What is it like to be single until the age of 30 and have never been in a relationship?

In fact, sometimes I feel that I don't really want to fall in love after being single for a long time, and I don't have the desire to fall in love when I was young, after all, I have been alone for so many years, and life without love is also very delicious.

I'm 30 years old, and I've already gone through the stage of distress like yours! Don't pay too much attention to the status quo of being single because of the pressure around you. One day you will end your single life, but sooner or later.

33 this year, except for a hazy hand-holding relationship in high school, and then I have been single until now, don't ask me how I survived, how many years of worry, anxiety, heartbreak and disappointment, now I don't know why I live.

I may be more autistic and have less communication with friends and family. Everything is a person, joys, sorrows and sorrows are all a person; It is a person who makes any decision, whether it is big or small; All problems are faced by one person; People who haven't confided in their hearts for years. A person goes forward, even if it is in the wrong direction, there is no one to warn him.

Seriously, it doesn't seem like much of an experience. I'm too lazy to fall in love anymore......More lazy to write about the experience. Except for the urgency of the family, there is no difference.

The age is increasing day by day, and it is becoming more and more difficult to find. I sometimes fantasize about finding Lori who likes my uncle.,But I have no face and no money.,After all, I can only think about it.。

Whenever I watched my friends and classmates get their monthly salaries taken away, and I was free to do so, it was really cool, and I had to buy something that their wives didn't let them spend money to buy to show off.

Of course, you can fall in love, but you have to find the right person and the right way, because when you are 30 years old, you have no time to waste on falling in love, and falling in love is to run the road to marriage. So how do 30-year-old single women fall in love?

1.As an older single woman, you must learn to recognize your own ability and value, find your own reasonable positioning, and set a standard for each other, and you can't blindly set too high, so it is difficult to find the opposite sex to fall in love. As an older woman, you must learn some major abilities, such as self-care ability in life, social empathy ability, etc., and also learn to avoid some unnecessary minus, such as too many emotional fluctuations and unclear cognition of marriage and love.

2.The most important thing is to find your core needs, because since you are 30 years old, time is precious, and make a list of your hard needs for your future partner, such as your requirements for height, requirements for his family members, etc. The biggest advantage of accurately marking your needs is that you save your own time, which is very important for us 30-year-old women.

If you want to get rid of singles, you must increase the opportunities to meet the opposite sex, so how can you increase these opportunities? For example, participate in offline blind dates and public welfare activities, where there will be many outstanding people of the opposite sex, and women who do not have much free time can also participate in online blind dates.

Not really.

There are actually a lot of people who are not in love at the age of 30, and they are not relatively alternative, but they have not met suitable friends of the opposite sex.

In the next few days, you can try to contact more friends of the opposite sex to improve your ** and clothing, I believe that it will be very fast.

In addition, the circle is really important, and it is also a factor that determines your love and marriage.

So it's also important for you to change your environment or blend in with something else.

30 years old has never been in love, such a person is actually really very few, it stands to reason that the 20s to 30 years old is the best age, that is, you should fall in love, enjoy life, enjoy life,

At the age of 30, I have never been in love, and I can't say that I am different, everyone's pursuit and requirements for love are different, and when the right person appears, they will naturally fall in love.

The people around me are either in love, or married, every girl is looking forward to it, one day Prince Charming will come to us with colorful auspicious clouds, and every girl has fantasized about her own sweet love story.

Seeing that friends who frolicked and played together began to get married one after another, they had their own small families, and the single ones also took off their singles one by one, showing their affection, and it would be a lie to say that they were not envious.

In contrast, at the same age, I have never even been in love, and marriage is more like an unattainable dream, and I will inevitably feel uneasy.

Accepting the saying that "a 30-year-old woman is not worth anything", "after the age of 30, you are worthless", "before the age of 30, you pick others, and after the age of 30, others pick you", I believe that many people are familiar with it.

We have been pursuing equality between men and women for a long time, but there is still a lot of discrimination against girls in this society, and age is the first to bear the brunt.

When everyone tells you that "a 30-year-old woman is not worth anything", our hearts will inevitably be shaken. We will worry that once we are over 30 years old, we will become a discount ** product in the supermarket, and even the blind date will take our age as a matter; We will be afraid that after the age of 30, we will never be able to wait for love again.

Self-doubtOnce, a friend asked me, "Do you think there is something wrong with my personality?" Otherwise, why am I always single. ”

In fact, she is a girl with a very good personality, and she has no choice in all aspects of her appearance. She has had boys she likes, and there are people who pursue her, but unfortunately she has never met anyone who likes each other.

Some girls are like this, obviously the conditions are good in all aspects, but fate has never come. After a long time, they will doubt themselves and feel that something is wrong with them that will keep them alone.

Nope! Today's children generally don't like to fall in love, because the pace is too fast and the pressure is too much, how can they have time to talk? The age of thirty is also mature, and all aspects have been considered comprehensively, and it must be more prudent to find a partner, and I will definitely be able to find someone I like, I wish you happiness!

I don't feel unusual, I haven't been in love at the age of 30, if it's a man, it's a reason, poor!

I can't say that, there may be many reasons, either I didn't meet the right one, or I didn't have the time to be busy pursuing a career or study.

This will definitely not, because the current society is more impetuous when it comes to falling in love, and his situation is more ordinary, but if you don't fall in love, there are also people who don't get married.

Not necessarily, some are affected by their studies and careers, and there are many who do not fall in love.

Because China has been like this throughout the ages, if you don't fall in love, don't get married, and don't reproduce, it's like being unfilial. But now everyone's thinking is relatively new, and then many people won't have so much, that is, if you don't get married, what do you want you to do.

Normal, it's so simple, you should pay attention to the proportion of the object, and you can't look for it casually because you are inexperienced.

It's not that you've never been in love, you're in love, but because you say well, you may not have met your beloved, that's why you're like this.

Actually, it's normal, it's not because I didn't fall in love because I didn't find the right person, what's strange.

According to Erikson's theory of development, the 30s are a stage when a person gains a sense of intimacy and reproduction, so at this time the individual will be particularly eager for social relationships, and in the same way, in the 30s, a person also needs to be able to obtain a certain sense of achievement, which is why you will feel confused about your state and wonder if it is normal. This means that now is an opportunity for you to change and grow, and to face and re-examine your past.

We judge whether a certain state of life is healthy because of whether the individual encounters confusion in such a state of life, whether he can adapt to the society and the surrounding environment, and whether he can adjust accordingly. So if you don't want to be in a relationship, if you don't want to socialize with someone else doesn't bother you too much, and you don't feel uncomfortable, it's not really a problem. But if it's causing trouble in your life and you're feeling uncomfortable, it means you have to adjust accordingly.

When a person grows up in a social environment, he has a great desire and need for care in his heart, so although you say that you don't want to fall in love and don't want to socialize with people, you still have some fixed social relationships, such as a relationship with your parents, and a relationship with one or two old friends, even if such a relationship is weak. But these weak relationships are not enough to support your future life, and in some ways can damage your mental health.

On the one hand, the mainstream of society still needs individuals to fall in love, get married, and even have more interpersonal interactions. So when you don't want to fall in love and don't want to date, you will face more and more social pressure, which will make you feel all kinds of uncomfortable, which will lead to your psychological unhealthy state.

On the one hand, many of our things and work are related to dealing with people, and it is not said that a job is completely done by one person. If you still don't want to be in a relationship, it means that you will not be able to seek the right help for many things, which will lead to you having to do everything on your own, in which case your stress will increase, and naturally your negative emotions will continue to be stacked.

I believe that you are not capable enough to live completely alone, to survive completely alone in this society, so at this time you have such confusion, I suggest you try to think about why you are so afraid of socializing with people, so afraid of falling in love, so as to solve the root cause of the problem, so that you can get out of the trouble.

I think the following are the reasons that may have contributed to my staying single:

1.Time problem: I am busy with work or study pressure, and I don't have enough time to find and date a couple.

2.Personality problems: Individuals have a shy personality or poor social skills, and it is difficult to reach out to the opposite sex or establish a high emotional connection with others.

3.Marriage and love concept: Individuals have low interest in love, marriage, etc., and are unwilling to spend time and energy to find a partner.

4.Family background: An unstable family environment, lack of love, or exposure to domestic violence, etc., resulting in emotional impairments.

5.Subject selection problems: Individuals are too picky or too demanding of their partners, and it is difficult to find an ideal spouse.