How can you refuse your roommate s unreasonable request in a way that doesn t offend them?

From an early age, we learned to be humble and tolerant, and not to say "no". When faced with an unreasonable request from a roommate, the best way to say no is to justify your refusal. Tell her sincerely that you have your own things to be busy with, and you will help when you are free and willing to help, don't be afraid that she will be angry, and no one can serve another person for no reason.

(1) The best way is to express one's refusal with reason.

My former roommate was a clingy little girl who needed another companion for everything, and she didn't like to use her brain, and she was always dependent on others. Once, I wanted to rest at home, and her deadly chain came again. She wanted to go shopping, but she didn't want to go alone, so she asked me to go with her.

I hesitated, embarrassed to refuse, and went with her. In the process of shopping, I was tired and not very interested, and she also felt it, and her mood was relatively low. We walked around the street and felt like we were rushing to the execution ground, and both sides were very unhappy.

Not long after shopping, we went back. When she got home, she said she didn't want to go, she didn't want to go, and it was the same as what she owed me. Since then, every time I don't want to go, I have made it clear that I have refused, and she has stopped pestering.

Now we have a good relationship, and we will still share delicious food and have fun together.

(2) Tell her sincerely that you have your own things to be busy with, and you will help when you are free and willing to help.

Never live in your own imagination, and don't be afraid of the bad results of your imagination. We need to be brave enough to express our thoughts and communicate honestly with our roommates. This way everyone will not get tired, and you will find that your roommate is not as unreasonable as you think.

Then start by setting up a kind of person who is not easy to say everything to others, after all, good people sometimes hurt people.

As long as you refuse, you will offend them, but you have to think about why should I accept it if it is all unreasonable requests, you will have a second time if you indulge once.

Look at what the request, it's too much to refuse in person, you can say that I really can't help you, next time I can help if I can, and I think my roommate won't be so unfamiliar if you refuse with a gentle attitude.

If you want to say no to their unreasonable request, you can just tell them that you are not interested and that you are a little busy right now.

You can tell your roommate that you have something particularly urgent to attend to that day, and you're really sorry for not being able to help him.

Getting along with people has always been a big problem, you need emotional intelligence to deal with it, otherwise it will leave a big problem, when your roommate always troubles herself, let yourself help her, at this time you should learn to refuse, but you can't be ruthless, which will affect each other's feelings.

I believe that it is annoying to be troubled by other people's behavior of always bothering you, and if your roommate still takes the trouble to trouble you, you should excuse yourself from having other things to do and can't help the other person to do it. When telling the other person, the attitude should be gentle, so as not to leave a bad impression and affect the relationship between each other.

Some people will be emboldened if they don't refuse all the time, thinking that it is a matter of course for you to help her do things, and it is acceptable to do it once or twice, but you can't let the other party rely on you all the time. Although roommates are very close and live together every day, they do not need to be responsible to each other, which will affect their lives.

In the face of the trouble of your roommate, you must have your own position, otherwise your future life will be affected, and it will also bring great inconvenience to yourself. As an independent person, you can give warmth to the other person when they need help, but it does not mean that you will help the other person at all times, so that the other person will never grow up. <>

Roommates should be united and help each other, but they can't always choose to tolerate each other, which will also make it difficult for themselves in the end. When the roommate is always troublesome to himself, at this time he should tell the other party that he is not going way, which is a good way to refuse, and if he does not refuse, he will fuel the other party's arrogance and make himself suffer a lot of grievances.

I think you just say that you are also busy and don't have time to take care of her affairs, and you can clearly refuse, so that she will not continue to trouble you next time.

I need to talk to the other party directly, I can't do this thing by myself, and I feel very inconvenient, so I won't ask myself for help next time.

You can directly reject the other party, because such a person is very disrespectful to you, so there is no need to show mercy to the other party, and you must keep a safe distance from the other party.

You can tell your roommate that you don't have time. You can also reject your roommate outright. You also have to keep a certain distance from your roommates and learn to reject people.

How to skillfully reject a roommate is actually a college question, because everyone is under the same roof and spends a lot of time togetherIf the rejection is too direct, it will make it awkward for both people to get along; But if you blindly don't refuse, then others will think that you are easy to talk to, and you will continue to trouble you in the future, and it will also affect your daily life.

Then you might as well try the following methods to decline your roommate's request.

1.Make the right excuses

If you don't know how to say no head-on, then you must learn how to make the right excuses. An excuse doesn't have to mean lying. It's that you know, that's not the real reason.

A good excuse can not only make it reasonable for you to decline your roommate's request, but it will not ruin your relationship. You have made excuses to refuse many times, and you are silently telling her: you don't want to, don't trouble you in the future.

2. Explain the reason for rejection

When rejecting others, you must simply explain it to the other party, and don't be vague, otherwise it is easy to cause misunderstanding among others, or it will make others feel that there is room for things and do not hesitate to ask again.

If she lets you give it to herBring riceand you tell herYou don't go to the cafeteria or don't go back to the dorm after you go to the cafeteria.

IfShe calls you out to playYou can talk to herYou don't have time to prepare for something very important or you have made an appointment in advance, and you will go with her next time.

The most important thing about rejecting others isClear and directDon't drag your feet and make others think you're making excuses or hesitating.

3. Learn to refuse tactfully

When rejecting someone, if you can tactfully explain the reason and refuse with a tactful attitude, they will understand your sincerity.

So when you refuse, be able toBe smiling and dignified, so that others can feel your respect and politeness to herEven if you reject it, you can accept it gladly.

When your roommate asks you to do something, you can apologize and say, "Thank you for the invitation, but it's inconvenient right now." or"I'm sorry, I've been a bit busy lately and I can't help"。Then after rejecting the roommate,Give her some help in other ways to show your self-cultivation.

Conclusion:

Although it is difficult for many people to say no to others, they will feel embarrassed or embarrassed, butRejecting others is a compulsory course for everyone, after all, life is one's own, and no one is wronged. Your kindness is not the reason why others bully you!

In the dormitory, some roommates will ask others for all kinds of invitations, can you help me bring a meal? Can you help me get a takeaway? Can you help me get a courier?..

You want to refuse all kinds of requests, but you don't know how to refuse, so let me tell you how to refuse various requests from roommates in the dormitory?

This method, for most people, actually isNot very applicableIt is very unfriendly to social terrorists. But outright refusal isA very quick and easy way to do it, so to be able to reject that outrightBe sure to refuse outright

Be brave and learn to say no, there's nothing to be ashamed of, it may be a little difficult the first time, but it's good to experience it

I don't like to be a good personDon't force yourself！If you've been too embarrassed to refuseEvery time, I help others with an unhappy mood, that to yourselfNo benefit at all, not only no good, but also ifYour words have been helping them, they'll thinkThese are the things you should do, it willInch by inchAnything will come to youand your help every timeNot even once in exchange for their gratitude, soLearn to say no

Remember, you don't need to please everyoneMaybe if you are nice to them, they will say bad things about you in private！So don't please everyoneIf you are asked to do something you don't want to do, say it

And he said to them:I'm sorry, I don't really want to help you, you can find someone else！If they still want you to do it, you still stick to your own ideasDon't be soft-hearted and say yes

That's allSay no a few more times and they won't let you help again

Here's an example: you're going out and your roommate asks you to bring food.

Then you can lie to her, what to sayI don't have any money for my meal card, so you let someone else bring itbar. Or ratherI probably won't go back to my dorm or something.

This approach is specialApply the social phobia styleI don't recommend it this wayIf you want me to say, it's the method aboveIt is very good to refuse outright.

How did it feel to live with your classmates and college roommates? Did your roommate make any unreasonable requests to you? But you are too embarrassed to refuse others, so you can only bear it silently.

Next, the senior sister combined her own experience in college dormitory life to help the students summarize a set of methods. In this way, everyone will not offend anyone, and they will be able to refuse the unreasonable request of their roommate!

Don't always be so strong in front of your roommates. We need to learn to pretend to be weak! Why do your roommates come to you first whenever something happens?

It's because of your strength! Anything, you can do it. For example:

You will always be able to do the homework assigned by the school teacher very quickly. Some roommates, in this case, will refer to your homework, or copy it. If your student is having any of the above problems, you can tell your roommate that you haven't done your homework either.

Or rather, you're having something wrong in something and can't continue.

When your roommate asks for help, you will be embarrassed. You have to reassure him, otherwise it will be difficult for you to refuse. Now, you can talk to him!

You do things for him, and he will do things for you. If he won't help, you can also refuse.

If the other person speaks again, you will change your mind, which will only give you more choice, and you will not be responsible for you or others. On the contrary, it will affect their work and leave a bad impression on them. We often say no to other people's requests on the grounds that we need to think about it.

He did this in order to stall for time and make it difficult for his opponent to retreat. If you are not willing to say no to your face, then you must clearly tell him how long it will take to show your sincerity.

Summary

Senior sister wrote three methods above, all of which were summarized by my daily contact with my college roommates. If the roommate is really in trouble, we can help him within our means. But some roommates have the ability to do it themselves, and they have to seek help from others.

Sometimes, helping him will delay your own business, and I think you need to think about it!

As we all know, in the process of going to school, there are often situations where roommates trouble themselves, and they will also kidnap others with morality and ask themselves to help him do a lot of things. Therefore, you can directly refuse with words, or you can resist with words, so that you can effectively express your attitude. So what should we do to avoid our emotional friction and get along better with our roommates, I will give a few suggestions that I feel are more reasonable.

1. Speak out loud about yourself and your inner thoughtsLearn to say no

Precisely because you don't dare to directly refuse your roommate's request,So roommates will often ask you to bring meals and do other things often, and they won't even appreciate you for your actions。I think it's a very unfortunate thing, if you can't be confident, your relationship will not be equal, which means that your relationship itself is not as good as you think, and you don't have to help someone who won't thank you many times.

Second, find more things to make your time sufficient(This can directly dispel their unreasonable thoughts).

Don't always stay in the dormitory, do more activities in the dormitory, such as going out for self-study, sports, and parties in your spare time. In this way, you don't have the time and excuse to be used by others. If you're afraid that your relationship with your roommate will be too stalemate, you can invite them to join you so that your roommate relationship won't be too awkward.

Three,Learn to be independent(College is not like elementary school, a lone wolf goes alone).

No matter how you get along with others, there will always be people in this world who like you, and there will also be people who hate you. I think you need to be more courageous in your interpersonal interactions, and you don't have to suffer from these little things.

You must know that everyone's personality is different, so it is normal that there will definitely be some friction or things in the process of getting along with roommates during the boarding period. Because roommates need to run in, if they don't run in, then they can't get together。Even if you say no, it is nothing more than that others have not asked for help from you, which is also a result that you are more inclined to see.