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This should be a matter of a person's character, if you have agreed before marriage, he must hand over the financial power. If he doesn't turn it in, then you will separate. She was still so resolute that she didn't turn it in. It's up to you to accept it?
One. It is said that AA couples cannot last long. That is two people, if nothing happens together and nothing happens, everyone can accept it.
Once something arises, it is time to use money. So who will pay for it? He will say that your own money, you keep it yourself.
Why can't you take it out and use it?
Two. The financial division is very clear, and the responsibilities will naturally be divided in the future. That is, you take your Yangguan Road, and I take my single-plank bridge.
I'll handle my affairs by myself, and you can pay for your own family affairs. So there are a lot of times when two people are together in feelings. Only by raising each other and taking care of each other can we be husband and wife.
Three. If you can't marry someone else, and you can't get a certificate with someone, then we will definitely have to return the bride price.
Target. It is your unilateral breach of contract. The bride price he gives you is also a bride price for marriage, not a bride price for you to get engaged to someone.
If you want to compromise. The best solution is. You don't want to be separated.
Then you take a step back. He does not hand over the financial powers. However, a portion of the living expenses will be paid.
How much does it cost you to live on each month? He kept the rest of his money. For example, he earns 5,000 a month.
He gives you 3000. He pays for the rest of the family's expenses. He will take care of the gas, water and electricity.
If you feel that this makes you feel very uncomfortable. Then you can only choose to give up the relationship. Same as I thought, so be it!
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There are a lot of men and women who should get married, and people are not willing to hand over the financial power to you, so you don't need to be angry to ask for this financial power, in fact, both men and women don't look at who can manage money, if they can manage money, then they should master the financial power.
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For a macho man, he cares about his face on the outside, he doesn't want to make a fool of himself outside, especially in money, and he hopes that he has enough economic strength. As a wife, you can't be too dead, you need to give each other enough space, and life will be better and happier on the basis of mutual understanding.
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Then you can see from the small details of getting along with him that he is careful and good enough to you, and you can tell him that you can not control the finances, but you have the right to know how much he earns every month.
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As long as you and your husband's money are in control, besides, in addition to mastering the economic power, you must also be heart-to-heart and treat each other with sincerity.
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Discuss this with your boyfriend himself. It may be useful for him to take the money, so he can't give it to you.
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If he loves you, he will give it to you, for example, I will give it to my daughter-in-law, after you get married, you will ask him for any money, such as buying vegetables, paying water and electricity, paying mortgages, paying property, paying gas bills, you don't ask him at one time, you have to divide it many times, and then he will obediently give you the money, I fell for my daughter-in-law, but I only need to give him the money, and he will pay it.
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Your boyfriend's reluctance to give you money for safekeeping after marriage means that he doesn't trust you enough and thinks that his wife won't take care of money. Or because of indiscriminate spending, both of them don't pay, especially women like to use money to subsidize their mother's family, as long as the woman's parents and relatives ask him for money, he will check generously.
Then he will, naturally. I am very reluctant to hand over the money to a woman to manage with you, and the man has already appeared in the family, and there are many places where money is needed, if a man is now you, then nature will increase the financial power. Rest assured, the money will be handed over to you and kept safe, but if you are suspicious and distrustful, you are naturally unwilling to transfer it to you for management.
There are also men who want to have their own money, autonomy, and don't want to be tied down, and the reason why men are reluctant to give money to you is because he is afraid of being kidnapped by marriage and wants to have the master of money. There are many places where men need money outside, such as when friends gather or company socializes, if a man gets married.
Give all the money. Woman management. In this life, I was very passive, I didn't spend a penny and didn't affect men, I really wanted money, I wanted women to think about men and communicate with pictures, these days of comfort made the man the most stressful in the world, and the love of a man for you is true love.
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Then plan the monthly household consumption, which part he should be responsible for.
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It's just boyfriend now, and it's a bit early to talk about financial handovers.
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If the boyfriend is unwilling to hand over the financial power after marriage, he can communicate with the other party well, and then explain how to arrange things at home.
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Guang Lao's point of view: This problem can be classified as the question of who should be responsible for family financial management. In Guang Lao's home, because Guang Lao is studying accounting, so after marriage, the family property will be in charge of Guang Lao, Guang Lao's wife later also studied accounting and took the CPA exam, but Guang Lao did not take the CPA exam, so the power of family finance was transferred to his wife, the wife took a year, lost more than 100,000 yuan, and Guang Lao used to manage money, and the family property has grown steadily every year, so my wife considered transferring the financial management right to me, I said at the beginning, it is normal to make some mistakes, so I continued to manage money, But in the third year, I was given all the power to manage my family's finances.
Now the family doesn't think about how to manage money, and if there is money, it should be spent, so the wife's salary is basically not taken care of, and she is left to spend it herself, and she can spend it as much as she likes.
Returning to the main question, Guang Lao gave different suggestions in a variety of situations, first of all, who is responsible for housework, cooking, laundry, cleaning, tidying up and other housework. 1. If one of the husband and wife is responsible for all the housework, then the party who does not do the housework should unconditionally give the money to the party who does the housework, on the grounds that, 1. The purchase of daily necessities such as rice, oil, salt, toothpaste, washing powder, etc., requires money, and this money is necessary to support the normal operation of the family. 2. There is no salary for doing housework, and if you hire a nanny, the income from not doing housework may not be worth the nanny fee.
2. If the housework is basically shared by husband and wife, you are responsible for cooking and cooking, I am responsible for washing pots and dishes, cleaning and cleaning, and you are responsible for taking care of the baby, then I am responsible for laundry and tidying. At this time, the right to manage the property needs to be compared between husband and wife, whose financial income is higher, then the right to manage the right to belong, but to obtain the right to manage the family at the same time should be responsible for the purchase of daily necessities, financial plans and results should be reported to each other every month. Third, the family conditions are better, please ask the nanny to do housework, then it is recommended AA system!
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See how you define machismo. True machismo is a man who is responsible, has decision-making power, and believes that men are superior to women in all aspects.
When you ask your boyfriend to hand over the finances, first you need to make him feel that you are capable of managing the finances.
It's okay for him to be reluctant to hand over his finances after marriage, but you can ask him to report his income truthfully.
It also proposes to establish family savings**, where 90% of the income of two people is deposited into the family every month for daily expenses. And keep a good record of the expenditure of each expense. You can let your boyfriend manage the savings, but you need him to be responsible for all living expenses and the purchase of rice, oil and salt.
If your boyfriend is willing to do all this, then he is indeed suitable for managing money.
If he can't stand it in the end, then you will naturally take over the financial power.
Don't take it for granted that men have to put money in the hands of women. Equality between men and women is required when it comes to equal treatment.
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It depends on the daily relationship mode of the two, and money is sometimes the standard and touchstone for measuring a person.
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It's important to understand your feelings. Financial management is an important topic in a cohabitation relationship, as it involves financial responsibility and personal autonomy on both sides. Let's take your questions from a few perspectives.
First of all, the boyfriend's listing a budget sheet is a positive move because it shows the importance Suiling places on financial management and accountability. Budgeting can help both sides allocate their spending wisely and ensure economic stability and the achievement of common goals. This financial transparency is essential for maintaining a healthy cohabitation relationship.
However, you may feel uncomfortable because you have objections or grievances about certain aspects of the budget table. This is quite normal because everyone may have different ideas about money and spending. In this case, it is advisable to communicate your feelings and concerns openly with your boyfriend.
Share your point of view, listen to his ideas, and then try to find a mutually acceptable solution.
When communicating, it is important to be open and respectful. Try to avoid arguing or accusing the Chinese party. Instead, try to discuss the budget in a cooperative way and find a balance that makes both parties feel comfortable and satisfied.
This may involve re-evaluating spending, reallocating budgets, or developing a flexible financial plan to meet the needs and expectations of both parties.
Additionally, consider setting a common goal, such as saving money to buy a home or fulfill travel plans. Such a goal could motivate both parties to work harder to adhere to the budget and save money.
Finally, it's important to remember that financial management is an ongoing process. Budgets may need to be adjusted based on life changes and needs. Through good communication and mutual support, you can develop healthy financial habits together that promote your relationship stability and happiness.
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