How much do the words of your elders affect you?

Don't tell your mother, she won't let you eat" Many times we will tell the elders that the child has recently caught a cold and got angry, don't let him eat anything, and then because the child likes to eat some of the "food blacklist" that his mother confessed to his grandparents, and then said to the child, don't tell your mother, she won't let you eat. But you must know that in doing this, the child already has such an impression in his heart: his mother is not good to me, and his grandparents are the best, and they will give me everything.

Mom and Dad are bad people and don't give me anything to eat. Think to yourself, is this really the case?

I grew up in an environment where my parents often quarreled. Now 23 is not married, and my parents are still like this. Sometimes I feel the urge to commit suicide. I don't know what to do.

It's all to blame on the table, touching our baby" I'm sure many elders and even you yourself have had this experience, right? When a child falls to the ground and cries, you will do something to distract the child in order to stop crying, such as blaming the table for the mistake in front of the child and running over to the child to knock him. However, you must know that in the child's heart, there has been a kind of psychology in the child's heart, but he has to blame others and he is not wrong, and finally the child does not dare to face his own mistakes at all.

Your mother doesn't want you anymore, your mother ignores you" Sometimes the child is disobedient, and the grandparents will scare the child: if you don't eat again, your mother won't want you, and your mother will ignore you. If the child can't tell what is joking, he will mistakenly think that the real mother ignores him, but he will be afraid.

Not only parents, but also teachers, and what the elders in the family say will have an impact, and children need more encouragement, and blind criticism and discrimination will only make children feel more inferior. There are also comparisons, for example, if you look at who's child and how it is, you will unconsciously have jealousy and comparison, and your distorted psychology will collide with your own cognition, and you will become less and less talkative, and even depressed.

If parents often say that their children are good and good, the children will be more confident and have a closer relationship with their parents. If parents always criticize their children, saying that they are not well-behaved, hateful, don't want you anymore, upset, etc., the child will have low self-esteem and a more distant relationship with his parents. If your parents scold you badly, you may hold a grudge for the rest of your life.

A child's evaluation of himself is established through his parents' evaluation of himself.

I once saw such a passage: When I was a child, I hated being like my mother, nagging, endless screaming, and uncontrollable temper, but when I grew up, in marriage, I found that I became a person like my mother. Psychologist Hurlbut said:

Children need love, especially when they don't deserve love. When children make mistakes, the way of education just reflects the depth of parental love and the wisdom of love. Don't let your mouth become a sharp knife that pierces the child, don't let your fist fall on the child's body, and don't release the demon that the child hides in the bottom of his heart with his own hands.

Look what was said. I have a brother who is ten years younger than me. Usually, my parents are no different from me and my brother, unlike what people say about patriarchy.

But once, when I was a child, I forgot to have an argument with my brother over some trivial matter, and my father persuaded me to let him, but I didn't listen, so I asked him if he was biased, and he was also angry at that time, and replied to me, ten fingers are still long. This sentence has passed for 10 years, and I have never forgotten it. Although I am quite filial to them now, every time they tell my brother to do things and come to me, I always have a pimple in my heart.

Children can be taught to be disobedient, but don't say hurtful things, even if they can understand when they grow up, but the harm can't be erased.

1. Caring is caring for love, and it is everywhere around us. Each of us needs love, and care is indispensable in life, and if others give us love, then we should care for others even more, so that the world will be full of love!

2. To be a person is to be for yourself.

3. Love is a spring breeze that warms everyone's heart; Love is a torch that illuminates everyone's journey; Love is a harbor that comforts everyone who returns from a long voyage. In life, we have all received the love and love of others, and we have also selflessly cared for others.

4. Care is a kind of giving, care is a kind of dedication, care is a virtue, let us start from a little bit of life, learn to understand, learn to care, learn to be a man. "Love" is the sail, "love yourself" is the boat, only each other's promotion and support, in order to make love forever, love forever.

5. Only pure warmth can warm people's hearts, only sincere emotions can move others, and the so-called help wrapped in money and interests will only cause disgust.

How to describe: meticulous, ask long and short, shh

Caring: Describes being very attentive to people. 3.The words are serious, the words are profound and powerful, and the affection is profound.

Caring and caring for every detail.

Caring. Ask for warmth.

Described as caring and considerate.

Shh Be considerate.

Respecting elders and respecting the opinions of elders is one of the traditional virtues of the Chinese nation, but whether or not to completely obey the opinions of elders should be determined on a case-by-case basis. Advice and opinions from elders may be valuable if they are based on their knowledge and respect for you. This may come from their experience and wisdom, or it may be based on the kind support and help of family and friends and relatives.

If you are accepting the advice of your elders, you also need to think independently and evaluate various options, and constantly develop your own judgment and independent thinking skills.

Sometimes, however, elders may make suggestions that are not entirely correct or outdated, for a variety of reasons. At this time, as a young person, you can respect the opinions of your elders, but you can also be careful to express your thoughts and opinions and discuss them with respect for each other. If you have different opinions during the discussion, you can also make your suggestions and defend your ideas on the basis of respect for your elders.

In general, it is important to respect the return and listen to the opinions of the elders, but it is important to discuss and make decisions based on independent thinking, equal communication, and mutual respect to achieve better decision-making results.

The words of the elders are not necessarily right, no one is perfect, after all, everyone makes mistakes sometimes, and he can't say everything right because he is old.

1) Throw the missing tooth on the roof or under the bed.

When we were children, we must have experienced a period of tooth replacement, where teeth fell out automatically in order to grow new teeth. The elders in the family will ask if it is the upper or lower teeth. If it is in the upper row, the child will be taken to the side of the bed and thrown under the bed; If it's in the lower row, you'll throw the lost teeth on the roof!

It is said that if you do this, your teeth will grow out neatly. The elders will say this, in fact, the intention of comfort is greater, and I hope that the child will not be sad because of this. In fact, after the tooth is lost, remember to check for other unusual conditions first

For example, bleeding does not stop, there is a foreign body in the tooth, and so on. The second is to brush your teeth in the morning and evening to make sure that there is no food residue between your teeth. In this way, the teeth will definitely remain in a "beautiful" state!

2) Nibble on the fish bones and draw a fish pattern in the cup.

When I was a child, I would be extra careful if I ate fish. If a fish bone is accidentally bitten, the elder will pick up the cup and fill it with water, then hold the bottom of the cup with three fingers, draw a fish pattern in the filled cup with chopsticks, and then slowly let the child drink the whole cup of water. Strangely, if the situation is not very serious, you will gradually stop feeling the presence of fish bones in your mouth.

When I grew up, I found that these are actually psychological effects. It is recommended that if you bite the fish bones, do not blindly believe in the soil method, if the situation is too serious or has not improved for a long time, do not hesitate to consult a professional doctor immediately!

3) Do not eat eggs before the test.

I believe most people have heard it when they were young: "Before the exam, you can't eat eggs, otherwise you will get zero eggs in the exam!" The elders would say this because chickens envy eggs and zero eggs are related to the word "egg".

In fact, they also wish the children a smooth exam! Eggs can not only provide the protein that the body needs, but also refresh the mind and enhance memory. The most important thing is not to eat greasy food before the exam, and try to eat as light as possible to avoid stomach pain affecting the exam.

When you take the exam, relax and prepare for your homework, so you don't have to prepare for the exam too badly!

4) After eating, do not leave the rice grains and rolling dates on the plate.

When many people are young, if the elders of the family see that the child has finished eating, but there are some uneaten grains left on the plate, they will start to say: "When you grow up, your wife and husband will have such a grain on their faces!" It means that when the child grows up, the other half of the child will have something similar to pimples on his face.

In fact, the elders will say this, and the biggest intention is to hope that the children will not waste food. As the saying goes: "Who knows that Chinese food on the plate, every grain is fortunate."

From an early age, we must know how to cherish food and cultivate the virtue of not wasting food.

I understand the importance of elders to our life experiences and wisdom. However, we also need to respect our own ideas and decisions, and take into account our own needs and interests. Therefore, we should find a balance between listening to our elders and our own ideas.

First of all, we should listen to our elders because they usually have more life experience and wisdom. They may be able to provide some helpful advice and guidance to help us better cope with life's challenges.

Secondly, we should try to understand the reasons behind the views and opinions of our elders. They may make suggestions based on their own values or their views on the issue. If we can understand their perspectives, we can better communicate and negotiate to find a common solution.

Finally, we should maintain our own independent thinking and judgment. We cannot blindly and bend our eyes to accept the opinions of our elders, nor can we ignore our own ideas and interests. We need to find a balance between listening to our elders and our own ideas, and make the decision that is best for us.

In conclusion, it is important to listen to the opinions of our elders, but this does not mean that we should completely passively accept their opinions. Instead, we should try to understand the opinions of our elders and the reasons behind them, and maintain our own independent thinking and judgment. Only in this way can we better cope with life's challenges and live a happier and more satisfying life.

You didn't tell our elders what they said, is there any truth to what the elders said? It depends on the specifics, generally speaking, there is always a nuclear grind in the words of the elders. After all, they have been through a lot.

1. Life needs a grateful heart to create, and a grateful heart needs life to nourish.

2. Dad is the character who takes the longest time to understand.

3. Father's love is like the sky, rough and far-reaching, so that I dare not howl with pity in my heart.

4. Insist that Qingshan will not relax, father, if you are firm and brave if you are brave, I love you deeply.

5. A song that I have been singing since I was a child and never get tired of listening: Straw sandals are boats, dad is sails, accompany me to set sail.

6. My father, like a driver, controls me and keeps me from going astray by slippery rental.

7. The mountain is so tall, stable and deep; And I have a father's love of my own, a father's love like a mountain.

8. It was your unrequited love that built me a home.

9. Always with thoughts, give me warmth, dispel the cold, and fill the warmth. Happy and healthy Father's Day!

10. Capture the softest breeze, and wish my father a good night with a smile.

11. Father, although my son can't always accompany you, your serious face and his sincere love are always with me and inspire me.

12. On Father's Day, please send him this blessing, I believe he will be happy all day!

13. In this great festival in the world, I wish: look up to spring, bow down to autumn. May all happiness follow you.

Hello dear, many elders like to teach others every day, they think that self-luck is the elders themselves have experienced a lot of things, and their own views on things are correct, and these young people will not do things, and the elders also like to use their own experience to teach others to do things, but these experiences can no longer be used.

Elders like to preach because they have a sense of age superiority.

Elders like to preach to others, and they feel that what they say is right. Elders rely on their age and seniority, so they can casually preach and criticize others, because even if he says it, others dare not refute it, because he is an elder and he is old. So he slowly developed such a bad habit, and he himself felt that it was very good, but in the eyes of others, he had no choice but to endure it, and he couldn't disrespect his elders, just listen to it himself, and he wouldn't take it seriously.

Very to the elders think that they have experienced a lot of things, so some of the ways they say about some things are also correct, and they have to let those young people do things according to their own words, but young people have their own methods and plans, so they often contradict each other because of the disagreement of views, and in the end it is often the end of the young man who contradicts the elder who gives him experience, and often complains that the young man is disobedient, so the young man is very rare.

Some of the lessons given by the elders are not so useful now.

Many elders just like to give all kinds of advice to young people who are stupid, saying that they should get married at twenty, and if they don't get married, no one will want them, the sooner they get married, the better, if others don't listen to what they say, they will get angry and lose their temper, and finally they will quarrel, many of the elders' experience is outdated, and it is not suitable for the current society at all, so we must listen to the opinions of the elders appropriately.

The elders like to preach to others for the good of these young people, but many experiences are no longer applicable to this society, and they will still speak these experiences, as juniors, they only need to listen to it, and there is no need to take it seriously. I hope my help to you, and I wish you a happy life.