I used to yell at my children a lot, how can I make up for it?

Punish yourself. Prepare a small chair for thinking at home, you yell at the child for a few seconds, and you go to the small chair to cool down for a few minutes. The children in the family will definitely use yelling to express negative emotions, you taught it.

If the child yells, sit for a few minutes, and if you think a few minutes is appropriate, you can do it for a few minutes. Do you ask your child for forgiveness, tell him that you are sorry, explain why you yelled, say that you love him very much, and finally ask him to give you a hug of forgiveness? There must be a four-part trilogy, every time you think about it, you have to have it, and a sense of ritual can make children feel important.

Talk to your child, first of all, let your child know that the problem is not all on him, let him understand your truest thoughts, you can agree on a safe word to remind you to control your emotions, so that the child can stop instead of blindly tolerating and then the gap between the two sides is getting bigger and bigger. Some other methods, such as recording yourself when you are angry, listen to it yourself. But the most important thing is that you have to learn to control your emotions, the child is weak and cannot be used as an outlet for emotions, it is best to ensure your emotional state before getting along with the child.

Say "no" firmly, once is enough. When you say no to a child for the first time, you have to be very firm and serious about your "no", and then don't say no to it repeatedly. Of course, as for why she said "no", the reason should be explained to the child in the same way that he can understand, and explain to the child why she can't get what she wants.

If this "no" does not work the first time, and the child makes a lot of noise because of it, parents should not compromise and insist gently.

Respect their privacy. We often ignore this point, we think that children are small, but generally children over the age of 3 are more concerned about the evaluation of others. So, remember not to say things that embarrass your child in front of others.

If you want to give them advice or reject your child, go to a private place and clearly tell your child why you can't do it. If you don't respect their words in front of others, especially making jokes about them in front of others, then the child will one day apply what he has learned and embarrass you in the same way.

In the child psychology class, the teacher has talked about this problem, and the impatience and anger towards the child is because he projects the disliked self onto the child. On the surface, it's a child's problem, but it's actually mine. On the surface, he is angry with his children, but in fact, he does not accept himself.

So there is a kind of cold, called the mother thinks I am cold, the child is not cold, it is you who feel cold. When you become aware of your projections, and your own pent-up emotions, you will break free from your emotions and clearly realize how much of your own problem is and how much of it is your child's problem. Growth begins with accepting one's imperfections.

The process of raising children is also the process of our self-growth.

In the hectic life of parenting, stop and examine your own thoughts, and sometimes you will find that the problem is not in the child, but in the parents' thoughts, and when the parents' thoughts tend to be helpful rather than unhelpful, then things will take a turn for the better.

Yelling at children often is a very bad way to educate, which will make children feel insecure inside. Therefore, parents should also pay good attention and hope that parents can change their own education methods. This can also make the child have a better performance, and can also make the child feel more secure inside.

Parents should also pay good attention in the process of educating their children, and never yell at their children. This will not only have the opposite effect and effect, but will make the child rebellious. Therefore, parents should also learn to educate their children calmly, so that children can better listen to their parents' ideas.

I hope that every parent can also pay attention to their own education methods, and I also hope that parents can be a more qualified parent. When children make mistakes, parents must not rush to get angry. It is also necessary to calm down, and then slowly guide the child, telling the child that this is wrong, so that the child can better correct his behavior.

I hope that every parent can also pay good attention to this kind of thing, and I also hope that parents can better educate their children. Yelling at a child is a very bad behavior, and such a practice will also make the child's heart very bad. Because yelling at children will also make them feel special fear in their hearts, which will also make children appear psychologically afraid.

Therefore, parents should also be patient and guide their children slowly. In this way, the child can have a better development and is also of great help to the child. Children's physical and mental health also need to be supported and educated slowly by parents, so that children's hearts can be better.

Therefore, parents should also change their education methods, and hope that parents can treat their children patiently. Only in this way can the child feel happier and warmer in the child's heart. Therefore, parents must also pay attention to this aspect of things, and hope that parents will not yell at their children.

Yelling at your child often can cause great harm to your child and will affect your child's physical and mental health. Now that you have the right parenting methods, you can make up for it.

Whenever you want to be angry, calm down, or communicate later, you can state the facts, and you can't let your temper control everything.

Introduction: Some parents often use yelling when educating their children, which leads to the distance between children and their parents, and also causes children to become more and more afraid of their parents, and even some children become particularly inferior, because he feels that his parents don't like him, how can he like himself.

If parents used to coax their children a lot, how can they make up for the mistakes they made in the past? First of all, we must get rid of this habit of the child, the child will definitely make mistakes in the process of growing up, if the parents do not have the correct guidance and do not solve it correctly, it is likely to lead to the child's psychological problems, so parents must change the habit of the child, when the child makes a mistake, the parent uses the right way to solve it, guide the child to find the reason for his mistake, and then tell the child the correct way to solve it, in addition to often accompany the child, You must know that good children will bring some psychological shadows to children in the past, and parents should accompany their children to play and walk, so that they can also shorten the distance between you and make up for the mistakes you made before.

Of course, you should also pay attention to the improvement of your family atmosphere, some parents think that if I don't coax my children, I can just coax my parents? In fact, this is not the case, all the behavior of parents will have an impact on the child, will make the child become timid, become unconfident, if you really find that you can't bear it, then stay for a while, stay quiet, and then think about it, see what kind of solution is the best, wait until your mood calms down, and then go to your family and then communicate with the child, as much as possible to make the family environment in a happy and relaxed situation, only in this way, Children will not be overly afraid of their parents.

I think first of all, you should admit your mistakes to your children, and then talk to your children more, care more about them, and take them out to play more, I think you can make up for your previous mistakes.

For children who are already sensible, as parents, you should find a suitable time to have a good talk with your child, sincerely apologize for the bad influence caused to him, and obtain the child's understanding so that it will not affect their healthy growth.

In the future, you should use a good attitude to get along with your children in life, and you should also take care of your children carefully and communicate with them in a good tone. Or take the initiative to apologize to your child.

Now you need to change your attitude towards your child, and when you talk to your child again, you should choose a gentler tone.

You should change your previous education methods, try to make yourself a person with a soft personality, deal with things calmly, and solve problems in the form of communication with your children, so as to dispel your children's fears.

<> "Constantly yelling at children, will it make children stupid?"

An 11-year scientific study by a Chinese university has shown that children who have been yelled at and verbally violent by their parents for a long time will have their brain structure so delicate that the areas responsible for learning, memory, concentration, emotional management, and thinking and decision-making will shrink and reduce volume, and the damage is permanent and irreversible.

1 The child who is yelled at a lot He will become very irritable and the roar will be passed down from generation to generation Today he is yelled at. Tomorrow he will yell at others, and when he becomes a parent, he will yell at his own children.

2.He will definitely rebel in the future, why? Because he's so young now, he doesn't have the strength to fight you, and when he grows up, he's going to fight you.

Another point will cause his personality to become inferior, introverted, timid, and afraid of things. The aggressiveness and irritability of adults will make the child completely unable to express his emotions and feelings of ruining the child, and your child will slowly close himself off, or the stealth will completely turn into a pleasing personality.

A common problem for parents?

1.I'm going to apologize and comfort me afterwards, right? The scientist's research also shows that your comfort and apologies after the fact don't offset the damage that came before. Therefore, what we need to do is not to make amends after the fact, but to avoid them as much as possible.

2.But sometimes I just can't control my emotions? Compared with the damage caused to the child, I think it will be much easier to properly control your emotions, after all, emotions are still controllable, when you want to lose your temper, you might as well take a deep breath, another way to vent your emotions.