After getting married, do you agree to the AA system?

Only financially AA disagrees, unless AA is thorough, of course, there is no way to have a child, and the woman is destined to suffer. If all AA such as housework, childcare, and care for the elderly are the real AA system, I believe that most women are very happy.

If you don't agree, marriage means that your relationship is legally secured, emotionally you should be the most dependent person on each other, you need to live for a long time after marriage, and you have to face both sides of the family together. "Husband and wife are of the same heart, and their profits are broken". "Home and everything is prosperous".

So I don't agree with the AA system after marriage, even when I am in love, I don't agree with the AA system, because my love is rushing to get married.

Of course, I don't agree with this kind of AA system after marriage. And I've rarely heard of it, after getting married, it's AA system, this kind of practice is still like a husband and wife, it's just like two friends who don't know each other well. Even my best friend and I wouldn't be so clear, let alone a husband and wife. ‍‍

Disagree, if you need to calculate it so clearly after marriage, then the meaning of marriage is there. In my understanding, marriage is two people working together in one direction to make progress, living the life that both of them want to live, and if AA it will not make people feel that this is a home.

I think that after two people get married, they run this family together, whoever has the ability will dedicate more, and the so-called greater ability will be greater! There's nothing to be ashamed of here. If you have to AA to even run this home, then do you also need AA to support your parents and children?

Whose parents raise them, give birth to two children, don't rob one of them! A child has only a father, and a child has only a mother. It is a tragedy for a family to have such a scene!

It's a halfway couple! Worthless! Then this family will exist in name only, it will not stand any test, and the happiness pursued by the husband and wife will be gone! ‍‍

Agreed, the child is required to stay in the man's belly for five months, and the man will bear half of the pain of childbirth, and the child will have the woman's surname for the first 9 years and the man's surname for the next 9 years.

After getting married, I think the AA system between husband and wife is unfair to women. Women need to be coaxed, and as a wife, they need to be coaxed so as to enhance the relationship between your husband and wife. How can a family be stable and united?

I think the first is the complete handover of economic power. In fact, the more active you are, the more stable your family will be. This is just a personal opinion. ‍

The pre-marital AA system is okay, and if you don't negotiate well, you can avoid unnecessary disputes, and the key is that you can save a lot of money for men. It's more funny to be like this after marriage, I don't think it's realistic. ‍‍

After getting married, the husband and wife each use their own money, I don't think it's good, what kind of AA system, talking about boyfriends and girlfriends, saying that the AA system, that is, the girl has not fully confirmed, whether she can accept this boy, when buying things, agree to the AA system. But it's different when you get married, the couple should put the money on one person, what they want to buy, it doesn't matter, don't engage in the AA system, it doesn't sound good, it's not like a husband and wife, the husband and wife should trust each other, not the money they earn by themselves, spend it by themselves, and their relatives pay for it, so it's too foreign. ‍‍

Disagree. Since marriage has formed a family, both parties have obligations and responsibilities for the family, and the AA system can only be said to bring a lot of contradictions.

Men who agree with AA should solve the AA of physiological risks first, don't always let women bear the physiological risks, and take care of their own if they want to be happy, such as going to ligation first, keeping their own seeds, no one is rare The next generation of this kind of man, don't always let women bear the burden of hurting the body. So after solving this problem, it's okay to mention the economic AA. As long as you don't have children, you don't delay your career and economic rise, and you believe that it is not a problem for women to support themselves.

Marriage allows a man and a woman to form a family and work together for the same goal, which is originally a happy thing. But if everything is calculated and the AA system is emphasized, this is contrary to the original desire of marriage. Personally, I think that the way for husband and wife to get along with each other must support each other and understand each other, so that the marriage will be happy and long-lasting!

When dealing with major events that require "big money", we should work together to better solve the dilemma; And for small things, such as daily shopping, especially your own supplies, you can spend your own money to buy them. ‍‍

As a man, I agree, and I don't want to have children, lest others say that I have a child, I personally don't want to get married, I just want to find a contract partner, and spend the money I earn by myself, not to mention that there is no emotion or anything, it seems that there is no emotion if you don't have a AA system. You can't afford to raise them, they don't even want to look at you, and only when you buy her bags and clothes will they smile reluctantly!

Personally, I think that in fact, the way the family manages money is not important, the important thing is to be a family. A self-managed person is also willing to spend money for each other and for his family. Having a common life goal, planning for the future together, undertaking to have children, raising children, education, and buying a house, a car, etc., is to have a common life.

It's okay to worry about it once in a while, even if the money is put together. If you have each other in your heart, you will be willing to pay if you have this family, and you will not fight for baht. Therefore, AA is no problem, get married, be willing to pay feelings and money for this family, to your lover and children, take on family responsibilities, and properly arrange your life. ‍‍

I'm a woman who agrees, and now that's how it goes. My husband earns more than me, and is responsible for saving money, paying school fees for children, buying a house, and so on. Usually, the husband is also responsible for saving money and managing money, and the card is placed in the common drawer.

I've been married for many years, it's good, there's no need to manage the money alone, so the money is saved, and both of them are happy.

Agreed, but don't have children, you can't AA if you have children! Each has its own flowers, each filial to his parents. I'm a hundred willing.

I agree, because I grew up witnessing my dad and my mom quarreling over money, my mom said that all the daily necessities were made by himself, and my dad said how much can daily necessities be worth? My dad said that he spent a lot of money and added a lot of money to the family, speechless, it was better than AA.

Agree, each lives in his own way, spends his own money, chats with each other, has no conflict of interest, is always in a state of love, does not have to do housework for each other, does not have to have children to affect his career, it is really an ideal state of life.

If you want to be AA when you get married, it is better to be single, and getting married directly AA will also reduce your quality of life, and it is far less free than being single.

I think everything should have a degree, there is a bottom line, as a husband and wife, the income is completely used separately, and there is no difference between being single, such a marriage can be said to be a bit impersonal, too indifferent, what is the meaning of this, it is better not to get married, but to be clean and comfortable! ‍‍

I don't agree, I think that two people are one when they get married, and they don't have to be so clear.

If I still AA after marriage, why should I get married?

The property after marriage is all joint, and the AA system is indeed unreasonable.

Agree, don't have children anyway and don't do housework.

Agreed, now it is, he is financially A, my housework and taking the children are A, together Aa, each picking one side of the beam, each performing its own duties.

First of all, everyone has their own values and habits. If you are not used to the AA system, you can talk to your boyfriend about another way to arrange finances, or discuss a more reasonable AA ratio.

Secondly, being rational about financial arrangements is also an important step in building a stable foundation for life. According to the situation you described, the monthly income of the two is about the same, if you don't want to fall into unnecessary financial pressure because of expenses, you can discuss a reasonable financial plan with your boyfriend, such as sharing expenses according to the proportion of income or other means, and make a reasonable living budget plan to sell carefully. It is not necessary to adopt the AA system, but it is necessary to establish a mutually acceptable way of managing the family's finances.

Finally, it is important to communicate and understand, as well as to support each other. It's not about who pays for what, it's about the fact that two people can understand each other, support each other, and work towards a common goal. I hope that you and your boyfriend Mengxiao can communicate openly and find a lifestyle that suits you.

It's not necessary.

This thing is not good.

The two of them are a family. The sedan chair will share the responsibility of the family.

Unacceptable, marriage is only once in a lifetime.

Unacceptable. Life goes on, work hard, live hard.

As a man, he was able to support his family and get home from work with a hot meal. The wife is gentle and virtuous, the children are motivated and sensible, do something they like in their spare time, play games and see**.

If you have money, of course, you can also travel, which is a man's happiness.

As a woman, it is a woman's happiness to have a stable job of her own, so that she has the confidence not to reach out for money, her husband is considerate to her family, her children are filial, her family is harmonious, she is young and beautiful;

Every type of person has their own sense of happiness, and I think this kind of happiness is not the same, just like Mr. Lu Xun said

The joys and sorrows of human beings are not the same, I just think they are noisy.

Nowadays, people like to stand on the moral high ground to evaluate others.

However, it is impossible for human individuals to empathize with these four words emotionally, because this sentence itself will be interpreted in the following way when understood in the current society:

1. Most of the time we don't care about the feelings of strangers at all, because this society makes everyone feel tired, and even if we want to care, it may be misunderstood as caring with other colors; 2. When we care about others, we don't actually understand the development of things, but we just try to understand from our own perspective, so we are undoubtedly creating a fake intimate relationship and trying to pull in the relationship with each other in this way; 3. If you connect everything with yourself, the weight you feel in your heart is indescribable.

The AA system is the best way for couples to get along. Today's women are already very independent, and they don't need to rely too much on men to solve them, whether in personality or economy. Falling in love and getting married is mostly out of emotional needs.

However, there are also a small number of women who think that "marrying a man and marrying a man, dressing and eating", and regard marriage as a long-term meal ticket.

Marriage is not a matter of two people, but a matter of two big families, whether it is a man or a woman, there will be their own parents, brothers and sisters, and maybe a few poor relatives who need help. Or sometimes you want to do something, and one party doesn't agree, and the other party will be very embarrassed. At this time, the benefits of the AA system will be revealed, and you can implement it at any time if you plan it yourself.

For example, Lao Zhang grew up in the countryside since he was a child, and later joined the army and came to Beijing, because he was practical and capable, he was soon promoted to the regimental level, and his wife was a local girl in Beijing, beautiful and temperamental, in the eyes of everyone, Lao Zhang can be described as a winner in life. But Lao Zhang was not happy, and often sighed, because his parents in the countryside did not want to go to the city, and felt that it was more comfortable to farm in his hometown. Every time I go home from a family visit, I feel very uncomfortable when I see my parents still working with their bodies on their backs.

He persuaded his parents not to farm anymore, he could afford all the expenses of the family, but his parents said that his sister was married in the countryside, the economic conditions were poor, and there were two children to go to school, so they could help a little. The younger brother is not married, and the bride price is hundreds of thousands, just relying on the income of his younger brother's part-time job, I am afraid that it will be difficult to marry a daughter-in-law in this life.

Lao Zhang discussed with his wife whether he could take out some money every month to help his younger brothers and sisters, and his wife said that adoptive parents should give money, but younger brothers and sisters, that is a bottomless pit, and this money must not be given. Lao Zhang also knew that what his wife said was not unreasonable, but he couldn't watch his parents work so hard, so he insisted on taking a sum of money to fund the family, but his wife disagreed, and the two quarreled and almost started. Because the family's money is in the hands of his wife, he failed to come up with the money in the end.

Of course, the AA system is not so clear about everything, and the expenses of the family can be agreed on the part that they are responsible for, and some small expenses cannot be taken care of. Not to mention that you have your own everything, there are things that need to be discussed, and when you have different opinions, you still have the freedom to choose, so that you will not hurt the feelings of the husband and wife, and you will not embarrass yourself.

What about the disadvantages of the AA system? It is that you can't allocate the family's funds in a unified manner, and each manages its own money according to its own methods, and it may be difficult to save money for those who are not strong in self-control.

The AA system is not suitable for all couples, not necessarily. It is best for the couple to discuss it together and reach a consensus to find the best way for their home. In general, I think the pros outweigh the disadvantages, after all, it is a very cool thing to earn and spend your own money.