Faced with a choice, I was lost. What should be done in the face of confusion

I just graduated from junior high school.,Personal opinion, I choose to study and surf the Internet.,It's not interesting to fall in love now.,It's not that I'm talking about big truths.,But it's the truth.。。。 I used to be annoyed, I thought the class was boring, I wanted to fall in love, but after talking a few times, there was no result, and now even if I say it well, I still have to face changes. It's better to study hard, now our interpersonal scope is too small, and you will find many excellent people of the opposite sex when you go to college in the future.

As for online games, I can't give an opinion because it doesn't appeal to me.

In the end, I don't think the three repairs are anything.

Study first, I am a person from the past, I know the gold content of key universities, if you study well, there will definitely be many good girls like you in the future, if you don't study well, at most there will be girls and you for the time being, and when the girls mature they will leave you.

Games, when you grow up, you can play any game you want, so why bother to play it now?

So, at present, only choosing to learn is the right solution, and the game and girls will talk about it later.

This younger brother, I don't know what else to say, learning can't give up, this is absolute, and it's also about the future, this position must be clear! This world is not about love and online games to live, enriching oneself is the last word (I mean knowledge).

Learn to be in love.

Learning long IQ love long EQ

Learn and fall in love. Online games are just a momentary pleasure, but love, no matter what the outcome, is a good memory that can last. Not to mention studying, the third year of junior high school, a critical moment.

Being a talent is the right way, and you must learn to roll in the crowd. Online games, studying, falling in love, none of them matter.

What should fresh graduates do when they are confused?

1.Write down your confusion on a blank A4 piece of paper, write concretely, and keep writing and writing. Until you can't write, maybe in this process, there is too much suffering, too much pain, but don't give up, you have to believe that as long as you persevere, you will be able to get rid of confusion and get out of the trough of life.

2.To analyze the confusion, that is, to distinguish which category your confusion belongs to? Before you do that, you need to know that there are different types of confusion.

Confusion falls into three categories.

1) I have no sense of direction in my life at all, and although the future is in my own hands, I have no vision for the future at all.

2) I used to have a direction, but after a series of failures and ridicule from others, I no longer have the confidence to move forward.

3) The direction is clear, but reaching the destination is far away, and there are too many things to do, so it is difficult to act.

3.Find out the reason for your confusion and develop a solution.

For the first type of confusion, the first thing we need to do is to give ourselves meaning to life, and to explore the deep passion for life in our hearts, which is your hidden expectation, and it is also the guiding light that guides you to find your own way, specific methods:

Prepare an A4 blank paper, find a quiet and undisturbed place, concentrate on writing down what you want to do most or career, sort it, and then remove the 5 dreams that are not essential, remove the remaining five and remove two, and finally leave 3, sort, the first is where your current passion for life is, combined with the passion of life, further explore the personnel you like to socialize, the atmosphere you like to work, and what kind of life you like to live.

The second type is confusion, when we encounter failure, we are used to self-denial, so as to convince ourselves to give up on our goals. In fact, don't do this, if you really have a series of failures, then whether you should think about what you really did wrong, what lessons we should draw, to think about how to improve, how to turn defeat into victory, if there is a problem with the method, we go to the mentor, find outstanding people in the field, learn relevant knowledge from them, or read more books to find out, to learn to use resources.

The third type of confusion, we face the distance of the destination, and the heavy daily tasks, let yourself breathless, these pressures actually come from, you see the goal too important, so that the mind is to the end of every step of the way, the pressure on these roads is like the last straw that crushes the camel, in fact, our attention should be on every small step forward, on this road in addition to the huge attraction of the end, there are also a lot of small luck in the process, reduce the focus on the end, step by step slowly, Walk steadily and cheerfully, even if you don't arrive, you will reap more rare joy.

And finally: take action.

It is advisable to try to review and reflect. If the current situation is not what you want, then think about what you have done that led to this situation, what is not considered right, look forward to the future, what should I do, what should I have done, what should I have discarded, and arrange what you need to do in the present. A person with concentration naturally bids farewell to confusion.

What is confusion?

Some people say it's a feeling, some say it's a state, and some say it's a way of thinking. Actually, these are true, if you feel confused, you will enter a state of helpless trance, and the reason why you will enter a state of confusion is because there is something wrong with your way of thinking.

Why are people confused?

The reason why people are confused is because they are not firm in their goals, uncertain about the future, and lack a sense of control in their hearts. The reason for these feelings of confusion and helplessness is precisely the way we cope with stress and the way we think in the present, and how you look at a thing determines which way you choose to face and solve the problem.

So what determines the way we look at things?

How to face the setbacks and pressures we encounter positively depends on our motivations. What kind of motivation determines the direction of things, just like Kazuo Inamori said in the book that "the heart does not call for things, and things do not come" is a truth.

How to get out of the confusion? Adjustments can be made from three aspects;

First: Adjust your way of thinking.

The way a person looks at things depends on their way of thinking, whether you want to face setbacks positively or live a decadent life of self-pity, it all depends on how you look at things. So, when we have a setback and feel stressed, it must be something wrong with our way of thinking.

Second: learn to apply the Law of Attraction.

How to apply the "Law of Attraction"? Do what Kazuo Inamori said, "The heart does not call for things, and things do not come"? It is to focus on the things you want most and put your energy on the things that are most valuable.

Third: Live in the moment.

Why live in the moment? The past is gone, and the future is yet to come. We are powerless to change the past, and we cannot ** the future, the only thing we can do is to try to grasp the present.

There used to be a saying that "three years from now, you will be made by what you are doing now". This sentence explains the importance of the moment, and when is the person most powerful? Only in the present moment is the most powerful, so it must be lived in the moment.

Is confusion a bad thing? In my opinion, not really. Confusion is sometimes a reminder that we are too far away from ourselves, and we need to calm down and accompany ourselves well, wait for ourselves, and determine with our own hearts what we really want.

As long as we are clear about our true inner desires, start from the heart, wholeheartedly, and go all out towards the only goal, I think setbacks can only be a stepping stone for us to move forward.