Introverts? If you control yourself. Not shy

Okami: First.

1. Make a good first impression. Interpersonal relationships are created in the interaction of people. At the beginning of a relationship, who doesn't want to leave a good impression on each other?

Similarly, who wouldn't want to continue to associate with someone who has made a good impression as a basis for deep engagement? How should we behave in our first interactions with others in order to make a good first impression?

Pay attention to the beauty of the appearance. A person's appearance, including appearance, dress, manners, demeanor, etc., are all factors that affect interpersonal communication. People tend to find attractive people to be more lively and pleasant, and more friendly and gregarious.

Dressed neatly and generously, and demeanor will naturally give people a sense of closeness, on the contrary, excessive grooming, oily hair, and thick clothing will give people an inappropriate impression.

Be a loyal listener. Everyone needs to have the opportunity to express themselves. While it's important to express yourself effectively in your first relationship, it's also important to be a patient listener and encourage others to talk more about themselves.

Of course, to make a good first impression on others, there are many other factors, such as: being trustworthy, punctuality, being polite, and so on.

Second, take the initiative to communicate. In real life, there are many people who, despite their strong desire to socialize with others, still have to endure the torment of loneliness from time to time, with few or no friends, because they always adopt a passive and passive withdrawal method in social interactions, always waiting for others to accept them first.

Third, care about helping others. Adversity is known, and adversity is true. When a person encounters ups and downs, encounters difficulties, and encounters failures, he is often the most sensitive to the human situation and needs the most care and help.

I would say that you are introverted because the ring mirror around you allows you to be introverted, and when you are faced with a situation where you have to stand up, you will find that it is not so difficult to come out, and when you have children, when you have someone who needs protection, I believe that you must be a brave person.

The so-called introversion is actually the appearance of lack of self-confidence. It has a lot to do with your upbringing.

In fact, if you come into contact with more people, it will get better slowly, and you can't force anything, so you can just look for a sales job appropriately.

If you want to break the habit of being introverted and shy, you can try the method:

1. Prestige is in the aura, and the aura is not the so-called"Strong"

Prestige** is the seed planted by being approachable and unconditionally helping others.

2. Be calm and take a deep breath and trust unconditionally. When you are nervous before speaking, take a deep breath to calm down, in fact, you are nervous ** fear, worrying that you will not be recognized for your poor performance. The more you worry about something, the more it will come, so if you trust yourself unconditionally, trust the universe, and learn to meditate and connect with the higher self, you will be more blessed.

If not, it doesn't matter, then give it all and allow it to happen, no matter what the outcome.

3. Follow the eternal truth as the principle of action. That is, to observe whether your own motivation is out of love, as long as it comes from love, do not change your principles because of other people's emotions such as sadness or anger.

4. Accept yourself, don't force yourself. There's nothing wrong with loving yourself as an introvert no matter what, and science shows that introverts are more likely to focus and focus, and are more likely to succeed. No matter what era, there will be introverts and extroverts, and the existence of God is reasonable.

When the hand resists, it comes more violently. So accept it, don't push yourself, and do your best. Accept yourself unconditionally no matter what.

In this way, it is relieved and relaxed, and it is easier to progress.

5. Stay relaxed. When your body relaxes, you don't feel anxious. If social situations make you nervous, learn some techniques to release your tension.

When you're relaxed, you feel more at ease, and other people subconsciously feel more at ease around you. When you're nervous, deep breathing exercises are a simple yet effective way to calm down.

6. Carry out positive and effective self-psychological suggestion. Another way to relieve tension in social situations is to repeat an autosuggestive phrase in your head. Try words like this:

I'm calm"or"I can successfully navigate social situations. "Don't try to be close friends with everyone As an introvert, you may be good at cultivating some close friends. Trying to be best friends with everyone will only wear you out.

Be careful about your friends and don't spend your social energy on people who don't add value to your life.

The teacher's words hurt me for decades.

When did I start to become introverted and silent, I can't remember clearly, whether I was born or changed later, and I can't say. I've been trying to change, but I still can't get out of that knot, and every time I speak, I always feel embarrassed again, making myself always blush and have a thick neck. It may be that the words of the old chain teacher in elementary school made me timid and cautious.

Stories from when I was in school.

Since I was a child, I belonged to the most positive type of students in class, and my grades were not bad, and every time the teacher asked a question, I rushed to raise my hand to ask questions, and my grades were good and I was confident.

Once in math class, the teacher made three questions on the blackboard, the first two were robbed by other students, and the last one did not raise a second hand except me. Brave is brave, you have to rely on strength to do the question, this question really can't be done, no wonder other students put down their hands when they drew the third question to the stage, and they were embarrassed and embarrassed. I didn't admit defeat, and stood in front of the blackboard for nearly ten minutes trying to figure out how to solve the problem, but the teacher got impatient and asked me to go back to my seat.

My face turned red to the root of my ears, I really wanted to find a hole to get into, I wanted to show off in front of everyone in Split Yu Sun, but I made myself so embarrassed.

Before the lecture continued, the teacher made up the knife, "I see that you have a big head and let you do it, how can you not afford it?" Forget it, listen to me carefully", the students laughed. Is it wrong to grow a bigger head?

I didn't listen to anything in that class, but fortunately, I was not left behind after the same table gave me a make-up lesson. Since then, I no longer take the initiative to raise my hand to answer questions in class, non-teacher name and random questions, even if I know, I will never raise my hand, as the so-called once bitten by a snake for ten years afraid of the well rope.

If you are timid, you can only hide.

Presumably, the teacher was not sarcastic when he said that, but just said it casually as a joke, but he didn't know that it caused irreparable damage to the child's growth and changed a person's personality. Since then, I have become a little timid.

Adults and children have different levels of comprehension, and a joke made by an adult is likely to hurt the child's young mind, and the adult world is not understood by children!!

Don't deliberately do it for the sake of change, you can't choose your personality and appearance, and don't compare with extroverts, be confident and self-reliant and live your true self.

1. Talk to yourself to reduce discomfort. In the face of unfamiliar environments, unfamiliar occasions, and strangers, what you need is to give yourself an affirmation. When you are shy and nervous, you silently say to yourself, "Be brave and take this step", "Actually, others are also shy", "It's not that scary"??

There will be less flustering.

2. Plan ahead. Sometimes I am afraid to meet people I don't know because I am worried about the embarrassing scene of not being able to talk and being at a loss. It will be much easier to prepare for those important social interactions in advance, such as remembering the names of important people and thinking of a few topics to talk about.

3. Help others. When you are overwhelmed, do something that makes you feel good and quickly calm down your anxious state of mind. It is a good choice to help others, such as pouring tea for others, handing tissues, etc., to distract the attention of shyness.

4. Participate in your favorite activities. Shyness is actually a lack of confidence in social interactions, and participating in activities that you like and do can reduce your low self-esteem and make yourself feel comfortable talking to others.

5. Find someone to talk to. No matter how shy people are, they have their own relatives and friends, and they can tell their difficulties to trustworthy people and vent their worries and emotions, which will be beneficial to the next attempt. It would be great to get encouragement and help from friends and family.

6. Write down the journey of overcoming shyness. If you're trying to change the problem you don't dare to get along with, write down your goals, make a plan, and keep a daily record of your attempts, breakthroughs, and progress. Seeing yourself improve little by little can give you more motivation and do better.

7. Meditation and yoga. For shyness, you can also try professional anxiety management methods. Consider meditation, yoga, physical activity, deep breathing, and other forms of relaxation**.

You can also seek professional counselling, where a trained counsellor can help people with social anxiety and provide cognitive-behavioural** and reassurance.

The above is about how shy people can improve their introverted personality, I hope it can help you!