What should I do if I always compare him to my ex boyfriend?

Updated on amusement 2024-03-29
29 answers
  1. Anonymous users2024-02-07

    It's people who will compare, it's normal, the key, don't look for another person's shadow in one person, it's not right, people are different, you can't ask for 2 people in this world who are the same ex-boyfriend to be good to you, that's before, since you want to compare, then why don't you cherish the first relationship, but in the later relationship, self-catharsis. Don't say who's better than whom. This is not absolute.

    Everyone has flaws, even thieves and gangsters have their original goodness. Not to mention your boyfriend. Do you think that your boyfriend is not good now, then have you really gotten to know him You just saw his bad side, have you tried to ask yourself, have you really stood in his position to think about the problem He does have some things that are not as good as your ex-boyfriend, but I dare to say that he also has a certain charm and advantages, which are irreplaceable and possessed by your ex-boyfriend, this is everyone's different temperament and charm Since you choose him to be your boyfriend, then why don't you know the truth of contentment.

    To discover more of his advantages, and to let go of his irrational extremism. You might be looking for something. Don't you think it's stupid for you to think like this now Since you want to define a person you don't like as a bf, then why did you agree to him in the first place, is it because you are empty, lonely, or helpless If it is just because of these, the problem is not your boyfriend, but you blame yourself for not knowing how to cherish it.

    No one is born perfect. There is no fairness in this world, and if you want him to love you, you must first respect him. If you don't get what you want from him, then you'd better tell him that you can choose to leave, but please don't feel like he's not as good as the next man Do you know the story of the monkey moving the grain?

    Not until the last one... Would you rather be a monkey or be content with it? Finally cherish the happiness around you.

    Think for yourself.

  2. Anonymous users2024-02-06

    Adjust your mentality, there is no such thing as perfect...

  3. Anonymous users2024-02-05

    <> your boyfriend always mentions your current in front of you and compares you to you, probably because your boyfriend thinks you're not good enough and may think you're too bad compared to his ex. He wants to tell you that he has wronged himself and how good his ex is, or because your boyfriend hasn't let go of his ex at all, and maybe even when he is with you, he will feel that you are his ex, and it is actually his natural reaction to mention it from time to time. In fact, no matter what the reason is, it just means that this sedan man is not so satisfied with you, and since your boyfriend is not satisfied with you, you will not go on for a long time.

    He may just be waiting for an opportunity, and when the time comes, maybe he will go and ask his ex to get back together or find another girl.

    In fact, in the hearts of most boys, loss is always more important than what you have now, whether your boyfriend mentions the good or bad aspects of his ex when comparing in front of you, it can only mean that your boyfriend has not forgotten his ex at all. He could get back together with his ex at any time.

    When you meet this kind of boy who likes to compare you with his ex in front of you, the best thing is to tell them directly, since you still miss your ex, then, there is no need for you to continue to be together, since you have started a new relationship, you should forget about the previous relationship, break it cleanly, even if there is still a little memory in your heart, you should silently put this relationship that has ended in your heart, and you can't take it out. If you still can't forget your ex, don't start a new relationship, because it will be unfair and inappropriate for you and for your new love partner.

  4. Anonymous users2024-02-04

    Hello, your boyfriend compares you with your ex, you can't be too entangled in this matter, which will only add trouble to yourself, and if you are depressed for a long time, it will cause your dissatisfaction, and in the end it will cause quarrels, in fact, women should also be a little rational in love, and your boyfriend compares you because of the advantages of his ex, that is, he likes a little bit, you don't, so he will say it unconsciously, but the reason why the ex became the ex shows that her ex must have his unbearable shortcomings, people are like this, You will feel good after losing it, so you don't have to care too much, you can be with him, it means that you have something he likes, you just need to be more tolerant, and slowly make yourself better, Bi Chunwu knows that people are different, don't care too much, I hope it will help you

  5. Anonymous users2024-02-03

    One possibility is that she hasn't completely forgotten his ex, so she keeps comparing you to her to remember her.

    There is also a kind of mentality that his predecessor is really good and good, he lost it, and after looking for you, Hui Bei felt that you were not as good as hers.

  6. Anonymous users2024-02-02

    Boyfriend compares you with your ex, you can't be too entangled in this matter, this will only add trouble to yourself, and if you are depressed for a long time, it will cause your dissatisfaction, and Wang Ju will eventually cause quarrels, in fact, women should also be a little rational in love, and your boyfriend compares you because of the advantages of his ex, that is, he likes a little bit, and you don't, so he will say it unconsciously, but the reason why the ex became the ex shows that her ex is willing to be sleepy and has shortcomings that he can't bear, people are like this, After losing, you will feel good, so you don't have to care too much, you can be with him Beixun, it means that you have something he likes, you just need to be more tolerant, and slowly make yourself better, after all, people are different, don't care too much.

  7. Anonymous users2024-02-01

    Of course, he thinks that you are not as good as his ex-girlfriend, so he will keep comparing you with his ex-girlfriend, and obviously he may think that his ex-girlfriend is better, and often hopes that you can be as good as his ex-girlfriend, or he still wants to go back to his ex-girlfriend, no way you don't have his ex-girlfriend who is beautiful, gentle, considerate, **, so he will compare you with her.

  8. Anonymous users2024-01-31

    He felt that he had broken up, and the Ken Chi Fu who he was looking for again was determined to be better than his predecessor, so that he would win. When he broke up, he would secretly compete with himself, who could find the better one, so he would compare you with his ex.

  9. Anonymous users2024-01-30

    Your boyfriend always mentions the current in front of you and compares you, probably because your boyfriend thinks that you are good enough to know that you are not at a loss, and compared with his ex, he may think that you are too bad, and he can't let go of his ex in his heart.

  10. Anonymous users2024-01-29

    Your boyfriend always likes to compare you with her ex, which means that your boyfriend is stupid, he hasn't let go of his ex at all, he doesn't really like you, he treats you as her ex and is in love with you, such a boyfriend scum accompanies friends and you can't be with you for a long time.

  11. Anonymous users2024-01-28

    Boyfriend always likes to compare you with her ex, which shows that he still cares more about his ex, deep in his heart, and the position of his ex, but you are not as good as his ex.

  12. Anonymous users2024-01-27

    It shows that he still has lingering feelings for his ex, and he still has some feelings for his ex, thinking that you are not as good as his ex, and he is not as good as his ex, which means that he may not like you as much as he likes you, and you are just a substitute for his ex.

  13. Anonymous users2024-01-26

    If your boyfriend always compares you with your ex, it means that he is obsessed with his ex, and he has not forgotten a boy like his ex, or he remembers that it is better to be with her.

  14. Anonymous users2024-01-25

    Explain your boyfriend's words, and he hasn't let go of his ex, and his colleague also says that he wants to find someone better than his ex, so he always compares Shanbi with his ex. If you cheat a man like this, it's actually a very failure.

  15. Anonymous users2024-01-24

    may be unwilling in your heart, and always feel that if you compare his predecessor to him, he will have face, and if not, he will be angry.

  16. Anonymous users2024-01-23

    If your boyfriend always likes to compare you to his ex, it means that you are not the type of ruler he likes at all, and what he likes is his ex Yinggao. Therefore, it is recommended that you separate and calm down for a while, and Brother Tu asked him to reflect on it, and if he can't make changes, it is best to break up.

  17. Anonymous users2024-01-22

    It shows that he still prefers his predecessor, everyone is unique, why should he be jealous of others, he wants to be with you and accept everything from you, otherwise don't talk about it.

  18. Anonymous users2024-01-21

    He just wants you to be better than his predecessor, and hopes that you have more advantages that your predecessor didn't have, so he compares you to your predecessor, so that he can be psychologically balanced and balanced.

  19. Anonymous users2024-01-20

    1. If you don't love so much, your boyfriend always compares you with your ex-girlfriend, and it can be understood like this

    Take the advantages of the ex-girlfriend to talk about the shortcomings of the current girlfriend, from the subconscious point of view, this man does not respect you and your current relationship from the bottom of his heart; At the same time, I am also in love with my ex-girlfriend.

    In this way, you can choose to break up.

  20. Anonymous users2024-01-19

    Your boyfriend is dissatisfied with you, so he will always compare you with his ex, but you don't need to pay attention to him, because everyone has unique characteristics of self-defeat, and since he has chosen you, he has to accept you.

  21. Anonymous users2024-01-18

    said that Hui Jiming thinks that you are not as good as his ex, and when he meets such a man, Sun Bizi must ask whether he likes you or his ex, if he feels that he doesn't like you enough, then let it go as soon as possible, and it will be good for everyone.

  22. Anonymous users2024-01-17

    It's because in his heart that his ex is more important and he can't forget it, so he will compare it and make him feel that his ex is perfect.

  23. Anonymous users2024-01-16

    Because his ex left a deep impression on him, he still likes his ex in his heart, and he likes this feeling very much.

  24. Anonymous users2024-01-15

    Maybe your boyfriend still can't forget his ex, he wants you to become as good as his ex, this time you should seriously think about it, whether your boyfriend really loves you.

  25. Anonymous users2024-01-14

    This kind of situation says that your boyfriend doesn't really like you and the person who loves you, but just wants to find the shadow of his ex in you, and he still loves his ex in his heart, so it's better to break up this kind of relationship.

  26. Anonymous users2024-01-13

    He still can't forget his ex, communicate well, if it always hurts you a lot like this, if your boyfriend changes and doesn't change it, then separate the silver core, no one wants Zen Sen to become the epitome of others.

  27. Anonymous users2024-01-12

    Your boyfriend always likes to compare you with his ex, which proves that your boyfriend has not let go of his ex's feelings, and he still likes his ex very much in many places, but he just broke up for various reasons.

  28. Anonymous users2024-01-11

    He is definitely jealous and cares a lot about the fact that you have been with your ex-boyfriend, which creates a strong inferiority complex or insecurity. If you usually use your ex-boyfriend to come out and talk about it, it seems that he is making trouble out of nothing. But when arguing, it is difficult to control his emotions, so he simply ignores it.

    This also proves that he has actually cared for a long time and has always wanted to find such an opportunity to vent his emotions.

    Manifestations of jealousy. Men will always have a strong sense of possessiveness, especially when it comes to things between girlfriends and ex-boyfriends. Maybe he won't show displeasure when you take the initiative to confess, but in fact, there are still strange emotions in his heart, which makes him always cranky, and even secretly competes with the other party.

    Even if you don't know it, you can secretly feel sad. To a certain extent, it also shows that he has deep feelings for you, even if it is your past, he will be particularly concerned and concerned, and regret that he did not participate from beginning to end.

    The inferiority complex in the bones is uneasy. Of course, there are also some doubts about oneself. There are many boys who are better at being strong and love face.

    In the face of his girlfriend's excellent ex, it is inevitable that he will compare himself and the other party on the same scale, and when he finds that he is indeed not as good as the other party, he will have a strong inferiority complex and uneasiness. This suspicion of himself made him both painful and unwilling. After all, you have broken up with your ex-boyfriend, and he can only pay attention to it silently and think about it by himself.

    When you can't bear it anymore, it will explode. Every time the other party quarrels and likes to talk about her ex-boyfriend, she is seeking your comfort and longing for your recognition and praise.

    This relationship did not give him enough security。Essentially, when you don't have full confidence in your feelings, it's easy to look to the east and the west. Make something simple and complicated.

    From a rational point of view, he clearly knows that you have nothing to do with your ex-boyfriend, but your attitude or relationship development is not as he thinks, and negative thoughts naturally arise from it. The more you worry about losing, the more uncontrollable you behave in a way that could hurt each other.

  29. Anonymous users2024-01-10

    When two people fall in love, it means that they have said goodbye to their previous love life, and the so-called ex should not come to disturb your current life. If your boyfriend keeps comparing himself with his ex-boyfriend, it is already that he can't forget the influence of his ex on you, and is not satisfied with your current situation, at this time you have to consider whether your current boyfriend is still worth going.

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