How can we be compassionate and understanding with others?

You must learn to regulate your emotions, face your life urgently, and tell yourself to make yourself betterOne of the three important topics in life is to be yourself. However, selflessness is more advanced than "being yourself", it is a state of breaking away from narcissism and establishing a deep connection with everything in the universe after finding oneself and realizing oneself. It is what Li Ka-shing said, "create self and pursue selflessness".

At this time, the "I" seems to have disappeared, and it seems that it is boundless and one with all things, and you no longer pay too much attention to the evaluation of others in the relationship, no longer suffer from gains and losses, and are too entangled in the success or failure of the ego, and no longer "spend the belly of a gentleman with the heart of a villain" to project your inner darkness to others. You can be aware without judgment, and when you observe yourself, you can keep the Dharma mind, keep the perspective of the conscious, and no matter how strong the physical feelings, emotions, and emotions are, you don't think of them as "me" or yourself, which is the so-called "flowing, not becoming". Turning myself into a channel, as Michael reversed Jackson when he said, I often feel that I am just a channel, and God expresses it through me.

Failure to judge me is a prerequisite for empathy. And empathy is shutting down the mind and connecting your body and emotions directly with others. At this time, the warmth you can convey is the warmth of "starting from his needs", not the warmth you think you are.

That's when wonder comes into play, and the true self and the true self meet. "The self is looking for the object, I am looking for you", the wonderful moments of energy flow, all occur in high-quality relationships. Learning to be forgiving and understanding others is often as difficult to do as demanding of yourself.

We are always trying our best to find each other's faults, always feel that the other party can't get along with me, always feel that anyone is making enemies of me, there are many things that are unintentional, but there are those who are cautious and always have to sit in the right seat and find troubles.

will not understand others, often a sentence unintentionally said, the person who has the intention to provoke listen, he sat down, thinking that he was sarcastic and sarcastic, he couldn't get along with himself, and he became troubled. After a long time, once or twice, there may be a general outburst in the end, a fight, and even a person's **. All kinds of social news reports in the newspaper, such as a person who made a person for a few dollars, and a joke caused a tragedy.

Learn to forgive: Learn to forgive your friends and loved ones. The closer people are, because they care too much about each other, they are prone to misunderstandings.

can't explain, can't explain, outsiders can't see jokes, and they can't let go of their dreams. At this time, the only thing that helps is time, time will dilute a lot of things and will melt resentment. One day you will find out that if you are a friend, you will definitely come back.

And if you forget what you have said or heard in your anger one day earlier, and forgive each other or yourself one day earlier, the biggest beneficiary is not the other party, but yourself, and you will be happy and your troubles will be swept away.

If you learn to understand, you will gain understanding, and if you learn to care, you will gain care. Smiling at others earns kindness from them.

Happiness and happiness are not the goal, intercourse with people, even if they are good friends, there will inevitably be some quarrels or unhappiness, try to bury and understand a person, no matter who this person is, the person you love or the person you hate. When getting along with people, you can't be happy, there will always be some people who make you unbearable, so don't be cowardly. Making friends is not premised on your own unconditional concession, you and others are equal individuals and reciprocal.

When trying to understand others, don't forget that you are understanding as an individual. Of course, others are just like you, don't forget that. Respect for others, with a sincerity, as for some contradictions in life before the bend, it is also a kind of memory, which is worth recalling.

Why bother with so many trivialities, intersect in your heart, smile silently, happiness is just a little. Others will be as difficult to say as you are, leaving others is like hoping that others will leave a space for yourself, don't touch it easily without permission, even the scar will hurt. If the heart understands, then love or hate, how can there be any total love or hate, so you need to be tolerant and within the limits of what you can accept.

People in the world may not all be forgiving, nor can they all be forgiven and tolerant, according to their own rules of closing their hearts, to love or hate, to understand, to forgive. Valuing a person is like being indispensable in life, and there is really enthusiasm for it. On the basis of understanding, to choose some people to love, hate does not have to choose, it will automatically arise, if you learn to love.

Reality is not a fairy tale, but you can do your best. Let the world be happier, stranger, I bless you, and I wish you happiness on earth. Just like that, be happier, and others may be happier when they see your happiness.

Amitabha.