Dad without a sense of responsibility, what shall I say?

My home is in the suburbs of an unknown city in the south, my father is almost 50 years old, working at a construction site, it is not too much to use the words "three days of fishing and two days of netting".

My mom is a simple, thrifty mom and a younger sister in elementary school.

I am a post-90s migrant worker.

Let's talk about my dad and his brothers.

My dad smoked 2 packs a day, and told him many times to tell him to smoke less and quit, but he didn't listen. When the family came to farming, it happened that he went to work on the construction site, My grandfather, I have a similar impression, he is also picking bricks at the construction site, there is a lot of rain in the south, he will do it if he has a job, and he will play cards if he doesn't work.

For example, during the Qingming Festival, grandpa's brother returned to his hometown to worship his ancestors, and grandpa knew that his brother would be back in 2 hours, so he took a hoe and sickle to go to the field to do farm work, and usually did not do farm work.

5 or 6 years ago, when I was studying (I went to a technical school after finishing junior high school), my parents asked my uncle (my father's brother) to borrow 5,000 yuan to study in a technical school and was refused, the reason was that their family had no money, my uncle had already bought a house in the city, and my uncle and aunt both worked in state-owned enterprises, and my uncle (my father's younger brother) asked my uncle to borrow about 10w yuan before and after my parents asked my uncle to borrow money, which was my uncle inadvertently said that he leaked his mouth, and he couldn't let my aunt know, My mother said that it may be that my uncle will make money and spend money (uncle is a gangster, he is a ruffian), and my father will not make money, I am afraid that I can't afford to pay it back, so I don't lend money to study, my uncle is also outside the light, owes relatives and friends a lot of money for 7 or 8 years, and can't find others when he has money, ** can't get through, when he is in trouble, he comes to his uncle and aunts to help.

Is it still necessary for such relatives to come and go?

What would you do if you met such a relative?

What should I do, how can I say it, so that my dad can take responsibility for this family.

In the journey of life, if there is less sleek and sophisticated, there will be more pure and elegant, less persistence in fame and fortune, and more calmness. We can't choose life, but we can choose the way to walk, in the hustle and bustle, keep a plain alone, in the prosperity, adhere to a simple, do not bother for the fame and fortune in front of us, do not surprise honor and disgrace, regardless of gains and losses, quiet and calm, we will live easily, live to the fullest, live a tasteful life.

Life is a long journey. It is the interpretation of life and a delivery of time. In the journey of life, we look at the spring flowers and autumn moon, and perceive the warmth and gentleness.

Walking through the wind, through the rain, from the sunrise to the east, to the sunset of the west mountain, the alternation of day and night, intertwined with how many ups and downs are hidden in it.

After going through the ditches and bumps of life, you will understand that life needs to be relieved, and you will understand that ordinary is true, and simple happiness is also happiness. Don't complain about all the unfairness, the pay and return are not necessarily equal, as long as there is more understanding, it will create more harmony in life.

Everyone's mood has its own world, which can be felt alone when it is joyful and borne alone when it is sad. Some grievances don't have to be told to everyone. The irretrievable loss is indifferent when you see it; The sentimentality that is entangled in my heart is relieved when I figure it out.

The mood is all given by oneself, tired self-release, fragile self-comfort. No one is perfect, only imperfection is the most real life, and only simplicity is the most beautiful mood.

Life is like a cauldron, when you go to the bottom of the pot, no matter which direction you go, it is upward. The most difficult moment is the beginning of an inflection point, and a change in mindset can lead to a turnaround. Optimistic and open-minded people can turn ordinary life into fun, difficult days into sweet and precious, and tedious things into simple and feasible.

Looking at the world with a normal heart, flowers bloom and are landscapes.

Over the years, there are always perfections and defects; The desires of the past are always burning and expanding; The original dream is always shattered, and it is always going far. There are many things that cannot be grasped, and can only be condensed into memories; The ideal is very plump, and the reality is very skinny! But no matter how cruel the reality is, we must stubbornly believe that as long as we move forward tenaciously, all the haze will be blown away in the wind.

Insist, the sun must be in the distance.

Having an irresponsible father is really fed up, selfish and only caring about himself, not self-motivated, only greedy for fun, no opinions, as a father did not give me any good example, tired.

If you're like me and you've met an irresponsible dad, my advice is to have a good conversation with your dad. Tell Dad what you think about yourself.

My dad was also a particularly irresponsible person. Of course, this sense of responsibility can be manifested in many ways, for me my dad is a good dad 100 percent, but he is a failing husband. Because he doesn't know how to be considerate of his mother at all, she has not fulfilled her responsibilities to her mother at all.

I would often have a long conversation with my dad about this.

But when communicating with Dad, you must remember your own attitude. After all, Dad is your elder, and you must not speak big or small, which can easily hurt Dad's self-esteem. I remember one time my father came back from drinking, and he said to my mother, you don't understand, but my mother was very sad, because she felt that all her efforts to her father were ignored by her father.

And my father usually has to be three or four at home, and he doesn't wash his own clothes, and he can't even sweep the floor.

In general, just like a king, my mother is like a nanny at home, taking care of our diet and daily life every day, and I have to be angry with my father. I was very angry that day, and when I heard my father say this, I immediately got angry and had a big fight with my father, and the next day, my father said to me. As a child, you should be more sensible, and you should be more calm when you encounter things, not just know how to quarrel with your father.

Because it's easy to hurt each other's feelings.

Later, I also reflected that I felt that I was very wrong. So when dad doesn't have a sense of responsibility, you have to choose to communicate calmly instead of arguing. Only then can Dad accept your opinion more reasonably.

Hello, 1.Loving mom takes precedence over loving children, children love to see the most, first of all, dad loves mom very much, and then dad loves me too. If the relationship between the couple is not harmonious, the child will lose his sense of security and trust in his father.

2.Strong maternal influence. 3.

Give the child the power of the father.

It is very uncomfortable to live with him, for example, when it is time to eat, I make the meal, but he does not come out of the house, and after eating, he does not scrub the dishes.

As a child, you will be very insecure, and even affect your personality, become timid and cowardly, and your father's lack of responsibility will affect the whole family.

Father's lack of responsibility will affect the happiness of a family, and will make all members of the family feel that there is no one to rely on and a sense of security.

I feel like I have to live in fear every day, I feel that my family may be broken at any time, and I think that men with no sense of responsibility are really rubbish.

It is an experience that makes me insecure, and my father's lack of responsibility will bring a big shadow to my psyche, so that I will not be able to get along with others normally when I grow up, and I will become an irresponsible person like him.

As a child, you will feel very insecure, you can't feel the warmth of the family, and then you don't feel safe about others, you don't dare to make friends with your heart, and your personality becomes silent and introverted.

I will be very insecure, I feel that this home will be broken up at any time, the home will not feel home, I will not feel any father's love, I will feel that I have picked it up.

Don't do anything, you can only accept, but you have to adjust your mentality.

Don't think about communicating, don't struggle, it's really useless, you can't change.

Family background, parents, brothers, these are really the existence that they can't do, can't change and can't choose, we must learn to accept the reality, and then accept this irresponsible father, accept this family with some negative energy, because nothing can be changed except acceptance, only relief.

We can't change our parents, but we must change our mentality, warn ourselves, don't be such an irresponsible person, don't let a bad family bring a bad influence to ourselves, although it is difficult, we must also strive to make ourselves better.

I also feel that my parents have influenced me badly, and I also feel that my current insecurity comes from my family, and I have struggled and tried to change, but I really don't. However, there is really nothing I can do except accept, I tell myself, don't be like your parents, work hard, be positive and sunny, be a warm person, come on, bless us.

You can talk to your father and let him understand your thoughts, no matter how dissatisfied you are, he is still your father, and you still have to be filial to him.

Such a father is really like a fierce god inside and a soft persimmon outside, such a man is really not a man. If he did that that day, you would say that I called your colleague and let him see your true face, and he would be afraid.

It's going to be very uncomfortable indeed.

The family will be more wronged, and Dad just blindly avoids when he encounters something, and he doesn't dare to face it. Mom and child have to take on more. You can talk to him well, often encourage and affirm him, and hope that he can change and be responsible.