What should a mother in law do in the new society?

In my opinion, daughters-in-law are not born to mothers-in-law, but as long as it is your son's choice, you must support your son to like her. She's just the best, she's the best woman for your son. On the auspicious day of the good morning, she married into our family, she is a member of our family, her son is your heart, and her daughter-in-law is also the top of your heart, because she is a part of your son's life.

You have to love her doubly. There are occasional small conflicts between her and her son, and you should understand your daughter-in-law's feelings and grievances from a woman's point of view. Then separately with the son.

The daughter-in-law talks to them and helps them solve their current problems. Let the daughter-in-law feel that you are her backbone; Amulet. In this way, she will naturally treat you as a relative, and you don't have to worry about her not being filial to you.

It's time to change your old habits. Try to get close to the habits of young people. Understand them.

So that they can understand you. You should know that too. There is a lot of pressure on every side right now.

Inevitably, they will have a little temper, and you can ignore it. Don't get along with them for a little face. And think about how you got here ...

Although the times are different, some aspects are still the same...

A good mother-in-law should make her daughter-in-law feel at home, but I haven't heard of anything that can do it.

Secondly, it is necessary to clearly understand that when the daughter-in-law enters the door, the son is no longer his own, so he must draw a clear line with the son and let the daughter-in-law come forward if there is something.

In addition, it is necessary to spoil the daughter-in-law, which is similar to the meaning upstairs, and there is something biased towards the daughter-in-law, so that the daughter-in-law will think that the mother-in-law is good.

Take yourself as an old man, be calm in trouble, and don't be like a child.

Take yourself as a child, make some jokes, and don't hold the stinky shelf of your parents.

In fact, my daughter-in-law is also worried.

I'm afraid that my mother-in-law won't like me.

I'm probably racking my brains to please you

I think the landlord has preconceived the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law on the opposite side.

It seems that no matter what kind of society.

It's not like the mother-in-law is angry or the daughter-in-law is angry

In fact, everyone likes the same man.

It should fit well :)

We should let everyone learn more.

First, respect your daughter-in-law's living habits.

Some mothers-in-law are really controlling, and often force their daughters-in-law to be absolutely obedient to themselves. Be able to accept each other's differences and respect each other's thoughts and habits. Everyone is different, otherwise it would be impersonal selfishness.

You can dislike, but you can't be disrespectful. A good mother-in-law is able to respect her daughter-in-law's living habits, and this respect is based on understanding, and only reasonable people can have such respect.

Second, do not interfere in the family affairs of your son and daughter-in-law.

Take care of the things that should be managed, and don't ask about the things that shouldn't be managed, so it's good for everyone, and sometimes letting go of the other party is also letting go of yourself.

What is the tube? When you see that your son and daughter-in-law are not on the right path, you should take care of it at this time. As for the trivial matters between the two people, let the two of them handle it by themselves, no matter how they say that they are husband and wife, it is easy to solve.

Once you interfere in it, it becomes a contradiction between the three people, which is tantamount to adding fuel to the fire. A good mother-in-law will not interfere in the lives of her son and daughter-in-law, let them live their own little life, and it doesn't matter if she is used to it or not.

Third, it can help at critical moments. Friendly keys.

There is no one who should be good to anyone between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, there is only affection, you can help me when I need it, and I can always remember your love.

For example, when the daughter-in-law is pregnant, during confinement, and even when the child is still young and it is most difficult to take it, the mother-in-law can help share a little at this time, which can play a great role in warming up the feelings of the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.

Many women's despair is not because when they need it most, their mother-in-law is not as good as a stranger. Therefore, a good mother-in-law is to be able to selflessly support her daughter-in-law when she needs her most, and do her best, mainly with heart and affection.

Fourth, always favor his daughter-in-law.

Have you noticed that there are many stupid mothers-in-law who always indiscriminately help their sons count and blame their daughters-in-law when their sons and daughters-in-law quarrel.

Originally, there was no hatred between the two people, some were just ideological differences and some trivial things.

As a result, because of your partiality, it will make your daughter-in-law have a lot of bad thoughts in her heart, and these grievances and grievances will accumulate in the end, and they will definitely explode.

Most of the good mothers-in-law are very smart and always favor their daughters-in-law, because only when the daughter-in-law is good, this big family will get better.

1. Treat daughters-in-law equally and open-mindedly, and do not be domineering as elders. A smart mother-in-law will never put on a stand as an elder in front of her daughter-in-law, and she will never yell at her daughter-in-law.

Sixth, domineering. They get along with their daughters-in-law like friends, equal and harmonious, so that their daughters-in-law feel full of warmth as soon as they come home.

2. Do not show partiality for your son and save enough "face" for your daughter-in-law. Married life will inevitably have stumbles, if it happens to be bumped into by her mother-in-law at this time, who will she prefer? In fact, 99% of mothers-in-law will definitely favor their sons in their hearts, which is human nature and understandable.

But the smart mother-in-law knew in her heart that she must not show partiality for her son, but should support her daughter-in-law and give her daughter-in-law enough face, so as to avoid the escalation of family conflicts.

3. Do not urge sons and daughters-in-law to have children, and do not interfere with the birth of boys and girls. Urging marriage and giving birth to children is the norm for many parents today. It's not a big deal if this trick is used on a son, but it is easy to create contradictions when used on a daughter-in-law.

So a smart mother-in-law never urges her son and daughter-in-law to have children, and even if she has such thoughts, she will express them euphemistically. As for giving birth to a boy and a girl, she will not interfere, which is also a manifestation of a mother-in-law's sensibility and respect. 

4. Respect the parenting philosophy of sons and daughters-in-law. After having grandchildren and granddaughters, mothers-in-law often become the main force in bringing up children. Spending time with children day and night every day, my mother-in-law's parenting philosophy has room to play, but problems also arise.

At this time, the smart mother-in-law will definitely respect the parenting concept of her son and daughter-in-law, and if there is any disagreement, she will take the initiative to discuss with her son and daughter-in-law to find a parenting plan that everyone is satisfied with.

5. Treat your daughter-in-law without comparison or pressure on your daughter-in-law. After the son got married, the mother's generation sat together and talked about the living situation of the son and daughter-in-law the most. Some mothers-in-law who love to compare not only like to show off what their daughter-in-law bought for themselves with outsiders, but also like to talk about the lives of other people's children in front of their daughter-in-law and put pressure on their daughter-in-law.

And the smart mother-in-law not only will not talk about these boring topics with her daughter-in-law, but also will not judge her daughter-in-law by material things when chatting with outsiders, they understand that the most important thing is that their son and daughter-in-law live happily together.

I myself was lucky enough to meet a warm-hearted and kind mother-in-law. I have been married for more than 20 years and have lived with my mother-in-law for more than 20 years. Our mother-in-law and daughter-in-law have a very harmonious relationship. In my mother-in-law, I have summarized several characteristics of a good mother-in-law.

1. Don't worry about daily trivial matters, be more tolerant, don't be confused about things at home, and discuss more.

The mother-in-law is middle-aged and widowed, raising three children alone. The hardships can be imagined. My mother-in-law is a vegetarian all year round and usually doesn't cook meat dishes. But we don't need to cook meat in another pot like she did, or buy it to eat at home.

As for daily chores such as what to eat, when to eat, and whether what to buy is good or bad, everyone does whatever they want and never restricts each other. When it comes to educating children, my mother-in-law knows that the old way of education is not fully adapted to the current times, and she often respects our opinions.

My mother-in-law rarely does housework, she is very relaxed, and we are also very free. For big things, such as buying a house, my mother-in-law is more experienced than us, and will give opinions and suggestions to help as much as she can.

In March 2016, my father fell ill in the middle of the night, and I was so grief-stricken that I couldn't do anything but worry and helplessness. My mother-in-law didn't say a word to help me contact the car to go home, pack my things, and tell my husband the precautions. During my pregnancy, childbirth, confinement, and when I encountered major difficulties at home and needed help the most, my mother-in-law always did not hesitate to lend a helping hand.

I will always remember my mother-in-law's love for her. When it comes to big events, my mother-in-law is the pillar of our family.

2. Don't fight to compare, don't talk about the shortcomings of your family in front of outsiders, and don't participate in discussing the shortcomings of other people's parents.

Mother-in-law often says: Happiness does not lie in having everything, let alone in comparison. Contentment and joy are happiness.

Mother-in-law said that people don't need too much material in this life, and a healthy body and a simple life are more important. So she rarely compares herself to others. There are also neighbors who brag in front of their mother-in-law about how filial their son and daughter-in-law are, and how smart their grandson is Tongming, and the mother-in-law always laughs at it.

If the neighbor complains to the mother-in-law that the daughter-in-law is not sensible, the mother-in-law will persuade: the times are different, it is not easy for young people to go to work now, it depends on the face of the boss, the elderly should be more considerate, etc., and they are often complained by the neighbors and come back safely. My mother-in-law is very friendly, not to mention our family, very warm and caring.

It's a blessing in my life.