Do I have to go back to my mother in law s house on the winter solstice, and why can t I go back to

There is no rule that you must go back to your mother-in-law's house on the winter solstice, and the winter solstice is not a big festival, if you happen to be on vacation, you can also go back to your mother-in-law's house to make your mother-in-law happy.

In our area, we need to go back to my in-laws' house for the holidays in the first year of marriage. If you have been married for a few years, you don't need to go back to your in-law's house and spend the holiday in your own home.

Don't you know what customs you have there?

This is a feudal and superstitious custom, which originates from the saying that "the winter solstice does not overwinter, and the father-in-law dies in winter".

It is said that on the day of the winter solstice, the married daughter cannot go back to her parents' house for dinner, and must go back to her mother-in-law's house, otherwise, it will be very unlucky for her father-in-law.

The origin of the Winter Solstice Festival:

Due to the gap between the lunar and solar calendars, in China's winter solstice season, Honglu is generally around December 21 and 23 every year, the night of the winter solstice is very long, in the period of Emperor Wu of the Han Dynasty, the 24 solar terms are used to guide the agricultural calendar, mainly using the average time method to divide the solar terms, so that the date between the winter solstice and the next winter solstice is called the middle air, and then divided between the middle air, it becomes the 24 solar terms, the winter solstice is only one of them, it is a festival unique to our Chinese nation. Ancient people believed that the winter solstice refers to the natural transformation of yin and yang, and everyone had to hold a winter ceremony, and in the Tang and Song dynasties, it was necessary to worship the sky and worship the ancestors.

(1) Return to your parents' home on the winter solstice.

In some cities in the north of our country, it is believed that you cannot return to your parents' home during the winter solstice. This is due to the overly traditional customs, the feudal etiquette of "three obedience and four virtues" restricts the daughter-in-law. In the past, daughters-in-law would return to their parents' homes after the autumn harvest, so there was a custom of meeting their mother-in-law's family during the winter solstice.

(2) Winter solstice marriage.

The ancients believed that the day before and after the winter solstice was not suitable for marriage, and the ancients believed that the day before the four days of marriage should be avoided, that is, the beginning of spring, the beginning of summer, the beginning of autumn, the beginning of winter and the spring equinox, autumn equinox, summer solstice, and the day before the winter solstice are not available, and the cosmic aura is in a state of chaos.

(3) Go out on the winter solstice.

In the legend of the winter solstice, it's not that you can't go out, it's that you can't go far. Because the winter solstice is the shortest, there is a legend that this is the time when the tengu comes to the world to look for the incarnation, so not only can you not go far away, but you should not walk around when it is dark. It is also said that when Pangu opened the sky, it was the time of the winter solstice, at this time, because the genius had just been opened, all evil had no leader, and the world roamed.

Worshipping our ancestors on the day when the seasons change is as if our ancestors are also celebrating the festival with us. Generally speaking, although the winter solstice is not a formal family sacrifice, offerings and incense should be offered to the ancestors' spiritual thrones, and the whole family should celebrate together with a glass of cheese wine. In addition, there are also customs such as burning paper and sending winter clothes to the grave.

The so-called winter clothes are to send warm clothes to the deceased ancestors.

If you want to spend the winter solstice in your mother's house, you can spend it at your mother's house, there are no restrictions on this, and there are no rules, as long as you want to.

Why not! Absolutely! Don't believe in old superstitions!

It's okay, it's okay, it's okay as long as you want.

According to the traditional custom of carrying a carry, it is not possible to return to your parents' home on the winter solstice, and the specific reasons are as follows:

First, there is a saying that you can't go back to your parents' house on the winter solstice, it is said that going back to your parents' house on this day is not good for your father-in-law, and there is a saying in the countryside that "the winter solstice is not winter, and the father-in-law dies in winter". Although everyone thinks that this is a relatively feudal idea, no one dares to deliberately offend.

2. From another point of view, the saying that you can't go back to your parents' house on the winter solstice can mediate the relationship between husband and wife to a certain extent. For example, if Tuanfu's daughter returns to her parents' house after marrying into the man's family, there are some small conflicts, at this time the man can use these statements as a step and quickly invite his wife home to reunite for the festival together.

The feudal etiquette of three obedience and four virtues.

In the early days, "three obedience and four virtues" was a very important idea for women. So, in the early years, the daughter-in-law, as soon as the farm was over (after the autumn harvest and wheat planting), she would pack up her luggage and return to her parents' house to live for a while, and the stay was a winter. After all, as the saying goes:

The daughter also feels very free in the place where her mother's eggs are big; In my mother-in-law's house, even if it is a big place, I feel very wronged.

Also, in the old society, the daughter did not live in her mother's house, she was to be ridiculed by outsiders, and everyone would say that you see his daughter's daughter, who lives in her mother-in-law's house all the year round, and does not return to her mother's house, this person is really unproductive, and she can't do without a man.

So, after the farm was over, the daughter-in-law had to go back to her parents' house to live for the winter. That's true, but it's going to be a very difficult time for young couples.

2. Regulate the relationship between husband and wife.

The saying that you can't go back to your parents' house on the winter solstice can ease the relationship between the husband and wife to a certain extent. For example, if the daughter marries into the man's family, and the two have some small conflicts, the woman will return to her parents' house, and the man can use these statements as a step to quickly invite his wife home to reunite for the holiday.

Yes, if you are sick, you still have to go to the hospital.

The Winter Solstice Festival has always been attached great importance to by the people. In the pre-Qin period, the customs and cultures of the south and north were different, and the customs of various places had not yet been integrated and popularized, and many festivals had a history and were not recorded. Many of the ancient festivals are rarely recorded in the writings.

According to the extant writings, the Zhou people (Shaanxi area) took winter November as the first month, and winter November 1 as the first year of the year. The first day of the winter and November of the Zhou people and the current "24 solar terms" or the date of the winter solstice of the skin are in the same lunar calendar as the November of the lunar calendar, so it is said that the Zhou people have sacrificed on the winter solstice (November) since the Zhou period.

Hundreds of miles of different winds and thousands of miles of different customs, we don't have such a saying here...