Why do you always think about your ex girlfriend when you re married?

In fact, for the life of adults nowadays, love and marriage are really important things, in fact, ordinary people's days are made up of boring little things, and many people do not do what they like, but because of life. So it's a very happy thing to have a girlfriend in your life, but why do many guys still think about their ex-girlfriends after getting married?

In fact, every boy is greedy, eating what is in the bowl and thinking about the pot, I don't know why, people always feel that the person they miss is the best, and they never know that they should cherish the person in front of them, so for those who are married, the ex-girlfriend is the kind of person they missed, sometimes think about maybe they chose her at that time, and whether their lives will be happier now, because people always don't learn to be content.

In fact, everyone has excellent places and bad places, when people get married, they don't only see each other's good, but also see each other's bad, if there are some contradictions, the mood will be very bad, and then think about how good their previous girlfriend was to themselves, and now this is like this, a comparison and then miss the ex-girlfriend more, in fact, such thinking is not advisable after marriage, because your ex-girlfriend also has a lot of places that are not as good as the current wife, Otherwise, why did you make such a choice in the first place? Don't forget the original intention, I hope that since you have started, you will love each other well.

Another reason is that the environment has changed, when I was still with my ex-girlfriend, I didn't need the person in charge at that time, the two of them just fell in love happily, and the mentality would be a lot more relaxed, but now that they are married, after all, they need to face more things, in addition to the affairs of two people, there are also two family matters, and it has also passed the period of hot love, bad emotions have been amplified, people are in a bad mood, and they always feel that their current wives are not good enough, in fact, too many people just don't know how to cherish, How many people are still envious of him, so do it and cherish it.

Whether it's a boy or a girl, once you get married, you should have the right mentality, don't think about your ex at every turn, this will not help your feelings for each other, it is normal for husband and wife to quarrel and quarrel, almost all couples have quarreled, but what you need to do is how to solve the problem correctly, instead of blindly complaining, thinking about other people, don't you think it's very bad? I hope everyone has a pair of eyes to find beauty, look at each other's goodness, and get along well.

1.Zhang Ailing has a passage in "Red Roses and White Roses", which is very impressive. Probably every man has had two women like that, at least two.

Married to a red rose, over time, the red one changed to a smear of mosquito blood on the wall, and the white one was still"Bright moonlight in front of the bed"；married a white rose, the white one is a grain of rice sticky on the clothes, but the red one is a cinnabar mole on the heart. This is a common mindset for most people. Those who can't get it are always in turmoil, and those who are favored will always have no fear, because the PO owner thinks that he and his ex-girlfriend have been separated, and there is no turning back.

In this situation, it is natural to think more about the good of the ex-girlfriend. In fact, if you think about it from another angle, the quarrels and doubts between you are even the last straw that crushes your relationship, and you will find that in fact, your ex-girlfriend is like a mortal in the world, but that's it.

2.The reason why people are nostalgic for their predecessors is just a little unsatisfactory in the present. The current girlfriend, to be precise, the married partner does not bring you enough love and happiness physically and mentally.

Full of enthusiasm, he thinks that he can meet the love of his life by breaking up with his ex-girlfriend, but in the end he finds that all love is nothing more than that. In fact, there is no more perfect lover in the first place, a better love, and some are just more suitable for each other's other half.

3.At the same time, it is undeniable that married life is no more free than being single. The quarrels and arguments with my ex-girlfriend are all petty fights, but there is actually no matter of principle.

Life after marriage is not like this, the firewood, rice, oil and salt in life, and the trivial things are enough to consume each other's patience and tolerance. The original beautiful woman who was dressed up brightly, who was at home with children, was unkempt in front of you, and naturally there would be a slight psychological gap, which was also a negative factor that married life would inevitably bring. Why the fairy tale ends with the prince and princess happily together, not the trivial bits and pieces after the prince and princess get married?

It is undeniable that there are not even fairy tales in ordinary people's marriages.

4.No matter how perfect and graceful your ex-girlfriend is, she has broken up with you, and everyone has started a new life. Actually, the PO master should understand.

Even if you are together, there will be many things in life that consume each other's love, and the possibility of breaking up in the past and breaking up again in the future is also very high. As the saying goes, good horses don't eat grass. The recombination of each other is just a compromise and a compromise, and it is too ugly to eat.

Instead of reluctantly being together again, it is better to wave goodbye in style.

Summary: I've always thought that the end of a relationship. Rather than the past years, it is better to be the past life and the present life, since each other's years have not been cherished, and the breakup ended miserably, then it is better to drink this bowl of Meng Po soup that forgets the red dust.

Since then, the good or bad of my life has nothing to do with you, and I have nothing to do with your ups and downs.

Life is like a dream, and the past is like smoke. The past is gone, and even if you look back, there may not be that light still there. If you have a little more time, it will help you dilute everything.

However, even if the other party is married, they may not forget each other in their hearts, so they will be sad. Or have forgotten about the other person and behave calmly. Either way, that's a thing of the past.

That's all the other person's business. There is no relationship between you anymore, and living your life well is the most important thing.

If the other person proposes to break up at first, and you don't actually want to break up, knowing that the other person is now married, your heart may be a little lost. Because you love her, she may like you too, but in the process of getting along, she will slowly find out that you are not suitable. So she offered to break up.

Maybe for a long time, you didn't let go of her and still imagined changing her mind. As a result, when I heard the news of her marriage, I would never have the opportunity to be with her in my life, and I would be very depressed and lost.

For her, I have let go and am not possessive. It's just that when I heard the news that she was going to get married, my thoughts remembered the past, remembered many points from the past, and had some inexplicable sadness and loss. Anyway, she's been with me for three years and has always had a special affection for her.

When it is clear to me that it is impossible for two people, even if she does not get married, I will marry and wish each other well. Respect the previous relationship, respect the current ending, and always believe that everything is the best arrangement.

When a couple of lovers are together, the scene of marriage must have been depicted in their minds. There may be two people in the room, three meals a day, a nice cat or puppy, living an ordinary but happy life. But all this stopped in fantasy, the wedding was so beautiful, and I could only sit in the audience.

In short, because it's an ex-girlfriend, it can be seen that it's already in the past tense with her. Now watching each other get married, whether you are sad or blessed, go with the flow, and live your current life well is the most important thing.

I am very sad and sad, because there was a particularly beautiful relationship between two people, and it was difficult for the other party to come out after getting married.

There will be no feelings, because two people have been broken up for a long time, and it is normal for each other to get married.

There are no waves, because both of them are over, so both of them should start a new life and should not be nostalgic for the past.

The ex-girlfriend has been thinking about it in her heart, and in such a situation, she should throw away all the items related to the ex-girlfriend in her life. If it is a reluctant situation, it also needs to be locked up to avoid seeing things and thinking about people. The most important thing is to control your mouth and don't let yourself leak your mouth, which will affect the relationship with the current one.

People who are about to get married still think about their ex-girlfriends in their hearts, which is an extremely abnormal thing. It is easy to affect the upcoming marriage because of your own disconnection, and in serious cases, there will be a situation of "capsizing".

Such a situation should be paid enough attention, and if you want to adjust your mentality, you need to do a good job in the following two aspects.

1. "Close" everything related to your ex-girlfriend In most cases, you can't forget your ex because there are still things related to your ex in your life. It could be a book, an object, a talk, a mood, or a place that two people have been to together. These familiar things are subtly influencing us, so that the scenes where our ex gets along with us are always replayed in our minds like movies.

To prevent this from happening, we need to get rid of all the things related to our predecessors. Even the eating habits that have been influenced by your ex, as well as the places you often visit, should be visited as little as possible.

2. Forcing ourselves to forget the existence of our predecessors has a very significant impact on us. Before a new relationship begins, we are allowed to miss our ex, but once we enter a new relationship, we have to forget about our ex completely. If you don't force yourself, it's going to be hard to do.

Don't think about the previous things, don't think about those pleasant memories, think more about the shortcomings of your ex, the unpleasant things between the two.

In this way, you will slowly forget your ex, and when you think of your ex, it is also a bad memory, and you can completely forget your ex by disgusting a person.

Even if you can't forget your ex, you need to take care of this emotion, and in front of the current one, you can't leak the slightest flaw, otherwise it will only add fuel to the fire.

There will always be regrets if you can't get it, after all, it's normal for people who have been together not to be together in the end, you can think more about the current girlfriend's goodness, compare, let yourself know that the talent in front of you is the most precious, so that's fine.

In this case, it is recommended to postpone the wedding, and I personally feel that it is irresponsible for both parties to get married with this mentality. You can talk to a trusted friend and figure out exactly what you think.

You should find a way to change yourself, tell yourself to be responsible, and do so to be sorry for your wife.