What is it about your parents that you can t stand the most?

No one is perfect, and parents are also people, so there are certain shortcomings, but as for not being able to bear it, it's not too much, because anyway, no matter whether you can bear it or not, you have to endure it as much as possible, your husband and wife can change it if you can't stand it, and your parents can't stand it and change it. To say that there are a lot of shortcomings in my parents that I hate more.

My mother is short-tempered, sensitive and suspicious, which may have been inherited from my grandfather, and also because my mother is the youngest daughter of my grandfather, and she may have been pampered since she was a child, so she is very short-tempered. At home, my father, brother, and I were more afraid of her. And she's very sensitive, anyway, she will touch her point unconsciously, and then cause a quarrel, which is basically her mother's quarrel.

Therefore, I am afraid that the power of heredity is too strong, and I am likely to become a mother like a character. My brother had predicted a long time ago that I would become like my mother. <>

Although she is fierce and sometimes annoying, her love for us is far greater than her temper, so it is not unbearable.

In my dad, the most unbearable thing for me is that he likes cold violence, always keeps anger in his heart, doesn't like to say it, and always puts on a stinky face to show us. So from childhood to adulthood, mother's irritability will cause war, and father's coldness will make the atmosphere cold, and every quarrel must be a cold war, which will not end for a few days. This kind of atmosphere is easy to make people suffocate internal injuries.

So since I was a child, I thought that I must not find a man like my father in the future, who will suffocate me to death, but fortunately, my husband is a type who is not very faceless, and the hippie smiling face will not have a cold war with me.

The others are some minor problems, such as my mother doesn't like to clean up the house because she is usually very busy, and she is always messy. Dad is more machismo, he never cooks or does housework, which I don't like, but I have to put up with it. But parents love their children the most after all, and if they are tolerant of others, they will be more grateful than complaining.

Our parents brought us into the world and raised us from childhood to adulthood. It can be said that the care of us is meticulous, and it is said that in addition to parents and family members in the world, no one will be good to themselves for no reason.

Since childhood, parents have been their guiding lights and mentors for life. The words and deeds of our parents also affect us at any time. And for my parents, the last thing I can stand is to look at my phone casually when I am not sleeping or when I am not there.

Although I don't have too many secrets on my phone, I always feel that my parents have violated my privacy. When I was in junior high school, my parents always looked at my social media software at random or compulsory, and looked through my various chat records. And when I was in high school, I looked through my phone without my permission.

Their behavior really hurt my self-esteem. I also don't understand why I want to look at my privacy.

But in the end, they are still my parents, even if they do too much, I know it is for my own good, and I can't attack my parents with excessive words and behaviors, so I can only endure it.

Or, retort a few words and tell them not to do this in the future. I could only confront them a few words to express my inner dissatisfaction, but I could never stop them from doing so.

And after I went to college, I never looked over my stuff again, at least I didn't see it. Every time they enter my house, they knock on the door and come in, probably because I'm older and they think it's time for me to have my own private space.

The behavior of our parents may make us very incomprehensible, or very angry, but in short, it is still for our good.

The last thing I could stand was what my parents desperately asked me to do, and I never did. Especially when I was asked to repay them, they didn't take Grandpa's hard work for granted, or even took it for granted.

As a child, it is a matter of course for me to be filial to my parents, and I understand this very clearly. But at the same time, I also understand a truth, that is, you can't be foolish, and you shouldn't tolerate your parents' wrong behavior.

They left me to my grandparents when I was born, never really cared about me, and even didn't want to pay for medical treatment when I was sick. If it weren't for my grandfather, I probably wouldn't have lived to this day, so I knew since I was a child that the object of my filial piety should be more of my grandfather.

But as parents, they don't think so, they think that it is a natural thing for my grandfather to raise me, it is not worth mentioning, they gave birth to me, so I should give everything to repay them. So they often asked me and reminded me to repay them, but every time I asked them why they didn't repay their grandfather, they felt the need. even thinks that grandpa should feed them and will feed me in the future.

So to put it bluntly, I just can't stand the fact that my unfilial parents ask me to be filial to them.

Ignore me, ignore me.

Of course, in what they think is a big deal about marriage, they will "poke" me every once in a while. However, this is the state of their daily life. They may be in this state of mind, as long as I can eat and sleep, and I don't have missing arms or legs and getting seriously ill, there is no need to worry about me.

Two days ago, I helped my mom microwave the food, and when it was done, I turned on the microwave and prepared to bring it out. However, I was too anxious myself, so I went straight to the end with my hands. My hands were immediately burned and I felt very painful.

When my mother saw it, she immediately came over and took the heated things, but she was afraid that I would spill the food, so she turned around and left without paying any attention to me. I felt that my hands were quite hot, and then I felt half dead when I touched them, but my mother turned a blind eye to my pain, and did not even say a word of concern or blame.

For another example, when I was looking for a job after graduating from university, I had to stay at home because I didn't have a job, and I didn't dare to go out and spend money casually. My dad saw that I was very uncomfortable and always asked me how I was looking for a job. And his expression and attitude are not that he doesn't care about how you find a job, but thinks that I stay at home every day and consume the supplies in the house, just like rice worms.

He and my mother did not participate in the whole process of finding a job or express their opinions, and I worked hard to find a job by myself. I felt that if I didn't get a job, my dad would think I was useless and would think I would be a financial burden to them.

I feel that if my parents ignore me, even though I know how to be strong, I still have more hope for them and am more likely to be disappointed. But they often ignore my feelings, and I can only be silently lost, otherwise I will be considered very hypocritical.

My mother-in-law's love and scolding, and when someone comes to the house, she is not happy, and it is the most unbearable behavior for me.

Of course, it's her business that she loves to scold, but it's a bit bad if you scold at your children every day. The current environment is that there are almost no children in the county who can swear, so it is impossible for my children to stand out from the crowd.

I've talked to her many times about this, and she always said that she has always been like this, and she definitely can't change it. But I'm not saying that you should change it, at least you don't scold such ugly words in front of your children.

The child is still young and does not have a correct view of right and wrong. Parents are taught what they are. I really don't want my own child to be a second-rate person with a foul mouth and no quality.

It's a good thing that there are guests at home. We Chinese are warm and hospitable people. But every time someone comes to the house, she is not happy once, smashing the bowl and slapping the table, and always making people unhappy.

Nowadays, people don't come to the house to say that they owe you two bowls of rice, so there's no need to be so stingy. Isn't it true that having a good relationship is the most basic thing to deal with? But she didn't think so, she always thought that it was too much trouble for guests to come to the house, and she had to cook and wash dishes, so it was right to drive everyone away.

Now almost no one in our family goes, and they all say that they can't see your mother-in-law's face.

So I really can't stand these habits of her. I'm afraid that my child will learn to swear in the future, and I'm also afraid that we won't be able to be human beings in the future.

She doesn't listen to what she says, no matter how you explain it to her, she thinks she is the truth, she is God.

Categories: Troubles >> family relationships.

Problem description: Although parents are the most concerned about us and love us the most, they are not perfect, sometimes some of their behaviors make us feel unbearable, such as nagging all day long, always comparing other people's children with themselves, etc., so in your mind, what is the most intolerable parental behavior?

Analysis: It is normal for parents to compare their children with other people's children, and it is abnormal that some parents cannot analyze the results of the comparison in two, only see the strengths of other people's children, and cannot see the advantages of their own children. This practice often causes children to have an inferiority complex, jealousy, and gradually lose self-confidence.

2. One is that some parents pin their unfulfilled wishes on their children to realize them. This practice often does not take into account the specific situation of the child, which makes the child rebellious, which is not conducive to teaching according to his aptitude; The other is that the parents themselves did not have good living conditions when they were children, and You Naheng now gives their children meticulous care and"High level"so that children have a dependency mentality and affect the cultivation of children's ability to live independently.

3. Some parents understand strict requirements as constant criticism and reprimand, as well as forcing their children to use normal rest and entertainment time for studying, so that children live in panic and tension all day long, and their interest in learning and memory will decline.

3. On the eve of his college entrance examination, his parents did not come to see him, and the college entrance examination is one of the most important moments in a child's life, and many parents of classmates came to visit the school at that time. However, his parents never showed up. For this reason, he complained that his parents did not care about him at all.

The above things are just some things that can't stand what parents do, although they don't seem to be a big deal, but they are not a small thing for a child. What do you think?

Does it count as giving away my doll without my consent? I have a very favorite doll, birthday classmates (my crush boy) sent, although it is more than 10 centimeters long, not very big, I have not been willing to open the transparent packaging bag outside, afraid of dust, as a result of my mother and their colleagues took the little grandson to my house to play, my mother in order to coax the 2-year-old child, let him play with my doll and let him take home, really unbearable, at least ask me to respect me before giving it away.

Repeatedly ask me about my preferences but don't respect them every time, and next time I will do what they are used to. I have to cater to their schedule, and if it is different, my lifestyle is unhealthy and I am forced to correct it.

When a guest came to the house, my parents asked the children of the guest's family to rummage through my things at will, and even gave away my things without my consent.

From your description, you can see that your family background is still good. Your parents are still very controlling over you.

Give you a little advice, live strongly, and the future life is still very good.

For now, put up with it, control your hobbies and reduce your time, and play in private.

Handle family and friend relationships well and don't suggest other people's opinions. Not to mention in another 10 years, a few months, or two or three years, it is very likely that some people will never see each other, but they are just a passerby in your life.

Everyone has a low point in life, good luck.

All the arrangements are not what you want, all the plans are never discussed with you, only the grades in your eyes, and the children of other people's families in your eyes. At home, you don't have a voice.

This is the Chinese parents, don't be impatient, don't care about right and wrong, time is a great author, and everyone will write a perfect ending.

Your parents see that you will always be a child, and give you a little advice, you should find a relative who is more sensible and believes these words! Talk to him or her and let them have a good talk with your parents! Don't give up on life lightly, it's still a long life!

There are many, many roads that have not been experienced, and these are things that communication can solve! Face it instead of running away!!

Personally, I think that hobbies should not be lost, but first of all, we must ensure that we do not fall behind in learning. It's unreasonable to not care about exams because you're in a bad mood. Parents want their children to become successful children, and of course they care about your grades.

If your parents turn a blind eye to your grades, will you blame them for being irresponsible?

Since you like to draw, you have to make some achievements. If you win an award for your drawing, they won't be able to deprive you of your hobby.