My uncle is disobedient to my grandparents, and I want to take revenge on him, what should I do?

You are not eligible! Remember, an elder is always an elder, and it is his elders who educate him, not you.

I grew up with my grandparents, so I don't see anyone talk about my grandparents. Once my mother said that my grandmother made padded jackets or something, in short, it was just a few words of complaint, and I remembered it. On the ** of the family members' scores, I gave my mother a particularly low score, and later this ** was seen by my mother, she was very sad, but she didn't ask me what caused her to have such a low score, she should have felt that she didn't do enough.

Actually, she did a good job, but at that time, in my heart, the idea of defending my grandmother was greater than that she was my mother.

When I was a child, my big mother also loved to quarrel with my grandparents, maybe the reason for living together, family trivial matters may be chattering with each other, once, my big mother said to my grandma loudly, a little bit of a quarrel, I stood directly in front of my grandma, yelled at my aunt, you get out.

Uh, it's terrible, I was scolded by my dad.

My dad taught me and said, "Who are you?" Why are you letting people go? What do you have to get people out?

And what qualifications do you have to let people go? She is your eldest mother, no matter what she does wrong, your uncle will communicate, and our brothers and sisters will also communicate with her, why do you let people get out of the house with a word, and it's still in someone's house, you let people go to **.

Well, I can't refute my father's words, but I feel wronged in my heart, she shouldn't talk to grandma like that. My dad said that we all understand your feelings of loving your grandmother, but the way you handle things is too impulsive, you are now a junior high school student, and you are about to become an adult, do you deal with conflicts like this?

My father's words suddenly made me feel that I had grown up, I shouldn't be so impulsive, I should have thought about it, persuaded two people, or if the persuasion was not good, I could choose to tell the other elders in the family to solve it, instead of directly shouting "You get out".

Just like you in the title, why should you take revenge on your uncle? What qualifications do you have? You are not the only one in the family who solves the problem, and if you take revenge on him like this, it will only bring more trouble to the family.

For example, if you break his leg, your grandparents will have to take care of him, and they will be very sad that their son has broken his leg. It is common for sons to quarrel with their parents, and if your grandparents don't care about it, you shouldn't care about it, after all, you are a junior, and you don't have the right to talk and deal with family problems.

Finally, I advise you not to be impulsive, so as not to end up embarrassed at that time, if it is not a big deal, patience will pass, and family harmony is the most important.

Just sauce purple.

I thought of a bad idea for you: "sue" with his wife

Auntie, I want to tell you something, but I'm afraid you'll be angry."

Forget it, let's not talk about it. ”

It's okay, you name it".

Then don't tell your uncle that I said it, otherwise I won't say it."

Okay, you name it! ”

I saw my uncle chatting with a woman, so happy, and walking very close, I was afraid that he would be sorry for my aunt, so I told my aunt, let you be careful. Don't say that I saw it and told you, otherwise I won't tell you anything in the future. ”

That's it, let them fight among themselves! Not being filial to your grandparents is basically not all your uncle's problem, and your aunt's problem is no less than your uncle's. My uncle is also not filial to my grandfather, basically his wife is behind him, of course, he himself is not a person.

For this kind of person, use this method, try everything!

Whether people are filial or not is not filial, in fact, sometimes it is not only your uncle's problem, but also the problem between parents and children! My aunt is also not filial to my grandparents, saying that she loves my dad or not, and is patriarchal and so on. What do you say that they used to let them work, and at the age of nine, they had to pick up dung and urine to irrigate the fields; Cattle and sheep, three cows in one hand and three sheep in the other......Tell me, when you sue my grandparents in front of me, I really can't help but laugh!

It's really exaggerated and funny, and there is a reason for not being filial. gave birth to you and raised you for more than 20 years, if it didn't hurt, it is estimated that you would have died a long time ago. This involves the grievances of the previous generation, and it's not something you can solve.

I think it's good that you and your parents are filial to your grandparents, and those who are disobedient have their own harvest. With your filial piety to your grandparents, they will be relieved! This kind of disloyal, unfilial, unkind and unrighteous person, it is better not to retaliate against him, otherwise you don't know what crazy actions he will make in the future to retaliate.

Don't take revenge on him, after all, he is also your uncle, and it is his fault for disobeying his grandmother, but you are also disobedient to your elders when you retaliate against your uncle, and you are no different from him.

In fact, everyone has such unfilial children, everyone has such bad accounts, and our family is the same, the elderly have no one to support. My grandmother is basically our family who is raising her, whether it is to contribute money, effort or take her in, it is our family's business, and it doesn't seem to have anything to do with her other children.

Although my parents sometimes complain, I know that they are very happy, and they feel that the old man is by his side, and it is very good and happy to see him and her healthy. They don't particularly care if other people are filial to the old man, anyway, the old man can live well. But it's certain to be angry with them, but they never take care of it.

But I've never suffered a loss, so I think why should I do this? It's not that I don't want my grandmother to be in my house. I really think that they don't have the least respect for my family, they don't have the least filial piety to the elderly, they are too much, so I especially want to get angry with them, want to clean him up, and even take them to court.

But my mom told me, if you do, what's the difference with them?

Later, I thought about it, this sentence is actually very true, I sit here and hear it, I can learn that my parents are very filial, and their children will naturally learn from them, not filial. Everyone has an old day, and now they are doing these immoral things, and their children can see clearly with their eyes, and one day in the future, they will not support them, and that is also the result of their words and deeds. Therefore, the wicked have their own heaven to clean up, and we just need to do our part.

My dear, the affairs of the elders are not for us juniors to interfere in, and no matter how much your uncle disobeys your grandma and grandfather, he is also their son, and they will not want him to be hurt.

If you are simply bullied by one party, it is likely to be the other party's problem, but you and your parents are bullied by your aunts, uncles and grandparents at the same time, it is very likely that your parents have a problem, you can communicate with your grandparents in depth, find out the root of the problem, and then communicate with your parents, and then find a reasonable solution, if this situation still exists, then the best solution is to stay away from them.

1. Find out the root cause of the problem

Think about it, grandparents and uncles and aunts are the closest people to their parents, and they will not exclude your parents for no reason, so there must be conflicts between the two sides, you can find time alone to communicate with grandparents and uncles and aunts to find the root of the problem.

2. If there is a mistake, correct it

If you communicate with your grandparents, uncles and aunts alone, and find that it is your parents' problem, then as an intermediary mediator, you can persuade your parents to apologize to them, after all, they are all a family, and what is the deep hatred and hatred of a family, such a stalemate will not benefit anyone, but make outsiders laugh.

3. Stay away from the land of right and wrong

If this matter is difficult to distinguish between right and wrong, and there is no right or wrong, then we can choose to stay away from the place of right and wrong, as the so-called out of sight is pure, rather than do a senseless battle of words with them, it is better to find a quiet place to settle down and start their lives again, I believe that under the wash of time, the contradictions between parents and family members will slowly fade, after all, blood is thicker than water.

As the so-called clean officials are difficult to cut off family affairs, cut and untidy and messy, no matter how deep the contradictions, no matter how big the hatred, in front of the giant wheel of the world, there is nothing left, only this bloodline is left, so don't worry, now you are not able to solve the contradictions in this regard, but when you grow up and experience more things, you may be able to find a way to solve the problem.

I feel that in this case, you can represent your parents and contradict your aunt, uncle, grandparents, because they are not only bullying you, but also your parents.

You should stay away from these relatives with your parents, reduce contacts, and preferably move out to live, so that you can reduce a lot of conflicts, and at the same time, when you are bullied, you should fight back in a strong way to defend your rights and interests.

At this time, we must not stop talking, and we must have the courage to stand up and talk to them clearly, so that they know that this is not right for us.

You should call everyone in your family out, ask them why they are bullying you, make things clear, and nothing will happen.

Then have less contact with them, and if possible, leave that place, and never see them for the rest of your life, so that they will not be able to bully you.

Obviously, your parents have a relatively low status in the whole extended family, since they are bullying us, then why should we stay with them, we can move out on our own and leave them.

You can try to communicate with your elders and make the facts clear, and then you can also use your other relatives to communicate with your elders, which will be more effective.

I can only endure it, after all, I still need them to feed myself, and when they are older, it is good to keep a certain distance from them.

Then move out on your own and don't associate with them. If you don't get along, you won't be bullied.

Try to avoid such a thing, and if you can't avoid it, you should talk to your parents about this problem and communicate with your loved ones at home about it.