How the victim mentality is cultivated

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The so-called victim mentality refers to the practice of having a negative and distorted way of thinking to seek benefits and support for oneself, and they will have complaints and extreme attitudes, believing that everything is not their own responsibility, either the fault of others, or the darkness and unfairness of society.

People with a victim mentality usually have the following behavioral characteristics:

1. Blame others for all the things that don't go well in life. No matter what happens, he will not look at the problem neutrally and objectively, he will point the fuse of the problem at others, and use his own theory to distort the facts, so that others agree with his statement.

2. The society is dark, and it is the world that is wrong. They have very extreme, paranoid thoughts, thinking that the world is against them, and if something doesn't go their way, they will take drastic actions to express their emotions.

3. Understand the kindness of others as an attack. If others want to help him, they will not agree with others in their hearts, they will have a suspicious and paranoid attitude, thinking that the other party will harm them and plot wrongdoing, and they will use their own cognition and understanding to speculate on the behavior of others, and fabricate and distort facts out of nothing.

4. Never reflect on your mistakes. On the surface, there may be an attitude of admitting mistakes, but in the heart they will not accept what others say, and after the incident, they will still go their own way and do things again. The mistakes that were made in the past will happen again, and they will be exacerbated.

People who have a victim mentality are usually not psychologically healthy and have a certain degree of personality distress.

People with a victim mentality generally magnify the frustrations in their lives, and when they interact with others, they tend to think that others have bad intentions for them, and when their lives are not satisfactory, they tend to complain about the people around them, and feel that their appearance has delayed their lives.

People with a "victim mentality" are accustomed to positioning themselves as "victims" in the situation, because in this way, they do not have to take responsibility and do not have to try to change the status quo, and it becomes the norm to complain, blame, and vent their anger on others.

Once people define themselves as victims, it is easy for them to project others or the outside world as "perpetrators", so that they are completely opposed to the outside world, thinking that they are the most pitiful people, others do not understand them, the whole world is against them, everyone is not good enough for themselves, and they are deeply trapped in the pain of being hurt and cannot extricate themselves.

Originated from the parents' disacceptance of themselves, the sense of self-worth is too low, the thinking is still stuck in the outward attribution, and the inner strength is lacking.

In their hearts live a "helpless child", they feel that it is difficult to change their current state of life, so they always stay in complaining, they like to blame each other, complain about their parents and leaders, as if the status quo is caused by others. Because only this kind of thinking can make their hearts feel better and prove that they are not wrong, but others.