If you don t have a relationship foundation and get married, can you really get married first and th

Updated on society 2024-04-17
46 answers
  1. Anonymous users2024-02-07

    I think that marriageable young people in modern society are all together in accordance with the freedom of love and marriage, and why do they get married without an emotional foundation? Weighing the cost of marriage between men and women, most of the time it hurts women more. If the two are unfortunate enough to have a child, it is undoubtedly the child who is hurt the most, and it is very likely that it will harm the child's development of three views.

    What can be cultivated is never love, at most family affection. Family affection has been obtained since you were born, so why bother cultivating it with strangers. It's impossible to get married without an emotional foundation. It should depend on the thickness of the foundation.

    In fact, I can understand your problem, I got married for the sake of marriage, there is no emotional foundation, the process is very painful, you think about it, your inner thoughts are not valued, your efforts may not be rewarded at all, indifferent, calm mode of getting along for a long time will be discouraged, especially if you want to change the status quo, there is no rhythm in sync, the pain is only you.

    There are also many people who think that there is no problem with getting married on a blind date, as long as the other party's character is okay, there are no bad hobbies, two people understand each other and think about each other, and sooner or later there will be feelings. Personally, I think that according to the current situation, first of all, the right family is the basic, and the three views are the premise, and there is no emotional foundation, which can be slowly cultivated in the later stage.

    But to tell the truth, even if you can cultivate feelings, you can't cultivate love, too many people get married because they are suitable, but they ignore love, marriage is firewood, rice, oil and salt, if you don't have a feeling of love at first sight for the other half, there is no strange appearance.

    If you want to talk about the foundation of the relationship, to be honest, there are not many of them, maybe they see each other as partners who spend the rest of their lives together, and they can't really enter each other's hearts in a short period of time. A weak emotional foundation does create some problems. People who have been injured will unconsciously lower their expectations so that they don't get hurt again.

    Find your own positioning, wait for the baby to be born smoothly, and run the small family well, the current requirements are like this.

  2. Anonymous users2024-02-06

    Some can, for the older generation, they all get married first and then fall in love, and they can live a lifetime, mainly depending on what you think.

  3. Anonymous users2024-02-05

    I don't think it's okay to get married first and then fall in love, otherwise if two people still can't get along in the end, then it will be a cage for both of them.

  4. Anonymous users2024-02-04

    If you don't have an emotional foundation to get married, you can really get married first and then fall in love, as long as both of you can accept it, after all, everyone treats and accepts feelings differently.

  5. Anonymous users2024-02-03

    Often get married first and then fall in love, and they are all married as a last resort. For example, it is common for the woman to be pregnant. In this way, it can only be called marriage first, and then love.

    This is when it is obvious that the emotional foundation is not strong, it is necessary to get married. But you've had a very good life with a situation like this. It's up to two people.

    Whether you are happy after marriage. Is it hardworking, the kind of person who owns himself? The key is whether the goals of the two people are the same.

    Willing to pay for him. This is the most important point.

  6. Anonymous users2024-02-02

    Hello, if two people have no basis in affection, then don't get married. It is impossible to get married first and then fall in love, if you don't love, you don't love, and it is impossible to fall in love with each other because you are married.

  7. Anonymous users2024-02-01

    If you get married in a hurry without feelings before you get married, and you have the illusion that you will cultivate a relationship after marriage, this is actually very irresponsible behavior, unless you say it is pure, for the sake of succession or for the sake of marriage.

  8. Anonymous users2024-01-31

    Of course not, if you don't have an emotional foundation, you can't get married, which hurts each other too much, because as long as you have enough feelings, you can enter the palace of marriage.

  9. Anonymous users2024-01-30

    People will fall in love for a long time, but it doesn't mean that two people will have feelings after being together for a long time, maybe they just adapt to each other, and they give birth to children after marriage, which is also irresponsible to children, because they were born in an unfriendly family.

  10. Anonymous users2024-01-29

    If there is no emotional foundation, it is impossible to get married first and then fall in love after getting married, so it is impossible to really make yourself happy, so if two people have no emotional foundation, they must not blindly get married.

  11. Anonymous users2024-01-28

    It's really okay to get married first and then fall in love. After getting married, in order to make both people live happier, then they should understand each other more and look at each other's advantages, and two people will be happy.

  12. Anonymous users2024-01-27

    Hello, if there is no emotional foundation, after marriage, if the personalities of the two people after marriage are relatively similar, or have a certain tolerance and understanding, you can also get married first and then fall in love.

  13. Anonymous users2024-01-26

    This kind of thing often happened in the seventies and eighties, at that time, people basically got married first and then fell in love, and the marriage at that time was basically the words of the parents, and the two people had no experience of falling in love before, they were all blind dates, and then they got married.

  14. Anonymous users2024-01-25

    It is possible to get married first and then fall in love, but I don't recommend getting married first and then falling in love, I think it is necessary to have a systematic understanding of both parties through falling in love, and then go to marriage.

  15. Anonymous users2024-01-24

    If there is no emotional foundation, can you really get married first and then fall in love after getting married? This can be had, and there are often a lot of idlers, because due to work, busy with work, there is no time for love, and it is normal to like to love again after marriage.

  16. Anonymous users2024-01-23

    Yes, yes! However, in reality, such operability is very small! People who don't have an emotional foundation generally don't get married.

  17. Anonymous users2024-01-22

    No, it's more reliable to fall in love first and then get married. Because it is not suitable can be separated. If you get married first and then fall in love, you will have to divorce if it is not suitable, which is more troublesome!

  18. Anonymous users2024-01-21

    There are people who get married first and then fall in love, but there are also people who can't go long because they don't have an emotional foundation. In the end, it still depends on whether the two people are suitable or not.

  19. Anonymous users2024-01-20

    If you don't have an emotional foundation, you can indeed get married first and then fall in love after getting married, but the risk is very large, don't do such a stupid thing.

  20. Anonymous users2024-01-19

    Without an emotional foundation, can you really get married first and then fall in love after getting married? I think it's okay. After all, after getting married. It's been together for a long time, the so-called long-term love, I think that's how it appeared, so you can get married first and then fall in love.

  21. Anonymous users2024-01-18

    It's best not to do this, getting married without an emotional foundation will make your marriage unhappy, after all, it's not good to get married first and then fall in love.

  22. Anonymous users2024-01-17

    I don't agree, I think that a marriage without an emotional foundation can't really fall in love with each other even after marriage.

  23. Anonymous users2024-01-16

    It is very difficult, because marriage is decided only after a certain emotional foundation, and it is very difficult to get married first and then cultivate feelings.

  24. Anonymous users2024-01-15

    I think if you don't have a different foundation, you can also consider getting married first and then falling in love, I think if two people are responsible and responsible, I think that after getting married, they will naturally make each other satisfied.

  25. Anonymous users2024-01-14

    If there is no emotional foundation, if you get married, there will definitely be a lot of friction after marriage, and some can even divorce, this way of getting married first and then falling in love is absolutely undesirable, after all, we can't bet on our own happiness for a lifetime.

  26. Anonymous users2024-01-13

    This is not good, there is no emotional foundation, and marriage is not long-lasting.

  27. Anonymous users2024-01-12

    Of course, it is okay for many people to get married first and then fall in love, but they also have to meet the right person, whether they are in love or married, they must meet the right person for themselves.

  28. Anonymous users2024-01-11

    If you really don't have an emotional foundation and get married, I really think it is okay to advocate getting married first and then falling in love.

  29. Anonymous users2024-01-10

    If you don't have an emotional foundation, it's okay to get married first and then fall in love, but generally speaking, it will be played like this in TV dramas, and there are very few in real life.

  30. Anonymous users2024-01-09

    There are also many people who get married first and then fall in love, and feelings can not be cultivated at one time, and they can also be gradually cultivated after marriage, which is very normal. The relationship after marriage is more real, more reliable, and more worth remembering.

  31. Anonymous users2024-01-08

    No.

    There is a saying that people often say that to fall in love without the purpose of marriage is to play hooligan. This is because we both regard marriage as the end of our relationship.

    From the perspective of human reproduction, it is foolish to fall in love without the purpose of mating, and the essence of marriage is to sign a marriage contract with the other party that is protected by law, so as to protect one's own economic interests.

    For women, it is still necessary to be reliable in love with the clear purpose of marriage.

    Although it is unknown whether a person in a relationship can really get married, taking marriage as the ultimate goal reflects a man's responsibility and attitude towards the relationship.

    Marriage is a responsibility, and if you don't want to get married, you don't want to be responsible, so he will invest a little sincerity in this relationship, and this question is really worth your consideration. For women, marriage is the guarantee of love, but also the protection of your personal rights and interests - he can leave as much as he wants when he falls in love, but with a marriage certificate.

    At least the law can protect you.

  32. Anonymous users2024-01-07

    I think it is possible to continue the relationship that is impossible to get married, because I think everything is possible, don't deny yourself.

  33. Anonymous users2024-01-06

    It is impossible to continue the love that is impossible to get married, this will be a waste of time, knowing that there is no result, in fact, if you work hard, there will be no result. There is no point in going on.

  34. Anonymous users2024-01-05

    It's impossible to get married, and I don't think the relationship should continue. This will be a waste of youth and a waste of feelings. There is also a waste of time. In the end, you can't get married. Love has no result. I think it's redundant. In the end, he was left with a lifelong regret.

  35. Anonymous users2024-01-04

    Hello beauty, if you know that you can't get married, of course, you can't continue to be in love, so you delay yourself and the other party, it's best to choose two people who are suitable for you to marry. The ultimate goal of everyone's love is to get married.

  36. Anonymous users2024-01-03

    If you can't get married, then don't continue, it's just a waste of each other's time to go on like this, it's better to find someone who really loves you and wants to be with someone you want to marry.

  37. Anonymous users2024-01-02

    No, very firm. I don't do anything that can or may not be done in life. Life is short and there are many must-dos waiting for you.

    Maybe they're married, maybe your family backgrounds are different, maybe you're not in the same city. There are two outcomes: What is the probability of doing a miracle or going their separate ways and creating a miracle? End the relationship and start anew.

  38. Anonymous users2024-01-01

    It shouldn't go any further.

    The purpose of falling in love is to get married, and it is impossible to get married, so there is no need to talk about it.

  39. Anonymous users2023-12-31

    I don't think it's necessary to continue the love that can't get married, after all, it's impossible for you to get married, and you won't be together in this life.

  40. Anonymous users2023-12-30

    It depends on whether you are in love with the idea of getting married, if you are in love now in order to get married in the future, then you can't get married now, and there is no need to continue the relationship, after all, it is a waste of time.

  41. Anonymous users2023-12-29

    If you can't get married, don't continue to love, unless you're empty. You want to have someone to accompany you, and you want to be taken care of and considerate by others. You can continue to be in love with him.

  42. Anonymous users2023-12-28

    It is impossible to get married, and the love must not continue, that is, to continue, and the consequences are unimaginable.

  43. Anonymous users2023-12-27

    Since it is impossible to get married, continuing to fall in love is equivalent to not being responsible for the other party, which is equivalent to delaying the other party's youth, or breaking up as soon as possible.

  44. Anonymous users2023-12-26

    Why should you go down with him when you can't get married? I think that if this is the case, it is better to withdraw as soon as possible.

  45. Anonymous users2023-12-25

    There is no need to continue the love that is impossible to marry, because this kind of unnecessary marital love may make you unable to enter the palace of marriage, and it is also a waste of energy and financial resources, and this kind of fruitless marriage is a harm to both people.

  46. Anonymous users2023-12-24

    For many people, it is very difficult to find a person to love, and it is also very difficult to find a suitable person for themselves in the vast sea of people. So many people will find someone they completely like to be their other half. And the probability of such a is actually very small, and it is not easy to encounter.

    Many people choose to get married when they are emotionally mature, because this can make the relationship between two people go further. At the same time, getting married will also make the two of them happier. Therefore, a very important measure of whether they can get married is whether there is an emotional foundation between two people, and if there is no emotional foundation, the marriage of two people is meaningless.

    Therefore, I think that if you get married without an emotional foundation, it is unlikely that you will fall in love after getting married.

    If two people want to get married, the foundation of the relationship is a very important thing. Because the emotional foundation is the foundation of marriage, if a marriage is not supported by the emotional foundation, it is easy to break down, and it will also easily cause estrangement when there are conflicts. Therefore, a marriage without an emotional foundation is unreliable, and it is nonsense to get married first and then fall in love.

    Because if two people are not in love with each other at all, then there is no point in getting married, and there is not much possibility of falling in love after marriage. So it's not feasible to fall in love after getting married.

    So to sum up, it is very unreliable for two people to get married without an emotional foundation. And it is also very undesirable to marry first and then fall in love, because such a marriage has no guarantees. It's easy to create estrangement and friction, so what do you think about this?

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