Have you ever met people who are loners in college life, and what are they like?

College is already an adult. And the university is a small microcosm of society. So most people will be alone because everyone has their own privacy and needs their own space. They will also be organized in their college life and arrange their lives well.

They are generally very kind, maybe they are too kind, so they are excluded and bullied by the dormitory people, so they have to bear everything by themselves, but they can do what they like without worry.

These people are very self-disciplined and have clear goals and directions, so they are never willing to eat and drink with others and go through the plans they have made every day.

These people have their own unique ideas, they are never willing to spend too much time with others, they always plan their lives reasonably, and they seem to be very self-disciplined.

People who like to be alone in college are generally introverts, and they may not know how to communicate with their classmates, and they do not know how to express their emotions.

I've seen people who are loners in their university life, they are more self-motivated and love to learn, and this type of person usually chooses to continue studying.

They tend to have more introverted personalities, some are top students, and some may be otaku. I don't like to interact with people too much, and I'm not good at communicating with people.

They are people who prefer to be quiet and don't want to be gregarious, and I think such people have their own principles and their own goals.

In fact, it is normal that it is difficult to find a like-minded friend in the class in college, and many of them do not have the courage to be themselves, and then just like that. I hope you stay this brave, as long as you are not withdrawn. It's really not easy to be yourself!

If you want to study, if you want to upgrade to a bachelor's degree, then this is really normal, and you can't play games with your roommates who don't upgrade to a bachelor's degree and ask for answers together.

Or that what you care about is not whether it is normal to be alone, but whether it is normal to fit in or not.

If this is the case, then the group of like-minded people who can make them happy and beneficial should be gregarious, but then they will naturally be gregarious.

It will make itself unable to follow its own pace, will make itself regressive, and the group that does not agree with each other will be out of the human instinct to be gregarious, but intellectually it will not be able to fit in, after all, it is not good for oneself. Then you will think about whether it is normal for you to be alone, and whether you want to be gregarious.

Lu Xun was worried that what he wrote would mislead others, not to mention contemptible people as an ordinary Zhihu paddling.

Normal, there are so many people in college, everyone has their own plans, some may be in a mess to spend the past four years, some may be constantly improving themselves, learning, learning and learning, and some may be learning while playing, so when you meet a person who has similar preferences and habits to you, you may not go alone, but if you don't meet it, you need to live a good life by yourself, because the probability of meeting this person is very small, so it is normal for a person to go alone in college.

It would be great if you were able to spend your time on the things you love and have enough fun. I have seen many people who don't like to be noisy and deliberately push themselves into the crowd, and as a result, not only do they have a bad time, but others can't feel their sincerity. To put it bluntly, it's just thankless.

So, if you find something you really like in your four years of college, and you don't think you need to spend too much time socializing for it, then go ahead and stick to it. Because learning or living is for yourself, don't be influenced by others, because pretending to be gregarious is the most terrible and saddest thing!

It's so normal, I like to be alone, and if I follow a group of people for everything, I have to wait for them, which is a waste of time.

It's normal, college is its own time, and many people are busy with their own things.

Being alone in college life is not necessarily a bad thing, for example, other people like to play games, and you like to learn other skills, or do other meaningful things, then you can't go with these different people, so you can only do your own things alone, in fact, sometimes there are many people who will affect each other, after all, most people's ideas are different, so if you want to do your own thing, you must only work alone, because hard work is actually a separate thingDon't be afraid of loneliness, because you can only grow when you are lonely, don't you?

The university is a collective, and the people in the same dormitory may have to stay together for four years, if you usually want to go out, it is better to have a partner, although the boy is not in danger of being **, but it is good for everyone to take care of each other. For example, when you go to the classroom, if there are two diligent people in a dormitory, you can go to the classroom first to occupy seats for others. Since our school is in the north, especially in winter, we often go to the school bath with six of us to take a bath together, so that we can rub each other's backs.

Even when we go to the library at night, we often go together, because the library is still quite far from the dormitory, and we have to walk through a large forest at night, so it's good to have a few more people talking and laughing together, if you're alone, I don't think it's good anyway. Of course, if you really don't like to act with everyone, you still have to make sure that you are safe, and then go alone. Then again, it's normal to be alone, maybe your personality is more withdrawn.

After many people enter the university, they feel that they are alone, and they are also general friends with their classmates and dormitory friends, and they can sing K together in class but can't tell the truth, and they can't make any sincere friends. It looks like it's doing well on the outside, but only you know it, and it's very empty inside. Here, I would like to say that it is normal for a person to be alone in college life.

The premise is that your loneliness has to be meaningful. For example, when your roommates are all together to catch up on dramas, you are silently reading and studying in the library alone, although it looks very lonely, but it is not, because there are many people studying with you.

If you come together, talk more, and if you don't get along, talk less. Don't deliberately please others or even people you don't like for the sake of relationships. I'm a sophomore now, and I often walk around by myself, eat, go to Internet cafes, and the library.

On the outside, I don't think anyone can rely on anyone but myself. Whoever departs will not live in the same way. The university exercises people's endurance and also exercises people's heart.

That, we have a pretty similar style of doing things, can we make friends? ‍‍

I spent most of my college years on my own. Because at that time, I found that I went to the classroom arm in arm with my female classmates in the same dormitory or class, went to self-study together, and went to the cafeteria together, but the problem was that they were too slow, because I didn't wear makeup, they often worked for a long time, over and over again, and I was in a hurry. What's more, they come from different regions and have different living habits and concepts, so there will be contradictions when they get along.

Everyone has their own temperament and does not want to accommodate others. Another thing, I don't like to gossip about the private affairs of so-and-so classmates with them. I feel like those rural women in the countryside at home, who have nothing to do and have nothing to do.

Actually, this is better in college. But once the habit is formed, it is not good to develop this habit of being alone in society. Because the company is more team-oriented.

And you're going to apply for a job, and there's also a mention of having a sense of teamwork. In this way, it can be conducive to the development of work. Therefore, after graduating from university, it is necessary to pay more attention to unity.

One of the most important stages of going to college is to develop a clear sense of self and fully realize that you are different from others. Lift your soul up into the sky and look down on yourself and others. Think about why this person is talking like that?

Why did that person do this? Slowly, you will find that you are different from others, and at this time, it is equivalent to enlightenment, and it will be difficult for you to get along with others as closely as you used to be in high school. I also went through this stage when I was in college, I was alone during college, I had a lot of things to do, unlike the rest of my classmates who stayed in the dormitory to play cards and games, I was relatively early in the game, I didn't want to, let's go along with others, and strive for more of my own ideas and my own business.

It's nothing to be alone in college life, it should be a normal phenomenon, it's very common, and it's good to go out of society. Some are because they have just integrated into a new group and do not adapt to the new group life, and the changes in lifestyle cannot be directly changed, and some are caused by parents who usually pay less attention to their children's living conditions and lifestyles, and some have developed bad habits in junior high school, playing with mobile phones when they go home, and have not gone out to interact. As a high-tech mobile phone computer leading the new era, it has achieved many people and ruined many children.

Now I'm obsessed with mobile games, I can't wait to get out of school soon, pick up my phone as soon as I get out of school, and then play until I don't know anything, so I won't make friends with Ben, and my phone is my best friend. So it's the same when you go to college, it doesn't matter if you have friends or not, just have a mobile phone. There are also more introverted and shy, who are not suitable for the new environment when they first arrive, and dare not take the initiative to talk to friends, as long as others do not take the initiative, he will not take the initiative, and then they will form a lone ranger.

It's okay, it's a matter of time, and if you give it some time, it will change.

I saw a saying before that being gregarious is the beginning of your depravity.

Anyway, I like to be alone.

I don't think it's a good thing to be alone in collegeNo matter what environment a person grows in, he needs the help of others, if he is only alone because of different schedules and rest or different habits, then there is no problem, and there is no need to change. But if you don't like to communicate with others, and you don't want to express your thoughts to others, then I think this kind of loneliness is not only not worth advocating, but you should also reflect on why you don't fit in.

In my dormitory, there was a student who liked to get up early to go for a run and study on his own, usually going out at a little after 6 o'clock until he came back at night, and occasionally came back at noon to take a nap. But we never felt that he was out of place, because he was very active at every dormitory dinner, and took the initiative to help us recommend restaurants, and he tried his best to help with class activities. We didn't feel that he was independent of us at all, but that he was very thoughtful, and everyone admired him.

In fact, the above-mentioned scholar seems to be a loner, but the real reason is that he is different from our habits, and he can't wait for us to get up at 9:10 and go out together in order to appear gregarious. That's why we call it solitudeBut it is clear that he is otherwise enthusiastic and willing to get along with others, and there is no problem with his way of communicating.

There is also the one who is alone in behavior and mentality。In fact, this situation is not uncommon, especially for students who do not have certain social skills after entering universityBecause they are not good at words, they wrap themselves very tightly and do not want to communicate with othersEven if the two of them packed up and planned to go out at the same time, they had to deliberately drag it until another classmate left before leaving by themselves, but in fact, they were just afraid that the two people on the road would have nothing to say. This kind of solitude is pathological, and it is also an obstacle to the expansion of one's social circle in the future.

Hello, let me share my opinion. Let's start with the conclusion: college students can be alone, it's your freedom, and there's nothing wrong with it, no one is asking you to walk with other people all the time, right?

But I suggest that you try to communicate with your classmates, friends, brothers, sisters, and teachers as much as possible. This is not only conducive to exercising the subject's personality, making the subject more extroverted, improving the subject's social skills, but also conducive to improving the work efficiency of future work and scientific research.

First of all, whenever and wherever you are. It is impossible for a person to be separated from the whole collective, and it is absolutely unrealistic for a person to exist separately from the collective. Maybe you still have a lot of opportunities to be alone during your time in middle school, high school, or college.

But what about after work? You need to face your colleagues, your bosses, your customers. You can't just do what you want, more or less, you have to listen to your colleagues, your bosses, your customers.

Maybe for you now, it is very easy to be alone, but after work, there will be fewer and fewer opportunities to be alone, if you are not enough to socialize now, you will be very tired when you come to work, you will often feel tired due to coping with interpersonal communication and social interaction, low mood and other negative emotions. Not only does this reduce your productivity, but it can also damage your mental health and have a worse impact. So from now on, try to minimize the number of times you are alone, increase the number of times you communicate and work with others, exercise your extroverted personality, and also improve your social skills, pave the way for your future self, and make your future self more comfortable!

Finally, I would like to share two tips and experiences for interpersonal communication. 1.Be polite, respect other people's ideas, and don't comment on other people's behavior and character. 2.Be sincere, learn to empathize, understand more, and tolerate others.

Hope it helps!