How is socialization made, and how to socialize effectively

Friend, when you ask this question, I first hope you understand,Socializing is necessary, but "socializing" is not necessary, you can judge your situation and your environment before deciding whether to make changes.

Sincerely

My only treasure is my sincerity. My only satisfaction is my sincerity. My only pride is my sincerity.

Because I have sincerity, my head never bows. Because of sincerity, my vision never evades. ”

Sincerity is a rare quality. In social networking, many factors will cause everyone to lose themselves, and wear a mask under the influence of interests, etc., and the "mask" at this time may allow us to gain some social advantages, but after a long time, it will inevitably expose some details, and finally lead to a false reputation. Only by remaining sincere can we be consistent, and can we gain true recognition and friendship in the long social network.

Measure

While maintaining sincerity, it is also necessary to pay attention to proportion. We often say "too much".In social interactions, we should pay attention to the sense of proportion in what we say and do, and do not cross that "personal cordon", it is inappropriate to be too close or too distant.

How?

1.At the beginning of the day, try to be sincere, but don't say be "stupid". Sincerity means maintaining a sincere attitude, being dissatisfied with lies, not harming others and benefiting oneself, being frank and open-minded.

But you must grasp the proportion, establish your own personal dignity, let the social object realize that you have a backbone, don't give it all up, and let yourself become a "transparent person" or "a person who can be bullied by anyone".

2.In the process of social development, the following points should be noted

Pay attention to the communication occasion and don't be "sincere" at all timesUnconscious blunt words can hurt others, so remember to be tactful.

What kind of relationship says what kind of thing. If you are close, you can be sincere and talkative, but if you are estranged from you, you should pay attention to the scale of your speech, otherwise it will make others disgusted. Be sure not to have"When the relationship is closer, there is no way to hide it".habits.

Learn to listen, learn to stop. Don't be self-centered, learn to be a listener, learn to control the time, and stop when the time is right.

Read more and enrich yourself. There is poetry and writing in the belly, and accumulate more knowledge--Summary

We live in society, social interaction is inevitable, and even we may not be free to choose social objects, social times, social occasions, etc., but at least we can strengthen our own inner social principles and psychological bottom line. Please believe that sincerity is nirvana, and grasping the scale is the skill of skill casting. I sincerely hope that you can find your own comfort zone in the complex social network.

Whether a person can socialize, and whether he or she will "behave" in popular terms, is related to your connections and social recognition, and whether your career and life are successful. So, how can you improve your social skills?

1. Understand the needs of others

Most people communicate with others from their own cognition to talk about problems, without understanding the needs of others, which is likely to be "chicken to duck" talk, different channels. If you want to build a good social relationship with others, you must first understand their needs and gain insight into their views, that is, "go up to the mountain and sing mountain songs, and go down to the water to talk about water". Thou shalt not play the harp against the ox, and there is no target.

2. Give more and ask less

To build good interpersonal relationships and get friendship and love, you have to give more and ask less. The Buddha said, "It is more blessed to give than to receive."

Why do people like you more? It's not because you're pretty, it's because you're particularly useful to him, or to help him solve problems, or to give him something to think of. Umbrellas provide shelter from the elements, so people hold them above their heads.

If you bring joy, happiness, and fulfillment to others, they will surely have a long-lasting friendship with you.

3. More encouragement and less sarcasm

In life, difficulties are everywhere, everyone has frustration moments, everyone needs encouragement and comfort from others, you and I are no exception. And the right encouragement will only enhance the friendship between each other. Therefore, say more words of gratitude to your elders and leaders; Say more blessings to colleagues and friends; Say more words of encouragement to juniors and subordinates.

Don't despise and ridicule others, a hurtful word can nullify your friendship for many years.

Fourth, expand the scope of communication

Don't forget old friends, keep making new friends", sociable people, always constantly expand their range of communication, to know a new friend, is equal to an extra social circle, so as to meet a group of new friends. Successful interpersonal relationships not only do not forget old friends, but also constantly expand their circle of friends, so they make more mentors and friends. Don't be lonely, isolated, or lonely.

5. Don't compete with others

Some people, in order to be temporary, or to laugh at others, hurt the self-esteem of others; Or compete with others, competing to win or lose, which is a big taboo in interpersonal communication. "The earth is low for the sea, and the people are low for the king", people with good interpersonal relationships are always very humble and self-contained, and they will make people "embrace all rivers in the sea". And people who have a bad interpersonal relationship like to say "but", go toe-to-toe with others, confront thinking, and be more truthful, and as a result, turn friends into enemies, which is a very stupid approach, and the road can only get narrower and narrower.

By mastering the above social skills and putting them into practice, your interpersonal skills will be greatly improved.

<> What is Ineffective Socializing?

The ideal effective social interaction is that you have a rough story, I have a wine: unfortunately, most of the ineffective social interactions nowadays are that you have garbage and I have a bucket.

Social interaction in the true sense is an intangible investment, which is essentially to seek an exchange and obtain what they need, and it is also a mutual exchange and mutual use of value. If you can't provide equal value to others, but you can provide them with the value they need, this social networking is also valid.

Avoid ineffective socializing, you should.

1. Find your own exchangeable value, that is, you can exchange the value of the stool with others, and infinitely amplify your exchangeable value through personal branding.

2. Build trust with sincerity, and spread your exchangeable value in a concise way, so that people are willing to exchange value with you.

3. Use the value of your personal brand to maintain your social value.