How do children deal with their parents quarrels?

It can be seen that you have made great efforts to bring about the harmony of your parents and the harmony of your family.

There is a saying: the country is easy to change, but the temperament is difficult to change. A person's personality has already been set at the age when they get married, and it is very difficult to change it.

Marriage is the art of getting along. Marriage requires tolerance, generosity, and love.

Your father, as a husband, can be more generous, and it is better not to pay so much attention to some small things, especially what your mother does, let alone be picky. Of course, it is really hard to change yourself.

There is a story about a child who is very short-tempered and easily impulsive. He often regretted his actions.

His father told him, "Every time you get angry, drive a nail in your fence." Suddenly, one day, he found the fence full of nails, and he realized how terrible his impulses were.

His father said to him at the time: Every time you control yourself not to be angry, you can pull a nail. Until one day, the nails on the fence were gone.

Then his father said, "The nails are gone, but the holes are still there." Therefore, the damage caused by each impulse to others is difficult to heal.

In this way, he turned himself into a sane person.

Both your dad and your mom can use this method to try to change themselves. For their own sake, for you, for this family, they deserve to do it.

Truth be told, many things are precious only when they are lost, including marriage and family.

Don't let such regrets happen to your family, to your parents.

I wish you a harmonious and happy family.

Addendum: Your dad often goes out for walks at night (maybe it's his excuse) that he doesn't feel the warmth of home. A warm, happy family should be one that goes out for a walk together.

Your mother should also reflect on what she has done and not be too strong. If being strong is conducive to the stability, harmony and happiness of the family, then it is right; If the effect is the opposite, then try to change yourself.

We all know that it takes effort to change yourself, you need to change yourself, you need to adapt to each other, you need to tolerate each other... Overall, it's a tough thing to change yourself. But if they all still love this family, love each other, and love their children, no matter how difficult things are, they have to do it.

In fact, if they don't try to change themselves and stop loving this family, then they will not be happy even if they form a new family in the future.

A happy family is built for those who are prepared, those who are sensible, and those who are loving.

Just leave him alone, just don't let them fight. Look at this.

Try to make your dad softer.

When parents quarrel, there are three situations, and the three practices of the corresponding children can be referred to:

1. Unable to change, protect yourself

Parents often quarrel, quarreling is the norm, not quarreling is not the norm, for this situation, what children can do is to let them quarrel, because as a child, since you can't stop them from quarreling, you can't change their state of getting along, what you can do is to turn a blind eye, listen and not hear, hide in your own little world, and protect yourself.

2. Don't worry about it, parents can solve it themselves

Parents usually get along very well, and occasionally quarrel, the child's response is to relax, because there may be no couples in this world who never quarrel. Sometimes a quarrel can lead to better communication, so that parents can understand each other and live a better life. Of course, this kind of child doesn't have to worry about what to do, and has to have confidence in their parents, they are adults and can handle their own affairs.

3. Seek help from relatives and friends

Not only quarrels, but even big fights, throwing things and smashing things, children in this kind of family, if they want to hide, it is difficult to hide quietly, and they can't immerse themselves in their own small world, this kind of has to rely on the power of adults, such as grandparents, grandparents, and grandparents, and close elders and relatives, in short, they are powerless to persuade, so ask for help. If there is domestic violence, you can also seek help from the police of the Women's Federation.

In short, when parents quarrel, what children should do is to protect themselves first and prevent themselves from being hurt. If the situation is very serious, learn to ask for help.

If it's a general quarrel, you can ignore it and trust your parents to handle their affairs.

Normally, when parents quarrel, children don't go to help, it's not good to help anyone, in fact, it's good for your parents to let them quarrel, sometimes the quarrel is comfortable, of course, if the quarrel is bad, you can seek kind help, call ** to grandparents, grandparents are okay, children must help one of them, in fact, parents quarrel is also very common, as long as it does not develop to the point of being noisy, just let it go.

When parents quarrel, as children, don't intervene under normal circumstances, let them be comfortable after the quarrel, in fact, explain that the parents have experienced a kind of venting, and there will be no contradiction after the quarrel, of course, if you are a student in this process, they quarrel very much, you can say that you affect my learning Generally reasonable parents may stop to prevent affecting their children's learning, which is also a strategy.

It is very common for husbands and wives to quarrel first, some couples quarrel for three days, well, there are small stir-fry every day, so as children, sometimes they quarrel like this and do not affect the feelings, then don't worry about them, of course, for that kind of quarrel, at that time when our family smashes the pot and bowl, in fact, you first protect yourself, and then you can seek the help of relatives, such as grandparents, grandparents, in fact, husband and wife quarrels are also common, most of the time as children do not go to help either party, it is your parents, It's not good to help, sometimes they can reconcile without caring about them, so when it comes to the quarrel between husband and wife as children, well, the first is to ignore it, and the second is to seek help from relatives.

When parents quarrel, in fact, as a child, it is best to listen to it and leave it alone, because some parents quarrel but have better feelings, as long as they do not smash the items at home, quarrel, in fact, it doesn't matter, of course, if the kind of smashing of the family has happened, it is best to call the police or seek help from relatives.

When parents quarrel, children should persuade their parents to get along, and not sit idly by.

The first thing children need to do is to set their own boundaries and isolate the contradictions in the relationship between their parents from their own boundaries, which can effectively reduce the psychological damage suffered by children.

Children should try to understand their parents. It's not easy to be more considerate of them.

As a child, you should persuade you to quarrel and tell your parents that they often quarrel, bad will hurt the feelings of two people, and it will also affect the mental health of children, and I hope parents will pay attention to it.

As children, we should discourage them, and if both parties are not discouraged, they should take their parents on a trip together, which can ease the relationship.

Don't help both. When parents quarrel, children should not go over and intervene during the quarrel, and wait for them to finish arguing.

Pack sharp objects. When parents quarrel, as a child, you have to put away all the sharp objects or hide the ,..

Pull rack. As a child, when your parents quarrel, you can watch quietly and watch secretly, but they fight.

Call the elders in the family and someone with authority to come over. Secretly call ** to relatives and elders in the family, and someone with authority comes to ,..