Faced with problems such as transformation, marriage and love, how to get rid of the confused status

When I was very young, there was a calligraphy painting hanging in my house, with four words on it, "Rare and confused", and when I was young, I liked to stare at it, and I wondered what it meant. Rare to be confused? Could it be that the person who said this has always been very smart?

When I grew up, I looked back at the four words, and I felt very sad.

In people's lives, in fact, not only when facing transformation, marriage and other problems will be confused, most of the time are confused, when we are very young, there are parents to guide us what to do, what not to do, after adulthood, we will completely rely on their own experience and values for so many years to do things, few people can clearly know what they want or know what to do to not waste their time, so we are all a member of the life, all our lives are confused.

But throughout history, if you want to live a sober life and not be confused, you must at least have a clear goal in life, know what kind of life you want, and then concentrate all your energy to struggle and struggle. Zi said: I have three provinces a day, although ordinary people can't do three provinces a day, but every once in a while they will also unconsciously reflect, especially in the face of transformation, and weddings and other major life decisions, this kind of soul torture is particularly important, just like cheering for yourself, re-establishing your goals and plans, and making your future efforts particularly important.

Everyone's specific situation is different, ideas and goals are different, there is no standard answer in life, but if you want to change your confused status quo, the most important thing is to figure out what kind of life you want, what kind of life can make you happy, and what efforts you should make to achieve such a life, and then check which position you are in at this stage, measure the gap, and choose a goal that is best for you to achieve.

We must believe that there is no goal in life that cannot be achieved, only the heart that does not work hard.

In my opinion, what the subject needs to do most is to have a clear understanding of himself and have a full understanding of himself. Know what you're good at and what you're not good at, what you like and don't like, what you're most interested in, and what you're afraid of. I think that's the most important thing.

But this is easier said than done, and the most important point is precisely what many people can't do. So I think the main thing you need to do now is how to evaluate yourself objectively and fairly. That's all that matters.

I have a friend who I admire very much. This girl is very clear about her position, and she also understands what she wants since she was a child. Since she was a child, her goal has been to be a senior white-collar worker in a financial company.

So since she was a child, when we were still playing downstairs after school, she had consciously read books on finance at home. When she was young, she couldn't understand it like she was reading a book from heaven, but she never gave up. may be the reason why she loves to read since she was a child, she had a good academic performance in high school, and was most admitted to the finance department of Shandong University with excellent grades.

After entering the Department of Finance of Shandong University, she is even more at home, and the atmosphere there is also very suitable for her. What I know is that she was accepted to Columbia University in the United States last year to continue her studies in finance. It is conceivable that when she came back from studying abroad, she must have been rushed to be admitted by a domestic financial company.

It can be said that he has been very clear about his position since he was a child, so he has made the right decision at any turning point in his life. That's what I admire most about her. So I think what you need to do is to have a clear and clear positioning of yourself.

We often have times of confusion in life, and there will be many turning points, the key is how to adjust our mentality, get out of the confused status quo, and make good use of these transition points, so that every turning point can be better.

A few days ago, I saw a sentence in the circle of friends, and I was very touched: We grow in change, and if you reject change, you reject new beauty and new opportunities. I'm a three-minute hot person, and I've probably changed 4.5 jobs in more than 3 years after graduation.

I think that every end is a new beginning, although sometimes the end is a little unwilling, but I feel that every job is more valuable than the last. It is also more suitable for my state of mind at that time, in fact, we all have a kind of dependence, afraid of change, hope to be stable, always feel that change brings unknown things, afraid of becoming more unsatisfactory, not as good as before, however, in fact, most of our changes are breakthroughs, are things that make us full of surprises, although we are very afraid, very afraid, but in the end are bitter. Whether it is transformation, marriage and love, or even more seriously, family changes and other problems are inevitable in our lives, and everyone has to experience.

Some happen suddenly, some are carefully prepared, we need a strong heart to accept these things, and we need the wisdom of life to deal with these things, and we need to accumulate experience again and again, so that every turn and every transformation of our time is more perfect and beautiful. Therefore, if life deceives you, don't be sad and don't be anxious, the melancholy days will eventually pass, relax your mind a little, and you will eventually face the sea and spring flowers will bloom.