After five years with my boyfriend, it s time to talk about marriage, but the man said that he would

As someone who has come to tell you: If you are not pregnant now, you cannot agree to this condition.

My cousin and her boyfriend were pregnant unmarried when they just graduated from college, and considering that they didn't find a job at that time, the environment did not allow it, and she was ready to kill the child, but her boyfriend and his family firmly disagreed, and they kept persuading her to keep the child.

The cousin said that they couldn't do it, so they had to agree, and the two began to discuss marriage. My aunt they got it. I was very angry, but when I saw that their raw rice was cooked rice, my cousin insisted again and again, and had to agree.

The only condition is that the bride price can be avoided, but the wedding must be grand.

Then they were ready to take wedding photos, to my cousin's surprise, my mother-in-law actually said, you are now pregnant, and your figure is also deformed, even if the wedding photos taken are not ideal, marriage should be as simple as possible. We don't need to do a wedding, we can invite some important relatives to get to know each other at home.

My cousin was angry. And the most disappointing thing for my cousin was that her boyfriend actually helped his mother speak.

My cousin understood at the time, and knew that what they were thinking was: Anyway, you are pregnant now, you have to marry if you marry, and you have to marry if you don't marry, why spend an extra amount of money?

Let my aunt know about this, and she couldn't be angry: The girl is such a blatant bully before she enters the door, how will she live in the future?

The aunt took her cousin home and said to her boyfriend"In the future, this child will have nothing to do with your family, and we will raise it ourselves. You don't respect people, and don't want grandchildren in the future"

Later, after negotiation between the two parties, it was a simple wedding.

After marriage, needless to say, everyone should know the status of his cousin in his family.

The more you compromise, the more people look down on you, and the lower your posture is, the more people will step on your head.

A man who really loves you should be ashamed that he can't afford a wedding. It's not about being proud, it's not about being cheap and selling well.

In fact, whether true love and the grand wedding are never antagonistic relationships, I just want to empty gloves for the white wolf's family, I think it is the biggest insult to true love.

Some people say that love without bread is a plate of loose sand, and it will be scattered when the wind blows.

As parents, they don't expect their daughter to marry a billionaire, but they are never allowed to marry someone who doesn't even have the least respect.

I don't think you should follow the man's wishes. Because it's an idea that doesn't respect you. So I think you should have your own opinions.

You can break up with the other party directly, because the other party's three views are not correct, and they must have ulterior motives for you, don't be fooled.

Of course you should refuse, you can't believe this kind of shirk, don't be deceived, this is an excuse for not wanting to give you marriage.

It's a pity to break up like this, maybe it's because he's afraid of marriage, so he doesn't have the courage to face your marriage, no matter what, if you break up, then you will have a good life, and you want to live well and let him regret it.

Shameless, break up with him, say you're pregnant with someone else's child, disgust him.

Because he's afraid to tell his girlfriend in advance, he's afraid that his girlfriend will break up with her, but it's also a good thing to tell his girlfriend in advance, after all, two people are together, and there shouldn't be anything to hide from each other.

I don't think it's weird. Originally divorced men have an inferiority complex. Plus he has a small child.

But while he has a relationship in his heart, in fact, he should not hide these facts. Be honest and open-minded. If the other party can accept it, then it is the best.

If you can't accept it, then break up. Concealing these facts is a blow to others. First of all, people are not psychologically prepared.

After all, if you marry into your family, you have to be a stepmother. If you break up, you are a pseudo-man, and no one can accept it. But let's put it another way.

Men are also a little difficult. Marriage two people actually want to be sincere. That's the winner in the lives of two people.

Because it was said at the beginning, this marriage may be in vain, no one wants to be a stepmother, and if you have a certain amount of feelings, you may love the house and Wu, which is barely acceptable.

At the beginning, it was said that there were children, and the chances of success were indeed very small. But good for kids.

Put children and marriage on an equal footing.

Finally talk about children. It is important to put the child without sexual needs.

Probably because they want to wait for the relationship to be deep, the woman will be reluctant to break up, and some men will even say that the children will not live with them in the future in order to keep the woman, and the cost will be borne by the grandparents, so that the woman should not worry, what a cruel reality. It is worth taking a look at why children are regarded as drag oil bottles, and why having children will become a minus. Most of them feel that having children is a burden, but it is wrong for the child to be deliberately concealed as an important family member, although it is almost the wedding date, it is best to pause it first, and the woman should have more contact with the child.

Don't talk about the big truth, share a story I've seen before, probably a woman has three sons, and her husband divorced and took the children out of the country, in the country there is no market for the woman with a son, with three sons is estimated that no one dares to want, but a foreigner in the park saw the interaction of this loving family, he was deeply attracted by the family, took the initiative to contact and was attracted by this strong and loving woman, and finally happily joined the family. Yes, foreign statistics show that divorced women with boys are more likely to remarry, which is just the opposite in China. Because in a foreign country, the other party is more concerned about whether they can integrate into the family, and it is easier for men and boys to get along, and what is the most important thing in the composition of a family is worth pondering.

Finally, whether the woman accepts or withdraws, don't be kidnapped by morality, and follow your heart.

Such a man waits until he gets married to his girlfriend before he says that he has a child, which is simply deception, is he afraid that his girlfriend will not marry him if he knows that he has a child? Or the girlfriend didn't ask the question at all, and he just hid it.

If this divorced man with children tells his new girlfriend that he has children at the beginning, this new girlfriend's impression of him will be discounted. A smart man doesn't do anything he doesn't know if he's not sure about, so he won't tell the truth until the relationship is almost developed.

I am afraid that the other party will dislike the child, and I am afraid that when the relationship is unstable, the relationship will be yellow.

Not all men wait until the last step to tell you that he has children, most men can tell you this matter clearly at the beginning, the boyfriend you know, and only tell you at the end, which is also a little bit of a feeling to deceive you, to tell you after you see the tiger's back, giving people a sense of imperative and helpless, so you have to think carefully.

I must be afraid that my girlfriend will not agree to be a stepmother, but this is a fact that cannot be changed, and it is not good to be full of concealment, only when I think that the time is ripe, and my girlfriend can slowly accept the showdown will be better, but it is not necessarily, I think the facts are the facts, it is good to say it directly, accept it or not, it is straightforward, and it saves a waste of energy.

Let you fall in love with him and sleep with him, and when you can't extricate yourself, tell you that you already love him very much and can't do without him, he has children and you are his person! It's going to be done.

Of course, he is afraid that his girlfriend will leave him, if he doesn't like it, why hide it?

Fear of children becoming a stumbling block.

What a ridiculous question? Why are there good guys and bad guys in the world? Why is there a difference between honesty and falsehood?

Now that your boyfriend is gone, if the landlord still wants to marry your boyfriend and get your boyfriend back. Then there will be a lot of problems. It's going to be hard, it's going to be hard, it's going to be hard, important things said three times. If the landlord doesn't want to leave the group, please continue to look down.

The first step is to find your boyfriend and let him know that you love him and love him very much. Let him see your determination and courage. You need to be brave and firm in standing by your boyfriend's side and contradicting your mother when your mom and your boyfriend have a conflict, and you need to encourage your boyfriend to be brave.

Your life's events are up to you. Conflict with your mother is a painful thing, and your boyfriend needs to support you at this time. You and your boyfriend have to have a lot of trust, and most importantly trust between you.

If the trust between you is shaken, then the road ahead will be difficult. Wang Baichuan and Fan Shengmei in Ode to Joy went their separate ways at the moment of the final discussion of marriage because of a crisis of trust. There must be trust.

If you find your boyfriend and you still decide to live together in the future, you run the risk of not having a home to go back to, and the landlord needs to think again, does he really love you? To gauge how much the other person loves you, the landlord can ask himself two questions. How much time does he dedicate to you?

How much did he pay for you? If the landlord is sure that the other party loves you very much, is the landlord willing to take the risk of not having a maiden family for him? If yes, then bring your boyfriend home and tell your family in an announcing, not pleading, manner.

If your mother still disagrees, don't worry, the party and ** will support you. As long as the two of you are willing, take your ID card to the police station to open a household registration certificate, and you can get married.

Of course, the landlord should be cautious when making a choice, but don't worry about it after making a choice. No matter what the outcome is, people will ultimately be responsible for their own choices, regardless of the outcome, as long as the landlord makes the choice according to his own will and put into his efforts. As long as you don't get entangled and don't regret it in the future, it's fine.

The landlord needs a little more courage, and the landlord's boyfriend needs a little more persistence. In the end, I hope that the landlord can have a lover and eventually become a family. Hope.

What a poor young man, the woman's parents don't look at character, opening their mouths for dowry, house, car. It's been five years of love, and that's it. A boy with affection and righteousness, he still pays an extra month's rent before leaving.

You're not a good girl, how can you let him go alone? When you see him walking, you should catch up with him or follow him. When the guy left, the car was gone, and he didn't know how to get back.

His parents must have been distressed when they found out.

In fact, your boyfriend loves you very much, he tried to persuade his mother to agree to the marriage of the two of you for you to withstand the pressure of the family, he defended you in front of his mother, but unfortunately when he arrived at your house, his self-esteem was hurt by your mother, and you didn't defend him, he felt that you listened to your family too much, and felt that the two of you were hopeless, and he couldn't do it for the time being for your mother's request, so he chose to say goodbye. It's not that he's changed, it's that he's desperate for your future.

Your boyfriend protects you and withstands his mother's pressure, what about you? You just don't say it because your sister pulls you and doesn't let you say it, you don't want to help your boyfriend, your boyfriend looks at you and asks for help like you, your silence means that you acquiesce to your mother's statement, your boyfriend is disappointed in you know no, men have self-esteem, he maintains your self-esteem, but you ignore him, to be honest, you are very selfish, maybe you subconsciously think that your boyfriend is poor, I think you better not look for it, just if you are so vacillating, you will not be happy when you get married.

When talking about marriage with your boyfriend, he has changed, which is also very normal, there will be divorce after marriage, but you have to observe carefully, if you really can't, you must not force it, think about it yourself, at this time you have to really give up, it's nothing, but if you really get married, and then divorce, it will hurt you too much, think about it yourself! Pay attention to your own decision.

He may have felt that you didn't react at the time, and he was sad. He also doesn't have the ability to provide you with better material conditions, and he feels the need to let go. If you really love each other, don't give up, difficulties are temporary.

His mother doesn't agree, he protects you and helps you communicate with his mother until you agree, but your mother doesn't agree, and you hurt his self-esteem by talking, not only do you not protect him, but you don't stop your mother, what do you make him think, you don't go with him when he leaves, attitude determines success or failure.

What age is it now, look at the many people who want so many bride price accidents, I personally think that as long as two people love each other, it doesn't matter how much the bride price is, two people are happy together every day, don't hurt his heart because of his parents.

Forget it, it's hard to be happy in a marriage without the blessing of your parents, and if both of your parents don't agree, then there must be a problem. If you believe in love, then this love must stand the test of reality. Your boyfriend has confidence in his parents, but he doesn't have confidence in your parents, he wants to give up, he wants to have self-esteem.

If you can't change your parents' attitudes, it's going to be very difficult. It takes time, but there is also a problem with your boyfriend, you don't give up, he has to retreat first, and he lacks resilience. Blame less, solve the problem more.

Bless you all.

There is a divorce after marriage, but you have to observe carefully, if you really can't, you must not force it, think about it yourself, at this time you have to really give up, it's nothing, but after you really get married, and then go to divorce, it will hurt you too much, and it will have a very bad impact on yourself, it's best to talk to him first, see what he thinks, after all, it's impossible to say that you don't like it if you don't like it after 5 years together, or understand the reason, Then the 2 of you work together to solve the problem.