It is said that mother in law is also a mother, can everyone really treat mother in law as a mother?

No, few daughters-in-law can really treat their mother-in-law as their own mother, and it is impossible for a mother-in-law to treat her daughter-in-law as her own children, although both sides say so, I see you as my own mother, and I also regard you as my own daughter. Just listen to it, don't take it seriously, if you are serious, you will lose.

Some mothers-in-law, in their eyes, the daughter-in-law is married to take over her son"Heavy duty"people, and even should"Three from four virtues"and other old antique concepts. Some time ago, I took my daughter to live at my mother's house for a while, and I basically didn't do anything except take my daughter, and I didn't wash the dishes once. I asked my mother what would happen if your future daughter-in-law didn't do housework like me, and my mother said confidently, "That's definitely not going to work, she has to at least help me wash the vegetables, wash the dishes, and so on."

I said, why don't I do nothing now? My mother replied, "What's the same, you are your own daughter, she is a daughter-in-law, so you should do housework." Then I despised my mother fiercely.

It can be seen that thousands of years of tradition is still deeply engraved in the concept of the older generation, and really affects our daily life.

The other kind of mother-in-law is a-stirring stick all day long, she wants to control everything, and she interferes too much, so how can her daughter-in-law treat you as a mother? Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are two creatures that are naturally mutually restrictive, and even if they can't help but accidentally fart, they will be over-interpreted by each other, and there will be hundreds of different versions.

Generally, the little daughter-in-law who has just married will be taught by her mother to be quick and quick-sighted, and treat her mother-in-law as her own mother, and that person will naturally compare her heart to her heart and treat you better. Haha, don't be too naïve in this idea, you may be polite at first, but it won't be long before the contradiction will emerge, and then the little daughter-in-law will wake up to the fact that her mother-in-law is not a mother.

Although I am not married, countless examples around me tell me that my mother-in-law can never be my own mother. I have two older sisters, so the word mother-in-law is not unfamiliar to me.

Take my eldest sister as an example, my eldest brother-in-law also has a younger brother, so when my eldest sister and my eldest brother-in-law got married, because of the fact that his younger brother was still in school and the family conditions were not very good, the eldest sister asked for a bride price, but my father gave my eldest sister a dowry. Objectively speaking, my eldest sister belongs to the kind of knife mouth tofu heart, although she sometimes speaks loudly, but she is still very kind in the bottom of her heart, so she got along with her mother-in-law in the first two years of marriage, and I think Sister Owen also treated her mother-in-law as her own mother at that time.

But the good times didn't last long, as my eldest brother-in-law's younger brother dropped out of school and also faced marriage problems, her mother-in-law had to split up, and then bought a house and a car for his second son, and had no money to borrow money to buy, and for my eldest sister's family, including her children, the two old people basically ignored it, to what extent, it was my eldest brother-in-law, and their own sons didn't want to pay attention to them. I remember that my eldest brother-in-law was still crying in front of my dad because of the separation, not because the family property was less divided or anything, but because his parents were too clear with him.

Up to now, I have a lot of classmates who have married one after another, talking about their respective mothers-in-law, everyone's unanimous voice is: I was running for the role of a good daughter-in-law at the beginning, I was better to her than my own mother, I don't do housework in my own house, but I am in my mother-in-law's house I wash the dishes every day, just then she still picks on me, she doesn't treat me as a family at all, her son is good to me, she is also a little unaccustomed, and a little jealous ......Later, I found out that a mother-in-law is a mother-in-law, and she can never be a mother-in-law.

The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has always been the focus of our attention, after all, this will directly affect whether a family is happy, everyone thinks that the best relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is to be able to be the same as mother and daughter, but in fact, is it really possible, I think it is impossible, because mother-in-law will always be mother-in-law, and mother will always be mother, without that layer of blood relationship, less than 20 years of nurturing grace, no matter how it is different. Therefore, it is best for mother-in-law and daughter-in-law to respect and understand each other.

One: It may offend the mother-in-law. Many daughters-in-law say that they treat their mother-in-law as before, and they are a little princess at home, and they don't clean up anything, and their parents do housework.

But when you get to your mother-in-law's house, you can't do it, you can never be so casual in front of your mother, and you may offend your mother-in-law because of it, even if you don't say it on the surface, you must mind it in your heart. <>

Two: There will be no estrangement with my mother, but I will with my mother-in-law. At home, we quarreled with our mother, no matter how fierce the quarrel was, the next day we were all the same, because there was no barrier between the two of us.

But unlike a mother-in-law, even a little thing may be like a thorn in your heart, which will become a barrier between your mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and after there is more estrangement, it will become a contradiction. and your own mother can be no big or small, because your parents are selflessly paying for yourself, but your mother-in-law should respect her. <>

Three: Everyone is selfish. In this world, everyone is selfish, and my mother can give without reservation, no matter how willful she is, she will only be your parents behind you, because your parents have no regrets, but your mother-in-law may not be able to do this.

A good mother is not necessarily a good mother-in-law, this is the double standard of parents, the difference between mother and mother-in-law. <>

It is said that distance produces beauty, so there is no need to be too close to your mother-in-law, it is very important for two people to maintain a suitable position, and it is not easy to respect and understand each other.

After all, your mother-in-law is not your real mother, and your mother-in-law will not treat you sincerely, so don't treat them as your own real mother.

Because after all, there is no blood relationship, and there is no one person who is good to another person for no reason, it is all purposeful.

Because the mother-in-law loves her son more at all times. When there is an emergency, he will still put his son first.

Because she is not related by blood after all, as long as you do a good job of superficial work, otherwise the other party will gain an inch.

Because your mother-in-law really won't love you like your mother, she will give to you unconditionally, for example, if you are dissatisfied with anything in life, you can say it to your mother, and you must not say it to your mother-in-law, so that your mother-in-law will have an opinion on you. My mother doesn't want you to suffer anymore, but my mother-in-law wants you to try her original suffering. This is the difference between a mother and a mother-in-law, so don't treat your mother-in-law as a mother.

This sentence is very reasonable, there is really a big difference between mother-in-law and mother-in-law, and there will be no scruples when you are with your mother, but when you are with your mother-in-law, you must be restrained, and you must maintain a proper distance.

If you treat your mother-in-law as your own mother, there will definitely be a lot of conflicts between the two of you. The daughter-in-law should respect her mother-in-law and keep a certain distance so that she can live in peace.