Confused with choices? Why are you always struggling with choices?

Hello, in this case, it is recommended that you still have to follow your inner choice, because if you have made other choices, then you may not be able to let go and feel sad.

The most important thing is to see if this job is suitable for you, your own interests and hobbies, you can choose according to the position, don't consider the length or shortness of the time.

It's true that you're in the middle of this first entanglement. You have to adjust your mindset and get out of this confusion. Only then can you find yourself.

For people with difficulty in choosing, choosing is a very tangled thing, he doesn't know how to choose a thing that suits him or is suitable for him, some things and things that are economic, so he will feel very tangled.

In fact, this kind of problem depends entirely on you, if you want to study, then you must choose a lower salary, if you just want to make money, then choose a higher salary.

When everyone is faced with a choice, they are in a painful mood and must be very entangled, but you should figure out what you want to think about and think clearly, and you will choose.

The heart is about thinking about being good for a while, and it is good for you to be good and outside, and you are looking for a person who is really happy that she can look good and look good, and she is not self, how can she not be happy, you are not only looking at her without looking at her appearance

I think I still have to make the decision that I want the most in my heart, and it's really difficult to choose phobia, so I think I just go for it.

There's no need to dwell on it. To choose these questions, as long as you accept them in your heart.

Libi knows that the ugly people will know that they are ugly, and those who love love do not take the Chenghui as a metaphor for love, and understand love than others. of,

You are old and foreign, and you are a person, and you will be a person who will go to the people, and you will be old one day? What do you love so much? Really looking for heaven to abandon her like a good look?

Personally, I think you should choose the kind of thing that has a future to do.

I feel like you can reserve your strength before you explode.

Don't be entangled, as long as you think about it, you will choose it, and you will continue to choose if you wake up in a month.

You don't have to worry about this. Do it as you wish. Find out which one is right for you.

In this case, I think you just need to choose what you like, feel that you have a future, and have a clear conscience.

If the choice is very tangled, then let it go for a while.

A person's life, whether it is long or not, is not short, and it is always faced with a variety of choices, from what I have observed in my past life experience, there are always few decisive people, and there are many tangled people, for a long time, I have not understood it very well, until I am getting older, and I have encountered more and more hesitation.

To sum up, there are several reasons:

First, personality reasons. The character itself is muddy, and he has to think about everything several times repeatedly, but the more he thinks about it, the more confused he becomes. Confucius said, "Again, Si Ke Yin", think about everything seriously twice, it's enough, think about it a few more times, you may not dare to do it again because of too much caution, such people abound in real life.

Second, it is impossible to distinguish the pros and cons. The reason why things are entangled is often because they can't distinguish the pros and cons, and they can't see the direction of development of things, which is a matter of vision. If you choose the right one, everyone will naturally be happy; If you choose the wrong one, you are afraid that it will lead to bad consequences.

So after weighing and weighing again, the result is even more confusing.

Third, because of the fear of taking responsibility, they avoid choices. Two (or more) choices are there, and choosing one means that you have to bear the consequences, because everyone is responsible for their actions. But the entangled person is afraid of taking responsibility, and if the result is not good, it will inevitably produce strong self-blame, so they simply do not choose, maintain the "ostrich mentality", and pretend that the choice does not exist.

Because of the anxiety of the fear of choosing the wrong choice, it triggers a psychological self-protection mechanism, "selective blindness".

Fourth, there are gains and losses. If you want to win and are afraid of losing, you only dare to accept good results, and you dare not admit and face failure.

Fifth, a fragile "perfectionist" mentality. In fact, "perfectionism" is a good habit in many places, similar to the "craftsman spirit" vigorously promoted in today's society. But on the other hand, in the face of many life problems, "perfectionism" can be a huge pitfall.

Because often several choices have their own pros and cons, only the current one is relatively more reasonable and more in line with the reality of the difference, the perfect choice is almost impossible to exist, at this time, if you stick to the most perfect choice, the most likely is to miss the opportunity. Sometimes no matter which path you choose, it will work, but the length of time or the difficulty of the road is different, and the most regrettable thing is not to make a choice and give up automatically. It's not terrible to fall, it's terrible to stand up empty-handed.

Think of this for now.

Encourage you. ​

How to make a choice when you are very confused:

1. Focus on the most important needs.

Many perfectionists have difficulty in choosing because they always want a perfect option that can meet all their needs. Vast majority of cases, this is not possible. People who are good at making decisions are not pursuing how good or perfect an option is, but whether it can meet their greatest needs.

That is, to be a satisfactor, not a maximizer.

2. Don't worry too much about opportunity costs.

It's normal for Min Chunpi to think about other options before making a decision, and it's easy to make some not-so-good choices if we don't compare them at all. So, the best way not to bother yourself is to stop thinking about other options once you've made your choice.

3. Exhaustive method.

On a piece of paper or in a document, list all possible options, write down the pros and cons of each option, and then make the final choice.

4. Toss a coin.

If you regret the result, you will know what kind of choice you should make.

5. Minimize long-term regrets.

Imagine yourself in 10 years, look at the choices you make now, see which choice has the least regrets, and make which choice. However, it should be noted that neither investment nor life is a simple binary choice, either/or.