How to separate love from cowardice and dependence? 80 appreciation points .

Your question is something that many people can't consider, don't you think you've reached the point where your road is bumpy because of your own lack of strength? You want to enjoy it, and you want to get out of this situation......

Your dependence stems from your low self-esteem, and your strength after separation from your friends stems from your stubbornness. That's a good statement. You grew up living with your mother, and your mother wanted to protect you and did something for you, so your dependence is based on that.

I think you can start small and do it yourself within the scope of something you can accept, maybe you have not experienced any major setbacks since you were a child, and you have received a lot of information that contradicts you around you, and it is ingrained in it, it enters your subconscious, it is difficult to start changing, you will feel very uncomfortable habits, but you have to remember that the subconscious mind has inertia and you have to overcome it! You have to learn to adapt slowly!

There is no need to interpret this as your cowardice....You are not cowardly....It's just that you are very loving and value friendship. Be self-reliant on the premise of love....Don't rely too much on one person, even though you have a good relationship with them...Maybe you can try to make more friends...Eat with him, play basketball with another, go home with another.

Let's burn the universe....Ha ha! You must be very literate, and you should be very smart! I sometimes admire some people who don't usually come forward and don't speak, but in fact, many of these people have their own merits!

Yes, that's up to you, what you think in your own core, whether your willpower is strong, these are all questions.

I don't know how much you can say if you're calling me if you're not there.

Hello! Don't think too much, you have to rely on yourself.

Let yourself give more, be more sincere.

The person you rely on is in love with another person or something, and you will smile and bless. Even if it's uncomfortable, it's just because I'm afraid that he won't protect you and spoil you in the future. For example, your brother is to you that way.

The person you like is very sweet with someone else, and you will definitely be very angry when you see it. You may even ignore him or her, lose your mind and do some very strange things. The scientific name for this behavior is jealousy. That's how your lover feels to you.

Well, that's it. In short, everyone has a strong sense of possessiveness when it comes to the person they like. As for how strong it is, it depends on how much you like him or her

Love and dependence are connected, if you love someone, do not rely on him, without him you still eat and drink spicy, love someone you will become not like you, love someone you will always think of him, rely on him all the time to be by his side all the time to accompany him and care about him, inseparable from him.

Hello, if you love someone more than yourself, you are dependent, thank you!

Love is giving, dependence is taking, when you love someone, you will want to give him a better life as much as possible, give him happiness, you will consciously restrain your behavior, put away your temper, put away your willfulness, and strive to pinch yourself into the other party's favorite appearance.

I told him: Love is instinct.

It's like eating, sleeping, you don't need to learn, because these are instincts, and so is love. You don't have to learn how to love, when you fall in love with someone, you love.

Because everything you do is for the person you love, before you do anything or say anything, you will think about whether he will be happy, whether he will be unhappy.

You will endure the pain and tears, to squeeze out a happy face, just so that he doesn't have to worry.

You will endure the grievances to apologize and coax him, just so that he will not be sad, so that he can sleep well and eat a good meal.

Don't say it, how hung you are, how iron-mouthed you are, how much character you have, you will show the good side of your personality for love.

You're going to tell me, nonsense, my girlfriend is heaven and earth, but she loves me too, emmmm, that's a good question.

Two people are in love, I love you 100 points, you also love me 100 points, this kind of thing is hard to come by, it belongs to the level of fairy couples, we ordinary people don't have such good luck.

Like two people meeting around the corner, looking at each other, a glance for ten thousand years, deep roots, hand in hand to go to Baitou, don't dream.

In real life, either you chase me, or I chase you, love is not equal.

So, you can make, you can ask, you can ask for sauce to be brewed, you can ask another person to change for you for your own happiness and you must become liked, as the asymmetry in this love becomes bigger and bigger, the person who does it will be even more able to do it, he begins to realize that you love me, although he doesn't admit it, he also knows in his subconscious that you love me more than I love you, and I leave you far less than the pain of you leaving me, so you have to be good to me, but a person's ability to bear is always limited.

So... What about dependence, it comes from another person's too much love, being loved can make people addicted, being pampered can make people's personality change greatly, so dependence, and even he interprets this dependence as love, I am dependent because I love you, so, I love you, because I love you, and you also love me, so you have to accept this dependence, and be grateful for it.

But why? The reason? Are you really love?

Take a rose as an example.

Dependence is when you desperately want to see that rose every day, you want to smell it, you want to touch its petals, you want to get companionship from it or something, but dependence can be substituted, for example, you can replace the rose with a moon, because the moon has the same fragrance and petals, and the rose can bring you, and the moon can bring you.

Liking means that while you are admiring the rose, you want to have it alone, you want to cut off the thorns that might prick you, pluck out the roots that provide its nutrients, and put it in your vase to see it alone, and you don't think too much about how it feels, and you just want to satisfy yourself first. Likes are generally relatively short-lived, and when you first like the rose, your impulses will blind you, and you won't realize that roses can wither and other evils, but when the rose dies, those evils slowly come to the surface You may not like this rose anymore.

And love generally comes from liking excessively, not only do you like the fragrance and beauty of this rose, but you can also tolerate the thorns that it uses to protect yourself, and you will take it to the sun every day to make it thrive, and you will water it every day, and you will work tirelessly, without complaint, even if it will still accidentally prick you from time to time, but you are also willing, because you can't choose to love only its floral fragrance and not love its thorns.

When you want to love, the first is to figure out whether the other person needs it, and the second is the degree to which the other person needs it, beyond his level he will be annoyed, and when he feels that "love" has become a burden, he will run away. Let's compare the difference between these two sentences: "I love you because I need you" and "I need you because I love you".

The former is loved because it is needed, and the latter is needed because it is loved, which has a completely different meaning in terms of motivation. Love is a very warm, comfortable and free feeling and behavior, while need is mechanical, compulsive, passive, it is more driven by physiological needs, feelings of insecurity and material desires, so it is often involuntary, uncontrollable, with the purpose of control behavior.

There is no need to distinguish between the two, because with love, you will naturally depend on it.

Dependence is the dependence on a person, and love is to love the person you love from the heart.

Dependence is subconsciously looking for him if there are any troubles, liking is not rejecting him, liking the feeling of being with him, love is with him, the heartbeat will speed up, blushing, no matter what you do, you will think of him, someone praises him, you will be very happy, that's pretty much it.

Because understood. Lyrics: Wang Sulong (silence).

Composer: Wang Sulong (silence).

Singing: Wang Sulong (silence).

Arranger: Wang Sulong (silence).

I owe you a butterfly).

Butterflies that owe you last year.

Horizon with sunset.

You say the lines three times.

I pretended not to hear.

Your gentleness is stranded.

Blame me for being inconsiderate.

You said there were still vows that were not kept.

How to cut.

Love if it turns into dependence.

If only habits remain.

It's a disservice to both people.

Just love needs to be carefully irrigated by people.

There is a need for shared expectations.

How can I make you understand.

I know your love for me.

I feel sorry for you waiting for me.

Select Leave. It is my sorrow alone.

I separated because I understood.

Sweetness can't be rewound.

How to do it all over again. Thank you for your tears for my trick.

Love if it turns into dependence.

If only habits remain.

It's a disservice to both people.

Just love needs to be carefully irrigated by people.

There is a need for shared expectations.

How can I make you understand.

I know your love for me.

I feel sorry for you waiting for me.

Select Leave. It is my sorrow alone.

I separated because I understood.

Sweetness can't be rewound.

How to do it all over again. Thank you for your tears for my trick.

I know your love for me.

I feel sorry for you waiting for me.

Select Leave. It is my sorrow alone.

I separated because I understood.

Sweetness can't be rewound.

How to do it all over again. It's me who has let down your existence This is Wang Sulong's song Is it okay Thank you.

Love, if only plain is left, there is no romance, and not separating is each other's sorrow.

Love is a lovesick problem, if he is not there you will hang on him, you will miss him at night, a few days away from feeling that the heart is gone with him, then it must be love, you think of him when you are hurt, you think of him when you are helpless, you think of him when you are bullied, that is dependence, so change the separation.

lest anyone hurt their hearts and express their wrong feelings, this is the best healing medicine.

Ask yourself, sometimes, others can't help you, they will only mislead you, only you ask yourself in your heart if you should be, I suggest not to break up first.

If two people are so tired together, then why should they be together? You have to look at the problems between you from different angles, maybe you are really not suitable, you have tried your best to redeem it, but he still does not look back

No, it's not because of love that we're together.

Try to separate for a while, feel what your feelings are like for him during this time, dependence is not the same as love, and you will not regret it until you have a clear psychological feeling

It's the same, if you don't love, you will feel dependent.

Sometimes dependence and love are inherently entangled.

Actually, you know it best in your own heart!