When do you feel lonely and happy?

Let's make a name for yourself when you become famous. You will find that as you go uphill, many people will gradually leave you, which is a normal thing. Through your own efforts, you have finally achieved a certain amount of achievement, and at this time, others will look up to you and rise to the top, and the number of people around you will naturally decrease.

At this time, although you are lonely, you are happy. Of course, a person will not be in this state all the time, and it will be very tiring to be in this state all the time. You should try to change your circle of friends and make friends with people who are about the same height as you, so that these people will have more common language with you.

There is no need to force yourself when you are not in the same circle, the reason why you feel lonely is that there is no one to accompany you, and you feel happy because you have achieved brilliant achievements.

People are so realistic now, you have a little ability. Others will leave you, and if you are incapable, others will leave you. There will be a lot of people who eat and drink with you every day, and when you encounter difficulties and want to ask for help, each of them hides faster than anyone else, looking for various reasons to perfunctory you, and now people have become insincere.

You're going to be untruthful to others, too. This is a microcosm of the advent of the economic era, and with the continuous development of the economy, the gap between the rich and the poor will become wider and wider. Of course, there will be fewer and fewer common languages, and you won't have to try to change yourself to approach them.

We should be ourselves. Whether we are poor or rich, we must not forget our roots and the people who helped us when we had nothing. We should always remember the saying that the draught does not forget the man who digs the well.

After you have achieved fame in yourself, don't forget these nobles.

As a student party with little experience, I personally feel lonely and happy when I am working hard for a goal alone.

It's common to meet together in college, but it may seem silly to study for a hobby that has no profit value but is just your own hobby.

I liked xx for a while (I don't want to reveal what it is), in order to urge myself to study, I went to apply for a related exam, and I asked the people around me if they were interested in going together, and someone asked me what was the use of the exam? As you can imagine, I was the only one who went alone.

Although I've always liked xx, but because of my own inertia, I didn't learn much, so I was a scumbag in that aspect. When I was preparing for the exam, I found that I was really far away and wanted to give up several times, but I didn't want to waste money (I'm too realistic, ha), so I still worked hard to do it, and I thought that even if I failed, I wouldn't disappoint anything. At that time, I had only been to the library four times a year, and I began to go to the library every day, saying that loneliness was indeed lonely, eating alone, running back and forth (sometimes roommates would go to the library together), and preparing for exams seriously, although it was very hard, but every day was very happy.

No matter what others say, praise or loss, I just enjoyed that time. <>

I want to say that it was not the heart that was lonely during that time, but there was no one to accompany me, and I didn't feel lonely in my heart, but I felt that the days were very beautiful, so I was still very happy, and I could still know what I wanted in this world and fight for it, no matter what the ending was, if I got what I wanted, I would be very happy.

Before leaving the dormitory in the morning, clean up, close the doors and windows, bring a bag, bring a fully charged mobile phone and headphones, turn off the lights and lock the door. Hum a song to the meeting place, swipe a few posts and go to class. Some teachers' classes are always so boring, repeating words that I don't understand, "blue spot nucleus", "charged particles"...I had no choice but to play with my mobile phone and pretend to listen seriously, nod my head in time and take pictures in time.

I went to the toilet between classes, came back and continued to play with my mobile phone, and swiped a funny post to show to whom, but found that the classroom was so big, and there was no one who could show it to him, so I could only smile bitterly and continue to bow my head and brush the post. After a hasty meal at noon, I returned to the dormitory and found that my mobile phone was out of power, so I continued to charge it.

At this moment, there was a knock on the door. "Please come in! "XX, I went to the mailroom just now, and I found your letter and got it back for you.

Letter? Okay, I see, thank you. Then while muttering about who still writes letters in these years, while suppressing the excitement and excitement in his heart, he carefully opened the letter, and the familiar font came into view.

Dear Yuan'er, in the end, you still applied for the police academy, I admire your courage to pursue your dreams, dare to think and dare to do, I hope you can always do what you want to do the most. "The last signature was Zhen'er, and she didn't write her name even when she didn't write it, and I knew it was her, and the handwriting was too familiar, and it didn't change after a few years.

At this time, although I am still alone, I am in class alone, I eat alone, I play on my mobile phone, but this letter made me realize that I am not alone, I am still being greeted by others, loneliness is really loneliness, and happiness is also really happiness. I believe that everyone has this feeling, receiving an unknown gift on a birthday or other special day, although he said "who is this, and I don't say it in advance", but I still feel happy in my heart, especially when I have just arrived in a strange environment and see something familiar.

When a number of people pick up money.

I used to wonder about this question as well, probably when I was in high school, and I myself was very afraid of being alone. I don't want to eat alone, and I don't want to walk alone on the road from the classroom to the dormitory to the cafeteria! Later, I experienced some things that made me understand that in fact, loneliness is not a big deal, and you can have happiness in loneliness!

Personal feelings

I said earlier that I don't like a person, so what about now? To be honest, I love who I am now, I can walk to dinner aloneI can go to the library alone, and I don't think it's okay to see others talking and laughing together. I'm never going to affect my mood anymore for some indifferent socializing.

Why can there be happiness in loneliness, let me briefly talk about my feelings! In fact, in the eyes of outsiders, loneliness is just a person living aloneThe famous Japanese writer Haruki Murakami once said, "I envy a person's life, when you are really in a person's environment, you will really feel that you are a person, and you can really feel the taste of freedom"!

I very much agree with this sentence, being alone is not the same as being lonely, as long as your heart is strong enough, you will find that some people really just like to enjoy loneliness, they like to be alone, like to do things alone.

Examples around you

I once had a friend, a very beautiful girl, and one day she suddenly confided in me, she said why my life is a mess, why I can't handle interpersonal relationships well, I am really uncomfortable. In fact, there is really no fixed answer to this kind of question, or this is the necessary process of growthYou need to settle yourself in the loneliness of loneliness, to discover yourself, and think about what you really want? Does it really have to be the company of a friend?

Or do you actually like to be alone, but who is affected by the social environment to do some ineffective socialization?

Perception and cognition

Loneliness is not loneliness, and the strong don't need to prove it! What is happiness? I think happiness is often the true thoughts of your heart, and only you feel that you are happyThen you are truly happy.

Happiness doesn't need others to tell youTrust your inner thoughts, and when you feel like there's no one around, try to read a book and listen to a song alone.

Each of us is independent and autonomous, and I like a quote in a book: "Your life is to go by yourself after all, and on your journey, if you want to find a wonderful one, then you need to go alone!" ”

Loneliness is the norm of life, and happiness is the pursuit of life.

Is there happiness in a lonely life? Perhaps "The Shepherd Who Planted the Tree" can give us the answer.

"The Shepherd Who Planted the Trees".It is an article by the famous French writer Jean Giorno. It tells the story of a lone shepherd who, after decades of perseverance in planting trees, turned a desolate Alpine region into an oasis of happiness. It is a journey for a loner to find happiness.

The protagonist, the shepherd, is lonely because of the pursuit of happiness in life, and he also reaps true happiness in his heart during his lonely tree-planting journey.

The shepherd, who lives alone on a deserted plateau after the death of his wife and son, is lonely and lonely on a spiritual level. On this desolate plateau, the original inhabitants moved away because they could not bear the difficult living conditions, and the signs of life gradually disappeared from the land, and finally only a few charcoal burners remained. From the perspective of the objective environment, the living space of the shepherd is detached from society, away from the crowd, and even a state of closure and isolation.

In the double loneliness of the objective environment and subjective psychology, the shepherd did not become depressed and depressed, but enjoyed the loneliness, completed the self-redemption of the painful soul, found the true meaning of happiness in the process of planting trees, and realized the truth of happiness. For the shepherd, "There is no tree in this place, and without trees there is no life." He decided that since there was nothing important to do, he would start planting trees."

Planting trees can not only express his thoughts about his relatives, relieve loneliness, and add a sense of fulfillment to his boring life, but also an important manifestation of his love for life and desire for life. The shepherd, who has created a happy home for many people, is able to live happily even in difficult circumstances.

In "One Hundred Years of Solitude", it is written: "Life has never left solitude and existed independently. Whether we are born, we grow, we love each other, we succeed or fail, until the end, loneliness exists like a shadow in the corner of life. ”

But we don't need to panic, because loneliness is also a kind of enjoyment of life, which allows us to feel life itself more truly, see ourselves more carefully, experience the true warmth of the world, shape a better self, and pursue our own happiness.

When does a person feel the loneliest, when a person is being hit, framed, and has nowhere to tell, he can only solve it by himself, but this is not the loneliest, the deepest loneliness, is that you have a lot of relatives and friends, and have very good lovers, they have accompanied you for many years, but you suddenly find that they don't understand you at all, they are all your closest people, but they never really understand your thoughts and hearts.

At this time, you will feel that you are alone in this world, and you will not even have the idea of breaking free and asking for help, which is the time when a person feels the loneliest.

When the Chinese New Year is celebrated, you are in a foreign land, and the sleepless nights are the loneliest.

When a person is hit, frustrated, or failing, he is most likely to feel lonely, and at this time, he especially hopes to have someone by his side to give him warmth.

When you are alone in a foreign land, you can't sleep alone. Or when no one understands.

Personally, I think it's the loneliest thing in the dead of night.

Losing a loved one or sleeping alone at night. The most important thing is what you think, not what others say.

Go to bed at night, especially when you wake up.