How can I control my feelings? How to control feelings?

You don't have to have someone to love, but you have to love someone well!

When you have experienced loving and being loved, and learned to love, you will know what you need, and you will find the most suitable person for you and be able to get along for a lifetime.

But sadly, in real life, people who truly love each other for various reasons may not be able to be together;

The one you love the most often doesn't choose you;

What loves you the most is often not what you love the most;

And the longest-lasting, it's not what you love the most, and it's not the one you love the most.

Only the person who appears at the most suitable time will really be with you forever!

No one deliberately wants to change his mind, he really loves you when he loves you, but he really doesn't love you when he doesn't love you, and there is no way to pretend not to love you when he loves you;

In the same way, there is no way for him to pretend to love you when he doesn't love you.

When a person doesn't love you and wants to leave you, you have to ask yourself if you still love him (her), if you don't love him (her) anymore, don't refuse to leave for the sake of poor self-esteem;

If you still love him (her), you should want him (her) to live happily, hope that he (she) is with the person you really love, and will never stop it, if you prevent him (her) from getting real happiness, it means that you no longer love him (her), and if you don't love him (her), what right do you have to accuse him (her) of changing his (her) mind?

Love is not possession!

You love the stars, and it's impossible to take them down and put them in the basin, but the light of the stars can still shine into your room.

In other words, if you love someone, you can also have it in another way, so that the lover becomes an eternal memory in your life, and if you really love someone, you have to love him as he is, love his good, and love his bad:

Love his strengths and his shortcomings, and never want him to become what he wants because he loves him, and if he can't change, he won't love him.

You can't tell the reason for really loving someone, you just know that no matter when and where, good or bad, you want this person to be with you;

The real relationship is that the two can stay together in the most difficult situation, that is, without the slightest requirement.

After all, feelings must be given, not just wanted to be gained;

Separation is an inevitable test, and if your relationship is not stable enough and you have to admit defeat, true love will not turn into resentment.

When the two are in love, they like to make each other swear and make promises, why do we swear to each other, it is because we don't believe each other, we don't believe in lovers at all, and these mountain alliances and sea vows are very unrealistic.

The sea is dry and the earth is barren, but it can't change my love for you!

knowing that the sea will not wither, the stones will not rot, the earth will not grow, and the sky will not be barren;

Even if he could, he wouldn't live until then.

When making a promise, be careful, don't make promises that can be fulfilled, it is better to promise what you can't do, anyway, it doesn't matter if you can't do it, remember that "impossible promises are the most moving".

In love, one thing is said and another is done;

The speaker does not believe it, and the listener does not believe ......

Who have you met in the vast sea of people? Who met you again.

If you want to control your emotions, don't take the other party too seriously, that is, seven points, and you can't love too little, so that the other party will decide that you don't love him, give yourself three points of love for yourself, as long as this is how you can love others.

Self-awareness: Being aware of your feelings and emotions, being aware of your emotional state and the triggers that lead to those emotions. This self-awareness can help you better understand your feelings and control them.

Logical thinking: Try to look at emotional issues from a rational and logical point of view. Ask yourself if there is evidence to support your feelings and if there are other explanations or perspectives to consider. By thinking rationally, you can better control the effects of your emotions.

Set boundaries: Make sure you set healthy boundaries emotionally, don't rely too much on the emotional responses of others, and respect your own needs and boundaries.

Seek support: Share your feelings and emotions with friends, family or professionals for support and advice. They can provide you with new perspectives and support that will help you better manage and control your feelings.

Keep in mind that everyone's emotional experience is unique, and these methods may work better for some and less for others. It's important to respect your feelings, be open with your feelings, and seek professional help and guidance if needed.

When you are controlled by emotion, it is easy to make mistakes in your judgment, and if you want not to be controlled by emotion, you must put aside your emotions to think about the present, stay calm when you encounter things, and develop the habit of not being controlled by emotions in your daily life.

Try to detach yourself from the situation, see yourself as a spectator, without any preconceptions, without any selfish distractions, not subjective, but objective, in neuro-linguistic programming, this method is called "reconstruction". However, often separating one's feelings may lead to psychological and personality problems, so don't rely on detachment when you encounter difficulties. Don't make assumptions under the influence of uncontrollable emotions, start from the facts, think logically, and let logic help you see the facts.

Don't have negative thoughts of self-deprecation. Don't just see the perfection of others, once you start comparing yourself to others, you won't see your own unique brilliance. Emotions can sometimes also come into play when dealing with things, and it may not be a bad thing to go along with strong feelings.

When faced with a difficult situation, deep breathing can help you regain your calm, inhale through your nose for 2 seconds, hold your breath for 4 seconds, exhale for another 4 seconds, repeat the process, and you will feel yourself slowly calming down. Don't be restless all day, instead of doing this, get up and do something else, distract yourself, change all the thoughts in your head to positive ones, and get rid of bad thoughts. Don't use alcohol or self-harm to numb your emotions, this may sound like a good thing, after all, "one drunk relieves a thousand sorrows", but in fact, after indulging yourself, you will feel more uncomfortable than before, not only the problem is not solved, but the body is also hurt.

If you find yourself feeling depressed all the time, it may be related to your environment, and if you are surrounded by some friends who are depressed all the time, it will be easily affected, and you should find a way to get out of this circle of friends.

Get rid of emotional control, start from ordinary life, develop the habit of not being controlled by emotions, not negative or positive, and do "not be happy with things, not sad with yourself".

The first is to control feelings and behaviors with desire, so their behavior is to covet the intimacy of the relationship between a man and a woman. It is certainly not advisable to use this desire to control one's thinking and behavior, and there is no emotion at all.

The second is to think with your heart and control your feelings and behaviors with your heart. So if they are soft-hearted, if they are emotionally rich and delicate, or if they are narrow-minded, then their way of thinking will be controlled by their hearts, just like Shanshan, because their hearts are full of that person, so they can't do anything right, they are sad to do anything, they can't do anything comfortable, the reason is that they can't control their hearts.

The third type of people is the wise people, because they think with their minds and control their feelings and actions with their minds. This kind of person is relatively rational, because once a person thinks with his brain, he will become calm, and he will not just be emotional. Therefore, it will not be controlled and swayed by some emotions.

is so out of love, for them, it will not be so terrible, they will not want to die or live, but rationally remind themselves to let go and come out early.

What is your situation, if you love him, you should chase him, don't give up.