How to educate a child with weak frustration ability, and what to do if a child is weak in frustrati

1. Cultivate children's ability to resist frustration.

You can't grow up without setbacks, and everyone needs to sharpen themselves in setbacks, so that they can grow. If the child's growth is smooth sailing, then when encountering a little difficulty and setback, he will be helpless. Therefore, parents should consciously set up some obstacles for their children in ordinary times, and they need to consciously cultivate their children's ability to resist frustration.

For example, parents can let their children do some difficult things, but they also need to pay attention to proportion, and set up obstacles to be a little measured, otherwise the child's self-confidence will be frustrated.

2. Children need timely guidance when they are frustrated.

Parents cannot ignore their children's difficulties and setbacks, or ignore the difficulties their children encounter, or even blame and scold their children. What parents need to do is to help their children analyze the causes of setbacks and how to overcome them. Parents should let their children realize that setbacks are not so terrible, and let them face setbacks bravely.

Therefore, when children encounter difficulties, they need to pull them appropriately and give them some encouragement and support, so that children can learn how to overcome difficulties.

3. Teach children how to face setbacks.

Children need to face setbacks bravely, because people's lives cannot be smooth sailing, setbacks are inevitable, and if you want your children to be invincible in the competition, you need to educate your children about setbacks. Parents need to teach their children to face setbacks head-on, rather than backing down when they encounter difficulties. Parents should appropriately let their children take on some things by themselves, and only after they have experienced it can they have a deeper understanding.

Only in the continuous frustration can children improve their ability to resist setbacks and grow up step by step.

4. Enhance children's psychological tolerance in the face of setbacks.

The child encounters setbacks. Negative attitudes are usually generated, such as fear and avoidance. Therefore, parents need to deliberately arrange some difficult tasks for their children to complete independently.

Of course, parents also need to give their children some correct guidance and encouragement, so that children know how to complete the task and give them some courage to face setbacks.

Children with weak frustration ability should be taught that they will inevitably encounter setbacks in life, and they must be strong, and only by being strong can they succeed in this matter.

Hello dear, when a child is denied, criticized, and hit by his parents, it will have a great negative impact on the child's self-esteem and self-confidence, limiting the child's growth and personal development. To help your child deal with negative emotions, here are a few suggestions:

1.Listen to the child's voice, understand the child's inner feelings, let the child have the opportunity to express his views and feelings, and let the child feel the attention and support of his parents.

2.Encourage children to express their ideas and imagination, give affirmation and encouragement, help children build healthy self-esteem and self-confidence, enhance children's self-awareness and self-acceptance, and recognize their own strengths and potential.

3.Parents' words and behaviors have a huge influence on children, so avoid using negative words and behaviors such as belittling, criticism, and discrimination in front of children, and maintain a warm, supportive, and encouraging attitude, so that children can feel the love and care of their parents.

4.Parents can encourage their children to try new things and participate in various activities, so that they can get successful experience, cultivate children's self-confidence and motivation, and gradually get rid of negative emotions.

In short, when a child is denied, criticized or hit by parents, parents should patiently understand their child's feelings, treat their child with a positive and warm attitude, and let the child get attention, support and encouragement, so as to help the child establish a healthy attitude and self-confidence.

1. The child's weak ability to resist frustration is related to the child's usual requirements for himself, and the child's requirements for himself are related to the parents' requirements for the child, so parents should appropriately lower some expectations for the child.

2. Parents should learn to accept their children, if parents are not able to accept their children, this will strengthen the child's frustration.

3. Analyze the reasons for your child's setbacks with your child so that he can recognize why he failed and how he can succeed.

4. Encourage your children and don't be afraid of failure. Tell the sedan chair to sing the child that many times success is not achieved overnight.

5. Don't hype up your child's frustration in your daily life, so that your child will be full of fear of frustration.

Everyone will experience some setbacks, whether adults or children, so how should parents comfort their children when they are frustrated and crying?

1. Parents can comfort their children by saying that if they want to vent, they can vent it.

If the child has really suffered a great setback, then crying is not stopped, this phenomenon parents should not immediately stop him, should let the child vent out appropriately, sometimes crying out, is a way of emotional expression, if the child is always holding back, always pretending to be very strong, may also be greatly hurt in the heart, which is not conducive to the child's growth. Parents should comfort their children softly, let them talk about what kind of setbacks they have suffered, and the child's emotions have stabilized and will be well expressed.

2. Use body language to comfort him.

If the child encounters difficulties, it may be a very devastating thing for the child, then the parents should squat down to hug the child, or gently touch the child's head, pat the child's shoulder, so that the child knows that the parents are accompanying him, with the company of the parents, the child will have a little sense of security in his heart, then he will not be so afraid, soon, the child's emotions will be soothed, and gradually return to smile.

3. Tell your child that it doesn't matter if you fail, and that you must be brave enough to move on.

In the process of growing up, children will encounter a lot of setbacks, maybe when walking, accidentally fall, knee bleeding, or even forehead breaking, may be in the process of learning, the grades are very unsatisfactory, and they have been criticized by teachers. It doesn't matter if these are all these things, let the child know that on the road of growth, there will inevitably be failures, failure is not terrible, as long as you can stand up bravely and continue to move forward, failure will become a thing of the past. The terrible thing is that after experiencing failure, it will collapse, and that is the real failure of pure failure.

When children encounter setbacks and failures, mothers should first maintain a calm and calm mind and help them find the neatness of the problem. Jiadong's mother undoubtedly did this, but in the eyes of some mothers, the quality of their children's grades is a matter of their own face. Therefore, once the child does something wrong or fails to do something, the mother herself first feels that she can't hold her face and can't accept it calmly and objectively.

In fact, blaming, complaining or even sarcasm can only cast a shadow on children's psychology, and it is likely to lead them to self-inflicted self-aggression and self-friendliness.

In life, we will see or hear who is overwhelmed, suffering from physical or psychological diseases, and even serious ones will choose to self-destruct. Life is only once, and it is the most precious thing for anyone. What makes a person rather die than live?

This involves an important competency, and that is frustration.

The so-called frustration tolerance refers to the tolerance ability of an individual to withstand blows and pressures when encountering a frustration situation, and whether he or she can get rid of and resolve the predicament and avoid psychological and behavioral disorders. - Generally speaking, people with strong frustration tolerance tend to have less frustration reactions, shorter frustration time, and less negative impact of frustration; People with weak frustration tolerance are easily overwhelmed in the face of setbacks, and the adverse effects of setbacks are large and vulnerable, and even lead to psychological and behavioral disorders.

This book focuses on three aspects and provides readers with ways to learn from them.

1. Establish a good communication mechanism.

"Communication", if literally understood is the circulation of information, the expression of emotions, and the hidden purpose is to control the other person's thoughts or behavior, and motivate the other party to improve the inherent practice. To be effective, you need to put yourself in the shoes of listening, understanding, and nonviolent communication: observe, feel, need, and request.

Objectively express the facts you observe, express your own opinions and feelings, express your own inner needs, and ask for improvement in the behavior of the other person.

2. Cultivate children's successful experience.

Both adults and children are afraid of difficulties, and what do they want to do when they encounter something they haven't done before? Some people will bravely face the difficulties, and some people will choose to escape and retreat. As a parent, how can you train your child to be brave enough to take on challenges?

First of all, it is necessary to have the experience of making the child successful, if the child's ability is to remember 5 English words, let the child remember 3 first, and then gradually increase the difficulty according to the child's ability. Second, affirm your child's efforts rather than praising her talent. Avoid empty superficial words such as "you are great", "really smart", and "really good", and focus on depicting the child's performance in the process of hard work, such as "serious", "love to think", "study hard", etc.

Over time, children will understand that success does not depend on talent, but on hard work and earning corresponding rewards.

3. Cultivate children's ability to solve problems independently.

Many parents are accustomed to taking care of everything for their children, even if the children take the initiative to help, the parents say "just study hard, you don't have to worry about the rest." Such spoiled parenting not only weakens the child's hands-on ability, but also weakens the child's ability to take the initiative to take responsibility. Parents can cultivate their children's hands-on and problem-solving skills from an early age, such as doing housework within their ability, making travel or study plans, thinking about the general framework together, and filling in the details by the child.

1. Experience the joy of success: Why some people give up and others persist in the face of the same difficulties. An important reason is that the former people think that things are no longer possible and that their efforts are in vain.

2. In order to cultivate children's ability to be frustrated, children must know the joy of success, and a child who has no successful experience cannot have strong willpower.

3. Accept failure: When failure really comes, some people struggle desperately for a while, and then give up the desire to survive. Asking children to accept failure is actually asking parents to accept their children's failures, forgive their children's failures and comfort them, so that children can slowly learn to accept failures.