How to deal with children, how to get along with children

First of all: a child is also a person with a complete mind, and whatever you do, you have to take into account their thoughts. And children are very sensitive to everything, so you should think carefully about what you do and say in front of your child.

After all, they are still young, and as a teacher, your words and actions may affect them for the rest of their lives.

Second: you must respect children with respect. They have their own view of the world.

Maybe you don't agree, maybe you think it's very naïve, but think about whether you thought the same way when you were a child. Don't think of them as insignificant, in their eyes, they themselves are the center of the world.

Third: Pay attention to equality. Whether it's a classmate you like or a classmate you don't like, you have to treat everyone equally. If you take more care of the classmates you like, other classmates will naturally develop bad feelings such as jealousy and hatred.

Fourth: Be encouraged by yourself. Sometimes your words of encouragement and a rewarding look will light up a small heart and completely change a child's life.

I know this very well. Elementary school students will always hate the kind of teacher who has a straight face and asks you to take your parents at every turn.

Fifth: Communicate more with children: There should be many ways to do this.

Be active in class, don't be in class with your boss in mind. Smile and mingle with the active classmates. Encourage students to think and speak.

Encourage them to speak up about their feelings and give appropriate praise for what is right or wrong. Tell more interesting stories and know that the stories you tell will always be remembered. When I was in the fourth grade, my trainee teacher used to tell us stories in two classes every afternoon.

o(∩_o...It was a really good time.

Sixth: Play more with your classmates after class and give full play to your strengths. Play table tennis, badminton, and organize spring outings. Give your ** to your classmates who perform well. This will eliminate the distance between you and your child.

Use children's methods to see problems, use children's language to communicate ideas, and be an old playboy, as long as you make friends with children, and don't treat yourself as adults, everything is easy to do.

Look at children through the eyes of children.

1. Let the child feel the beauty of life, often take your baby out of the house, let him have more contact with other people, and tell the baby that it is very pleasant to play with others. You can take him to the crowd in the park to watch the children fly kites, watch the grandparents do tai chi, join some young mothers' clubs, dine with the children, slide together, play with blocks, etc. Take your baby to participate in singing, dancing, storytelling and other competitions, so that your baby can overcome his shyness and show himself to the fullest.

Take your baby to discover the fun and cheerful places in life, and the child can't help but like it, and slowly, the shyness will automatically subside.

2.Don't make a fuss about reinforcement A shy baby may appear a little clumsy in the face of strangers. The first thing you have to do as a parent is not to think that this is a serious problem.

If the child insists on not wanting to greet others, parents should not ask the child to do it all the time, let alone often tell the child that you are really a shy child, or even compare him with other children, for example, you see how good and polite the child is, why are you not like this? You're so bad! If parents freeze the word shy on their children for a long time, there will be a strong psychological suggestion, and the child will think that he is a shy person, feel that he is out of place with the children around him, a monster, unpopular, he will be more closed to himself and more shy.

3.Give him plenty of time to prepareFor a shy child, parents should spend more time talking to him to get used to socializing with others. Every time you take your child to play with other children, don't keep urging your child to remember to say hello to someone today.

This will not only increase the psychological burden of the child, but also make him rebellious.

4.Gradual PraiseWhenever a child has made progress socially, parents should give him timely praise and encouragement. It should be noted that:

Praise should be gradual, and the language should be as natural and friendly as possible. Too much praise will only increase the psychological burden of the child, cause him unnecessary fear, and make him avoid going out.

5.Parents are the best teachers, everyone is not born to get along with others, and social experience needs to be accumulated little by little. When the child no longer refuses to socialize with others, parents should further encourage the child and tell him the most basic social etiquette, such as a clear voice when greeting and looking at the other person.

Parents are the best teachers for their children, and only by leading by example can they cultivate good children who are polite and generous.

This friend, modern families are only children, most of them live in high-rise buildings, usually rarely have the opportunity to play with other children, even if they have the opportunity, they don't know how to play with other children, so parents should teach their children how to play with other children, and arrange for children to play with children of similar age. Children can feel each other's influence and have fun together. Parents can prepare a thick piece of cardboard or wood in advance and place one end on the support to make an inclined plane.

Place the toy truck or car on the top of the inclined plane and have the child push the toy down from the top, with one child pushing and the other at the other end, and then swapping places with each other. In addition to the above method, parents can also let two children sit facing each other, with a distance between them, and let the children play a game of pétanque, while the adults can supervise them. Doing this game allows children to build a sense of turns, learn to cooperate with each other, and improve their ability to interact with others.

1. Sincerity.

When you get along with your child, your emotions, your thoughts, are sincere and open. Sincerity is very simple, parents have done something wrong, and they must apologize to their children immediately, there is no shame or shame. Many parents feel sorry and can't say anything.

And this is actually the fact that parents avoid admitting mistakes in order to maintain their position of authority, which is unfair, insincere, and will be discovered by the child.

2. Empathy.

To put it simply, it is the ability to understand other people's experiences from other people's perspectives, or to feel other people's feelings from other people's perspectives. Everyone always talks about emotional intelligence, hoping to cultivate children's high emotional intelligence. But I only want children to understand their parents, not parents to understand their children.

In fact, when you encounter such and such things, parents put themselves into the perspective of their children, and you will not feel comfortable when others say this about you and others do such things to you.

3. Unconditional and positive attention.

That is, parents create a warm, respectful, and accepting atmosphere for their children. It's easy to say, but it's really hard to do. To do this, you must also have the first two points, sincerity and empathy.

Parents can often reflect on their behaviour by asking themselves.

In fact, getting along with children is both simple and not easy.

Children first and foremost have a playful nature. They want to be able to play something all the time, and if there is nothing to play or something that doesn't appeal to them, they get impatient and start playing tricks to vent their frustrations. At this time, in the eyes of adults, they are just a bear child, if they don't reason, they can't listen to the reason, they will make you burnt out, and even fire from the heart.

This is the time when you need a hundred times more patience and love. Not only can you control your emotions, but you can also soothe the emotions of children.

And today's children are all pampered by thousands of people in the family, so they are more self-centered. In the process of getting along, they always want to dominate the way the game is played, and they want you to cooperate with all their action language. However, because they are still young and have too little understanding, they will hope that you can help them again and again in the process.

At this time, it is necessary to not only follow their train of thought, but also give guidance skillfully. It is necessary to have both a childlike mentality and an expanded mindset, which can not only integrate into the children's world but also extend the children's imagination and creativity.

In general, as long as you invest in the process of getting along with children, children can feel it, and it will also give you innocence and brilliance, even touching and warmth. Don't be perfunctory, children are very smart, delicate and sensitive.

Text丨Fulin Mama.

In most family education, for young children, parents will criticize you from the height of adults, praise you, and tell you what to do and what not to do. will care if you are dressed or full, but you don't ask from the perspective of a child: What are you thinking in your heart?

The Little Prince says: All adults were once children, but few can remember this. This sentence should be a wake-up call for parents, in the process of getting along with children, they should communicate with their children from the perspective of children, rather than looking at children from the perspective of adults.

There are no parents in the world who do not love their children, only parents who do not know how to get along with their children, the child's heart is simple and pure, and getting along with the child is actually very simple.

1. Learn to listen to your child's language.

Many adults don't understand what children say, and whenever children are interested in what they want to say to their parents, their parents just prevaricate. Every time I see this situation, I feel that the child is so pitiful, and even more sad for the parents.

In this case, parents should learn to listen to their children's language, even if they don't know what their children say, they must respond to their children, otherwise the children will be lost, and in the long run, the children will feel that they are not important, and there will be less and less communication with their parents.

2. Communicate with your child in your child's language.

Mom, this kitten says it likes me".

Yes, it said, "This kid is so cute, I like him so much."

This is to communicate with the child in the child's language, and the child will not only feel that his ideas are recognized, but also feel the importance of his own parents. The child is innocent and imaginative, and parents should also learn to communicate with him in the child's language, so that the child will feel that the parents are friends and not adults.

3. Learn to get along with children equally.

Some parents and children in the process of getting along, is always too rigorous, is a very majestic existence, children want to play in the water are not allowed, of course, this is for the sake of the child's health, but have you ever thought about it, this will make the child feel a sense of distance, dare not communicate with parents.

Parents should be kind, approachable, and should be the first person to talk to when their children are wronged or happy, so it is important to learn to get along with children on an equal footing, which is a compulsory course for good parents.

Today's topic——

How do you communicate with your children?

1. Share happiness.

You can think about it, is the happiest thing for yourself when you were a child is to communicate with others what you did at school or elsewhere today, and then make yourself happy, and then listen to your friends today's fun, just like exchanging honey. Therefore, if you want to get along well with your child, you can also exchange fun with your child, so that he will feel that you are his friend and is willing to tell you all the thoughts and secrets in his heart.

Second, with a childlike heart.

Children are always the simplest and happiest, and it can be said that every child has a childlike heart, and they live happily in their world in their own way. If you want to get along with them and become friends, you must communicate with them with a childlike heart and play happily. Childlike means that you can play with them with dolls and building blocks, and the words you say are also about fairy tales, not anything.

3. Give gifts.

Children's favorite thing should be gifts, gifts mean that there are surprises in them, there are things they want very much. So, if you're going to get along with your child, prepare a greeting gift, a birthday present, and then a reward gift for what you've accomplished, so that the child will like you very much.

The most important thing about getting along with small children is that you have a sincere heart. You are willing to take care of them with your heart, take care of them, and then tolerate them, so that in the long run, the children will gradually rely on you and give you sincerity. The world of children is very simple, if you are good to him, he will be good to you.

Treat your child as if you were your friend, use your language, joke well, and don't let your child suddenly feel that you are hateful and hateful.

Sometimes, in front of the public, or to show off your eloquence, or to flatter others for grandstanding, or to show "intimacy" with your friends, you use harsh language, sarcasm and sarcasm, and make people laugh in a big way, so as to get momentary pleasure ......These practices often make friends feel humiliated, think that you have become so hateful, and regret that they made you wrong. Maybe you don't think so, and you will say that you should take it seriously when you make a joke between friends, but you don't know that you have hurt your friend's feelings. Therefore, when friends get along, especially in front of everyone, they should treat each other kindly, respect each other, and do not joke and hurt others.

Respect friends, be good at accepting people's words, don't let friends feel that you are an inactive person, you are a friend and you should be in the same boat, and you should seriously consider and adopt it appropriately for good intentions. If you ignore this, insist on your own opinions, ignore the words of your friends, and go your own way, you will suffer and your friends suffer. This must disappoint your friends, who think that you are too arbitrary, do not take your friends seriously, and are a person who does nothing and does a lot of things, and will become more and more distant in the future.

Therefore, when you make decisions, you should listen carefully to your friends' opinions, understand their good intentions, and explain their opinions even if they are difficult to adopt, so that your friends feel that you value them equally.