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Speaking of integrity, the ancient sages set an example for us more than 2,000 years ago. Let's take a look at the parenting methods of the thinker Zeng Zi in the Spring and Autumn period. One day, Zengzi's wife was going to the market, and his son was crying and going with him.
The mother coaxed her son, saying, "Go home first." Wait for me to come back from the market and kill pigs and roast meat for you to eat.
After listening to his mother's words, the son stopped making trouble and obediently returned home. After his great-wife came back from the market, the child shouted that he wanted to kill the pig and eat meat. After Zeng Zi understood the situation, he didn't say a word, he picked up the knife and went to kill the pig, and his wife hurriedly stepped forward to stop him
I'm just talking and playing with my children, what are you serious? Zeng Zi said solemnly: "Teaching by example is more important than teaching, if we adults do not believe in our words, how can we educate our children to abide by integrity?"
After saying this, he killed the pig and boiled the meat for the child to eat.
Ever since I became a mother and my son was sensible, I treated him as a friend. Whatever cannot be done, we will never promise lightly. When my son was three years old, one summer evening, Xiao Liu, a student who lived in the dormitory, went out to eat, and in order to make my son happy, he said that he would come back and bring him ice cream to eat.
As a result, it was very late and Xiao Liu was gone. The son insisted on not sleeping in his grandmother's arms, muttering about why Uncle Liu hadn't come back yet. In the end, the person waited, but Xiao Liu patted his head and said, oh, I forgot!
The child burst into tears. Until now, my son is in high school, and he still remembers this incident vividly. In the eyes of adults, children may be just children, ignorant and ignorant, but in fact, their feelings are delicate and sensitive, and they cannot be hurt in the slightest.
The deliberate pursuit and cultivation of integrity in China's traditional culture can be seen from the story of Zengzi killing a pig to show his letter. The tears of my son's grievances also made me deeply understand how important family education plays in the growth of children. As parents, every word and deed in life has a subtle impact on children.
You can't make the mistake of thinking that children are easy to coax and deceive, regardless of whether the child's request is appropriate or not, blindly promise. We should be honest and honest in our words. We can satisfy reasonable and feasible wishes, and on the contrary, we must make a clear statement:
No! And make it clear.
Only in this way will your children follow your example, keep their promises, and be sincere to others.
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Zeng Zi, also known as Zeng Shen, was a native of Lu during the Spring and Autumn Period and a student of Confucius. Zengzi was deeply taught by Confucius that he was not only highly educated, but also very honest, never deceived others, and even did what he said for his children. One day, Zengzi's wife was going to the market, and the child cried and cried out to go with his mother.
So his mother lied to him and said, "Good boy, stay at home and wait for your mother, and your mother will come back from the market to kill pigs for you to eat." The child believed it and ran home with joy, shouting:
There was meat to eat, there was meat to eat. The child stayed at home all day and waited for his mother to come back, and the little friends in the village came to play with him, but he didn't go. He leaned against the wall and basked in the sun while imagining the taste of pork, and how happy he was in his heart.
In the evening, the child saw his mother coming back from a distance, and he ran forward to meet him in three steps and two steps, and shouted: "Mother, mother, kill the pig, kill the pig, I am about to die of hunger." Zengzi's wife said:
Kid, you know what? The price of a pig is more than two or three months' rations for our family, how can we kill it casually? When the child heard this, he cried.
Zeng Zi rushed to hear the sound, and after knowing the truth of the matter, he didn't say a word, turned around and went back to the house. After a while, he walked out with a kitchen knife in his hand. The wife was terrified.
Because Zengzi has always been very strict with children, she thought that Zengzi wanted to teach the child a lesson, so she hurriedly held the child in her arms. Unexpectedly, Zengzi ran straight towards the pigsty. The wife asked puzzled
What are you doing running into the pigsty with a kitchen knife? Zengzi said without thinking: "Kill the pig".
When his wife heard this, she burst out laughing: "It's not a year's errand, which pig did you kill?" Zeng Zi said solemnly
Didn't you promise the child to kill a pig and give him meat, and since you promised, you should do it. The wife said, "I am just deceiving the child, so why should I be serious when talking to the child?"
Zeng Zi said: "It is even more important to do what you say to your children, otherwise, isn't it obvious that children should learn to lie to their parents?" Adults don't count when they talk, so how can they educate children in the future?
The wife lowered her head in shame when she heard this, and the couple really killed the pig. The children ate pork, and also feasted the villagers, and told the villagers to teach the children to lead by example. Although Zengzi's approach was ridiculed by some people, he educated honest and trustworthy children.
The story of Zengzi killing a pig has also been passed down to this day, and his character has always been respected by future generations.
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I watched "Zengzi Kills Pigs and Copy Lixin" and knew that Zengzi was an honest and trustworthy person, and Zengzi set an example of trustworthiness for his children from an early age. We should keep it in our hearts and never forget it for eternity. And Zeng Zi proved a famous saying of Confucius with his own practical actions:
Words must be done, deeds must be fruitful. The meaning of this sentence is that honesty is the basic principle of being a human being, and it is also an important criterion for interpersonal communication. I also learned that Zengzi's wife is a person who knows his mistakes and can change them, although Zengzi's wife deceived her children at the beginning, but at the end, she changed her mistakes after listening to Zengzi's words.
This kind of spirit is admirable, this is really like Lian Po, the great general of Zhao during the Warring States Period! If you know you're wrong, you can correct it. It's really good to know that mistakes can be corrected.
Zengzi and his wife also told the villagers to educate their children to lead by example, so that their villagers should also become honest and trustworthy people. Zengzi's practice has been passed down to this day, and his character has always been respected and loved by later generations. This story tells us that we must do what we say and do what we do.
Honesty is the basic principle of life, and it is also the lifeline of friendship between friends. Zeng Zi has fulfilled the promise made for his children with practical actions, set an example of integrity for his children, he has taught children to be honest and realistic, and has also set a correct vane for teenagers and children who are growing up, so that we can move in the right direction of integrity.
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The City of Zengzi's Wife: The first "of" is "of", and the second is "go, go".
The wife said: "Stop" is "stop".
This son is deceiving him, and he is teaching his son to deceive: if you deceive him now, you are teaching him to learn to deceive people.
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From the aspect of educating children to talk about credit.
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This is a very famous family education story of the ancients. The story goes that Zengzi's wife is going out into the street, and her youngest son is crying and going to follow. The great-wife coaxed her son and said, "Go back and wait for me to come back and kill the pig and let you eat meat." ”
As soon as Zeng's wife came back from the street, she saw that Zengzi really wanted to kill the pig, and she hurriedly stopped: "I'm just talking to the child and coaxing him." Zengzi said
You can't joke with children. Children are young and have no knowledge, and they will imitate their parents everywhere and follow their parents' teachings. When you deceive him today, you teach him to be like you and deceive.
If a mother deceives her child, the child will not believe her mother. This is not a good way to educate children! So Zengzi killed the pig and cooked the meat for the boy to eat.
This story tells parents: at no time can a child be deceived. Because parents are the most direct role models for children to imitate, every word and deed of parents will have a huge impact on children, and children must follow suit.
Therefore, parents should be especially cautious in their behavior in front of their children. Here, it shows that Zeng Zi fully realized the characteristics of family education, and the parents' example is the guarantee of success in educating their children. Some of our parents think that why should we take talking to our children seriously, this kind of thinking is very harmful because they do not understand family education.
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Unexpectedly, after Zengzi came back, he killed the pig seriously and warned his wife not to lie in order to coax the child.
I remember someone said, "It's better to get a hundred taels than to get Ji Bu Yinuo", which means that integrity is very important. From the article "Zengzi Kills Pigs", I think of my mother. She's a man of her word.
Once, my mom promised me a birthday. But because I was short of money, I really didn't have the extra money to buy me a cake for my birthday. When I learned about this, I said to my mother:
Mom, it's okay, don't celebrate your birthday! Mom rubbed her hands uncomfortably and went into the kitchen. A few days later, I had already put the matter out of the clouds.
On my birthday, when my mom came to me with a cake, I stared at the cake and ...... stunned"Yuanyuan, this is a cake made by my mother, I wish you a happy birthday! Mom said with a smile. Suddenly, I felt a warm current rushing to my heart.
Mom really keeps her word, after all, this is what my mother did for her daughter! Although it is not as delicate as the cake I bought, it embodies my mother's integrity and love for me.
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Reading "Zengzi Kills Pigs" has a feeling.
A few days ago, I read the fable "Zeng Zi Kills a Pig", and I was filled with emotion after reading it.
The story goes that a father named Zengzi and his wife are going out to run errands, but their children are noisy and have to follow. So the wife coaxed the child and said,
Baby, be nice! Wait until we come back and ask your dad to kill a pig for you to eat. When the child heard this, he obediently went to play.
As soon as he came back from his errands, Zeng Zi was about to kill the pig with a big knife, but his wife hurriedly grabbed him and said, "I am coaxing the child, do you really want to kill the pig?!" But Zengzi said:
That's your mistake. What you promised your child, you can't take it back, you have to keep your promise! ”
In reality, examples like Zengzi's wife are not uncommon. For example, in our family, one hour after dinner is my time to practice, but one weekend when I wanted to relax on the Internet, my father promised me to play with the computer after I finished playing. I was so happy that I had finished practicing the piano seriously and was about to fulfill my father's promise, but he canceled my plan to play with the computer on the grounds that I was looking around while practicing.
You know, that's what I've been looking forward to for a week, and I'm very committed. After all, it doesn't taste good to be deceived!
Now, in most families, parents often fail to keep their promises and keep their promises. Alas, where have these parents learned their thoughts and morals? Aren't they afraid to influence the next generation by doing so?
Don't you know how serious the consequences will be? However, we should also be sensible as children, so that adults can save snacks, so that we will not be coaxed!
I hate a mother like Zengzi's wife, and I envy a father like Zengzi. How I hope that my parents can always be like Zengzi, "a gentleman is a word, and a horse is difficult to chase"!
Give it to me.
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