When the woman insists on the AA system on a blind date, is there no drama?

First of all, you can start a blind date, whether it is introduced by relatives or friends, in the final analysis, it is also through the consent of both parties to reach a meeting, that is to say, blind date is completely voluntary. Therefore, when two wishful people sit together, there is no difference between the sexes, and the two people are completely equal in their relationship, so they should regard each other as friends for the first time, and there should be no problem of one party taking advantage of the other. In other words, since two strangers who are willing to make an appointment for a dinner, they should not owe each other, and the AA system is the best choice.

Secondly, if you don't have feelings for this blind date, it means that there is no possibility of continued development between you, as a woman, you should calculate the money with the other party clearly, and don't take it to make others feel that since you don't have the idea of continuing to talk, you still have to take advantage of the other party. It can be said that if you let your blind date pay for this meal, you become a person who rubs the meal, and the relationship between you will be unequal from this time on, and it is very likely that the other party will imagine you as a frivolous person, and you should show your attitude through this meal, and tell the other party that you are not a person who likes to take advantage of others.

Usually the man pays. In the process of blind date, the man will generally take the initiative to find a topic to chat and take the initiative to pay, which will also leave a good impression on the woman who is generous and active. If you are very satisfied with this blind date and have a good impression of the other party, you can change the angle and let the sleepy forehand party please come back next time, but who will pay the bill next time is not a certainty, but this will give you more opportunities to date, and it can be regarded as a way to get the best of both worlds.

1. The two sides are understanding each other once they meet, and both parties will have a preliminary understanding and understanding at this time, but it is impossible to refuse or accept just through a simple way of eating. It may be because of her personality that a girl takes the initiative to pay, and she takes the initiative to pay out of politeness, and she doesn't want to owe you a favor.

2. The girl takes the initiative to pay, maybe she has a good impression of you, and the chat is very pleasant. This time the meal is paid first, in order to create the opportunity to eat together next time, this time she invites a treat, and next time you have a treat, so that the opportunity for the two to contact will increase.

3. The girl who takes the initiative to pay may also be refusing. In the process of chatting, I feel that there are some differences in ideas between the two, or I feel that the personality is not suitable, and I don't want to continue to get along with you. Taking the initiative to pay is a tactful refusal.

When I meet such a girl, I think that either she has an average feeling about the blind date and doesn't want to be involved in the follow-up, so she doesn't owe each other. Either that or the girl is very independent and used to taking the initiative into her own hands. Therefore, even if she has a blind date, she has to AA, which also shows her strength and attitude.

Boys who don't have the strength and ability to match it still need to be cautious. Especially if you want to marry a boy with a bird-like type, you should consider whether such a girl can get along.

The first blind date, I personally think that the AA system is the best, and the man has no obligation to pay for it, unless the man voluntarily settles the bill; However, the woman made such a request, mainly due to the following possibilities:

The woman is testing the man's financial resources.

Sometimes when Sen Songyu was chatting with people, some girls made this kind of remark, which roughly means that if they go on a blind date, they will take the man to a high-end restaurant for dinner, on the one hand, for the atmosphere; On the other hand, it is to test whether the man is generous or not, and whether he has money.

The unspoken rules of blind date" - the default is that the man should bear it.

Traditional blind dates generally default to the man's payment, which has become an "unspoken rule of blind date", and it makes sense for the woman to ask for this.

The woman thinks that the man has acquiesced in the payment.

Although it was proposed by the woman to go to a high-end restaurant to eat, the man did not object to the cherry chop, and in the woman's opinion, the man agreed, and also acquiesced that he should pay for it.

This reminds me of a post I saw some time ago:

This girl has a friend who is quite rich working abroad, and she just came back to plan a blind date, because this friend is not very tall, so she wants to find a tall beauty to improve the genes of the next generation.

It just so happened that there was a thirty-year-old tall, white and thin beauty colleague in this girl's unit, with average family conditions, basically belonging to the moonlight clan, and there was no house. She introduced the beauty to the man.

As soon as they met, the beauty took the man to a high-end restaurant, and the man said that you are welcome, just order it, and you don't need to save me money. The beauty turned out to be really polite, ordered a lot of expensive seafood, the man saw that he was wronged and left on the spot, and the beauty later swiped her credit card to settle the account, a total of more than 7,000.

I didn't finish all the seafood I ordered, and the beauty packed it all home, and asked the girl to let the man settle the account no matter what. The girl had no choice but to find the man, and the man transferred 2,000 yuan to the girl, his original intention was to invite the beautiful woman to eat 2,000 yuan, but the other party was wronged, and the man was unwilling.

Later, this beauty kept annoying the girl, saying that she would sell all the seafood packed in the refrigerator to her, at least 2000. The girl naturally refuses to ask for it, and the beauty has been annoying her.

From the woman's point of view, the appearance conditions are good but she is still single, and a large part of the problem lies in herself:

Thirty-year-old single, moonlight family, indicating that he is usually a big spender and has no concept of financial management;

The man said casually, and the woman went to death, and she didn't think of herself as an outsider.

It stands to reason that a thirty-year-old woman should not be so careless, she has worked for at least five years, and she has participated in many dinners, so it is impossible not to know even a little etiquette; This has nothing to do with whether the other party has money or not, no matter what kind of etiquette it is, it should not be so unrestrained, it can only be said that this woman is very immature.

It is also a manifestation of selfishness to ask the introducer to buy back the leftovers without reflecting on his own problems at all.

It's not too good for the man to leave on the spot, realizing that he has been wronged, and he can refuse on the spot when the girl orders; But it's easy to say, many people will go straight when they encounter this kind of thing.

1. Communicate in advance: One of the major characteristics of young informants is their strong ability to accept new things, so they can express their willingness to AA through WeChat or deduction in advance when they go on a blind date. 2. If the woman is unwilling to continue dating, she can aa:

For girls, if you are sure that the other party is not to your liking, then you can AA at the end of the blind date, on the one hand, do not take advantage of the other party, and on the other hand, give the other party hints. 3. If you have the intention to date, then the girl can pay the boy: after all, the boy loves face, if you want to continue to deepen the understanding with the other party, then you can be generous to the world to make others invite.

Generally, the man pays, because it shows more generosity and is easy to arouse the girl's favor.

I'm a girl, even if I can't look down on boys on a blind date, I don't dare to send Kuti AA easily, because I don't know what the other party thinks, and I'm afraid of hurting other people's self-esteem. However, I basically go to very cheap places (basically about 100, and more than 200 for boys who are more pleasing to the eye), especially for boys who don't like it at first glance, I even ordered ** for more than 20 yuan.

And my husband sketched a kiss, the first time we met, he invited guests to eat hot pot, chatting during the meal, he asked me if I watched a movie, I said okay, by the way, the mobile phone group two movie tickets, I wanted you to invite hot pot, I invited the movie, we were flat, I went home and said that it was not suitable, I didn't expect him to understand that I was very optimistic about him, and I agreed to watch a movie with him, and I paid for a ticket, and after I went home, I chased and beat hard, and then we were together, and there was a week of marriage.

To be honest, if the man doesn't want to pay for the first meal of the blind date or wants to AA system, basically the other party will not continue with you. If you think it's expensive to eat, you can make an appointment for afternoon tea and a drink. Of course, girls can't take other people's money for granted.

If it's a café on a blind date, I usually only order one drink, because I don't necessarily accept the other person, so I don't want to spend so much money on the other party. However, I can pay the bill, but I will definitely lose points to the other party in my heart. Now my boyfriend and I basically take turns to pay when we go out, although he pays more than me, but we don't care about that.

Sometimes I use hundreds of dollars of skincare products directly for him.

I don't think it's anything, if the other party is too concerned about money with me, I will definitely not go down with him, everyone's income is about the same, why bother so much about men who don't have the ability to pay to go on a blind date? The so-called blind date, most of the objects are recommended by elders or friends, the rate of cheating is very low, the blind date is over, the two sides look at the menu and count the money, what kind of system is this, it seems too stingy.