What do you think about grandparents educating children?

Now parents are busy with work, most of the children are handed over to grandparents to take care of, and the elderly take care of children, which has both advantages and disadvantages. The elderly have more parenting experience, and have enough time and enough patience, especially in the child's diet, the elderly will be very careful, often changing the tricks to make food for the child. But the old man with children also has his shortcomings, the old people's ideological concepts are outdated, can not keep up with the development of the times, it is easy to spoil children, everything for the children to do, which is not conducive to the cultivation of children's self-reliance.

It's best to bring your own children, if you can't do this, give them to the elders, you can't be the shopkeeper, but you should be more attentive to educating your children. At the same time, we should also pay attention to grasping the proportion, if there is only a disagreement with the elders on the details, bear with it. If you have an education like this grandfather, as a parent of a child, you must explain the reason to your child.

At the same time, when appropriate, he should also tell the child's grandfather that his education method is harming his grandchildren, and I believe that every elder will not want to harm his grandchildren.

Nowadays, young people are busy going to work to make money, and most of the children let their grandparents "use their spare heat" to take care of their children. Young people and old people with children are certainly different, young people want their children to be healthy, energetic, and educate with the latest methods. Grandparents are generally old-fashioned, an experience is used for a lifetime, they don't want to learn, they don't want to accept new knowledge, they feel that they have brought up their children, and they have experience, which is better than anything else.

Most of today's families are dual-income workers, or their parents go out to work, and the children are handed over to their parents, or grandparents. To be honest, it's not easy to bring children from the next generation. As the saying goes, the next generation.

Because of the next generation, the child was spoiled, and after a long time, he indulged the tyranny of the child, did not listen to his words, and ran rampant. Don't listen to the right words. Spending money indiscriminately.

Buy what you should buy, buy what you shouldn't, and throw it away if you don't like it. After a long time, I developed the stinky problem of loving to spend money. Extravagant, don't know how to save.

I don't know how hard it is to make money. And he has a very big temper. Ignore counsel.

If we don't give correct guidance and education, once habits are formed, it is difficult to change.

In education, we should find a balance between freedom and rules, so that children can cultivate an independent character in a free environment without losing respect for the rules. Nowadays, children's growth has its own internal laws, and each child has its own growth trajectory, in the process of children's growth, no one can replace the position of parents, especially education. But life will not always be in line with your ideals, and we always need parents to help take care of their children out of various helplessness.

It depends on the cultural background, of course, the well-educated older generation can bring good grandchildren, on the contrary, the uneducated older generation not only can not bring good grandchildren, but can teach smart and dexterous children to be stupid and horizontal, I have experienced it personally, but I am very helpless and helpless, and now I am tired of making up for the sky.

It is indispensable for seniors to assist in bringing up children, and as for the way of education, appropriate guidance and correction are provided. We try to spend time with our children to give guidance, education and guidance as appropriate, so that they can have a better opportunity to learn new things in a modern way.

Grandpa is a retired old teacher, and every time he educates his children, he says that he must study hard, return to the motherland when he grows up, and be an honest and grateful person.

Grandparents to childrenFamily education and nurturingThe effects are as follows:

1. The older generation of people take care of children, and many times they do everything, such as helping children bathe and dress, feeding brothers and children, and even drinking water and not letting children do it themselves. In this way, in the long run, children will not have to do anything by themselves, and they will naturally not be able to do even simple housework, which is not conducive to cultivating their independent ability.

2. The education received by the older generation is relatively backward, which will cause them to be unable to educate their grandchildren. Especially when the children are already in school and need to help the children with their homework, the older generation is even more ineffective. Therefore, this may have a direct impact on the child's learning problems.

Summary. First, show your attitude towards education, and secondly, show that you don't want to hurt family feelings;

First, show your attitude towards education, and secondly, show that you don't want to hurt family feelings;

Parenting can show the child that the grandparents also have love for him.

But the performance is not obvious.

You can give some examples to show that the elderly are limited by some problems, so they do things a little biased.

Let the child know that the grandparents also love him, and establish an impression of respect for the elderly.

Then, parents can go to the elderly and persuade the elderly to do some things.

If the elderly really can't accept it, they can take the opportunity to let the child have less contact with grandparents to solve the problem at the root and make the child less disappointed.

There are certainly differences in the educational concepts of the two generations, which requires the two generations to communicate with each other, unify their understanding, and learn from each other's strengths.

If you encounter an elderly person who spoils his children, how should parents educate their children?

1. You can't spoil blindly.

Doting is the destruction of children, and now many bear children say that because of the education of their grandparents, they have become Min Juechang what they are now. After all, in comparison, my father's confidence is not as strong as my grandfather's.

Most parents are in a precarious situation, making some money is not enough to spend on their own, and they naturally do not have much confidence for their children, and sometimes they can't afford what their babies want.

The elderly are different, most of them have pensions, and they don't have too many expenses in life, so they have an attitude that they can be satisfied with whatever they want to buy, which creates a habit of doing whatever they want for their children.

2. Cultivate children to work hard and struggle.

It is said that boys should be poor, but of course girls do not mean that they must be rich, and being rich does not mean economically, but spiritually.

Most parents don't give their children material things, but spiritually, they don't have much time to educate. Then this heavy responsibility can be given to grandparents, who are old and have come from poverty and know that life is not easy.

You can cultivate children's hard character, take them to understand the countryside, see how difficult it is to farm, and then let them know how much effort their parents have made for him.

3. Learn to "show weakness".

Don't show in front of your child that you can meet anything, in fact, after the child makes a request, we can refuse appropriately, let them know that the family is not omnipotent, and let the child know how to be in awe.

In this way, when there is a big event in the future, the child will also think twice, so as to reduce the burden on the family. As for the bear children, they are all hot-headed, which brings great disasters to their parents.

There may be many reasons why grandparents can't accept the parents who can't accept the education of their children.

One possible reason is that grandparents and parents have different ways of education. Grandparents may be more traditional and believe that children should be obedient, modest, and polite, while parents may have a more relaxed approach to education and pay more attention to the development of the child's personality. This difference may cause grandparents to not be able to accept the parent's way of education.

In addition, grandparents may also be worried about the well-being and health of their children. They may feel that their parents' parenting methods are too lenient and that their children will be harmed or put in danger. As a result, they will not be able to accept their parents' way of education.

In addition, grandparents may also feel that they are more experienced in their children's education and think that their education methods are more scientific. As a result, they may not be able to accept their parents' way of education.

In general, the reasons why grandparents can't accept their parents to educate their children may be because of different education methods, worrying about the safety and health of their children, and thinking that their education methods are more scientific. These reasons may lead to differences of opinion between grandparents and parents, and they cannot accept each other's education style.

In my opinion, the main reason is that the problem of intergenerational parenting involves many aspects such as living habits, knowledge level, family background, and educational philosophy, but it is mainly manifested in the following two aspects:

First, the concept of education does not reach the united front

Each generation has different life backgrounds and life experiences, and the educational concepts they can receive are also different.

Young parents think that it is necessary to cultivate children's hands-on ability from an early age and let children learn to be independent, while the elderly think that children are still young and cannot "blow the lamp"; Young parents think that their children are disobedient, so they should be taught harshly, and the elderly feel that if they are too strict, they will scare their children stupidly; Young people think that a child should buy expensive and good clothes for their children, and old people think that young parents are too extravagant and wasteful; Young parents feel that their children should learn to paint, play the piano, and cultivate a sense of art, while the elderly feel that it is useless to learn those things, and they can learn cultural classes well.

The inconsistency of the educational concept of Jiaqing Ranting will directly affect the physical and mental health of children.

Second, the scale of love is difficult to grasp

"It's natural. The old people will give their children what they think is good, put the needs of their children first, and unconsciously spoil too much, shelter too much, and replace too much in the interaction with children.

There is nothing wrong with loving children, but loving too much and trembling and lacking turns into doting. Children will take it for granted that others do everything for themselves, forming a bad habit of "self-centeredness".

Grandparents' unprincipled, bottom-line pampering and compromising with children is unacceptable to young parents. Thus creating contradictions.

The children are grandparents, and the grandparents help to bring them, and there must be resistance to educating the children. As the old saying goes, the four old people only care about the children, and they don't care about the children [covering their faces].

Once, because of educating children, I said to the child's grandmother, you were used to him when he was a child, and when he was older, I couldn't manage it, you can manage it, then I will sell it and raise him according to your method.

In educating children, you must communicate well with the elderly, otherwise don't be in front of the elderly.

It is a common fact that the doting of the elderly on their grandchildren constitutes an obstacle for parents to strictly control their children. Therefore, it is best for children to be taken care of by their parents themselves, which is absolutely beneficial to the child's relationship with his parents and to the child's healthy growth. In the early stage of the formation of personality and habits, children need the care and education of their parents the most, if parents owe too much, the child may become a professional debt collector, so that your life will not be peaceful.

You also want the elderly to take on the responsibility of educating their children! Whose children are and who are the parents. Help you with your children and be content. The Son does not teach the Father. It is not said that it is the responsibility of grandparents and grandparents that children are not educated. Bi Zhi.

My mother is very fond of my son. In September 2021, my child should be in the second grade of primary school, but as long as my mother eats at my house, my mother will feed her son. I can't interfere, as soon as I speak up, my mother has so many reasons that I can't interject at all.

Let's go! There are obstacles. I am a grandmother with a 4-and-a-half-year-old granddaughter, and to be honest, I have spent all my patience and savings on this granddaughter, and I will guide the child on the right path in all aspects. Of course, sometimes it's very doting.

However, when my son and daughter-in-law educate their children, I will never interfere. Even if I feel distressed, I will never support my child at this time. But then again, if I scare my children and make noise all day long, will my son and daughter-in-law give them to me?

In bringing children, there are contradictions with children, the elderly are more affectionate with children, the next generation is a little bit closer to the town, the grandchildren are closer than the children, the parents are stricter when the children do the wrong things, when the grandmother and grandmother will be unhappy, sometimes there will be contradictions in the education of children, the education methods are different, so the education of children also listen to the children, the old people do their best not to mix, take care of themselves and don't cause trouble to their children, to ensure their own health is the main thing.

Thousands of high-rise buildings rise from the ground, and the foundation is mated, which takes too much experience to slowly change.