How do setbacks help with growth? How do you grow from setbacks?

I no longer know the combination of water, because the results are not ideal, I have also thought about giving up, but my spirit of not admitting defeat has been alerting me, after experiencing a tumultuous ideological struggle, I still do not regret the choice to struggle, I do not believe that I have no chance of success.

But God doesn't do beauty, failure falls on my head again and again, I don't resent it, that's a fact, but I also don't complain about the unfairness of life, I only believe in my own struggle, so I don't understand why struggle is always not rewarded, I have tried my best, the light is still on in front of my window in the middle of the night, I can't remember, I seem to see failure above my head and smile, is it laughing at me? In the frustration, I got up again, looked up and saw the back of my parents, tears have filled my eyes, I seem to feel a little sorry for my parents, I think my efforts will eventually succeed in that day, in exchange for my parents' proud smiles ......

This is a good sentence that has been passed down through the ages, and it also inspires me and warns me, Edison once said: "Although life gives you a reason to cry once, you must also make a thousand and one smiles." "There is nothing in the world that cannot be defeated, only the cowardly, you must know that there are tigers in the mountains, and you prefer to go to the tiger mountains, and the world will be trampled underfoot.

The quiet autumn colors can't stop the bleak north wind, and the bleak north wind can't stop me from walking towards spring. I want to say out loud, "I don't refuse setbacks!" ", will move forward bravely!

7 Everyone has experienced setbacks, some people have retreated from setbacks, but there are also many who have overcome setbacks. When we overcome setbacks, we are always happy. I've also had the experience of overcoming setbacks.

It was a Sunday afternoon, and I was working on a question and was stumped by a question. I was anxious like ants on a hot pan. One moment scratching ears and cheeks, one moment meditating, one moment walking back and forth.

But that question seemed to be against me, and I didn't remember it after thinking about it for a long time. It was as if the question was laughing at me. I'm a little anxious, I want to put my pen down, but I think I'd better calm down!

I slowly calmed down again and analyzed carefully. "Yes," I cried out in a lost voice, really, "the mountains and rivers are full of doubts, and the willows and flowers are bright and another village." "I finally found the breaking point.

I couldn't help but be triumphant: "Now, I will definitely be able to solve your problem, and see if you dare to laugh at me." As soon as I said it, I immediately picked up the pen and "brushed" the calculation.

Time passed minute by minute, and the answer finally came out, and after doing the math, I still double-checked it again, and it was completely correct. I couldn't help but exclaim with joy: "I've finally figured it out, I've finally figured it out."

From time to time, my voice echoed in this small courtyard. Looking up, I felt that the sky seemed to be bluer and the clouds whiter.

Through this incident, I learned that setbacks are not terrible, but what is terrible is that when you encounter setbacks, you start to retreat, thinking that you can't do it. If we can be calm and comfortable in the face of setbacks, then we will be able to overcome setbacks and enjoy the joy of success.

1. Don't panic.

When you encounter setbacks and difficulties, you will definitely feel very uncomfortable, as a party, first of all, you can't panic, because once you panic, you will have no opinion, you will lose your mind, and you will not be able to calm down and think about the problem at all, once you are not clear-headed, make some wrong decisions, it is very likely that the situation will become worse and worse.

2. Optimistic side slide letter right.

You have to be optimistic in the face of life's difficulties and setbacks. Because only optimistic people will laugh at life, can afford to take it, can put it down, will have the courage to keep moving forward, and optimistic people will be able to withstand the hardships of life.

3. Must be strong.

When encountering difficulties and setbacks, you must also be strong, and it is very common to encounter setbacks in life, after all, whose life will not be smooth sailing, only with a heart that dares to face difficulties, you will become stronger.

4. Come up with a solution.

In the face of difficulties and setbacks, there must be corresponding countermeasures, there is no way to find a way, there is no countermeasure to discuss the whole family to discuss countermeasures, because in the face of setbacks and difficulties, we must find a way to overcome, only to solve the problem, in order to make yourself stronger, things are man-made, this is the way of life and way of doing things. Spine sedan chair.

5. Respond positively.

Problems in life, setbacks in life, will make people very helpless, but it will also make people grow faster, all say that there is no wind and rain, how can you see the rainbow, only after experiencing the hardships in life, you will become an infinitely strong person, actively deal with the hardships in life, and will be able to carry the banner of life.

A good education is neither a frustration nor a good one.

Good times or bad times, which is more conducive to personal growth. This question is actually equivalent to exercising or not exercising, which is better for physical health? When we look at the gym, the promotion is that exercise is health.

But in fact, insurance companies have found that the average life expectancy of professional athletes is 15 years lower than that of the general population. Excessive exercise consumes lives.

Exercise and health are not linear correspondences, and only moderate exercise is beneficial to health. The same is true of good times and bad times, which is more conducive to personal growth.

The pros and cons of good times and bad times for personal growth mainly depend on the degree. Excessive adversity makes people feel depressed and pessimistic, while excessive good times make people inflated blindly.

Excessive adversity will make people form the perception that "I can't do anything" and "my essence is bad"; Excessive favorable circumstances make people have the perception that "I can change the world" and "the world revolves around me".

Once these perceptions are formed by the environment, they are difficult to modify. In the same context, this perception is reinforced. In different contexts, it will be overlooked.

The right setbacks make people grow. The appropriate frustration is: there are setbacks, but within the scope of ability, at this time people have space to reflect, train, and make their abilities stronger.

I can be frustrated and fail without dampening my sense of self-worth and not affecting my outlook on life and other things.

Psychologist Winnicott calls it "just the right amount of frustration."

Some people think that whether it is good or bad, it is the destiny given to us by the universe, and it is not subject to personal will, how to choose this? In fact, good times and bad times are completely personal choices.

The environment itself is immutable, but you can choose a different environment. You choose to negotiate business with the richest man in the world, and what you experience is adversity. If you choose to do business with the poor, you will experience more good times.

Optimistic people will choose the environment and adjust their expectations to make themselves happier, while pessimistic people will force themselves to overcome themselves in frustration and then become more frustrated.

The most beautiful thing in the world should be just three words, just right. So you have to pay attention to one thing in this world that you tend to overlook: feelings.

Find your own tolerance with your own feelings, and choose the environment that suits you to thrive.

The point is not the "setback" itself, but how I deal with it. It's a question of mentality, it's a question of security and self-confidence.

If we can face the setbacks with optimism, calmly accept the setbacks that have occurred, and then self-examine, think clearly about why the setbacks happened, what problems can be improved or avoided in ourselves, learn from experience and lessons, and improve ourselves, then the setbacks will be conducive to our growth.

If we are shrouded in negative emotions caused by the setback, lose confidence, and be crushed, and feel that life is hopeless and we will never be able to get out of the haze of failure, then the frustration is of course not conducive to our growth.

For the same setback, some people may grow and some people may be crushed because of it. Therefore, the problem is not the "setback" itself, but the mentality with which we face the setback.

If we have enough security and self-confidence, we can face setbacks with relative optimism; If we don't have enough security and self-confidence, we may fall in the face of setbacks.

But how do we gain a sense of security and self-confidence? There are many ways and paths. But the lowest level of security and self-confidence was given to us by our parents when we were young.

By accepting, respecting, appreciating, encouraging, supporting, and praising your child, your child will gain a sense of security and self-confidence at the bottom, and then develop outwardly. And when children first encounter setbacks, they can also face setbacks correctly. Because you can face setbacks correctly, you can increase your sense of security and self-confidence.

Formation"Having a sense of security and self-confidence--- facing setbacks correctly, solving difficulties--- increasing security and self-confidence"Such a positive cycle.

Denying, criticizing, demanding, controlling, suppressing, and ignoring children makes it difficult for children to gain the lowest level of security and self-confidence. When children first encounter setbacks, because they do not have enough self-sustainment from their parents, and they do not have enough sense of security and self-confidence, they are easily controlled by negative emotions, which makes them even more lacking in security and self-confidence, and they are crushed by setbacks. As a result, a negative cycle of "insecurity and self-confidence--- being crushed by setbacks--- more lacking in security and self-confidence--- more likely to encounter setbacks" has been formed.

On the other hand, I always feel that my children are still very weak and not growing up, and they always want to protect their children, and they don't want their children to experience setbacks. None of us can always be without making mistakes, until we encounter setbacks, we will always be smooth sailing, we must continue to grow through mistakes and learning. When I was a child, I made a lot of mistakes, and when I understood, I would face them, but when I grew up, I would make fewer mistakes.

However, if you have been protected, when you really face a major setback, you may be directly knocked over.