What views of the older generation are the least acceptable to you?

Because of the difference in the concept of life, many people will find that some of the views of the older generation are unacceptable to our young people. Today, I would like to share with you a few points of view that I cannot accept.

1. Get married when you are old

The first is that you must get married. Because now as the new generation of young people gets older, and then the older generation will keep urging us to get married, both men and women. But in fact, with the increasing pressure of life, many young people do not want to get married, or do not want to bear the pressure of a new family, or feel that they are very single and good, so they will be very impatient with the urging of the elderly.

But many old people don't understand this truth, they just blindly let us get married, saying that it would be good to get married, so I can't accept this point of view.

Second, you must give birth to a boy

The second is that you must have a boy. This view is especially aimed at women, who will think that boys are the ones who stand up for the house, and girls are married daughters, and the water that is spilled has no effect. But in fact, in today's society, this point of view has fallen behind, with the gradual equality of the status of men and women, daughters can also provide for their parents if they are very filial, and the status of sons and daughters is the same, there is no patriarchal statement.

Thirdly, non-establishment is not a formal job

It's good work that's in the establishment. The last point is particularly unacceptable to me, because my mother has always said in my ear that only formal establishment is an iron rice bowl and a formal job. Although it is undeniable that the work in the establishment is very stable, it does not mean that other jobs are not formal jobs, because as long as a person has the ability, he can shine brightly, and not everyone is suitable for the work in the establishment.

The older generation has a different concept from what we have now, also because the living environment and era of the two generations are different. And to treat these nagging of the elderly, we can just listen to it, and don't take it too seriously.

The older generation of people think that it is useless to have a fixed amount of effort in this life, and that no matter what you do, it is arranged by God and can never be changed, these views are the most unacceptable to me.

A boy must be born to inherit the incense. This kind of thinking is really patriarchal, and I feel very disrespectful to girls.

The older generation thinks that if they don't have a son, they will cut off their children and grandchildren, and they think that girls are not as good as boys, who said that women are not as good as men, what age is it now, and who has a throne waiting to be inherited.

The feudal ideas of the older generation, for example, patriarchal preference are the most unacceptable to me. In their eyes, men are a piece of heaven, and women are always to be married, and they are from other people's families.

I can't accept the views of the older generation the most, that is, I prefer sons over daughters, and I feel that my business daughters are like the sky falling, and many of them have daughters, but they are actually very happy.

The older generation always thinks that it is too much if you are not married after the age of twenty-five, but we have not been graduating for a long time, and we can't get married just because we are old enough to meet the right person.

Everything must be for the sake of the child, no matter how much the other party has done to him, he must blindly endure for the sake of the child.

I found that in the concept of my parents' generation, "other people's opinions and their own face" always came first.

For example, when talking about marriage, we all hope to find a person who can talk about and agree with each other's three views to marry, if we don't meet, even if we are 30 years old, we will not force ourselves to marry someone who doesn't like very much. Therefore, for us, if we really get married, it must be the relationship between the two people in the first place.

But when it comes to your parents, as soon as you reach the so-called "marriageable age", as long as you are alive, they will urge you to marry all day long. In their eyes, it seems that what feelings and three views are not very important, and the most important thing is to realize the wish of "holding a grandson" as soon as possible!

Something like that would be like, "You're 28 years old and you're not married?" Everyone else laughed at our family! "You look at others, it's not much like you, the children are all studying", "You don't have a boyfriend during the New Year, and I have lost face for you!" ”

Sometimes, I wonder who they are talking about by "others"? Why is that other person so powerful, I don't get married, he sometimes makes fun of me, he doesn't have to work, he doesn't have to live?

Did I bring my boyfriend home for the Chinese New Year, which also has a good face with my parents? Aren't we all earning our own face? Could it be that he came back by "charity" from others? Do you do anything with care to respect the eyes of others?

I don't know if my parents are tired of surviving like this, but I'm tired of hearing it anyway. The most important thing for being born as a human being is to be able to live as you are comfortable, rather than living under the eyes of others.

1. "The big one has to be let go, and the middle one should not only let the small one but also let the big one" Old History: Infinite Forward - So Far Suggestion: Look at specific things; Look at the age difference.

2. "In addition to teachers, doctors, and civil servants, other professions are a little unprofessional (in fact, they don't understand other professions, and only know these three professions)" Outdated history: at the beginning of the founding of the People's Republic of China - to the present (mainly rural) Suggestion: Abandon this concept as soon as possible!

3. "In addition to teachers, doctors, and civil servants, working outside = entering the factory: the factory has not yet had a holiday?" Is there food and accommodation in the factory?

Amount (o)....Old History: From the Beginning of the Founding of the People's Republic of China to the Present (Mainly in Rural Areas) Suggestion: Parents, go out and walk more, except for students, patients, and the country; And the earth to save!

4. "It is natural for girls to marry into other people's homes to clean, cook, and wash clothes" Outdated History: Infinite Forward - Around 2010 Suggestion: Abolish, in fact, there are few such things around now.

6. The old history of "patriarchy": infinitely forward-so far (a few) suggestion: Of course, it is recommended to abandon this kind of thinking, but with the continuous increase in the cost of marriage, many parents have begun to miss their daughters.

Of course, hopefully there is a real idea of equality between men and women, not the cost of raising children.

7. "Women can't sit down to eat" Old History: Unknown Suggestion: Of course, it should be criticized.

Now I really see very little, almost nothing. It is said, but it is said that there are many places in a large northern province where this concept is so obvious! I don't know if it's true or not.

In fact, many times when old family members have dinner together, many female friends will not take the initiative to participate in those "shouting" at the table, most of them are drunk and can't get off the stage. Therefore, it is easy to create the illusion that women cannot sit down.

8. "Don't go out to play if it's okay, girls go crazy every day." Stale History: Moving Forward Infinitely – Advice So Far:

The child has to interact with each other, and the dog at home has to walk every morning and evening. Anyway, the little girl who put forward this concept should be a student, and when you reach the marriageable age, try it, drive you out in minutes, and where do you come from at home, hehe

9. "We do this for your good" Obsolete History: Infinite Forward - Suggestion So far: Uh, sometimes you will find that they are really for your good Can't accept the ideas of the elders and the concepts of the older generation can't accept them.

10. "I always think that young people must endure more hardships, and it is best to endure the hardships of their childhood again."

It's all for your own good!

I'm all for your good", I think everyone should have heard their parents say this.

Whether it's beating or scolding, they'll tell you, "I'm doing this for your own good!" They will stick to their point of view and never ignore your ideas, because they think, "I have eaten more salt than you have eaten rice," and "Can I still hurt you?" ”

The older generation's unacceptable notions, "I'm all for your good".

I don't want you to think, I just want me to feel", "you don't think it's important, listen to me, listen to me" ......

They don't care about your opinions, your thoughts, they just want to instill their ideas in you, as long as you are obedient, as long as you are obedient enough. Ironically, when you reach adulthood, they instantly start relying on you again and think you're an adult.

You listen to what adults say, and you are not allowed to reply, even if you say something wrong, you can't do it, and if you reply, you are not filial.

In the eyes of some people, their children are inferior to them, after all, they are all born "by themselves", everything is given by themselves, and they still want equality, why do they still want to go to heaven?

If you don't obey, you will be beaten and scolded, after all, "I can educate my own children how they want, what do you outsiders do?" ”

Children should listen to what adults say, at a young age, what do you know?

Girls must do more housework, otherwise they will be disgusted when they go to their in-laws' house.

Girls should be diligent, learn to cook, learn to do housework, and usually do everything at home, so that they will be proficient in their in-laws' house and will not be disliked. As for the boys? "How can a boy do housework? "A man should be the breadwinner, and he should go out and work hard......”

Girls also work to make money, and the fact that they can earn a higher salary than boys is often perfectly ignored, and even some old people think, "You are so powerful, how can anyone want it?" ”

Who do girls rely on when they don't get married and grow up? Who do you rely on when you don't have children and get old?

Don't want to get married? Who do you rely on if you don't get married? Don't think about letting your brother raise a child, but no aunt wants a nephew to raise it. ”

I have money", "What's wrong with being rich, which one do you see, what's wrong with more money, can the nanny you ask have your own children?" If you hire a bad one, you will be swept away ...... money”

As for their own children, they are not filial, and they usually don't care much about them, and they are perfectly ignored.

Be sure to have a son.

Your daughter will marry sooner or later, and your son is your own, so do you want your daughter to support you in the future? How can a son-in-law raise a mother-in-law? Or have to have a son. Pregnant and a daughter? Knock it out, knock it out, while you are young and reborn, you will definitely be able to give birth to a son's ......

The life of an unmarried woman is incomplete.

How old are you and not married? If you don't look for it now, you won't be able to find it later", "Don't want to get married yet? Who do you rely on when you don't get married? You're alone, and no one knows about headaches and brain fever......s."

Although they themselves may not be happy in life, their husbands and wives are separated, and even domestic violence is abused, they still stubbornly believe that they want to get married!!

The older generation's unacceptable notions, "I'm all for your good".

It is often said that the next generation is like a mountain, but in fact, there is a gap of 3 years a generation. Therefore, it is conceivable that if it is 30 years old, it will be even farther apart. Coupled with the rapid development of the times, earth-shaking changes occur every other year, and there are great changes this year and last year, not to mention the difference between this year and 30 years ago.

Therefore, there is a big difference between the thinking of the new generation and the views of the older generation, and it comes from many reasons.

In the minds of the older generation, their lives are basically more difficult. At that time, the country was in a slow development, and the high-tech and industrial capacity were still relatively weak, so most people at that time relied on labor to create value. Most people don't have a good environment to read and learn, so they are more hungry for knowledge.

Most of the people who had the opportunity to go to school entered public institutions, which was also the kind of iron rice bowl that many people dreamed of at that time. Therefore, in the minds of the older generation, it is necessary to study hard and embark on the path of knowledge; Units that can enter the country are the best; In life, you must definitely be diligent, down-to-earth, and develop good habits of thrift, etc.

However, the contemporary new youth do not have the ideas of the older generation at all, they are advanced, trendy, and bold, and most of this is also due to their living environment. After all, for now, intelligence is developing rapidly, which replaces manual labor, so it can create value without labor. Moreover, the development of the current era is too fast, the competition is fierce, and there is no iron rice bowl, so you have to rely on yourself to fight for it.

But in life, the new generation also feels that they should enjoy life as much as possible, rather than being a slave to life.

Therefore, young people do not agree with the views of the older generation, they feel that the views of the older generation have been eliminated by the market, just like the elements that were popular in those years have long been discarded. And now it's the world of a new generation. In the eyes of the new generation, the ideas of the older generation are no longer useful, so they naturally do not accept them.

Young people's minds are relatively new, so I can't accept them. This kind of thinking is especially normal and does not have too many effects.

Because times have changed, and the ideas of the new generation of young people are more avant-garde, so they cannot accept the traditional ideas of the elderly.