What do you know about communicating with rebellious children?

Adolescence is a critical period for children's self-development, during which children have emotional instability, and many parents will feel that for a period of time, the originally obedient and docile children suddenly change and become very rebellious.

During this time, many parents will find themselves unable to communicate well with their children, often starting to argue after less than two sentences, or the child will suddenly leave angrily.

In fact, parents should also think about this from another aspect: children have begun to grow, have we also grown up the way we communicate with our children?

When communicating with a child who is in the rebellious period, there are a few things to keep in mind:

1. Equality. Parents should make their adolescent children feel valued and respected when interacting with them. Words such as "why", "no", "stupid thoughts", etc., or condescending attitudes, are not advisable.

Only when children feel respected by their parents can they be more open and less confrontational with their parents.

2. Be friendly. When a child has emotional problems, parents should first express their understanding of the child's feelings, and at the same time, they can appropriately open themselves up and talk about your past, and then sincerely tell the child your views on this matter, and finally accompany the child to find a solution to the problem. During this process, parents and friends should remain friendly and caring, and give their children appropriate confidence.

3. Positive communication. When communicating with their children, parents should remember not to insinuate and point out their children's problems in detail and in detail; Don't over-derive, just do the facts. When parents communicate with their adolescent children, they must take love as the premise and starting point, and be more affirmative and encouraging.

Communicating with an adolescent is itself a matter of patience and requires constant attention from parents. May parents and friends be able to accompany their children through adolescence smoothly.

First, be careful that you are very sincere. Adolescent children are particularly sensitive, and if you have sincerity, they can immediately discern it, and they will be more resistant to their parents internally. Second, when communicating and communicating, we parents often have a misunderstanding, that is, let our children listen to us.

If so, then it's not communication and communication, it's an order. It doesn't work very well with adolescent children. The more you command him, the more he resists.

So communication and communication is that you talk about your ideas, I talk about my ideas, you make your concessions, and I make my concessions. In this way, the child will be motivated to participate in the communication.

Parents should look at their children and communicate with them calmly. The second is to tell the child about the positive ideas, and to tell the child that no matter what happens, it should be solved in the right way.

Only by starting from their interests and hobbies, so that they can communicate with them well, rebellious children are rebellious because of the lack of parental love.

When communicating with them, you must be calm, calm, gentle, and know their specific thoughts before prescribing the right medicine.

Every parent hopes that their children can become talents, and most parents feel that the road they have gone through in life is very bumpy, and they hope that their children can avoid these and go more smoothly. Therefore, parents will make a good line for their children and want their children to grow up according to their own plans. However, they forget that the child is an independent individual with his own thoughts, and may have to be attached to his parents when he is young, but when he grows up, he feels that he is capable and wants to be free from the control of his parents.

Many children will go through a rebellious period, after the age of seven there is a teenage rebellious period, and between the ages of twelve and eighteen there is a teenage rebellious period, and children at this stage completely ignore the teachings of their parents. Sometimes they even feel that they are bad, or that their parents do not love them, so they will keep preaching to themselves. Therefore, it is more important to pay attention to the method of communication with such children.

1. Go with the flow. Rebellious children just want to go against their parents, and their purpose is to provoke their parents, so if the child has not done anything excessive, just verbal provocations can be ignored. Let the children grow up according to their own wishes, as long as they can grow up healthily, and it will be good to pass this rebellious period.

2. Exemplary method. It is said that parents are the best teachers for their children, no matter what age they are, and a good family environment is especially important for children. When parents want their children not to play with their mobile phones, they must put down their mobile phones first, and only when parents set an example, children can respect their parents more.

3. Don't treat your children as your imaginary enemies. The rebellious period is only a stage of children's growth, as parents should guide their children well, not regard children as their enemies, and don't think about everything to suppress children. The rebellious period will always pass, maybe this time with the children is not pleasant, but their own children, they have to find ways to accompany them, these are irreplaceable by others.

The way to communicate with the rebellious child is to pay attention to your own attitude, try to follow the child's psychology to say, don't lose your temper with the child, listen to his thoughts more, if you always go against the child's will, at this time the child will have a guilty mood, so the child will quarrel with the parents, wait until the child calms down, and then tell them the right thing to do.

You can communicate with children in a gentle way so that they don't provoke their rebellious mentality, and you can also communicate with them in the tone of a friend, so that they will communicate with their parents in a friendly way.

At this time, we must remain calm, and the child must be very calm and stable when chatting, and then the ability to express must be particularly clear, to organize the language, ask the child some questions is best to be direct, because children do not have so much thought as adults, so direct knowledge can make children answer more truthfully.

For children in the rebellious period, first of all, I think we must learn to listen, and listening is actually a process. Let the child express his bad emotions, including bad thoughts, or some grievances he has received, maybe you will give a certain understanding when expressing, and then give a certain guidance, and then give a certain help, maybe the child will feel that this is a very good way to communicate. It shouldn't mean that the child has not listened to it, and after the ins and outs of this matter, you immediately give him an instruction, or immediately give him a help that you think is beneficial to him.

In fact, the child doesn't know what you do, but what he may need more is to let him freely express his emotions, freely express his views on the good and bad, there is such a person who understands him very well and agrees with him very much. And then you have the right influence, or you can say that, what will happen to me when I touch this matter, he will think that it is like this, and you will have this emotion, and you will be like this. Then you give him a relatively reasonable suggestion, and then he will express himself freely, and he will choose, in his own opinion, a way that should be done, in this communication, we say that it is more effective.

How to deal with children in the rebellious period, I believe that every parent has been troubled by it, children are naughty, short-tempered, and like to talk back, which is a stage of growth for children. As parents, we should first care about the physical and mental health of the child, actively communicate with the child, and should not beat and scold the child, many times, the rebellious period of the child is because they do not feel the warmth in the family, so they want to attract the attention of their parents through the form of rebellion, and the family factor also accounts for a very large part of the reason.

First of all, we must learn to listen to the inner needs of children, listening is also a very important process, when children express their thoughts to us, we must give a certain understanding, and then give them help, understand the ins and outs of things, instead of blindly blaming children, when we as parents can think from the perspective of children, many times things can be solved.

Secondly, we should understand whether the child has received some unfair treatment at school, whether there are teachers or classmates in the school who misunderstand him, and when the child tells us, we don't care too much, so we need to understand the child's learning and living situation in school, after all, in addition to the home, the most common place for children is the school.

Moreover, it may be that today's social environment causes children's psychological problems, now that online games are flooding, children have made some indiscreet friends, easy to go astray, we should understand what friends children have made, and keep them away from online games, parents should take more time to accompany their children, children are addicted to games are mostly less accompanied by parents, increase the interaction between parents and children, I believe that children will open their hearts to their parents.

Finally, we must learn to empathize more, communicate with the child, give the child enough companionship, if it is really seriously rebellious, consider whether there is a psychological problem, if necessary, you can ask a psychologist to take a look, do not hurt the child's self-esteem, give the child an equal right to speak, and be friends with the child.

You can tell your child when you are calm, you can tell your parents about anything, you can also tell the teacher, you can get a good solution, and you shouldn't lose your temper.

Follow the child's thoughts, talk to the child about his interests and hobbies, let the child talk about his current mental thoughts, and then give some suggestions appropriately.

Introduction: Parents must be patient with children in the rebellious period, communicate carefully with their children, and communicate with their children in a gentle tone. Parents should never have conflicts with rebellious children, if they have conflicts with rebellious children, children will be farther and farther away from their parents.

If parents want their children to have good communication with themselves, they must first think about the problem from the child's perspective and start from the child's psychology. Today, I will talk to you about what are the ways to communicate with rebellious children?

If parents don't want to anger their rebellious children, they must first follow their children's ideas. If parents approve of their children's ideas, let them do it boldly, don't anger the children, provoke the children, they will only do it against the parents, if the child makes an irreparable mistake, it will be too late for the parents to regret it. Every child has a rebellious period, and if parents let them do what they want to do, they will be able to grow up healthy and get through this rebellious period.

Parents educate their rebellious children not to beat and scold their children. Don't treat the rebellious child as your enemy, and don't press the child with a parental attitude, which will make the child breathless and want to run away from the parents. If a child does leave his parents during the rebellious period, there will be a big gap between him and his parents, and he will make mistakes.

Children are more impulsive during the rebellious period, and if they make irreparable mistakes because of impulsiveness, it will be too late for parents to regret it.

To educate rebellious children to communicate with rebellious children, first of all, we must correct our attitude, do not communicate with children as adults, and communicate with children according to their psychology. What parents need to do is to treat their children as their friends and treat them with their ideas. Children have their own things to do during the rebellious period, and parents must let their children do boldly and escort behind their children.

It is possible to criticize the child, or to set a standard for the child, listen to the child's ideas first, encourage the child appropriately, and tell the child some real stories, which is easier to communicate.

In my opinion, parents should think from the child's point of view, find a partner for the child, buy him what he likes, and guide him, so that they can communicate with him.

If you want to communicate with your child, whether it is a boy or a girl, you must first understand the different stages of your child's development and development. The so-called knowing oneself and knowing one's opponent can win all battles. Although the children are our biological children, each child is like an alien spy report.

To be all of us who became mothers for the first time, it is terrifying, headaches, and happy, and it will be a true portrayal of all mothers.

The age is when the child is about 3 years old, and the children of this period have their first knowledge of the world, are curious about everything, and think about everything in the arms of their parents, which cannot satisfy the children's colorful charm of the outside world. Children at this age refuse the orders of their parents, get angry or spray, begin to achieve their own goals. And sometimes they make unreasonable demands and do naughty things to attract the attention of their parents and change their sense of existence.

It is a phenomenon that often occurs in children of this age. At this time, parents should do not shout loudly or give harsh orders, but deal with them calmly. Parents should control their feelings for their children's stubbornness and mischief.

The child is vexatious, and the parents can take a cold treatment method. If the child is naughty, it is appropriate to give the child a taste of punishment. When parents ask their children, they will ask for their opinions and ideas, give them the right to choose, and give them a sense of being valued.

Dolls are not very good at raising. Every child is a little angel given to us by God. What kind of growth environment you give him, what kind of person he will become.

Children at this age crave independence, crave parental control and parental half-tone, have intense emotional reactions, stubbornness, destructive behavior, and are prone to conflict with other children. When communicating with children of this age, parents must not lose patience, do not allow the child to develop freely, do not beat or swear, and remember to completely deny the child's behavior.

If parents do not ask what their children think, and blindly criticize and educate their children from their own point of view, the children will slowly distrust their parents, alienate their parents, and resent their parents, and it is obviously the fault of the education method that the child has problems. The right approach to education is important, and good communication between parents and children is key. Parents keep in mind when communicating with children of this age:

It has been said that adolescence is the entire modeling period of a person's life. It is the responsibility and obligation of every parent to help children transform smoothly and help them grow into healthy people both physically and mentally.