How can I deal with the daughter brought by my current wife?

Since your current wife has married you, then she and the daughter she brought are your dearest family from that moment on, you should treat her like your own daughter, if as you said, she may be young because she is still young, not very sensible, a little naughty, at this time you should be more patient, to discuss countermeasures with your wife, and strive to open her heart, to be able to understand your difficulty, I believe that people always have feelings, you really pay for her well, she can feel it, The above are my personal recommendations and are just for reference.

A mother who accepts her should accept her child, and it is the child's nature to be naughty. Be more understanding and more forgiving. Your dedication to the child's mother will see, after all, it is the child, and I hope you are happy.

Treat it as your own, talk more and communicate more, educate when it is time to educate, pay attention to the psychological details of the child, care about the child from the small things in life, and eliminate the estrangement of the child under the fence.

Be a good stepfather, deal with her well and far, if you are a loving father under the age of ten, don't think about how she can accept you when you are over the age of ten. Communicate well with your wife.

Children need patience, there is nothing wrong with their own children's education, and other people's children can only be influenced.

Learn to love the house and the black.

Praise her more, praise her, such as praise her dress, beautiful clothes, sell her small gifts. Be nice to her mother and give her pocket money.

I'm not a psychiatrist, but I'm sympathetic to your problems and have had similar experiences with you. In fact, there will always be family conflicts of one kind or another in a family. In the end, whoever is at fault, who is right, they all stand on their personal interests and feel that they are always victims, and I personally suggest that your mother live separately from you, in fact, you should take these into account before you remarry, and make it clear to the other party, if your mother is a short stay, it is okay, if you live permanently, it will be difficult.

It's not easy for your current wife, and from a woman's standpoint, there will be a sense of crisis, and if you're joking, you're three against two, with your mother and your daughter. For the relationship between your current wife and your daughter, maybe she is afraid of bearing the title of "stepmother", the traditional concept of stepmother is difficult to do, she has a psychological burden, at least I think so, if I am asked to be whose stepmother, I don't have the courage to contract, afraid of not doing well, afraid of being infamous, but these are to be accepted, and this is the case. Communicate well with your wife, encourage her, support her, help her, the relationship between your daughter and your current wife is definitely not something that your current wife can do well alone, she needs your help.

A son and a daughter are happy! Although a daughter is not biological, a child is always a child, don't pay too much attention to who gave birth to it, as long as it is as good as your own child, it is enough. This is the duty and obligation of parents.

Since you are married, you have to live well. Mother still has to be filial, if the conditions allow to rent a house for your mother, even if it is in the same community (and your wife must have negotiated), maybe your mother will be reluctant to spend money or feel wronged, you can say that the house is borrowed by a friend and so on to help look at the house, so how many mothers will also have a little face. At least she won't be sad.

The family atmosphere needs to be adjusted, and the best thing to do is to keep a distance, or to have a reunion dinner, and do not reprimand your wife in front of your mother and wife, and blame your mother in front of your wife and mother. I wish you all a speedy and harmonious life.

You have already experienced the problem of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law in your last marriage, and you have not grown up to learn and mud until now.

You should have considered the conflicts between the remarried family and the children before you got married, including the communication with your wife.

You always feel that they are vexatious, but you don't understand their feelings at all, for example, you say that your wife blames you for having a daughter in your heart, why is that? If you never interact with her, and it is your wife or your mother who comes out when you need to see the children, can she say such things?

Three women in one play, if you don't even know what they think, and you can't patiently listen to their complaints and analyze what the root cause of the problem is, then you can only do housework.

Save money to buy a house, mother-in-law, daughter-in-law, daughter left by ex-wife, these three big and small women nest in a small space, it is normal to break the head and bleed, a ball of harmony is a miracle, a small house that does not need to be very big and does not need to be far away from your current home can solve the problem that 10,000 psychologists and emotional experts can't solve.

Even if there are psychologists and emotional experts, it is not you who need help, but the three women in your family.

The key lies in the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.

You do the ideological work with both of them.

Communicate more.

Discuss more things.

There are contradictions, tolerance, and tolerance.

Don't take it personally.

Do your part.

Do the above natural harmony of the family.

Hey, it's hard, if your daughter doesn't like her current wife, take your time.

Then your current wife doesn't seem to understand you very much, you both have sons, live a good life.

My wife and mother ask you, who do you save if you fall into the river, the question is not the key, the key is who can ask the question, and whoever asks you this question will save him first.

I haven't experienced it, be honest with each other.

Marriage is like this, remarriage is always not as good as the original match, because it has to deal with the relationship between four families. Men should be more responsible.

Learn to carry a little bit on both sides, and a bowl of water is as flat as possible!

This question.

It is a problem that many divorced families will face. Overloaded communication, your wife is actually afraid that you have your ex-wife in your heart, and you have to eliminate her uneasiness. Your mother is afraid that you have a new family, your daughter and her own family that she can't fit in, so you communicate with her more and comfort her soul more.

Talk to your wife more, tell her how humble the old man is, and suffer some small grievances for the sake of family harmony, and if you care more about your wife, she should be able to bear it. It's all about home.

We're in the same situation, buddy. My solution is to communicate frequently, just communicate more, I was in pain half a year ago.

Treat her parents like your parents, your son as your daughter, find a suitable time to communicate more together, and talk about your psychology.

You should talk to them, and you're going to break down if you go on like this.

If you accept her, you should accept everything from her, as long as you treat her daughter as your own daughter, everything is simple, people have feelings, as long as the reason is paid.

Take your time: Time can change everything.

How old the child is, treat her as your own child.

Be patient, don't get angry, show a loving side everywhere, be patient in contact, even if the other party has a bad attitude, don't be like her, warmth can melt indifference, be a kind person, selfless and wide.

That means that your wife is not virtuous enough, can your child be a father and treat her badly? What's more, I lost my mother's love again, and I should experience it as a stepmother.

Your current wife is the first marriage, your divorce and remarriage will hurt your daughter a lot, clearly tell her your position, it is normal for you to be good to your daughter, and she is also responsible for taking care of your daughter when she remarries you. If you are more worried about the relationship between your daughter and the current one, I advise you to give the child to the elderly or to the mother of the family as soon as possible. Don't hurt your daughter, and don't hurt your relationship.

Then you will be good to your wife, quietly be good to your daughter, and then let your daughter go out to play when your wife is there

She didn't adjust it in her own mind. You need to see a psychiatrist for this.

A stepmother is a stepmother after all.

Unafraid! Treat children equally.

I am from Yunnan, I am a public institution worker, I have a daughter due to the death of my ex-wife, can I find a second one if I want to marry again?

You don't try to please deliberately, because it is not easy for everyone to reorganize the family, and don't tolerate it just because you are an adult. If you are embarrassed, you will be embarrassed to go back, after all, you are living with his mother for the rest of your life, not with him, and your wife must also communicate well, and her support is very important. Many times halfway husband and wife are together, unless it is a combination of true love such as a fairy couple, otherwise this kind of family conflict, especially people like parents and their time, is far more than what others see in their eyes and can imagine.

It seems that up to now, most of the relatives and friends around our family feel that the family relationship in our family is very harmonious, even better than some of the original families. Sometimes I suspect that my parents feel the same way, and they slowly begin to accept the perception of our family in the eyes of others, and even proudly introduce our family harmony to outsiders on various occasions or dinners.

But for me, it's not like that. Our family had been together for about ten years, and when I was ten years old, I had a stepfather and an older brother. From the initial short-term harmony, to friction, quarrels, throwing pots and pots, splitting and merging, and then gradually returning to balance after five or six years.

The protagonists of the quarrel are the parents, and they hinder each other, and you must know how many times you have experienced the struggle to achieve such a mutually balanced situation now. Some people may think that since they choose to form a family, is it necessary to do this?

The core of every quarrel they have is nothing more than for their own children. In a reorganized family, there is a layer of blood in between, and there is a gap that can never be eliminated. It's easy to say that equal treatment is true, but at a critical time, can children who are related by blood and children who are not related by blood be treated equally?

Not to mention the critical time, even if there is an extra fried egg in daily life and quietly buy ice cream, such trivial matters may not be fair.

The so-called poor couples mourn everything, although my family is not poor, but the hearts of my parents are always selfish. If you don't trust, don't understand, and be tough, the other party will be jealous of your child. Even if there is a lot of trouble, you must refuse to take a step back for your children.

This is the biggest source of conflict in a reconstituted family.

You can have a good talk with his son, and spend a lot of time with her son, and tell him that you are really good to him.

It is quite normal for the current child to reject the stepfather, you should try to make him accept you, embarrass you may not want you to marry your mother, the child may still be in a rebellious period and does not understand the feelings of the parents, so you should put in more effort.

In fact, you can let time slowly make him accept you, and you don't have to deliberately please your current wife's son. It's okay to move your son with your actions and make him accept you.

This is very normal, after all, you are married for the second time, and his son will be more or less prejudiced against you, you can accompany her son more and let him feel your love for him.

If her son is always embarrassed by you, you can pretend that you can't see it and hear it, and don't let yourself get angry and hurt yourself.

I think you should give him a little more care, since you have decided to start a new marriage, you should be responsible, take more care of the children, and believe that you will not be rejected after getting along for a long time.

First of all, you have to have a good relationship with him, do what he likes, and be friends with him, if you have no choice, you can only tell your wife and see how to deal with it.

I think you should give him a serious enough look to let him know that you are also not easy to mess with, so that he will not be very difficult for you in the future.

At this time, we must pay attention to our wife, and there is no need to pay attention to this son. Just be who we are.

You should communicate with him more, consider problems from his standpoint, understand his interests and hobbies, buy him what he likes, and take him to play his favorite games.

Is it that the two children can't get along, or you adults can't get along.

Children can't get along with each other, and it's not easy to deal with. Adults on both sides should communicate more with their respective children. Let him understand the difficulties of adults, the divorce of parents has caused harm to children, and children are willing to resist new mothers and children.

May you be able to resolve it satisfactorily.

Who doesn't get along with whom, 2 sons?

In life, he discriminates equally, and he can only discipline his own son. Now the wife brought her to discipline.

Didn't you agree on this in the first place? Or did you go back on your original promise? She really couldn't tolerate it and could only let her go, there was no other way!

You have to arrange your own activity time for the two of them, and have a party at the right time, such as your son's birthday or something, like this kind of more pleasant time people will be easier to accommodate each other, and the run-in between each other will slowly get better, and you must understand the thoughts of your wife and son, maybe blood relationship is really something that can't be changed, so as long as you can be harmonious in the future, there is no other better situation.

Tell the truth, didn't you tell her? That's your fault, haha. If she really can't accept it, then divorce, after all, family affection comes first. Otherwise it's painful to be caught in it all day, right? The most important thing is to be good at yourself and follow your own path.

This kind of thing should have been discussed a long time ago, you got married without anything decided, if you want to have a child, then find him a stepmother who can accept him.