How do you suppress your desire to care for and help the opposite sex?

Everyone knows that opposites attract, and many people also like to help the opposite sex, just like many people only like the opposite sex in the circle of friends.

But if you want to control it, I think it's easy.

First of all, you have to know why you are in this state, some people I think their state is obviously thinking in the lower body, and there are many people like this, so first of all, you have to determine why you are, is it because you are like this to everyone? No, only for the opposite sex, but it is true for all the opposite sex, maybe it's because the opposite sex simply attracts and wants to express themselves.

After knowing the reason, it will be better to adjust accordingly, no matter what, when you want to control this matter, you will find that you will have reservations when you do a lot of things, it is difficult for others to control yourself, but it will be easy for you not to want to.

Generally speaking, when you want to control it yourself, you can do it well.

At this time, I think I can still find an object.,If there's an object.,I think it's too embarrassing for the opposite sex.,But it shouldn't be.,When you're in love, you usually break up.,So it's recommended to find an object.,It's to find an object on top of the situation where you don't want to have too much contact with the opposite sex.。

In this way, you will find that you are not only in control of your thoughts, but also in your actions, after all, you are already in love, and if you don't control it, your partner will help you control it.

If you do this when you're single, and at the same time don't have any purpose, I don't think it's okay, but everything has to have a degree, and you may not be able to bear the consequences, what if you really meet someone you like, but the other party thinks you're paying attention?

Opposites attract, and similarities repel. We are always accustomed to favoring friends of the opposite sex, although we have no special relationship with others, but always want to care for and help others, this is the psychology of human preference, when you face a boy and a girl, you always want to help the person who is different from your gender, this is a kind of psychology of people, it is natural, others will not say anything, because everyone will have this psychology, of course, homosexuality is not excluded.

But when the opposite sex has nothing to do with you, and you have an object, you can't be so natural to the opposite sex, so that others will think that you are abusive, feel that you are stepping on two boats, and take the initiative for a long time, people will think you are very annoying, maybe people like you, but later it became hateful, so you must restrain yourself from this psychology, how to restrain it has become a problem, I encounter this situation, I will generally hint at myself, so that will be said by others to be cheap, and take the initiative for a long time, I will make myself very cheap, I can't do this, I want to be the one who likes the other person, and I can be comfortable emotionally. <>

Of course, you can also tell yourself that he has nothing to do with you, why do you want to help him, you don't have anything in return, why do you work so hard, people are just using you as a tool, always tell yourself that this should not be what you do, those things should be done by others, and you are not suitable to do it.

If you want to be less cheap, not so active, always warn yourself that if you take the initiative for a long time, you will become non-existent, then your whole temperament will change!

There's nothing wrong with liking to help others, I think it's a very enthusiastic kind of person! Why should you suppress your mentality of caring for and helping the opposite sex? But it depends.

I really like to have someone like this around me who is so helpful. They are always available when needed, a heartwarming feeling.

If you don't have a boyfriend or girlfriend, of course, you can care for and help the opposite sex around you. After all, everyone likes people who can help others, and they will have a good impression of this type of people, and they will definitely be favored by many people. However, don't be too enthusiastic, and don't help when you don't need it.

If you have a boyfriend friend, you have to master this measure, if you always care about the opposite sex around you, it will make your boyfriend or girlfriend feel that you are like a ** air conditioner is good for everyone, or it feels like you are raising a lot of spare tires and can't bring you a sense of security to your other half, then the relationship will soon be shattered. Therefore, in the case that your other half is not angry and not jealous, it is the best performance to help and care for the opposite sex in a measured way, so that your other half will not be angry, and it also satisfies the mentality that you want to help and care for others. The best of both worlds, isn't it beautiful.

In short, helping others is out of a good attitude, but don't do bad things with good intentions, if the other party has a boyfriend and girlfriend who is still so enthusiastic, then be careful, don't get angry. In the end, he became a person who destroys other people's feelings in the eyes of others. Ruining one's reputation is completely outweighed by the loss.

Even with good intentions, there is no way to explain it. So. Or do you have more control over yourself.

The world is supposed to help each other, and this mentality is actually a very good idea, because this is a reflection of your kind qualities, so let's tell you my high school story to help you, and I sometimes have the mentality of wanting to suppress helping the opposite sex.

High school is the darkest time in my life at least so far, no one really knows the world I felt in high school, I was a borrowed student, arranged in a particularly good high school, just started I thought the time had come, but on the contrary, I experienced psychological pain, the opposite sex was good to me at first, and I tried my best to be good to them in my own way, at that time was what they needed, I tried my best to contribute what to make them feel the goodwill of the world, But then, ah, I'm still too young, and after they receive my goodness, they take it for granted, and I feel very strange, sometimes, the degree of good is not so deep, but he wants to blame me, I don't do anything bad to make them unhappy, but that's the way it is, and then I started to suppress the kind of mentality you said, that is, don't be as nice to them as before, they drop on the ground and pick up the things they drop on the ground, I won't interfere, What tools they need, I won't lend them if they don't ask me to lend them. Just like that, it's actually very simple to want to help, it depends on whether you are helping people or a pack of wolves.

However, after a long time, I still feel that at least you have to be good to others, others will like you, and if you feel that you should help the opposite sex or the same sex, you are the best angel in this world.

I don't know if you mean all the opposite sex around you, or the one you like? If it's the person you like, you have the urge to help her all the time, I guess you think it's impossible for the two of you to come together or just your wishful thinking, the other party is your crush, you always feel that it's meaningless to give so blindly, so you want to control yourself, right?

If you like her, then all you have to do is forget about her from your heart, after all, once you fall in love with someone, you want to do what you can for her. In fact, if you change someone else, you still want to do things for the other person, if you want to change, then you have to learn to control your feelings for the other person and don't miss it too much.

If you really never get results, then you should be ruthless or find someone who is really suitable for you as soon as possible, and when you devote yourself to the next paragraph, you will not miss the current one so much.

I'm thinking about another situation, you treat all the opposite sex around you are more enthusiastic, always want to help people in danger, in fact, you are not wrong with such thoughts, at least you don't have too much purpose, there are not some pure thoughts, but you do this, to your lover or those people you have helped, then what you need to do is to give yourself psychological hints every time you want to help each other:

Stop, last time I was already telling myself in my heart not to do it again. I've seen some people who are very cold among friends of the same sex but are super enthusiastic in front of the opposite sex, I don't want you to be like this, we don't have to be a good person, but don't let people think that you are a heavy friend and a light friend.

I hope that you like a certain situation of the opposite sex, which means that you are smart, you know that you can't be on the same road at all, you also know what she needs, what you need, everything you do is just above your feelings for him, then learning to forget her is the best relief for you.

Why avoid it.

Don't want that? Why not.

If there is a reason to avoid it.

Then stay away from her, time and distance will make you forget her.

Control your own male hormone secretion. You know what to do.

You're still a student. When you can't help it, think about your own ideals and your parents' expectations. Also, if that girl has better grades than you, tell yourself that you can't be worse than her, and you will work harder The above is my personal experience!

Really in love with a really wonderful girl, this girl is too good to be faulty. So are you a little sick to your stomach when you look at other girls? 、！

So that you won't like anything else, but concentrate on it.

Good luck!!!

I wonder why this kind of psychology should be suppressed. This is a normal situation, as long as you don't do illegal and immoral things because you like it, this is a very normal psychological state, is it possible that you don't like the opposite sex to like the same sex? If you have to talk about suppression, it is to shift to your own hobbies, such as sports, reading, games, and distract some attention.

Don't force the agitation of adolescence.

Don't expect, don't promise, have love in indifference, is the most beautiful; Don't say pain, don't regret it, love stays together in the plain, is the truest. It turns out that there is always an encounter, which is the comfort of the soul; There is always a kind of dependence, which is the joy of fate. Fate is destined, you can't escape, you can't throw it away; Attract each other in the soul, can't leave, can't leave!

Stay away from all the opposite sex that you find disgusting and keep your distance from them. Life is in order, don't always worry about this problem in your heart, live well, study and work hard. When you are really idle, think about why you are disgusted, what kind of disgust is it, is it the kind of disgust that wants to vomit when you see it?

Or is it the disgust that he speaks unlikely? Then think back to whether you have such an aversion to all members of the opposite sex. Then you can summarize the reasons for your disgust, and you may find that you are disgusted by a type of person, regardless of men and women.

Feeling disgusted and repulsed by the opposite sex is a very normal psychological reaction. Rejection of the opposite sex stems from your ignorance of the opposite sex. It is in people's nature to dislike, reject, and fear things they don't understand, which leads to prejudices and stereotypes, which are then reflected in daily behavior.

Disgust is determined according to the distance from our life circle, it is impossible to dislike a person of the opposite sex who is thousands of miles away from us, but the closer to my personal life and privacy, the more alert, suspicious, repulsive, and even a little neurotic, and the most fundamental thing is that I am insecure. Even if it seems ridiculous, people have no motive to hurt me, but they are still very repulsive and disgusting.

If you want to eliminate these reactions, try to understand the opposite sex and try to empathize. You will see the cute side, the excellent side and the amiable side of the opposite sex.

In interpersonal interactions, we preconceive our first impression of the other person as the overall characteristic of the other person. The extreme disgust for an individual person often comes from his first impression on you or the extremely poor behavior at a certain moment, which touches your bottom line, so that your heart resists him.

Of course, this is reflected differently in different people, and the bottom line that everyone can be touched is not exactly the same.

This feeling of disgust does not have to be eternal. Maybe one day one of his actions will make you feel more good than disgusted. Of course, everything is the truest feeling in your heart, if there is this opportunity to change your opinion of him, I hope you can accept such a real person, but also accept the real self.

In fact, this kind of disgust and rejection of the opposite sex is really normal, don't be in a hurry to correct yourself, first put your mentality right, try to contact with the opposite sex, don't look at the opposite sex with colored glasses, there are still excellent people of the opposite sex! Face the people and things around you with an optimistic attitude, so you will be very happy! You will become a sane, mature, brand new you.

If you are disgusted with the opposite sex, keep your distance and don't contact the opposite sex. There's no need to force yourself to come into contact with the opposite sex, after all, everyone has their own preferences, so don't force yourself to do anything you don't want to do, just live your life well.