Why is the success rate of blind dates lower now than before?

Because people's exposure is wider, social differences are greater.

In the past, most of the people people could come into contact with were people who were similar to themselves, you couldn't see those who were too poor than you, you couldn't see those who were too rich, people thousands of kilometers away couldn't see them, and you couldn't even see people who were different from the sweet and salty rice dumplings. When the basic conditions are almost the same, it is easier to find the right person.

But now, the people you meet come from all over the world, and some of the people you interact with on a daily basis earn 10 times the amount of you, some are only one-twentieth of yours, some have never been back to China until you meet them, and some have never even been to a county seat. The people they will introduce to you are even more different, so big that their existence is beyond your imagination, so the success rate is low.

First of all, we have to analyze why we want to go on a blind date, or under what circumstances we should go on a blind date. If you want to say that you can rely on blind dates to solve marriage, most of them are older, mostly between 28 and 40 years old. Why?

This kind of is more than 70 or 80, mate selection, life pressure and social circles, etc., resulting in unconsciously left or left, a big age, in a hurry, blind date is actually to expand the scope of communication, but blind date with a clear direction and purpose, whether it is a blind date with elder friends, or a blind date held by a related ** or marriage agency, still can not solve the fundamental love foundation of marriage, after all, blind date due to age urgency, both parties are urgent to get married, blind date is mostly to see whether the realistic basis such as appearance or material matching, which cares about the background, character, interest and cultivation ......and other more important factors? These are not things that can be discovered in a short period of time. With the post-85, post-90s, and post-00s generations becoming the protagonists, they have begun to have dating partners in junior high school, young parents, fashionable and enlightened concepts, which have brought great freedom to children to choose love and marriage.

To sum up, you say, can the success rate of blind dates be high?

Nowadays, people have a large circle, have more contact, and are more open-minded, and they don't want to go on blind dates a long time ago.

The status of women is high, and the proportion of men is high, but it has become garbage and has to face elimination. There is no way to complain about the people, except for war.

Women love to go shopping, and the more idle people are, the more they love to pick! Blind date is similar to shopping.

We often say that you have to have a goal in doing things. can't be too utilitarian, but it is possible to succeed with purpose, but when it comes to the topic of blind date, it seems that this success theory has become ineffective, look at the cases around you, the more purposeful the lower the probability of success, and the stronger the utilitarian, the higher the success rate.

Friends who hope to find the other half through blind dates are generally ten years old, and the reasons for choosing blind dates are different, such as family members urging marriage and being forced to go on blind dates, their own personalities are too introverted and conservative, they have been emotionally traumatized, their ex is overly stationed in their hearts, they are used to living alone or are too busy at work, and so on. These friends will be more or less resistant to the blind date method, and will cope with or accept the way of tasking, and their hearts are still stuck in the previous relationship, unable to extricate themselves.

There are also a lot of friends, the relationship history is very innocent, and I also hope to find the right other half through the blind date, but I overestimate the efficiency of the blind date, and I always hope that after a lifelong girl's blind date, I often say that I can't talk to him together. Boys will more simply evaluate a blind date with no feelings, and they don't want to have follow-up exchanges after that! Two strangers from completely different life backgrounds, hoping to be attracted to each other through a dinner time, this is somewhat unrealistic.

If you really meet, you really have to cherish the blessings and fate you have cultivated in your previous life. However, the skinny life will tell us that love at first sight and a conversation addiction are something that belongs to the dream series in itself.

There are also some friends who deliberately choose a mate, and the goal orientation is the fatal wound of blind date. In the process of making friends, we usually meet without a purpose, it is a kind of fate, we can talk, say a few words, and it doesn't hurt to talk less. But in the process of blind date, whether two people talk or not, they must seize the opportunity to see if they can talk about a spouse.

What's more, before the other party appears, both parties begin to make thousands of assumptions and fantasies in their minds about this candidate who may become the other half in the future. From the first moment of meeting, I looked at each item from my appearance and clothing to my demeanor and temperament. After starting to chat, the other party's conversation, style and content, and even tone of voice particles, may become one of the important contents of the blind date and friend's investigation, and no one is perfect, no matter who puts it in these assessment contents, it is easy to find one or two faults, and with the assessment standards of dating, how can you get along happily.

In the fast-paced society, after leaving the campus, it seems that it is difficult to find time to have a good relationship, and the blind date has naturally become the preferred shortcut to mate selection, but the shortcut is not necessarily the quiet, the friends around me, knowing that the success rate of the blind date is so low, but the ex-husband is still committed to the blind date front. It's a good thing to work hard for happiness, but instead of an urgent blind date, it's better to pay more attention to life, spend a little thought, and be less demanding, and sometimes fate will come naturally.

1.This problem is also the problem of the elders, and it is very direct that most of the elders do not have a clear understanding of the real interests of the younger generations when they introduce them to the younger generations, but only match them according to the very superficial one, family conditions and personal income, in fact, most people lack understanding of the two parties he wants to introduce.

2.In addition, many elders are not seriously introduced, but spontaneously, and when they talk about gossip with relatives, neighbors and even colleagues, they arrange blind dates as they wish. You must know that even professional matchmakers may not do a good job in blind date introduction, and they are introduced at will, of course, the success rate is not high.

3.There is another point, sometimes the blind date introduced by the elders may be deliberately arranged to fail. In order to get married to their children as soon as possible, many elders have also put a lot of thought into the slow thing of blind dates.

In the conventional practice, I will deliberately find a few people who are not suitable or have lower conditions than the child's vision, let the child feel a round of frustration first, and then arrange them. The main reason is that the model generation of Changdan Town looks at the chaos of the object from their own point of view, so they ignore our feelings, so the success rate is naturally not high.

Why is the blind date success rate low? When we go on a blind date, we encounter many situations, and what are we most afraid of encountering on a blind date? That is, when you meet someone you like but people don't like you, or you encounter the situation that the goods are not right, or you can't find a topic on either side of Shuangpao Mountain, so why is the success rate of blind dates low?

Next, let's find out with Changsha Sweet Matchmaking.

According to the statement of singleness, there is no need for traditional dating methods such as blind dates? Blind dates must be a waste of time? "Whether it is a relatively new way of making friends or a blind date, there is no unified standard for whether you will meet your ideal type.

Through blind date dinners or family introductions, there are actually many people who have successfully taken off the list. Therefore, just because some singles have a bad experience on a blind date, it cannot be said that the traditional blind date is useless, or that the success rate of the traditional blind date model is low. From the analysis of the current marriage and love market data, the success rate of the online blind date platform is low.

Therefore, it is recommended that singles must pay more attention to several aspects when going on a blind date, such as the other party's on-the-spot reaction, after-the-fact attitude, etc., which are accurate and helpful for getting rid of singles.

At the beginning of the blind date, if both parties have a more serious understanding, the probability of success is relatively high. From this point, it can be seen that everyone's attitude towards blind date is positive or not. There is a characteristic of traditional blind dates, that is, there are still many opportunities and channels to understand each other before the blind date, if everyone is more attentive in this process, the success rate of the blind date is still relatively high.

In the blind date process, the attention to detail of both parties is also the basis for judgment. This point is very important, if the interaction between the two parties is particularly close, in every topic, or after a small action, can immediately attract the attention of the other party, such a blind date success rate is also relatively high. ”

Many people still have prejudices about blind dates.

Speaking of which, although many people are also accepting blind dates, from the bottom of their hearts, many people still feel that blind dates are too utilitarian and purposeful, and they are not good at all.

Compared with blind dates, many people are still more eager to be able to meet a suitable soul in real life by accident and start a good relationship.

Because of this idea, although many people still go on blind dates for a while, they are not so reluctant at all, but they just want to try their luck and see what the other party is like.

Of course, once many people are not sincere at all, it is not easy to meet the right one on the blind date.

It is more likely that if the other party makes himself feel a little bad, then he will quickly end the blind date, and he is no longer willing to continue the blind date, giving the other party any possibility.

And in the end, even if they lose the opportunity to go on a blind date, they won't feel any pity, they will just forget each other quickly, originally, it's not such an important person anyway.

Too many people don't have the heart to understand anyone.

Some people may think that when a person still needs to find a partner through a blind date, then this person must not be very good. However, in fact, in fact, in the blind date, there are still many very good Feng Hongyu people.

A person will be single, never because he is bad, maybe it's just that the circle is too small, but he has been using his mind elsewhere, and he hasn't taken care of loving it at all.

It's just that although there are indeed a lot of good people in the blind date, when two strangers meet in this way, Yinyan may not have so much thought about each other at all, to get to know each other well and see what kind of person the other party is.

Two people who are on a blind date may just glance at each other and listen to each other's words, and they quickly feel that the other party is not suitable, and they are no longer willing to spend time on each other, nor are they willing to spend their thoughts.

And when the reality is like this, too many people don't have the opportunity to get close to each other at all, so it's normal that they don't go further with each other.

Too much love takes a lot of time to understand, and then it can be exchanged for a possibility.

Because many men and women who go on blind dates are not sincere, they are all pulled over by their parents, and even have a rebellious mentality.

Blind date is an important way to know the opposite sex, and there are many reasons why most of the blind dates introduced by elders are difficult to succeed.

1 First of all, introduced by parents and elders, they are really under pressure to stare at it. Mainly because the elders are also acquaintances of acquaintances, the object of their introduction has at least a basic understanding of the situation, and then you and the blind date are still in a state of confusion, and the parents hope that the two of you have become a matter of course, this pressure is unbearable for ordinary people, so it often forms the effect of the opposite of things.

Secondly, the vision of parents and elders is not the same as that of young people. Parents see that it is better to have a stable job and a house, and the aesthetic standards are different, and young people hope to gradually understand each other in getting along, and it is important to be able to live together in the future, but this is exactly what parents cannot participate in, so the success rate of missing relatives is even lower.

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3. Stage fright, or maybe it's embarrassing. Everyone's personality is different, not everyone can talk eloquently in the face of a stranger, calm as if he is nothing, like facing an old friend for many years. Just like some people, since childhood, they are introverted, withdrawn, unsociable, and don't like strangers, so they resist the contact of strangers in their hearts.

It's like a person who is afraid of heights, and he can't see heights; It's like a person with a phobia of density, who can't see dense things is a lifelong disadvantage.

That fear comes from the deepest part of the heart, not to be controlled and changed. And many parents don't understand very well, thinking that blind dates are just a trivial matter, is it necessary to be so repulsive?

There are also some people who are not good at words, although they are usually very arrogant, but when they see strangers, they are immediately timid, unnatural, and do not know what to say or what to talk about. So it made the atmosphere very awkward, and I always wanted to find an excuse to escape, and after experiencing it once, I never wanted to experience it a second time.

As the saying goes, people are different, and what you can accept does not mean that others can accept it.

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Fourth, the most important reason is that you will feel very shameless. Many people think that only people who can't find a partner will go on a blind date. Why can't I find an object?

It shows that he is not good enough, so everyone will think that if he goes on a blind date, he proves that he is not good enough. Then I was worried that my relatives and friends around me would find out about it, and they would laugh at themselves, and I would feel very shameless after being passed on. Even if blind dates are already very common, even if many people can accept them, but in the deepest part of their hearts, there will be more or less such scruples and worries.