Why do you suddenly dislike the person you have always liked?

No one is perfect, after all, everyone has their own shortcomings; The person you have always liked is because you have been looking at her advantages and ignoring her shortcomings, so that when you see how she is, you will dislike her very much, so try to like someone in all aspects, this is called being responsible for yourself and her!

I have also had a similar situation, I used to like her because of her beauty, and she is very good at all aspects of learning; Later, I found out that she was impatient with me, and other reasons, which made me dislike her, in fact, it is really like this, if everyone really likes her, they must be psychologically prepared in all aspects, and there is always a gap in people's hearts, which should be noted. In the gap, you will dislike someone, in fact, it is not that you dislike her, but that you do not allow imperfection in your heart, and because of fear and self-esteem abuse, there will be changes.

Even if it's a small animal, you may hate it because it poops, so especially for students with obsessive-compulsive disorder, this situation is normal, as for prevention? It is necessary to get along with this person very well, because two people are already good like one person, and can tolerate all the advantages and disadvantages of each other, and then each other will not dislike each other, in fact, couples should be like this, unconditionally tolerate each other.

In fact, the love between my parents at that time was just a counterexample to this problem, which just confirmed that love needs to grasp each other's hearts in an all-round way, so that the heart can be understood, which is the most correct choice and appropriate decision. Don't dislike the person you like, it's the biggest responsibility for yourself.

PS: Your heart can reflect all the states, so it is especially important to face a person and one thing seriously!

This is actually normal, and this phenomenon will often happen in our lives, just like I will fall in love with a person at first sight, we will also dislike a person because of one thing, even if this person has always been our good friend before, or even the person we like, just one thing that makes you disagree, your attitude towards this person will change 180 degrees.

I remember when I was a sophomore, I often had to deal with some activities when I became the minister of our club, of course, I also needed to discuss with other ministers, and he once in the process of our exchange, there was a minister who said that I was very uncomfortable, and I can even say that his views and my three views directly conflicted, that is, because of this incident, I changed my attitude towards him since then, and I had a good impression of him before, and I liked this outspoken minister. But since that incident, every time he speaks, I feel a different taste, and I feel very disgusted.

Of course, if we suddenly dislike someone we have always liked, it may also be because you like another person. When you empathize with other people, you will find that the person you liked before has a lot of shortcomings, this is a normal psychological phenomenon, when I meet someone I like, I can only see his advantages, and ignore his shortcomings, once you don't like that person, those shortcomings will be infinitely magnified, and even the person you liked later is very different from the person you liked before, which will naturally lead to your special dislike of the person you liked before, after all, you now like another type.

Did the person you like do something that violates your principles?

Many times, the person we like is because there is a point of worship in us, or that the other person has advantages that we do not have.

Like myself, I have a good friend by my side and my best work partner. We are very tacit in everything we do, so as long as we cooperate in our work, we are basically invincible. I like her very much, we help each other at work, and we are also very good girlfriends in life, often eating, drinking, and having fun together.

But there was one thing that I was really angry at the time, and suddenly I felt a little disgusted.

Once, the company held an idea contest, and I was named the person in charge along with her. In principle, I am her immediate supervisor and should report to me as soon as she makes planning decisions. But when the plan came out, she didn't do this, but directly communicated with the boss of our company.

We all know that in the workplace, if we report to a higher level, it may cause some unnecessary troubles and consequences, and even cause us to stay away from the workplace.

Later, the leader came to me directly and told me the feasibility of this plan and the changes to it. I didn't know the details of the plan at the time, and the leader inadvertently told me that this subordinate of mine told me directly. I was a little disgusted at the time, and felt that this really shouldn't be done, and the plan for the two of us was indeed sold here in the end.

After the incident, I didn't directly discipline my subordinates. Because I felt that I might have been a villain at that time, and I felt that I had violated my own interests, so I felt this way. Even the idea that came to me at that time was to beware of her in the future.

In the end, I gave up this idea, as long as it is good for the company, I should be generous, as long as it can bring benefits to the company, don't fight, I still like this woman very much.

In my own experience, when I feel this way, it's probably because that person has done or said something that makes you want to squirt him.

As long as I have a conflict with my boyfriend, I will feel very disgusted when I see him or see his messages, and sometimes if I have more anger in my heart, I will not pay attention to him. Or if the other party says something to me, I can directly go back a lot of sentences.

I think that for a person's liking, it will not mean that there is never a time of negative emotions, this is the same as being with a couple, even if two people are in love, it is impossible not to quarrel for the rest of their lives. I think girls' emotions are more difficult to control than boys, and when our negative emotions are more positive than positive emotions, we naturally have the psychology of wanting to complain about others from time to time.

And in this case, the person who is closer to us will be the first to be sprayed, so I think there is a reason why we sometimes dislike the person we like.

In addition, taking my own feelings as an example, I think that when we look at someone unpleasantly, no matter what the other person does, we will feel particularly disgusted, so when we are popular with the people we like, we will look at the other person very unpleasantly. Like when my boyfriend makes me angry, I think of a lot of things that my boyfriend does not do well.

In the past, if he didn't say something for fear of hurting his face, at this time, all his brain would rush into his mind, and the more he thought about it, the more he would increase. I think when you start to dislike someone, you should think more about what the other person has done well.

It may be because he found some shortcomings in this person, thus overturning the previous good feelings.

Because you have a feeling of boredom with the person you have always liked.

Summary. 1. Lack of thorough understanding. Before you fall in love with each other, both parties don't know each other well, and when you get close to each other, there are a lot of things about the other person that you don't like.

2.Sensory impressions. It's just that they have a good impression of each other in terms of senses, such as appearance, temperament, etc., but in fact, behind the beautiful appearance, there are many shortcomings.

3.False phenomenon. When a person likes people, he will definitely show the best side to you.

However, camouflage does not last long. 4.Thought perfectly.

Thinking too perfectly about love and each other, the result will be a contrast between reality and fantasy.

1. Lack of thorough understanding. Before you fall in love with each other, both parties don't know each other well, and when you get close to each other, there are a lot of things about the other person that you don't like. 2.

Sensory impressions. It's just that they have a good impression of each other in terms of senses, such as appearance, temperament, etc., but in fact, behind the beautiful appearance, there are many shortcomings. 3.

False phenomenon. When a person likes people, he will definitely show the best side to you. However, camouflage does not last long.

4.Thought perfectly. Thinking too perfectly about love and each other, the result will be a contrast between reality and fantasy.

Fellow, I really didn't understand, I can be more specific.

It's normal, reason 1: because when you like him, you don't know him completely, and hating him is, of course, to find that he is different from what you imagined, so you hate it; Reason 2: Because he doesn't give you the same attitude (just like your attitude towards him), his self-esteem hurts and he hates it, but it is actually a manifestation of love.

It turns out that I like a person very much, and I will slowly hate him, and there may be two situations.

The first is that you don't know this person, what you like is actually what you imagine him, and then through getting along, time makes this person more clearly shown in front of you, and you find that he is far from the person you originally liked, and then your psychology will change. One possible change is that you feel that he has changed or that he has deceived you by pretending to be himself, so he is a hateful face, so you slowly hate him. Another possibility is that the person you like is your own fantasy, feeling self-deception, and a little self-pity, such a self also makes you feel a little disappointed and ashamed, so slowly hate this person who makes you feel ashamed.

Second, you know this person and really like him, but he is ordinary or even indifferent to you, and the feelings, effort and time paid cannot be exchanged for the same giving, and you will slowly hate this person, because you hate him for despising your sincerity and feelings, and hate to like this person yourself, so you should stop liking him, and replace it with hating him, in order to comfort your injured self-esteem and retain that little bit of dignity.

Psychological explanation:

In a sense, the concept of fatal attraction is the "reversal of happiness" in the field of psychology. This theory tells us that something that is originally unpleasant will become a pleasure after repeated experience. In fact, this situation often happens to most people, and the consequence is that the original negative evaluation becomes a positive evaluation, and the initial enjoyment slowly becomes uncomfortable.

And the more strongly a person expresses a trait, the more likely it is that trait to become a nuisance. <>