How to Overcome Loneliness in College?

Tell me about my experience.

When we arrived at college, everything was no longer arranged like in high school, with a tight schedule, and we had to pinch the time to go to the bathroom, and we suddenly became free, with more nights, more weekends, and more time.

Although I go everywhere with my friends, my heart is very empty, I want to do something, some lofty things, but I don't know where to start; I go to class, eat, watch movies, sleep and catch up on dramas with everyone, but this doesn't seem to be the life I yearn for, my heart is lonely.

The loneliness inside is painful, confused, overwhelmed, I have become a little decadent, and the manifestation of my decadence is not to indulge in games, nor to cook, but to eat, overeat.

I eat all day long, just after eating the main meal after a while when I get hungry, I stock up on a lot of snacks, after eating and then continue to eat snacks, keep eating and eating, roommates say that I can eat, especially at night, every day to add a meal.

I was immersed in my own world, I kept eating and eating, and for almost three months since my freshman year, I weighed fifteen pounds, a full fifteen pounds.

After returning home for a year, I thought a lot, maybe there are very few people in this world who understand me, maybe everyone is lonely, but loneliness does not mean decadence, and I can't waste my good youth anymore.

The first step is to start with **. After school started, I spent my time eating supper on the playground every night, I bought a basketball, played basketball, met with my friends for badminton, and went for a run.

There are many people coming and going on the playground, everyone is sweating, and I am relieved to be mixed into the running army, and I am not so lonely.

The second step is to enrich yourself. I believe that when you are busy, you will not feel lonely because you don't have time to think about it. I borrowed all kinds of books from the library, I had read them unread, astronomy and geography, and I spent a long time reading books every day, and I was not good at history, so I reviewed the history of China for 5,000 years.

I study the things of my heart every day, and reading books is really addictive.

In addition, I also spent a lot of energy to practice words, brush words, pen words, all practice, after all, words are like people, I don't want to make myself so unbearable.

At this point, I don't feel lonely anymore, and even though I'm going to the library by myself a lot of the time, I don't have time to think about whether I'm lonely anymore.

The third step is to expand the circle of friends.

In addition to our roommates, we can also have a wider range of social interactions, even if we don't have a good relationship with the people in the dormitory, we don't delay making friends.

I often participate in clubs, student council gatherings, and games. There are more opportunities to get along with everyone, and gradually, I found a lot of friends who "smell like" with me, and from time to time I make an appointment, go out to surf, and my inner loneliness also has a companion.

In short, full days are not alone.

In fact, reading books is the best way, because in the book you will gain a lot of knowledge that you don't know, in college you can't always have people around, and everyone will have their own time and space, so you will face the problem of eating alone and going to class alone, to do what you should do.

In fact, I won't feel lonely when I'm used to being alone, just like when I'm in our dormitory, especially on weekends, I'm lazy, they will choose not to eat breakfast, but I still have the idea that I want to eat breakfast, and the later result is to help me bring one, and then I will go to eat by myself, and then I tell them that I won't help you bring it.

I will also reason with them that it is not good not to eat breakfast, and then they will say that it is finally the weekend, I don't want to move, I can only go downstairs to eat alone, when I eat alone at the table, I will feel very lonely, and I feel very awkward when there is no one around me, at this time I will choose a more remote place, not so conspicuous.

And at this time, I will watch my own **good movie, preferably a better one**, so that it is more attractive, so that you will not think that there is no one around you, and it will also relieve your embarrassment, and you can choose to listen to it in the absence of a movie**, it is best to wear headphones, so that you will not make noise to the people next to you.

When you are lonely, you read more books and exercise more, so that you don't let your brain sit idle and you won't feel lonely, and you will only feel lonely when you have nothing to do, so I recommend reading and exercising.

Hanging out, chatting, and doing activities with roommates or like-minded people can overcome loneliness.

There are many social groups in the university, if you are afraid of loneliness, you can join some social groups, or bubble libraries!

"Loneliness" - how college students can get rid of loneliness

1. Accept yourself happily

1.Acknowledging your own worth

Learn to identify with yourself and not expect from others. If your friend's dependence on you makes you feel important, identify yourself with other methods, such as repeating someone's positive approval of you, or try volunteering.

2.Start taking care of yourself

Make a list of self-care activitiesDo something that benefits yourself. You can start adding these activities to your daily schedule.

Regular self-care can help you feel healthy emotionally and identify with yourself without having to rely on others. TryGive yourself a massage, do yoga, journal or go for a walk in the evening.

It can also be listedYou like the good qualities of your bodyThen take a look at this list every now and then.

3.Take care of your physical health

Show your love for yourself by adopting healthier habits. Pursue a lifestyle that is more conducive to your body and health

Relieve stress with deep breathing or progressive muscle relaxation. It's normal to improve your physical health and increase your sense of well-beingBecause it improves your quality of life.

4.Keep yourself grateful

You will feel happier and more satisfied with life.

2. Don't let yourself be idle:

1.Learn to enjoy alone time

If you hate being alone, the lack of friends will make you even more sad. Make a plan,Spend alone time on exciting activities and let yourself fall in love with alone time.

Every time you're alone, justUse this time to do something on your list. Slowly, you will start to enjoy alone time.

2.Do what you love

I want to live a happy and fulfilling lifeSecretsIt's about taking the time to do what you love.

So, you should use your time to pursue what you are passionate about and interested in. Think about how you can incorporate these activities into your daily routine.

3.Challenge yourself

4.Motivate yourself with a strong purpose

Having something to look forward to is a necessity for a satisfying life. Purpose can bring a sense of direction to life and motivate you to keep trying.

5.Keep learning

When doing everything, do it like a beginner and keep yourself busy and focused on life.

3. Finally, I would like to give you a sentence that I personally like:

In fact, all of us are passers-by. Gathering is a fire, and scattering is a sky full of stars. No matter how good the relationship between friends is, sooner or later there will be a separate day; It's just a few days earlier, a few days later.

But it's because they have to disperse sooner or later, so when they get together, they have to be riveted and happy; When it is gone, remember it in my heart, and say:May you have a bright future, and then each of them will go to the next stop of their own lives.

I hope I can help you who are confused in college