Parents interfere in love marriage, do parents interfere in your love and marriage?

Let me tell you what I think about it.

1.First of all, it cannot be denied the nurturing grace of parents, so their attitude cannot be ignored;

2.Then, it must be clear that the relationship between parents and girlfriends is two different things, and there is only one decision left to resolve the contradiction between family affection and love. So how to solve it?

Family affection can be negotiated, but love needs to be persistent, so my attitude is that I must hold on to the love between the two of you first, and then find a way to solve the problem;

3.Then, it is your girlfriend who wants to live with you for the rest of your life, and your parents will naturally live separately from you after marriage, and your life should not and cannot be mixed with your parents' life to make decisions, so in the face of a lifetime of love, your parents' opposition attitude can only be secondary, if they still obstruct it, then their thinking can be said to be too feudal;

4.Life is a whole, love is also a whole, in front of a whole composed of the joint efforts of both parties, some details of life are not necessary to care, it is just a small thing, but the important thing is feelings. Even if you can't change your parents' minds in the end, you can discuss it with them from the perspective of life, and I believe they will understand you for the rest of your life;

5.If it can't be resolved by negotiation anyway, then let's cut through the mess with a quick knife. For example, you can get your girlfriend pregnant first, and if you have a child, you can solve any problem, and then you can register for marriage first, and then tell your parents, even if they can't understand it afterwards, they will slowly be moved by your persistence after a long time, and then, if it can't be solved, it is recommended that you can move out and live for a period of time, so that everyone can have a space to think calmly, I believe that their decades of life experience will understand the key point of this matter before you, and then they will naturally understand you. And all of the above can be discussed with your parents, I believe they will understand you better;

6.The key is your persistence, nothing in this world is absolute, and there is no problem that cannot be solved, so, come on, buddy, for the sake of your love, overcome all difficulties and catch up!

I wish you all happiness and love together!

What's so bad about that! As long as you insist on taking her, she loves you too, and their family likes you, are you still afraid that things won't work out, as long as you don't waver, it's useless for your parents to oppose it, and then they will be soft, and they will definitely depend on you, and they can only rely on you. The question is why they are resolutely opposed, because marriage is not only your own lifelong event, but also the fundamental interests of them and the whole family, and you can't be sloppy at all!

After contact and observation, your girlfriend is definitely not their ideal daughter-in-law, and it is definitely not just a matter of such a trivial matter as the water is not full. My brother's (19 years younger than me) girlfriend came to my house for the first time, my lover's first impression was that this girl was not good, I also thought it was not good, and my brother ignored our opposition, married her, had a child, it turned out that it was really not good, they divorced three times, the family was very bad, the child's training and education was not good, you talk about girlfriend is good, you don't talk about what aspects are good, young people! Looking for a wife is to live for a lifetime, parents are concerned about you, you have to understand, but also consider their opinions, if the girl is really good, the two of you will do the work of your parents together, and also show the advantages of your girlfriend, they will agree, you should not be messy, there is no reason to mess up, I believe you will be able to deal with it, this is also a test of yourself and your girlfriend's ability to deal with people.

Good luck with you!

First of all, I don't think you can have a confrontational mentality with your parents, because you have friction with them because of this girl, and make them feel that the reason for all this is because of the existence of this girl. You have to talk to them calmly, let your parents understand that this girl is worth loving and can bring you a happy life, and let them know that girls are filial, and parents hope that their daughters-in-law will be good to their sons, and of course they also want to be good to themselves. This is a fundamental problem, as long as people's hearts are real, they can live a good life, filial piety to their in-laws, the general direction is good, and the small details can be slowly corrected, no one is perfect.

In short, let your parents understand that when they are old. Having a filial daughter-in-law is the most important thing! Another thing is to let your girlfriend work her own, in terms of treating your parents, you have to neutralize the mud, how to slowly change the parents' views in the details, you need to help your girlfriend to do specific things.

As the saying goes: Jincheng is the golden stone that opens, and through your unremitting efforts, your parents will eventually accept her.

The last thing I want to tell you is that you have time to watch the TV series "The Belle Times of Daughter-in-law". For reference, there is a sense of how the son is on both sides and in the mud, learn from it, don't make life too tragic, when you are with your parents, give them a feeling, you stand with them, not opposites, understand?

Insist on not giving up! Do something for the family at the same time. It's simple. Let your parents know that you are happy with her. You'd love to. It's been a long time. Naturally, it will be accepted!

Men chase women across a mountain. If it becomes a good memory for the two of you in the future, it will be an unforgettable memory

Should show respect for parental opinions.

Choose to believe in yourself.

No one has the right to deny their own decisions.

Even their own parents.

Think for yourself.

Find a balance of play with your parents and girlfriend.

The consciousness of forcing others is selfish.

People should be free.

The more you say, the more this girl is worth cherishing! She doesn't do well in these aspects, which means how pure her psychology is, rather than being coy. Parents can't accept it, because they only see the girl's appearance and haven't discovered her inner beauty!

Because you are the parties and you are not easy to talk to, you can send a message through your relatives or people close to your parents about how good the girl is! This will guide them to look at her from the right angle.

Do you really know who you love? I can't get used to a wavering man like you, you live for your parents? You don't even know who you love, you just keep your parents for the rest of your life, don't harm others, and once your parents die, you will follow and it will be over.

Being intervened by parents when they are in love is really a common phenomenon for wives. There are many people who are sad after obeying their parents' arrangements for many years, and there are many people who regret not listening to the old man after getting married for many years.

Of course, there are very few people like "If You Are Honest, Do Not Disturb", a male guest in the town, who is so tough. When asked by the female guest how to deal with the relationship between the spouse and the parents, how to deal with the opinions and participation of the parents when choosing a mate. The male guest made something unexpected, he bluntly said that he would not consider his parents' opinions, and even Grandpa Meng expressed his amazement.

It is not for nothing that I have an in-depth understanding of the smile model to find the hardness of the male guests, but because the original family itself is very tolerant and supports him "I am the master of my life", giving the male guests enough space to choose.

But the truth is that not everyone's family of origin will be so tolerant. Some people say, "A marriage that does not have the approval of your parents is a marriage that has the courage to slow down." "It takes a lot of courage because you have to face more difficulties and obstacles, so it is best to have the support and approval of your parents for love and marriage.

And when facing the interference of parents, what we have to do must not be to worsen the existing situation, but the following three points: respect when there is a difference of opinion, first of all, we must respect, not only respect the parents, their opinions are for your own good, but the important thing is your own mind, you must know what kind of person you are suitable for and need, after you are determined, you need to respect your own ideas, so that you can grow into a truly independent person. Communication is followed by communication with parents, and no matter what the outcome is to be achieved, effective communication is always essential!

Communication is crucial in how to convince parents to handle a good relationship.

Attention needs to be paid to the tone of communication, attitude and logic, and it is necessary to communicate rather than arguing. You can first ask them about the reasons for their objections, and then make targeted breakthroughs, combining theory and examples, and finally introduce your partner to your parents and achieve communication between them. Balance Finally, for parents interfering in love, we must remember "harmony" and "balance", in the face of parents' intervention in their feelings, we must stay sober, do not be carried away by emotions, no matter whether the situation is difficult or not, it is very important to maintain the harmony of parents, yourself, and lovers, and it is also a long-term consideration.

Sister Fei still hopes that everyone's love can be blessed by their parents, and they can be properly handled in the face of family interference, because love and family affection are very important.

This is a must! When it comes to falling in love, marriage is a matter of two families. So it's important to ask your parents for advice. Of course, you still have to take the idea, and your parents' opinions can only be used as a reference.

In the past, people mainly relied on "the orders of their parents and the words of matchmakers" to find partners. Parents think that the other party is not bad and belongs to the door-to-door type, so it is settled.

Therefore, in the past, parents interfered in their children's marriages.

Now, young people can find a partner in some group on the Internet, they can be introduced by classmates and friends, or they may be in love freely.

Now, parents rarely interfere with their children's search for a partner.

However, there are also some unwise parents who will foolishly interfere with their children's search for a partner, and the result is not "everyone happy" as they imagined, but it backfires, and even some serious consequences.

The colleague's daughter found a boy from other places, because the other party's family is in the countryside and the economic situation is not very good, the colleague and his wife resolutely oppose it and force their daughter to break up with the other party.

The girl liked this young man very much, and this young man loved this girl very much. In addition, the young man is also quite handsome, and his colleagues also admit this.

However, the daughter was extremely unhappy, and under the coercion and temptation of her parents, she finally agreed to break up with the other party.

Since then, my colleague's daughter has a very negative and disgusted attitude towards finding a partner again, and every time the boy introduced by the parents is very good, and the family economic situation is also very good, but the daughter just doesn't like it, and there is no news in two days.

So a few years have passed, and my daughter is in her thirties, seeing other people's children happily married, leading their grandchildren to play, the two of them are very envious, every time they talk about their daughter's marriage, the two of them sigh with tears in their eyes.

Sometimes, a few good colleagues chatted together, and the colleagues talked about their daughter's marriage, and some colleagues said, you shouldn't have interfered with the children in the first place. My colleagues always regret it now.

I'm a college classmate.,It's a good girl.,But sometimes it's scary to resist.,It's obedient to his parents.。 For example, if you want to get a scholarship or bursary in college, you have to join the party, you have to take the certificate, you have to graduate with great difficulty, you have to take the teacher qualification certificate and the establishment, everything seems to be forced to be carried out, including your emotional life.

Sometimes, I also think she is very pitiful, I feel very tired of living, and I don't dare to tell my family about a love in college, and then I finally "report", but because it is a different place, I can't do it directly.

As a result, I have been single now, and sometimes I will complain to me, why can't I find a boyfriend, so I can only comfort her and say: Make yourself better first, your one will come sooner or later. Having said that, I still think about it after a long time.

Now his parents will also urge her to fall in love, and the sisters and sisters around her are all married, and Wu Liangzi, the birth stool for getting married and having children, is almost on her own anyway, so the pressure is coming again. At first, I would often complain to me, but after a long time, my heart gradually cooled down, and I felt that it was good to be alone.

Hello! It is definitely not good for parents to interfere, love and marriage must be a double harvest, so the relationship must be better.

My parents didn't interfere with my love and marriage. Just make suggestions.

The concept of mate selection is people's perception and attitude towards choosing a mate. Under different social and historical conditions, the concept of mate selection has undergone three stages of change:

The first stage is the right view of mates: that is, people pass"The life of the parents, the words of the matchmaker"to choose a spouse whose family property is comparable to that of the family;

The second paragraph is the heterogeneous and complementary view of mate selection: that is, emphasizing the personal qualities and achievements of the parties, as well as the parties"Mutual needs and complementarities"without paying attention to the family background of the parties;

The third stage is the concept of mate selection based on love: that is, it emphasizes the premise of in-depth understanding of both parties, common ideological foundation and mutual love, and emphasizes the mutual spiritual needs of both parties.

Many parents take it to"Good for the kids"For the starting point, here"The "good or bad" criterion is set by the parents, and sometimes it differs from the children's view of mate selection. For example:

You like extroverts and funny ta, but your parents think that introverts are more down-to-earth;

You want to find someone who has a common hobby and can understand you, but the virgin thinks"Virtuous"The talent of the Gu family is suitable for you;

In traditional society, people pay attention to the stability of marriage, and there are often family elders and parents involved in the selection of a mate.

To this day, if your parents' views on mate selection intervene in your relationship, there will often be a conflict between the two generations.

After all, modern young people pay more attention to the quality of marriage, and the choice of mate is the business of the parties themselves, which is mainly weighed between the parties.