What are some things you have hated someone for?

There is a famous saying in psychology that to hold a grudge against someone is to torture oneself. Your hatred for others is only mocking yourself, but it has no effect on him. To let him go is to let go of yourself.

When I was in elementary school, I was subjected to school violence, when I was in the fourth or fifth grade, I was often slapped by the eldest sister in our class, in front of the whole class, the eldest sister's father and my father were classmates, and the two of us were also classmates, in the eyes of parents, we should be good friends, but I was very cruel to her, he always pretended to be fake, and my mother was very good to him. She went to our house to play on the computer, stole my QQ number to me, he had a bad reputation in our class, she had to change schools in the sixth grade, she offended many people, everyone wanted to beat him, he was too scared to go to a new school, so he changed schools.

Because I didn't score 95 in Chinese, the head teacher of the primary school asked my grandfather to re-copy the test paper and then I redid it. I wondered, why didn't I make a copy, I had to ask my parents to copy it (I was still young at the time, and I couldn't write a lot of words on the test paper, so I guess because this teacher didn't let me copy it myself), she probably thought it didn't matter, there were not many words in a primary school paper, but I kept thinking, why did you punish my parents? And I also scored 95 points, which is not a very excessive failing grade.

What should I do in normal times, what I see or hear doesn't affect my laughter or something. It is the moment when you lower your eyes, the moment you look away, the moment you hold the doorknob and turn over the door in front of you, the moment you open your eyes after washing and drying your face, the moment when the steam rises when you are cooking, the moment you hold the coffee cup, the moment when the elevator door closes behind you, the moment when the quilt shakes in the air, you can all feel the indifference that pervades the whole body brought by hatred.

Spitting, it should be the second year of high school, walking at school after evening self-study, the first two boys in the third year of high school carried a thermos to fetch water not far away, suddenly a boy spit, fell on my face, very disgusting, but I didn't know how to deal with it at the time, I just wanted to go home quickly, I had tuberculosis in the third year of high school, it was hard for me not to connect these two things, I think that people who spit, especially those who spit without looking at anyone around, are really annoying, because most of the people now are still talking about this disease.

When I was young, my parents were busy, regardless of me, watching TV every day, and when I was in the second grade of elementary school, I went to the hospital for examination, and I was already 600 degrees of myopia, that is to say, I couldn't see things clearly before that was very serious, and my mother was shocked after the examination, but with glasses, and then I didn't care about it, pseudomyopia was not only not corrected, junior high school to 800 degrees of myopia, high school 950- - so that now I take off my glasses and am blind. I'm going to have surgery when I earn my own money. Because of this incident, I have been complaining to my parents in my heart, vowing not to be parents like my parents, I don't know how to care about my children, I only know how to make demands on my children, and I never care about my children's physical and mental development.

I'm sad, I've been restraining myself, living a positive life, things seem like this, I always don't want to think about it, but I always remember, sad to pull myself, that summer, I didn't see the evil of human nature, there was an ugly heart under that hypocritical face, I didn't want to say it. Let yourself go, don't be sad, everything is over and everything is over, it's okay, I'm still alive, everything is okay, I can't forgive them in my life. I hate them.

Don't hold grudges (there is no such thing in my impression, I can't remember it at all), and the words of strangers are considered unintentional mistakes; Acquaintance's words when it is too much of a joke; Friend's words are bitter medicine. Taoist saying: If you don't think it's humiliating, why be ashamed?

Some words can cause long-term emotional damage to people's stupidity, and here are some words that can hurt people for a long time:

1."You're really ugly, fat, short, ugly": Such an assessment can cause damage to self-esteem and confidence, and in severe cases, it can lead to physical and psychological impairment.

2."You didn't live up to my expectations and didn't live up to my standards": constant expectations and comparisons can make people feel bad enough to forget.

3."I don't love you anymore, I'm going to break up with you": the end of a marriage or relationship can cause long-term damage to the person and may even cause severe depression.

4."You did Li Heng wrong, your behavior is wrong": criticism and accusations can take a toll on self-esteem and even create feelings of guilt or insecurity.

In conclusion, speech is highly cultural, situational and individual. We should respect the feelings of others, avoid hurtful language as much as possible, and learn to communicate with others in a respectful and understanding way.

Sometimes someone else's words can hurt me badly, and I still can't forgive them after a long time, as far as I'm concerned, I've been seriously hurt by a sentence This sentence comes from a friend of mine who once said to me, what are you, the reason why this sentence hurt me the most for the longest time. It's because this sentence makes me very chilled, this sentence comes from the person I trust the most, and this sentence changes my attitude towards making friends, these three reasons.

First, the reason why this sentence will hurt me for a long time is because this sentence makes me very chilling, and the reason why such a sentence hurts me so deeply and for so long is because this sentence is very chilling to me, what are you laughing at, this sentence is full of distrust, and there is a deep disdain This attitude makes me very chilling, and it is because of this that this sentence will hurt me for so long.

The first pure pair is two, this sentence comes from the person I trust the most, so it hurts me more. One of the reasons why this sentence hurt me so much is that it comes from the person I trust the most, a friend of mine, and I trust him very much and regard him as a confidant, but I didn't expect him to say that to me, which is unbelievable to me. I felt deeply hurt.

Thirdly, because this sentence made me change my attitude towards making friends, this sentence hurt me very deeply. When a former friend said what are you, the most direct change that it brought to me was that I changed my attitude towards making friends from then on. Specifically, I have a new understanding of what kind of person is suitable to be my friend, and then my attitude towards making friends has also undergone a fundamental change, which is the most important change in my life experience, which also fully proves that the hurt that sentence has brought to me, how deep and how long.

I'll give you advice, can you see it?

1.Look at the world with another eye, not everyone in this world is very smooth, just look at how you solve it, for example, you were hit by someone when you were walking, others apologized to you, sometimes you still feel very angry, but you didn't expect that the person who hit you was actually more uncomfortable than you, or think about the sentence "Happy is also a day, unhappy is also a day, why not be happy every day".

2.If you think that you are in a bad mood, you will be in a bad mood, then you don't need to think about it, if you still want to, then keep yourself busy, let yourself have no time to think about it, let yourself live every minute to the fullest, and then don't fall in love with the bed after waking up in the morning, get up when you wake up, get busy, open the window, breathe in the fresh morning air, relax your whole body, and let yourself imagine a happy little angel ......

3.Choose a place with fresh air, quiet surroundings, soft light, undisturbed and free movement, and take a position that you feel comfortable in, standing, sitting or lying down.

4.Move some large joints and muscles of the body, the speed should be even and slow when doing it, and the action does not need to have a certain format, as long as you feel the joints let go and the muscles relax.

5.Take a deep breath, inhale slowly and exhale slowly, saying "relax" in your mind whenever you exhale.

6.Focus your attention on some everyday objects. For example, look at a flower, a little candlelight, or anything soft and beautiful, and look closely at its subtleties. Light some spices and inhale the aroma of it.

7.Close your eyes and try to imagine some tranquil and beautiful scenes, such as blue waters, golden sandy beaches, white clouds, mountains and water.

8.Do activities that you enjoy that have nothing to do with the specific things at hand. For example, swimming, taking a hot bath, shopping, listening, watching TV, etc.

9.Life is easy, life is easy, life is not easy. Don't worry, there are a lot of people in this society who are almost like you, but they are all living happily, not everyone can succeed, as long as you work hard to treat everything, take life seriously, as long as you take every day seriously, no matter how your life is, I believe it is wonderful.

I've hated someone before. Because that person was very harsh to me back. My approach is to say that I will never meet that person. I hate her.

Over time. I was told that love is an emotion, and hate is an emotion. Since she hates her, why should she give her feelings to such a person, it's not worth it. Later I thought about it myself, yes.

It depends on why you hate. As I've gotten older, I've become more tolerant. I just hate that person right now. Because I really don't like snarky people. It's a big deal. It's not worth it for that kind of person.

It's not worth it to do stupid things for the sake of revenge for the people you hate.

I hope the landlord understands. If she's stingy, you'll be generous. It's not that I forgive her, but it's not worth it.

Put aside personal grievances and devote yourself to your career, and your troubles will naturally disappear.

Hate is terrible, I'm just like you, I'm not going to do anything. Forget. Time will tell!

Hate, because of love, hate disappears in an instant, but countless times, every moment I think of.

No, I think it's very likely that the other person is unintentional about this sentence, and why should we be unhappy because of the other person's words? I don't think it's necessary at all.

No, I rarely hold grudges, and I won't hate others for the rest of my life because of a word, so I seem to be too cautious.

I don't think it's necessary, a lot of times everyone is in a hurry, no one will say anything hurtful to you, maybe a few years, but a lifetime is too long, I definitely don't have that place to remember such an unpleasant thing. ‍‍

Maybe you will be very angry at the time, but after a while, you will be relieved, after all, being angry is not good for your health.

At that time, it will, with the passage of time, it will be slowly put down, and my dad often tells me that the crowd is complicated, and there will always be so many idlers, so why care so much. Focus on the important things in your heart, do it well, improve it, you are yourself, relax the pattern of life and be open-minded, you will be the best yourself. ‍‍

Maybe it's because of the personality, I may hold a grudge for many years, when I was in school, I was always naughty, once the teacher said that I, I was really hurt by me, and I couldn't let myself like him again for several years, but now I think about it, there is nothing, in fact, what he said is right, but I can't accept it myself. ‍‍

No, it will be difficult at first, but after a long time, I don't feel anything.

Talking and chatting can reflect a person's cultivation, and some people are willing to chat with him, can get good advice, and are in a happy mood. Some people are masters of destroying the atmosphere, and a word will make others feel uncomfortable, embarrassed, and unwilling to pay attention to him. When you meet such a person, there is no need to punish yourself for his mistakes, after all, you will hold a grudge for a lifetime, and you will block your heart when you think about it, which will affect your mood.

If it is excessive, you can fight back at that time, of course, you can also take an indifferent attitude towards boring people, everyone has been together for a long time, and it is clear who and what kind of person is. In the future, try to avoid people who speak hurtfully. There's just no need to hold a grudge for the rest of your life. ‍‍

No, I may hold a grudge for a while because of someone else's words, but not for a lifetime. Because you will meet any kind of person in your life, you will hear all kinds of words, and it will be too tiring to hate others for a lifetime. Moreover, the human realm will continue to improve with the accumulation of knowledge and the enrichment of experience.

Maybe it was a big thing at the beginning, but when you think about it after a few years, you will feel that it is just a small thing, but you are naïve and can't deal with the problem at the beginning.

Don't underestimate a sentence: hurt people's self-esteem, make people hold grudges for a lifetime, and if they go deep into the bone marrow, people hate the rest of their lives. Therefore, you should be cautious when you speak, and don't try to be happy for a while, and hurt countless people.

People often say: to provoke people to see the wall, friends are a way. But if it's because of an ordinary word, there's no need to hold any grudges.

I myself am not as good as others, and there are many unobedient words as soon as I leave the house, and everyone can ridicule a few words. If you hold a grudge, you will be angry with yourself. That's so much to say.

I was speechless. But when someone else comes, one may have to die. Therefore, a sentence is very important, and there is no need to hold a grudge.