How to overcome the psychology of wanting to talk to you but not daring to speak

Such people are more introverted and a little timid, afraid of being rejected by others, first try to practice their guts, read more books on chat skills, and secondly, you can find friends to practice talking to things!

Then break through this boundary yourself, and then go to the other person to talk, be brave, don't be afraid, don't be timid in your heart, be brave and take the first step, then you will succeed.

Be brave and confident. If you don't take the initiative, how can it be possible? Only if you take the initiative will there be a story between you.

In this case, you should be courageous, and then tell yourself that you must be brave to speak and confess, and the main point is to dare to speak before you can take the second step.

Every time I'm like this, I want to have a conversation and can't lose a piece of meat, and people can't beat you, what are you afraid of, just say something, I won't be afraid when I think so.

Top 10 Ways to Overcome Pickup Fear:

Mind 1, imagine success (imagine yourself opening your mouth and smiling happily);

Method 2, game mentality (imagine yourself in the game, the goal is to succeed in the relationship);

The third method of the mind is to despise failure (at worst, it is nothing);

Fourth, divert attention (observe and find a way to eliminate the girl's tension);

Five, countdown.

act within the prescribed time limit);

Mental Method 6, Vipassana (jumping out of the self to observe one's own actions);

Mind Method 7, séance (imagine yourself as a dating master fan man or innocent);

Mind Method 8, Substitution Method (imagine that the girl is an old friend you have known for ten years);

Mind Method 9, stealing the target (treating the girl as a sculpture and practicing dialogue);

Mental method ten, time and space travel (imagine the end of the conversation after three minutes, success or failure is a joke).

Everyone is right!

I suggest you: do more outdoor activities, usually buy a thing, go on an outing, or something.

On the way, ask everyone for directions and exercise.

Usually, prepare a few words of greeting and ask if you have eaten? Wear cold or not cold ......Then talk about the news, what's going on in the neighborhood or something......

Be natural, regardless of success or failure, and take your time.

Fear of accosting is actually social fear, and there is no better way than to exercise more and have more contact with people.

That's because you have some low self-esteem, you can find some friends to talk to him about your current state, so that he can encourage you to talk to him, and know in advance what kind of topics she likes.

Actually, I think you still have to think about what you want, not what you fear, and only then can I think it's possible for you to speak on your own.

If you really can't do it, just a whole bottle of two pots? It's as complicated as you think. As long as you're not very obscene, just a normal greeting, what's so difficult?

Just say hello beauty, what are you doing? Can I help you? Anything like that.

Girls aren't as scary as you think.

You need to improve your self-confidence in yourself, be brave, sometimes you are braver, the outcome may be different, try to pick up girls more, and if you have more times, you won't have this kind of mentality.

If you want to overcome this mentality, you can look in the mirror every day, imagine yourself in the mirror as the other person, and then keep saying what you want to say. With constant practice, slowly, you will no longer be afraid when you encounter the same problem.

Give yourself a hint in your heart, tell yourself to talk to her, and believe that you can get her attention. Confident boys are the most attractive, in case the other party also has feelings for you, if you like it, you can chase after it at least yourself.

In fact, most of the people who encounter this situation are because they have never been accosted much, and they are still afraid in their hearts, so they can prepare some ways to pick up each other, and they will not be afraid if they start with the people around them and gradually have more ways to communicate.

This is a sign of lack of self-confidence, you must firmly say to yourself, there is nothing to be afraid of, you are so good, and at the same time you can read some books that help improve self-confidence, take the first step bravely, try to talk to girls, self-confidence is very important.

You can keep hinting to yourself in your heart that it's just a matter of saying hello in the past, it's not a big deal, and what if the other person also has a crush on you.

If you want to talk to you, you have to act, don't hesitate all the time, many times when you finally convince yourself to do something, you have missed the best time, so you should learn to make decisions and seize the opportunity.

Hello brother, how can you overcome the tension in your heart? First of all, we need to know why we are nervous, and it is understood that the main reason for nervousness is lack of self-confidence. If we want to regain our inner self-confidence, we must take the first step, everything is difficult at the beginning, only if you have experienced the first pick-up, then you can regain your self-confidence in the future.

When we strike up a conversation, we have to relax and calm ourselves. This is actually similar to answering the teacher's question in class, every time the teacher asks a question, some people have the courage to raise their hands to answer, while some people are beating drums in their hearts, trembling, and dare not answer, but they are really named by the teacher, and they really stand up, and they will feel that it is not difficult.

First of all, before the conversation starts, if you start to get nervous, take a deep breath and take a quick frequency (this is a good way to quickly regulate your emotions);

If your nervousness is more severe and you can't control it by taking a deep breath, you can say "hello" to the other person first after you walk over, as long as you can open the topic, you will find that it is not difficult to communicate with people;

If you feel that you will still be nervous, there is another trick that you can't try and test, that is, the "three-second rule", the pick-up master knows that the pick-up can not hesitate, the so-called "three-second rule" means that the time from wanting to pick up to really pick up can not exceed 3 seconds. If you hesitate for more than three seconds, you have already failed, so you can choose to give up or continue, but don't go more than three seconds.

One blow, then decline, three exhaustion.

Whenever you hold back, you don't think about it. Don't be afraid of any embarrassment, don't be afraid, and you won't lose anything if you fail, otherwise you will miss the opportunity to succeed again and again. I hope to adopt. P.S. That's what I thought when I hesitated.

Find a girl you know first, even if it's married, little by little.

It's a world where faces are watched, and everything a handsome guy says is humorous.

Since you have a phobia of pretty girls, imagine the girl you are talking to as an ordinary girl and then go up and talk to you.

How did you learn to overcome such an amazing method by constantly confronting it.

I won't teach you back myself, forget it bro.

Let's see what topic the other person is interested in.

If, just today, you see a celebrity you have admired for a long time, do you dare to come forward and talk to him?

If you were on the same plane as your long-time idol, sitting side by side, would you not dare to speak for half an hour? If you participate in an event with the girl you have been interested in for a long time, will you be overwhelmed with nervousness? At this moment, how I wish I could open my mouth bravely to speak.

Picking up a conversation does not necessarily mean that the motive is bad and the purpose is not pure. In just a few minutes, it is not easy to rely on one's eloquence and proper manners to create a pleasant atmosphere of communication or win a person's trust. Overcoming your inner fear is the first step in a conversation.

Find out why you're afraid to pick up a conversation. Morally inadequate? Afraid of failure?

Afraid of losing face? Afraid of rejection? Accosting, you may know and know this person.

Don't talk to you, in fact, you have nothing to lose. What's so hard to face? This time's failure is the cornerstone of the next success.

Inspire a strong desire to pick up a conversation. The probability of meeting a person and having the idea of talking to him is very low. Why curb your desires?

Think you'll be able to meet him next time? The chances of meeting again will only be lower. Don't make a move now, but when.

To overcome your own hesitation, you must be brave enough to speak out.

Break the old model.

In the past, when I went to talk to you, I might have felt uncomfortable. It is the pick-up-uncomfortable mode, you need to jump out of this emotion, and take the success or failure of the pick-up lightly, so that it will not be so painful.

Build a new model. Connecting the pick-up with happiness, think about the success of the pick-up is not only an affirmation of yourself, but also a new friend. Isn't it a happy thing?

Believe that you will succeed and keep giving yourself positive hints. 1) Read all kinds of materials, learn pick-up skills, and observe how the master picks up naturally. 2) Say "yes" to yourself.

3) Make a connection through a physical gesture and a pick-up. If you let go of your fist, give yourself a gentle high-five, and then pick up a conversation, then each time you make this action, you will increase your emotional excitement.

Practice. Reinforcing a behavior can become a habit. If it is not strengthened, it disappears. Only by turning pick-up into a habit can you truly overcome the fear of pick-up.

Confidence is a sign of a man's maturity, and a man with self-confidence will not succumb to difficulties.

We need to overcome the psychological barrier of accosting, and whether we think about how to accost, we first consider whether we have the courage to take the initiative to accost.

Then, we need to set a standard of self-confidence in our daily lives, even if we are not satisfied with what we do. When you have nothing to do, look in the mirror, wear fashionable clothes, pay attention to personal hygiene and neatness, have a cool head shape, and exercise your communication skills--- especially in terms of body language.

Stick to it, look at your ability, and increase the "training intensity" according to your situation: it's how to make yourself more confident, cooler, more stylish, and more communicative.

I believe you have the power to train yourself to become a pick-up master.