Do you think Hokkien people are patriarchal?

Patriarchy has nothing to do with ethnicity, but has a direct relationship with individual families.

I think Hokkien people are patriarchal, and everyone knows that.

Southern Fujian is notoriously patriarchal.

Patriarchy is very serious, if you like boys, girls will be killed.

It's serious, they all like boys.

It's not patriarchal, the conditions are very good.

I think I like boys.

**There are patriarchal ones, but fortunately I was not born in such a family.

I don't know, everywhere there is a patriarchal mentality in the family.

As an only child who grew up in Xiamen, although I have always been favored by my parents, my parents still said things that frightened me, such as: If you were a boy, it would be good. For example:

At that time, if you can have a second child, you will also have to give birth with a fine. For example, if you find someone to marry in the future, you have to tell him that you will have two children, one with your surname.

My boyfriend happens to have the same surname as me, so they didn't mention this question again) For them, no matter how much education they receive (985 bachelor's and master's degrees for their mother, 985 bachelor's degree for their father), the deep-rooted ideas will make them feel that their sons can be passed on to future generations. No matter how good the daughter is, she studies better than boys since she was a child, works harder than boys, and earns more than boys, they will always have regrets in their hearts. So I left Xiamen, went to work and settled elsewhere, and found a boyfriend elsewhere.

But I became a patriarch. I've told my boyfriend countless times that we're going to have a son in the future. Because I still have lingering palpitations, I want to protect her and I want to protect myself.

I once did a legal aid case, and the victim was a teenage Fujian girl. Her story is typical: she was the eldest daughter of a peasant family and had a younger brother.

When the girl was a teenager, a smuggler found her parents and tried to lobby: You see that it is useless for your family to raise a girl, why don't you hand it over to us to take her to the United States to work and make money? If you go to the United States to work and make money, you can send money to your son to marry a daughter-in-law.

Mom and Dad hesitated: How much does it cost to send it to the United States? The head of the snake indicates:

Don't worry, we need a fee of 100,000 US dollars, but we don't need you to pay, we will take the girl away to work, and the girl will pay us back first, and when it is over, we will send money to your family. If you work in the United States, you can earn tens of thousands of dollars a year, and you will pay it off in three or four years, and then I will send you tens of thousands of dollars a year! So my parents calculated the account, and it was a good deal!

So he handed the girl over to the head of the snake.

What these parents don't know, however, is that their daughters, due to language barriers, are confined in semi-prison kitchens, in places where manual labor is provided, or forced into the underground sex industry. That $100,000 debt, due to the annual interest increase, is likely to be repaid in ten years. Those girls, brought to the United States, have no identity records, sneak like underground rats, and live like slaves.

The girls we helped were lucky. But there are so many more that we can't help. My supervising lawyer once said that there are too many Fujian girls who "disappear" after being brought into China by snakeheads.

No one knows what kind of life they live in the underground factory. They had no contact with the outside world and just disappeared.

In fact, Hokkien people really don't favor sons over daughters.

The South does have this kind of traditional thinking.

Yes, they all like to have boys and don't like girls.

I'm not from Hokkien, and I seem to be very patriarchal.

Everywhere there is a patriarchal mentality in the family.

Everywhere there is a patriarchal preference.

Southern Fujian is notoriously patriarchal.

I'm not from Hokkien, and I have a patriarchal approach.

The southern Fujian region is notoriously patriarchal, and I, as an only child who grew up in Xiamen, have always been affected.

How could it be just the South!

Why does patriarchy occur? It depends on the level of productivity and the manner.

In the case of agriculture as the main means of livelihood, the ability of men to work far exceeds that of women; Second, women are traditionally married to their in-laws, and a family is expected to lose their labor. So, in an environment that relies on labor to make a living, as a parent, do you want to produce male or female offspring?

But with the improvement of productivity, the family begins to be rich, as parents and elders, do you want your offspring to go out one by one to work hard to make money, or do you want to have a caring little padded jacket to accompany you? Hehe, I'm afraid that the patriarchal state will change.

The mode of production also plays an important role. For example, factories were formed in the era of industrialization. Many jobs are not suitable for men.

For example, assembly line, textile industry, commerce, service industry, etc. As these units, it is actually a preference for women over men. And as a parent, when a daughter can also make money like a son, do you want to always have a bull and a donkey by your side or a good daughter?

Do you want to have a hand-off son who wants money and a house in the future, or... Unless you have to fight a lot, I'm afraid that the preference for sons will also change.

In fact, in economically developed areas, in addition to the influence of traditional concepts, the preference for choosing a daughter as the only child has quietly emerged.

Southern ultrasound is already a common thing, knowing that the baby girl is born and thrown away or directly beaten. Guangdong also eats babies born by Liu.

Almost, of course, it's all patriarchal.

1.All four of my family members are boys, so when I was a child, some villagers would envy our family. But in reality, in the countryside, having more children does not guarantee more blessings, and the poor and backward are still poor and backward.

I look at it coldly, the old people in the countryside who have many children may not be better in their later years, father and son turn against each other, and brothers are distant.

Treating women as fertility tools and free nannies, giving birth to daughters without having to celebrate and cultivate, these can still be seen today. When I was born, it was said that a girl was born in the next bed, and the mother-in-law of the mother said "heartbrokenly": Our family has no shortage of food and clothing, and we provide for you well, why are you so unlucky?

Then for the next few days, the mother, who had just given birth, was left alone and unattended. I sometimes wonder if I were a girl, what would happen to my mother after she gave birth to me? Think about it.

3.I used to think that machismo was a product of traditional society, just the result of economic backwardness and low cultural level. But it doesn't seem to be the case.

There are many highly educated intellectuals who are at home in front of the shopkeeper, and they can't even tell the difference between vinegar and soy sauce, but they are very good at the number of outsiders. And a distant relative in his hometown who is almost illiterate is known as closed socks, and his wife has been frail and sick for many years, and there is only one daughter under his knees. Every time he comes to my house as a guest, once it is almost time to eat, he will not stay, he must go home and cook.

For so many years, he has been taking care of his wife and daughter alone, and he has never complained. In other words, in fact, the attitude towards women ultimately reflects a man's character and mind. This has nothing to do with knowledge, geography, or economy.

Even in the midst of the darkness of the tradition, there is still a glimmer of light that makes us believe that the world can still be better.

4.It should be said that after the 21st century, the situation has improved, although it is still very slow, but it is still moving forward. I believe that our generation can change that.

Girls, if there is no place for you to live in this land and water for the time being, then do your best to go away and fly high.

5.I will probably only have one child in my life, if it is a daughter, when she comes out of the delivery room, if anyone dares to say a word to her or her mother, no matter whether she is close or not, she will turn her face on the spot and never communicate.

There is also a person who claims to be from such and such a city, saying that she has not been discriminated against, which I like to hear, but personal luck cannot erase the fact that a large number of women are forced to give birth and have miscarriages many times, just to give birth to a son. The situation in southern Fujian has indeed made some progress with the improvement of the knowledge level of the younger group, but the phenomenon of preference for sons over women is still very serious. "If you haven't seen the darkness, it doesn't mean that there is no darkness", and it is also an indisputable fact that the patriarchy in southern Fujian is well-known.

I have seen a girl in the Northeast called a son by her parents, but what Minnan has done is to let his wife kill the female fetus, there must be a gap between the two, and it is understandable to learn from a less patriarchal place, there is no need to be stubborn and not admit it. In addition, some Hokkien men who introduce themselves with "anti-feminism, anti-homosexuality, and machismo" should not come here to sprinkle, this age still can't respect women, so the 3:1 ratio of men to women, please let people like you bear the consequences.

Of course, if there are Hokkien men who respect women, I also believe that you can reap happiness with your own practical actions and work with you to promote gender equality in Hokkien.

As for the concept that some people can only make up the concept of "this is all a map cannon", then no matter how many facts others cite, they will only close their eyes and pretend to be blind, pointing out the seriousness of patriarchal preference in southern Fujian, but also so that more people can see this clearly, so as to pay more attention to personal words and deeds in life, and also understand more of the difficulties of women in it, and make appropriate changes.