meets the standards in his heart, and it is very likely that he will be lonely for the rest of his life.
There is a large age gap in Chinese marriages, can such marriages be happy? In China, there are certain situations of marriages with a large age gap, but whether such marriages can be happy depends on the size of the age gap between the spouses and the degree of understanding of marital life.
First of all, the greater the age difference, there will be more or less age differences in married life. When one partner is older, there are often differences in perceptions, such as when it comes to family views or dealing with problems, where one partner is strict and the other is relaxed, which can create friction. In addition, there can also be emotional differences, such as one party asking for grievances or the other party being more stubborn towards the other party, etc., which can affect the marital atmosphere between the husband and wife.
Secondly, it also depends to a certain extent on the level of understanding of the couple. Because the age difference is relatively large, the life experiences of the husband and wife are very different, so it is necessary for the husband and wife to understand and tolerate each other to ensure the stability of the marriage.
Finally, it is necessary to put married life in a realistic situation, considering the current social environment and national conditions, because the current age and age difference are important factors that affect the happiness of the relationship between husband and wife.
In short, whether a marriage with a large age gap in China can be happy depends on the size of the age gap between the husband and wife and the degree of understanding of married life.
Personally, I think that the two can talk about anything, as long as they really like each other, then they can make a good marriage, such as our typical domestic case: Yang Zhenning and Weng Fan are 54 years apart, and they have been married for 18 years.
It can only be said that I don't want to compromise, so let's experience it for myself.
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