How can I improve my necessity and need in the eyes of my friends?

First, improve your own strength and ability, when your talent is far superior to others, there is no doubt that you are the leader of your small team. When encountering any difficulties, when there are any setbacks that are difficult to solve, your little friends first think of asking you to help solve this matter, ask your opinions, listen to your views, look at your analysis, learn your ideas, and have a little worship for you. And your ability is very sufficient, compared to them, can better analyze the problem, find the most appropriate way, solve the problem is also handy, many things are confident, more confident than others, prestige, indispensable.

Second, he has a lively and cheerful personality, is not easy to be cold, and is the one who enlivens the atmosphere. We all know that when there are too many people at an event, the person who warms up is especially essential. The sudden silence of a team is more awkward than when two people have nothing to say together.

You will find a particularly lively and cheerful person, in every team activity, people always think of him first, most of them hope that they can come, the more they can warm up, the better the person, the more people are needed. So when you can't quickly improve your talents, you can improve your courage, make yourself not stage frightened, watch some humorous jokes, and give people a sense that you are very interesting. This way, people will be more willing to play with you.

The feeling of being important and being needed is even stronger.

Third, treat people sincerely and warmly, treat your friends with a sincere heart, people get along with each other is a two-way street, you treat others really, and others treat you really. Help them solve small problems and small troubles often, and they will miss you very much, and they will naturally see you as more important. Your necessity is needed and thus revealed.

First of all, you need to be like-minded and have the same ideas about people and things, which will make you have a strong friendship.

The reason why friends become friends is because they are blessed to share the difficulties together, to be happy together when they are happy, and to be considerate of each other when they are sad. If you and your friends can be like-minded, gradually your friendship should be very strong, and you don't need to worry too much about whether you are necessary in the hearts of your friends, you need each other.

Secondly, you should be clear about what knowledge and skills you have to help your friends, everyone has a good field, use your own strengths to help your friends, find your own shortcomings and ask for help from friends, so that you and your friends can get along with each other into a strong communication and strong connection.

Sometimes it is not their own simple output to establish a close relationship, friends may have a sense of being needed, there is knowledge to share in a timely manner, there are problems to seek advice in a timely manner, with such an attitude to get along with friends, most people will be very accepting of having a friend like you around them.

Thirdly, you should think about whether your ability to share and drive is strong enough.

If you have enough knowledge, or breadth or depth, then you can gradually become an opinion leader, and you will have a lot of friends around you who need your knowledge to help them, and they will want to make friends with you. You can also go to various sources to collect various resources, or improve certain skills, and then see if your friends have corresponding needs.

Next, let's talk about what abilities need to be improved for self-improvement?

The first is reading ability, which is the ability to input knowledge.

Second, the ability to organize knowledge.

Third, summarize the output capacity.

Fourth, the ability to share.

Fifth, action.

Sixth, perseverance.

Seventh, human connection.

Work hard to improve yourself, and friends will come naturally.

I think you have to have a lot of good relationships with your friends, and if you don't have a good relationship with your friends, she won't need you in particular, and you don't have that much need, so you have to have a good relationship with your friends.

You have to care more about your friends, because you only have to care more about your friends, let your friends be more kind of to you, have needs, make your friends feel that you are a very down-to-earth person, help friends understand you better, and there are some things you need to take the initiative to help friends, let friends understand that you are sincere to him, and then he will increase his need for you.

Friends are friends who like to be strict-mouthed, if your person is more reliable, and he trusts you more as a person, she will definitely tell you something, but this matter will also be related to the severity, and it will also be related to his future life, if she often tells you, it means that your needs are very great, and he trusts you a lot.

You have to chat with your friends more, to understand your friend's current situation more, if you don't talk to her normally, I guess your very good friend will too, and you don't need you much, because you are not by his side, and you don't want to know his current situation, and you don't behave so much towards him

For example, my best friend said that we have all kinds of chats, and I also understand his current life, and I will also care about her, now life, although we are far away, but we still say everything, eh? And he cares about her in everything, and he is very big about my surname, and he thinks that others are not as important as me.

Then this need is mutual, if your friends need you very much, I guess you have a special need for your friends, because you two time first, if you are not really giving, I guess it is really a need sex is not particularly large, cherish your friendship, and your need for sex, because now it is really rare, and true feelings are really rare!

If you just want to improve your necessity and need in the heart of a friend, then you have to start from two aspects, if you just want to improve your necessity and need in a friend's heart, then it is much easier, you only need to do it according to his habits and needs, so that your necessity and need in his heart will increase.

But if you want to improve your necessity and need in the minds of a group of friends, it will be more complicated, because everyone's needs for friends will be different, some people want to get help when making friends is financial, some people want to get help from friends at work, and some people want to get help from friends in the heart. <>

Everyone's need for friends is not a single aspect, and even more or less in these three aspects, but which aspect will be the main aspect will vary from person to person, so if you want to become an important person in the minds of a group of friends and the person who is needed, then you must fully understand what each person needs for you.

And do you have the ability to be the person the other person needs, if you don't have the ability to become the person he needs, then you can't improve yourself in his mind of necessity and need, in today's society about 90% of people make friends usually to take advantage of others.

And in today's society, friends are originally using each other, if you want to become a necessary person in the minds of others, a person who is needed by others, then you have to work hard to make yourself continue to increase the value that can be used, only in this way can you improve your necessity and need in the minds of others.

Friendship is a topic that we have to face as we grow up, the necessity in the hearts of friends, in terms of this general question, how important are you in the hearts of your friends?

For such a problem, I think it depends first of all on your own ability, people gather by like, want others to think that you are important, in difficult times to be able to think of you, first of all, you must have outstanding characteristics or ability in a certain aspect, your ability will make others feel that when they encounter something, they will discuss with you, and there may be a better solution, or you have the ability to help your friend solve the problem, so that you naturally have the necessity in your friend's heart.

Why do we say that? Some people may think that this kind of friendship is more utilitarian and no longer what we first knew, but when you are twenty years old, when you sit with your five-year-old playmate, what do you talk about? Naturally, when we remember the time we have gone, you will feel that such friendship is precious, but there is nothing else, and then we will feel that such a friend is important?

If we don't see each other for a long time, how can we talk about the importance of such friends?

For another example, if you are not very good at studying, and you have a friend who happens to be very good at studying, what is the first thought when you encounter problems with homework? Naturally, you want to go and ask for advice, and you will attach great importance to such a friend in your heart, because you know that he can help you, just like if you borrow money, it will be a little better than usual, not worse than yourself.

Finally, in addition to your own ability, it also depends on whether you will take the initiative to help your friends in your daily life, so that your friends will naturally know that you are capable and willing to help them.

Of course, it is to make them feel that it is most reliable to ask you for help in doing something, you know a lot, and you are steady. Naturally, the presence among friends is high.

Making friends is more about finding a good helper in life, not just pulling others to play games, clubbing, etc. all day long. And when something comes to you, you are shirking, so that your friends will think that you are unreliable, and your sense of being needed between them will be reduced.

First of all, borrowing money, everyone will have a difficult time, as friends should try to help them as much as possible. Because compared to money and friendship, I think everyone should know which is more important, money can be earned again, but it is really difficult for friends to be sincere.

In this way, your friends will feel that you value friendship as a person, and you will naturally have a necessity.

When you're with your friends and you're having trouble discussing where to go, you have to step up and lead everyone to a place where everyone is satisfied. This requires you to slowly accumulate in your daily life and get along with your friends to understand their interests and hobbies.

In this way, you become a kind of leader, and at the next party, you are the first person to arrive. When I was in high school, I was among a few of my friends, and they even asked the girl to come to me and tell him where to go.

You also have to help them with things, and I've helped out with almost all of my friends' moves, and I've helped out with some of my friends' families when they're busy with the farm. Even I have a good relationship with their parents.

When all your friends feel that you are an indispensable person, you have succeeded in doing so.

First of all, introverts don't like to talk, it's a problem of their own personality, there is no so-called right or wrong in personality problems, after all, everyone has a different environment and experience since childhood, so no one can evaluate other people's personalities, because you don't know if you have the same experience as him in the same environment, whether you can perform better than him, so each of us can do all about other people's personalities, don't have to understand, but please respect. Having said that, for ourselves, even if there is no right or wrong, we should also recognize our own character shortcomings, in order to better communicate with others and better develop our work, we may sometimes need to push ourselves and try to break through ourselves. There may indeed be people who say what to insist on being yourself, don't force yourself to change, but the fact is that everyone is forced to change as soon as they enter the society, this is not something we can decide, the society is the fittest, the survival of the fittest, unwilling to change, even if you can survive, you must be barely mixed, so you need to realize that we do not have to change, but in order to develop better in this society, we need to change, and only our hearts really accept this understanding, will take the initiative to try to break through and improve themselves, so that they usually talk more in the process of communicating with others, more interaction, this is the most effective.

As for some people who say that they apply for training courses and practice eloquence, I personally think that these are more effective in improving their language skills, and they are not very suitable for introverts to break through themselves. I hope that what I have said will be useful to you in thinking about this issue, and I hope that you will be able to break through yourself in terms of communication.

1. Exercise eloquence: watch more jokes, stories, news and other things that interest you. Memorize the content and share it with your friends or loved ones.

2. Communicate from simple to difficult: first contact your existing friends. Chat more with colleagues in the same position, try to communicate with your boss and colleagues in other departments about the problems you encounter at work, try to become friends with old customers, try to contact old classmates...

Only then did I think about meeting strangers. But be careful, it's easy for colleagues to become friends, but the probability of becoming friends is very low, after all, you're going to work to earn money, not to make friends.

3. More hobbies: try more new things, if you have money, you can participate in such as travel, self-driving tours, cycling, and participate in group activities in the Q group. If you don't have money, you can learn singing, dancing, English, etc. online.

If you are really poor, you can go to the welfare home to volunteer for free, and you can also meet new people.

4. Speak louder, don't be afraid to say the wrong thing, everyone is afraid, when I presided over the conference of 700 people, my legs trembled, and I was afraid of saying the wrong thing when I interviewed employees.

5. Communicate more with my family: I used to be afraid to talk to my parents, but now I am not afraid, even if my father still scolds me often, but I will tell him what I think is right, listen to what he thinks, listen more and talk more, only to find out that my parents love me very much. So now I have my own husband and children, and I also treat them as good friends, and I often talk with my husband about online news, games, and play with children.