How to effectively control the development of emotions?

1. Be rational when you can't control your feelings.

Fairness, dissatisfaction, and grievances should also try to calm down first. Maybe you've accumulated a lot of dissatisfaction, but you shouldn't shake it out at this point, but you should talk about it on a case-by-case basis. Being too emotional will not make your reasons clear, and it will also lead the other person into thinking that you are dissatisfied with him and not with him, so you should find another way out.

Enhancing our sense of reason can make us think more about things, think more about others, think more about the consequences of things, take them seriously, and deal with them carefully. When you want to argue with someone, you can also remind yourself repeatedly: don't get angry, be calm.

In this way, it is possible to curb emotional impulses and avoid undesirable consequences.

2. Learn a little way to restrain your temper.

Put warnings in your bedroom or on your desk to keep your anger and control your anger to remind yourself to stay calm.

When you find yourself emotionally excited, in order to avoid an immediate outburst, you can consciously change the topic or do something else to distract yourself, and transfer your thoughts and feelings to other activities to relax the tension. For example, quickly leave the scene to do something else, talk to someone, take a walk, or simply go outside for a few laps, so that the energy triggered by anger can be released and the mood will be calm.

There are many things that can be dealt with in a variety of ways, you should be flexible when you encounter problems, don't be so rigid, sometimes you can back down, give the other party a chance to change their mind and attitude, and choose a method to consider the effect of things.

3. Pay attention to the occasion of complaining.

Sometimes it is natural for a person to change his opinion, but if someone says that he is wrong in public, he will be annoyed, more stubborn, and even wholeheartedly defend his opinion. It's not that the perception itself is precious, it's that his self-esteem is threatened. When venting your emotions, use more informal settings and less formal ones, try to talk privately with your boss and colleagues, and avoid publicly expressing opinions and dissatisfaction.

This will not only leave room for maneuver for oneself, and even if one makes a mistake in putting forward an opinion, it will not damage one's image in the eyes of the public, but it will also help maintain the dignity of one's superiors and prevent others from falling into passivity and embarrassment.

Fourth, restrain emotions through mentality transposition.

Mentality transposition, that is, to think about problems from the other party's point of view, and to exchange roles and positions with others. As the saying goes: compare the heart to the heart.

By transposing one's mentality and playing the role of others, we can experience the emotions and thoughts of others, which is conducive to preventing the generation of bad emotions and eliminating the bad emotions that have been generated.

If you want to effectively control the development of emotions, two people should understand and tolerate each other together, be considerate and love each other, tolerate each other in life, and work hard to give each other a safety guarantee through their own abilities! The first one is to have the need to control his emotions, for example, when he encounters a problem, he must first calm down and think for a few seconds, and then he will go down and slowly think about how to develop emotions, so that there is a funny development**, or think from his point of view.

A good relationship can control the speed of development. But borrowing the words from the lyrics of Xue Zhiqian's "Ambiguous", the current feelings are ambiguous. When you control the development of the relationship, you are in a stage of ambiguity, ambiguity can be regarded as good and bad, the good thing is that you control the progress of the relationship, most of the time in a kind of yearning for the relationship, which will produce a pleasant feeling.

The disadvantage is that you don't have it easy to open your mouth when you want to go further, because you don't know if the other person feels the same way as you, and the more suspicious you are, the more you can't open your mouth, and the relationship may gradually flatten. Now the relationship is like a fast food culture, the consumption speed is extremely fast, and it is not easy for two people to be in a state of especially yearning for feelings, after all, such a state will not be too long. When both sides have a certain amount of time to alleviate the situation, calmness breaks the ambiguous situation, and a bold decision may be made, or it may be said goodbye.

It is not too necessary to control the development of feelings, it is better to delay the ambiguous period. As for how to delay, it depends on the person's attitude towards the relationship and the attitude towards the other party.

Allow yourself to try to be a little more indifferent, and then think about every word, before you do everything, when you hear every message, think about the reasons and reasons for it, and over time, you will become more rational and you will be able to effectively control the development of emotions.

1. Learn to decompress yourself.

Often when a person is exhausted, irritability and irritability slowly grow in the bottom of the heart. What is needed at this time is to adjust, decompress, and relax. For example, listening to a comedy, or releasing stress through a sport are some of the great ways to relax and delight your body and mind.

Two remain silent.

In many cases, silence is better than sound, and reason is not high. What you say when you are angry and impatient is always irrational. It's easy to turn one thing into something on fire.

If you hurt others, you are not injured yourself. The more angry you are, the more you have to subconsciously hypnotize yourself to be silent. Let yourself be at peace.

If you want to control the development of emotions, then you must first control your emotions, have rational thinking and correct judgment.

Hello. Emotions are two-way, you can only do what you do yourself, you can't control the other person.

Emotions need to be treated rationally, but often the two parties communicate in the emotion, which is something very emotional.

If there is a problem between the two of you and you have no way to solve it rationally, then it is a problem between you, which means that your relationship will go out of control.

All in all, two people ultimately have to face the problems in life together, so they must know how to advance and retreat, and know how to communicate rationally with each other at the right time.

You can do other things when emotions happen, such as traveling, studying, and diverting your attention. In this way, you can effectively control the development of emotions, thank you hope, thank you ......

If you want to effectively control the development of emotions, you must be aware of it. There should be a clear number of how far you should develop, how much effort you should make, and how much money you should spend, so that you can control every stage of emotional development.

If you want to effectively control the development of emotions, the first thing is to control your emotions, for example, when you encounter a problem, you must first calm down and think for a few seconds, and then then he will go down and slowly think about how to develop emotions, so that there is a funny development**, or think from his point of view.

If you want to effectively control the development of emotions, you need to control your feelings rationally and don't invest too much in your feelings. The more you give, the more you hurt, and the more you invest.

There are two ways to effectively control emotions, one is self-control, and the other is other control, self-control refers to when you find yourself in your emotional time and space, you try to restrain your heart to achieve self-control. He is objective to control emotions, so objective control of emotions is to take certain measures when you find that you have emotional problems, such as putting **, or going to a public place, so that you can objectively prevent the continuation of your emotions.

Well, if you want to effectively control the development of emotions, first of all, you must first control your emotions in the first place, for example, when you encounter a problem, you must first calm down and think for a few seconds, and then he will go down and slowly think about how to develop emotions, so that there is a funny development**, or think about it from his point of view.

Emotions come from the heart, are often irrational, and are difficult to control.

If you want to control the development of your emotions, then this relationship is no longer innocent and natural, it is better to carefully manage this relationship, and it will naturally develop well.

When you are controlled by emotion, it is easy to make mistakes in your judgment, and if you want not to be controlled by emotion, you must put aside your emotions to think about the present, stay calm when you encounter things, and develop the habit of not being controlled by emotions in your daily life.

Try to detach yourself from the situation, see yourself as a spectator, without any preconceptions, without any selfish distractions, not subjective, but objective, in neuro-linguistic programming, this method is called "reconstruction". However, often separating one's feelings may lead to psychological and personality problems, so don't rely on detachment when you encounter difficulties. Don't make assumptions under the influence of uncontrollable emotions, start from the facts, think logically, and let logic help you see the facts.

Don't have negative thoughts of self-deprecation. Don't just see the perfection of others, once you start comparing yourself to others, you won't see your own unique brilliance. Emotions can sometimes also come into play when dealing with things, and it may not be a bad thing to go along with strong feelings.

When faced with a difficult situation, deep breathing can help you regain your calm, inhale through your nose for 2 seconds, hold your breath for 4 seconds, exhale for another 4 seconds, repeat the process, and you will feel yourself slowly calming down. Don't be restless all day, instead of doing this, get up and do something else, distract yourself, change all the thoughts in your head to positive ones, and get rid of bad thoughts. Don't use alcohol or self-harm to numb your emotions, this may sound like a good thing, after all, "one drunk relieves a thousand sorrows", but in fact, after indulging yourself, you will feel more uncomfortable than before, not only the problem is not solved, but the body is also hurt.

If you find yourself feeling depressed all the time, it may be related to your environment, and if you are surrounded by some friends who are depressed all the time, it will be easily affected, and you should find a way to get out of this circle of friends.

Get rid of emotional control, start from ordinary life, develop the habit of not being controlled by emotions, not negative or positive, and do "not be happy with things, not sad with yourself".

You should adjust your mentality and state, and then you should also have a stable mood, and you can choose to divert your attention when you are emotional, so that you can reasonably control your emotions and calm down.

You should control your emotions, you should manage your emotions well, and you should also be careful not to let your emotions fluctuate too much. You should also face a relationship with the right mindset. Don't get angry too often.

I think in a relationship, you can't get angry at every turn, quarrel because of small things, you have to learn to forgive each other, there is no right or wrong in some things, as long as two people slowly run in.